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 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 9/27/2016
Msg: 162
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When i was young i had a gorgeous body and didnt even know it because the media's constant parade of twiggy look alikes made me feel ashamed.

Now i got a belly from babies, i'm fatter, my thighs are jiggly, my teeth are more yellowed from coffee, the greys are coming in. And really? I feel more confident and beautiful now than i ever did at 19. I love my wisdom, my values, im proud of what i survived and who i am inside.

My peer group is on a course towards the end, where all that physical stuff is fading. I wont waste time with someone who doesnt understand this and there for values the inside more than anything.

Of course we all have our superficial preferences but that is all up for negotiation if a person comes along who is the kind to be a rock of Gibraltar to the end, and i wont deal with someone who isnt looking for the same.
 Strider324
Joined: 2/17/2016
Msg: 163
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Posted: 11/21/2016 2:02:12 PM
Appearance means less and less to me as the years go by. Health is the predominant issue. I dated a woman my age for months. She has leukemia, some kind of esophageal nerve disconnect thing, and is often sick and has to cancel our dates. I find that much harder on a relationship than wrinkles.
 PurpleToffee
Joined: 11/25/2016
Msg: 164
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Posted: 1/12/2017 9:16:57 AM
I always laugh at the "If you don't look like your pic, you're buying the drinks until you do," quote that some men have on their page. I think I need to add this to mine.

Seriously, though, everyone has their turn on and turns offs - but if a profile is honest, and the picture is current, I quickly get beyond looks and start delving into the man. My hero can have a few extra pounds, testosterone is wasted on hair anyway, and the fact is, if we can laugh together - there's a good chance things will work out. The man who wants me will find me, just as I am. And vice verse.

I wish everyone finds what they're looking for. I'm still optimistic about love! I hope that never dies.

51 and proud!
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
Msg: 165
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Posted: 1/12/2017 8:43:23 PM
PurpleToffee- Here I was all set to say something about the aging process and the inevitability of it for us ALL, and here you came with THIS. ^^^^^^^
I absolutely LOVE what you said.
What a wonderful post and I 100% agree.
I'm 48 and proud! :)
 RoxyMoronic
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 166
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Posted: 1/13/2017 2:40:10 AM
50 in a month (shhh, I haven't worked it out with myself yet) lol
42 was when I started feeling 'older'
Having a foot injury 2yrs ago and being less mobile made me feel really old.
I don't really like how my body has changed but I do accept it, now.

I'm on a health kick now to try and make myself feel better (more energy etc)
I prefer older men (bodies) because I like those life/age scars and blemishes.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 167
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Posted: 1/13/2017 8:45:23 AM
^^^^^ You look great Roxy. I do have some scars and blemishes.

This Aquarian sexy beast is turning 52 next month. I'll be celebrating by taking myself out to dinner and going to the strip club.

I started this tradition on my 50th birthday after spending my 49th home alone. I was less than a year out of a long on and off relationship and feeling down.

My body is holding up okay for the most part. I'm still pretty energetic and feeling content these days being unattached.
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 168
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Posted: 1/15/2017 9:54:23 AM
^^^
And we take more damage from things that used to not bother us much.
I knew I was 'old' when I fell on the ice, landing hard, and had to check my body...Mentally asking "Do I have a scrapped knee? Yes but I don't feel like I have a broken leg? How about the wrists?" Then had to make a mental note to myself; "I'm too old to run and slide on ice."
 RoxyMoronic
Joined: 6/7/2016
Msg: 169
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Posted: 1/15/2017 12:58:19 PM
msg 229, thank you. If I lived round the corner I'd be trying to tag along with you to the strip club. Beats family trying to spot me up with a neon 50 banner.

m_church, I really hope your injury isn't too serious. Mine was tendon damage and took several months before I could walk without crutches and 2yrs to heal. I still get twinges now. I'm sure had I been 20yrs younger I'd have healed quicker.
Which I think is what 2ufo is saying. I hope you heal quick :)
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 1/16/2017 4:01:12 AM

If I lived round the corner I'd be trying to tag along with you to the strip club.


Too bad you and your lovely accent are clear across the pond...
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 171
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Posted: 1/16/2017 4:04:36 AM
Breaking a few bones in my life taught me one useful tip. Sitting and waiting for something to heal does NOT speed up circulation. We need that to enhance the healing process. And grasp the idea that alcohol does slow down that, also. (so sorry to break that news to you boys and girls) Exercise, even hindered with an injury is a must for quicker healing. We just need to take extra care as to not re-injure our boo-boos.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 172
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Posted: 1/16/2017 1:17:11 PM
"If you're in shape, will you only date those also in shape?"


I don't mind a woman SLIGHTLY out of shape if she's willing to go jogging with me .

On the other hand, if she thinks I'm going to find it sexy to have her tell me to " have a good run " with her mouth full of cake as I walk out the door in the morning because she has " bad knees " ......um.....hmmmm.......I'm .... gonna have to pass on that , haha
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 173
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Posted: 1/16/2017 3:33:49 PM
I might say 'have a good run',
but it will be with a book in my hand rather than cake in my mouth.

I'm not 'in shape', but I will date a man who is,
...assuming he meets my other criteria.
(this is supposed to be a somewhat humorous statement).
 browneyesboo
Joined: 7/1/2016
Msg: 174
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Posted: 1/16/2017 3:45:28 PM
I'll be 65 this year. I'll take the book AND the cake, thank you very much.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 175
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Posted: 1/16/2017 3:46:21 PM
^^^^

Msg 237

I have a friend who never exercises and is a bookworm who lives with someone likeminded.

