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 Remagine
Joined: 5/17/2006
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 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 231
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/3/2008 11:44:41 PM
Actually the testamonials are sort of like the reviews of escorts posted on escort boards, except I suppose one doesn't get to post negative testamonials.
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 233
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:48:19 AM
If there's mutual interest, the "only" thing that's important is meeting in person. Testimonials have zero bearing on success or failure and have no redeeming value in my eyes.

I'm not even sure how they appear? The "Help" blurb says anybody on your favs list can put one your profile and you can approve/delete them at your discretion. Apparently that means it's automatically visible, and the only way you'll know one is there is if you periodically check your own profile? If I ever see one I'd delete it and send a nice message to the author explaining that I don't accept them.
 quietcowboy
Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 234
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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:21:05 AM
Most of the testimonials I see on POF about women look something like this:


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I don't think it adds anything in terms of information or content.
 AnnudderVoice
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 237
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:03:22 AM

I do value the kindness that others display and I won't knock it.
That's it in a nutshell.

I agree that it's the person, not the testimonial, that's the point. It seems most here think every testimonial has to be a love interest. Friendship on a dating site? The very idea!!!

Yes, the very idea.

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 Remagine
Joined: 5/17/2006
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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/5/2008 12:43:30 PM
They are about as effective as those Sham-Wow testimonials.
 MelloDLyn
Joined: 10/25/2004
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Posted: 9/6/2008 3:15:53 PM
When I see a testimonial on a profile it is a big turn off. I don't care what someone's opinion is. Everyone is different.
 outlawtomboy
Joined: 12/19/2007
Msg: 248
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/27/2008 9:57:52 PM
i now have a grand total of 1 testimonial on my profile and it's by a friend who i haven't dated. at first i thought it made me sound rather stuffy but he knows me pretty dern well, so i guess stuffy i am!

i wasn't even aware the testimonial was there until someone remarked about how nice it was. maybe that means the right person will view it in the light that my friend intended?
 meegway
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 249
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/29/2008 7:46:28 PM
I find when it come to guys some of them seem sincere as though they are actually a good friend of the lady trying to spark some interest her way. But then there are the testimonials that seem as though it is a dog urinating on a fire hydrant and marking it's territory...lol. Must be the testosterone thing going on there. It reminds me of that song by Stone Temple Pilots that goes something like this..."I can sense when the dogs begin to smell her."
 ponytailoftx
Joined: 2/20/2008
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Posted: 9/29/2008 8:02:22 PM
What if somebody meets you offline and likes you and you like them back and each leaves a few words of a positive nature. Seems harmless to me!

The day I got a testitmonial was kind of a sad day for me. Going thru a divorce really makes you second guess your appeal and your whole life! I read the nice words left about me and it really made me feel better thinking someone found me nice and interesting! Kinda like an ego boost or validation of sorts!

I think as with anything in life, perhaps you need to form your own opinion; however, if I want to form mine and let the other person know publicly ... what is the harm there?

Sometimes what starts as a friendship moves into more and sometimes what starts as "more" ... moves to a friendship ... and sometimes ... nothing at all happens! But it should never be wrong to say something truthful about someone else! Granted ... the negative ones would be erased ... no doubt!

 meegway
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 251
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Posted: 9/29/2008 8:07:41 PM
I agree 100%, it is harmless. A situation like that would appear completely sincere. But on the other hand there are those that appear as I described earlier. I'm really glad that things worked out for you.
 VainH
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 9/29/2008 11:16:37 PM
It reminds me of that song by Stone Temple Pilots that goes something like this..."I can sense when the dogs begin to smell her."


You may be reminded of the song in a Rorschach inkblot kind of way, but the song is called Plush, and the full stanza is as follows:

Where ya going to tommorrow?
Where ya going with the mask I found?
And I feel, and I feel
When the dogs begin to smell her
Will she smell alone?

It is a matter of interpretation, but I feel the line of note should be the one that reads "Will she smell alone?" as in, is loneliness and desolation something that can be sensed by others? That is my interpretation of course, but the song has absotively zero to do with failed suitors marking their territory.

