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 Ifeellucky
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 376
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?Page 16 of 21    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21)
I have many men comment on my testimonials...the first thing they say to me is, "I don't have muscles like your friends".... so many insecure people in this world.... my friends are very handsome and work hard on thier bodies... and if people get intimidated by them....oh well....too bad, its not and never has been a contest. I am proud that they care for me and are in my life, gorgeous or not.
 Ifeellucky
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 377
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 9:21:14 PM

Testimonials stink becuase onyl people in your favorites can give one

I would not mind any man I dated from here to write anything he wanted about me... I would actually welcome it. It should be mandatory for people to give thier opinions...
because you know what they say about opinions...they are like a.........s, and I forgot the rest of the saying but its a good one.
 suzette09
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 378
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:03:28 AM
Marc- testimonials are a crock of shit!
On the simple basis that a persons perception is their reality.
Oh and lets not forget theres a lotta vendiction and emotional instability out there too. Testimonials will be based on opinions and emotions and probability of 'just' the facts is generally likely to be last cab on the ranks. Hope I'm wrong on this one but I imagine many potentially damaging &/ or (even) hurtful comments likely come across. Look at the odds. People leaving 'testimonials' are doing so bc the relationship went nowhere for them. (Doin the maths ... ) Good Luck to u xx Suz xx
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 379
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Posted: 7/28/2009 7:11:24 AM
Testimonials are very much like the favorites list..........something listed for all to see, but really not meaning much, or understood, until you actually get to know the person.......one on one.

I have given a few to my friends that I know on here from the forums, and have received some as well, but in the end, just as I have done with my favorites list, I delete most and keep my profile manageable, realistic, and much more private.....

Just my opinion.......
 Good Girl4U
Joined: 1/13/2009
Msg: 380
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/28/2009 5:24:27 PM
I agree that testimonials are a complete turn off. Exactly, who needs to know your sex partners. If I look at a profile that has testimonials I won't bother to message the person.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 381
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:42:07 PM

I agree that testimonials are a complete turn off. Exactly, who needs to know your sex partners. If I look at a profile that has testimonials I won't bother to message the person.

That's a lame way of looking at things. I think people with an attitude like yours is more of a turn off than testimonials. I think the reason I recieved the testimonials is because I treated these womren with the respect and dignity they deserved.

It's you who is showing a lack of respect and dignity towards those who have something nice to say. I guess that kind of comrodary doesn't exist in your world.
 StarliteKisses
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 382
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Posted: 8/28/2009 7:54:00 PM
I read one man's profile who seemed to come across rather "rough around the edges". Not my type, but he had 2 testimonials from women who were saying how sweet he was, thoughtful, etc. So I thought I would give him a shot. Well, he came across even worse than his profile! He was crude, crass, inappropriate, was looking for sex and not a relationship......just an over all jerk! Without these testimonials, I would not have let this occur.

I have given one testimonial,and the same man has given one to me. If people can be truthful, and not overly gushy, I think they are nice to have. More than two would make me wonder. There is also one woman(lots of big, blonde hair) on here that seems to make it her mission to do testimonials. She pops up on several men's profiles. (This might have been mentioned already....didn't read all of the posts.) A friend of mine has her as a testimonial.....he has no clue who she is! He thinks she makes his profile look good!
 allintheday
Joined: 9/27/2008
Msg: 383
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:21:33 AM
if the end user controls what testimonials are displayed then its a total one sided view anyways

if you really met a person and they said anything to open the eyes of others the end user they left it about would never display it for public view anyways

to me a total wasted tool on here
 Rynnnn
Joined: 8/22/2009
Msg: 384
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 8/29/2009 11:29:45 AM

I like to form my own judgements. Testimonials don't sway me.


Exactly..words are just that..words.
 HOBOSEXUAL
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 385
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:07:15 PM
I agree Marc,

Testimonials make the person look like a used car that they need help selling.
 Tomau
Joined: 5/9/2009
Msg: 386
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:03:30 PM
Testimonials are good. Saves time. I have seen them where the guys profile states he wants a long term relationship and doesn't want people who message others for sex or intimate encounters, yet that is all he wanted.

this particular one actually got very rude and said if there was nothing sexual to talk about he wasn't talking to me. Needless to say, after lying and claiming he worked at the same place I did because he didn't know I was their web designer and am there everyday, that I knew he was lying.

I posted it on his testimonial that if he claimed to work at such and such a place it was a lie that he was on disability and chatting on POF all the time. Also if the ladies wanted to basically just get laid he was their guy and that most of his profile is the opposite of what he says.

I guess it was a blow to his over inflated ego and he decided to threaten me because now he doesn't get as many emails as he used to.

Figured no sense in people wasting their time with a liar.
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 387
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:09:50 PM

On the simple basis that a persons perception is their reality.
Oh and lets not forget theres a lotta vendiction and emotional instability out there too. Testimonials will be based on opinions and emotions and probability of 'just' the facts is generally likely to be last cab on the ranks. Hope I'm wrong on this one but I imagine many potentially damaging &/ or (even) hurtful comments likely come across. Look at the odds. People leaving 'testimonials' are doing so bc the relationship went nowhere for them. (Doin the maths ... ) Good Luck to u xx Suz xx



there seems to be a lot of jealousy flowing in this thread.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 388
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:29:56 PM
^^^^^^^^^^Snicker. I have to agree, my first testimonial posting friend. Oh how it makes us look silly and vain to have niceties on our profiles written by those who do know us, have known us a long time and don't care who knows it.