I'll no doubt outlive him and that makes me sad but ... I gave up trying to motivate him long ago.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 176
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Posted: 1/16/2017 4:57:56 PM
I recently took up running. Ok, its more of fast walk with intermittent jogging. ;)

I'm using a couch to 5k app to get me going. I decided that next year when I turn 50 I'd like to be a bit healthier and in better shape than I am now.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 177
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Posted: 1/16/2017 5:07:37 PM
Cold here I'll take the book, cake, bottle of wine, whatever. Why would I jog on frozen sidewalks? Why do I want a jogging partner? I haul the popper for walks enuff.. I will only run to a shoe sale.
Cue Chariots of Fire. And didn't that famous runner drop dead at like 50? My neighbour is a triathlon woman = she is always injured, crutches, fell down running down the Grand Canyon. Joints make so much noise you can hear her sneaking up on you.
Only marathons should be between sheets :)
 browneyesboo
Joined: 7/1/2016
Msg: 178
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Posted: 1/16/2017 5:21:55 PM
Oh my.

It is possible to read and eat cake and not die young. I didn't say I wasn't healthy (wealthy and wise) I said I eat cake and read.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 179
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Posted: 1/16/2017 5:24:40 PM
Shame on you Ouija, don't you know fitness is binary? You jog or you're a slovenly cake-for-breakfast-eater.

Me? Even in my best physical condition I could not run even 1/4 around the track without feeling like I wanted to die. But I was a competitive skater who trained hours a day 6 days/wk, or could ski 10,000 vertical before lunch.

At 55, yesterday, I hauled 6 sheets of plywood, dozens of 2x4, painted them, and then framed and stood up a couple walls. Still can't run a block. But that was yesterday. Today I'm 56. Too old for anything but cake and sitting on my fat ass.
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 180
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Posted: 1/16/2017 5:46:34 PM
i like cake, white, chocolate, red velvet, carrot. .

when i turned 50 i became an endorphin junkie by being a gym rat and 10k runner, my knees complain but
overall i believe i am as fit as i am in my 60's because of the regime change,

now it's bike riding and cake..
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 181
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Posted: 1/16/2017 5:56:21 PM
I will wear the cake for breakfast crown :)
I have days I go omg.. look at that mirror reflection
then I go, be gentle on yourself. No point racing to the 6 feet of dirt
Wrinkles, joints make sounds like breakfast cereal, getting dressed you moan like a porn star
but we above ground
At my age I have to fret what I look like naked he best have a 13 inch dik and look like Jason Momoa. k, I would power walk for him :)
Time to stop beating myself and live for the day, And Jason in the bed .
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 182
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Posted: 1/17/2017 7:28:34 AM
Yesterday at 5:00 AM, I went outside to my car to get something, I was in my robe and sandals.

I didn’t see the glare ice covering the front steps, and slipped and fell down all 7 steps, mainly on my side hitting my left thigh and below my lower rib cage repeatedly on the cement steps. A sandal flew off and landed in the grass. My right hand and left foot were also slightly scrapped, but the ice was like a toboggan run, so not a lot of skin came off, more like a rug burn.

That was a hell of a way to wake up. I hobbled back into the house, got a lb of frozen pork to put on my aching quad muscle, and went back to sleep.

Later I got out the Polar Care Cube Cold Therapy unit I had acquired at Goodwill for $5.00, It sells at about $175, I bought it because it looked expensive and nearly brand new, I didn’t have a particular use for it, wasn't exactly sure at the time what it was used for.

You put water and ice into the cube, and it pumps ice cold water into a Breg wrap on pad you can Velcro to your leg or use on other body parts. It worked pretty well, I move it from my leg to my rib cage, this is the first time I have ever tried to treat a bruise. The pad is at about 45 degrees F.

It all hurt quite a bit yesterday, and I was concerned with waking up to even more intense pain, so I wanted to get ahead of it if possible.

This morning I am still sore of course, but it’s a lot less than yesterday, so I guess the RICE method does work.

In the past when I was younger, no doubt I would have taken an ibuprofen and ignored the injury.

I am being more careful now days, but I have still have a ways to go in being more careful of injury, I see it as a sign of getting older.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 183
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Posted: 1/17/2017 10:12:42 AM
Well, I’m 66, and I do not run. I had a total knee replacement 9 years ago, and you do not run or jog on an artificial knee. Walk, swim, ride a bike – low impact. I used to ride a regular bicycle, but these days I am limiting myself to a stationary bike. Too many of my friends have taken spills and broken bones, and at our age it takes a lot longer for a broken bone to heal.

Mainly what I do is lift weights. I use the machines, and work the upper body (arms, shoulders, chest, stomach, back) quite hard.

I don’t eat cake, but I do read, and quite a bit. Always have, always will.

Dragonbytes, sorry to hear about your spill. Be more careful, and best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Happy Birthday, Cynthia. And many many more to come!

BrownEyesBoo, you can eat cake and read in my bed anytime!

(Wait, did I say that? Ooops, too late now!)
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 184
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Posted: 1/17/2017 10:31:11 AM
There may come a day when I'm forced to choose an alternative to jogging but I hope that day never comes. I find swimming, stationary bikes, etc BOOOOOORING !

There's something about being able to jump , squat easily that makes you feel young and ready - a feeling I want to hang on to for as long as I can.

Is it wrong for me to want to have a partner with the same attitude ?

I don't think so.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 185
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Posted: 1/17/2017 10:47:18 AM
Happy Birthday Cyn :)
I squat a million times a day because of the pup, not sure I feel younger for it. First lil doggie so I have to get down to her level.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 1/17/2017 11:20:57 AM
Happy birthday Cyn from your neighbor in Pierce County.

I squat and bend plenty of times during my work night, but my knees aren't feeling younger. The rest of me is alright though.
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