Still taking the testimonials with a grain of salt, since who approves or leaves up bad ones? I would of course, but sane people tend not to want to have themselves painted in a bad light since it limits their dating prospects. However glowing, flowery ones tend to be too far in the other direction, hollow, even sycophantic.

The only way to form an objective opinion of a person is to form your own, not take the word of others.
 GreenEyesGoldenLocks
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 254
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:34:10 AM
I usually assume they are written by someone who has or wants to sleep with that person so me I prefer not to see them.
 Unique FingerPrint
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 255
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:44:01 AM
Testimonials... I do not get them. Favorites either. You have a thousand favorites and still on here? Great testimonials and still on here. Everyone loves you and you cannot get a good date. What chance is there for the rest of us. This is not a personality contest but we are trying find someone that makes us smile for more than a day. To write he/she is a nice person but we had no chemistry. That is different. He/she is so marvelous, this and that, but I don't want him. I say testimonials and Favorites are a turn off. They mean nothing and when I see many of either on a profile I will pass because they look like players or seriously hard to please.
 Unique FingerPrint
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 256
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Posted: 9/30/2008 8:44:43 AM
hit send twice. OOPs!
 meegway
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 257
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Posted: 9/30/2008 4:02:27 PM

You may be reminded of the song in a Rorschach inkblot kind of way, but the song is called Plush, and the full stanza is as follows:


As I do, I was just throwing humor into the mix but thanks for enlightening me. Did you find the lyrics on lyrics.com?
 MermaidColleen
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 258
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:17:24 PM
In order to testify for a person, the person must put you on their favorites list. As for being on a lot of favorites lists, I have learned that many people are "favorited" as a quick and easy way to e mail them: girl to girl, girl to guy, guy to girl, guy to guy----many people on this site meet at the parties and become friends. Friends e mail friends! It has nothing to do with whether or not they are dating...I have also noticed that some of the testimonials are written by people that live hundreds to thousands of miles from the person they have written about. The only way they could have gotten so "friendly" is through conversation---e mail or telephone.
 VainH
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 9/30/2008 7:17:19 PM

Did you find the lyrics on lyrics.com?
Nope, liner notes. If I know a song at all, I can usually name it in under two bars, sometimes from the first note or two.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Posted: 10/8/2008 1:42:42 PM
For those who throw up (being the operative phrase) the question of if they're so great, why isn't that person with them.........

How many people did you have just one date with or maybe just met for a coffee or someone to do things with and they were a great person..........so why aren't you with any of these people?

The logic is flawed, it would mean that every person you "liked" or got along well with you should BE in a relationship with that person.

So let me ask all of you, why aren't you with any of the people that you've "liked" that were really good people........(consider it rhetorical.....for you Saints fans....haha that means you don't have to answer).

As far as the assumption it's a person they slept with.........sheesh! Some people can have friends AND keep their clothes on the whole time......really.
 ponytailoftx
Joined: 2/20/2008
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:32:42 PM

As far as the assumption it's a person they slept with ... sheesh! Some people can have friends AND keep their clothes on the whole time ... really.


Amen bucsgirl!
 Darxman
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 263
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:41:44 PM
I don't hold it against the woman..but honestly I cringe when I read most of them left by the other dudes who write them
 digitalfever
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 271
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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:02:10 PM
I like to know what other people think of the man im contacting. They can give in insight to the guy and let me know what he's all about.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 10/24/2008 1:08:08 PM
Usually you find vice versa testimonials that speak the same tune.
However, occasionally you can come across not reciprocated testimonials and these can be quite funny and worth every penny
So yes, I do scroll down ...
 techgirl27
Joined: 9/5/2005
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Posted: 10/25/2008 12:12:49 PM
I've often wondered about them too. I mean if someone thought you were so great, why arent you still dating them?

So I deleted mine. lol.

I dont think they can be "faked" though. No one is going to write one that doesnt want to say something nice or want others to see.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 282
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Posted: 11/11/2008 12:19:32 PM
they don't bother me, if someone thinks they're great, that's lovely for them

it's not gonna influence me one way or the other - i don't know the people who've written the testimonials either
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