~OT~ In my tme here, I have been through more rotten stuff than I care to think about. I once had so many testimonials it was probably silly, but as time has gone on, many of those people have left the site and taken their thoughts of me with them when they deleted their profiles. The ones on my profile today? When I think I am so alone on this planet, I read them or click on them to email those who do know/love me and have for a long time. I don't care who reads them to gauge me, I care what they say TO me about how they feel about me. JMO
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 389
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:44:02 PM
^^^^^^

I guess we are just a couple of the average garden variety attention whores.






<div class='quote'>Feel ambivalent about them. Kind of like someone riding your bike, and saying "I give this ride two thumbs up!!" but really the bike might of been a piece of... well you know.

naaa........ I can spot an as.shole posting a mile away......
 girlwPriOriTies
Joined: 9/30/2009
Msg: 390
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:45:16 PM
i never read one..dont know what the f they are
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
Msg: 391
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Posted: 10/12/2009 3:13:22 AM
Generally its an idication that someone is just trying to make a freind look good. Everyone has friends although they may not be all on POF. I find those profiles with multiple testimonials questionable because if so many guys or gals finds them a terriffic person, what went wrong and why the heck arent these fouks seeing one another. I prefer to find out for myself and be my own judge of a person.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 392
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Posted: 10/12/2009 4:58:18 AM
Hmmm .

Lol! Wow.

People talk here. People start to like you. You help them out. They show gratitude by writing something to express their thankfulness to you.

Nice thing when a testimony comes from their heart. Its like a gift to you.

I would not base anything on them other than they are a nice gesture.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 393
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Posted: 10/12/2009 5:10:47 PM
There are a lot of features on this site for every member to utilize or not.

What anyone else, as another member wants to utilize or not, doesn't affect my own personal experience. It's a choice, it's other people's choice to make blanket judgments or extrapolate about individual they have no experience with or knowledge of.

I know who's a part of my life and who I care about and they know the same. What anybody else thinks or judges, it doesn't have value to me.

The value of a testimonial to me and that person, that's what matters. It's a personal thing, so just because it's there, it doesn't matter who reads it. So those that choose to utilize, and I do too, it's not a factor in trying to attract or hook in someone at all.

I only and can only speak for myself, so it is a turnoff..it doesn't affect me. My friends are genuine and sincere, so to delete heart felt feelings and words so that someone I don't know may consider not having them more of an attraction factor.........not gonna happen.
 ProdigalSon81
Joined: 1/18/2009
Msg: 394
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/12/2009 5:14:06 PM

I like to form my own judgements. Testimonials don't sway me.

Same goes for me.

You could have three of your friends talk about how great you are, but if we were ever to meet, I could see you completely different than what your friends/colleagues tried to make you sound like.

I personally don't take any stock in them.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 395
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/31/2009 12:32:11 PM
When the favorites were on the profiles, I did not care how many favorites were there, I ignored friends who wrote about what a great catch they are. What I don't like.............and still don't, it to find a great profile and photo and at the bottom is a testimonial from some gal gushing about how wonderful he is, what a wonderful time they had when they went out and how she is looking forward to seeing him again.................and he is still looking?
 DashofRomance
Joined: 11/6/2009
Msg: 396
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 12/3/2009 5:12:25 PM
Being on here about a month now, I've personally learned now to not respond to people who have testimonies written about them. For one thing like others have stated, it leaves more to be questioned about why they are still on here than anything in my opinion. I will be the one who makes the call whether I see you in a similar light to what others have said.

Also, I found out with the one person who's personally initiated a chat that some people may just be asking their friends to write testimonies to make them look good. This particular girl acted nothing like what the two guys wrote on her profile about her...she was quite the opposite and couldn't even carry on a conversation via text. Why she asked me if I wanted to chat and then gave me her # if she wasn't going to respond to my polite questions half the time is beyond me. I can only assume she's an attention seeker. She definitely wasn't someone I'd be able to even build a friendship with. One-word text message responses absolutely annoy me!
 Barsky
Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 397
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 12/11/2009 8:18:39 AM
From a male perspective, testimonials are a crock for one reason and one reason only; most women don't respond.

Assuming for a moment that all testimonials are legit in the sense that they're not written by friends, etc., vouching for someone's personality is meaningless if said person doesn't even have the courtesy to send a simple reply, which begs the question, who's the bigger liar? And the more "testimonials" a person has, the more likely they are to ignore you, which just means that they're an attention whore.

Truly awesome people are decent and modest, and don't need others to advertise for them, which then just makes you wonder what's wrong with them that they need to be talked up to begin with.
 CheshireCatalyst
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 398
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Posted: 3/1/2010 8:10:46 PM
Testimonials are confusing to me when not written by platonic friends who are seeking additional platonic or same-sex friends.

Why do current partners write testimonials about each other? It really tends to read like braggadoccio, to be honest. I've even read a few that read like soft porn - all that's needed to accompany some of these profiles is a saxophone-laden soundtrack with soft-focus pics....

It really does beg the question at times - is the person providing the testimonial hoping to launch "Jizzelle" into a lucrative career as a VIP c0cktail hostess at the Spearmint Rhino? Or are they so open-minded that they are hoping to pimp their current partner out?

More often than not, testimonials are actually a turnoff. I would never include them on my profile, and I wouldn't meet anyone who had any cheesy, NSFW promotional material on their profile either.

Cheers
 green023
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 399
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 3/1/2010 8:17:02 PM
Testimonials are irrevelant to me.
 Jewels49
Joined: 4/20/2009
Msg: 400
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Posted: 3/1/2010 8:29:25 PM

are testimonials a turn off ?

I hope not, I wrote my own!...nothing like a little self promotion.
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