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 Tigress
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 76
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It even pisses me off when I am rating people! Every once in a while, today actually, I'm scanning through pics of men and I see this great looking young guy and then noticed that it says he's 43, and I'm thinking, "There is no way this guy is 43!" so I click on his profile. Guess, what! That photo was taken about 20 years ago, and in the rest of the photos, he actually looks 43! Now, I don't even think it was right for him to post that 'young' photo as the one to be rated. Everyone that clicks on the profile is going to feel an instant let down. Why would anyone want to do that?
 FallenAngel01
Joined: 1/22/2007
Msg: 77
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 7:54:35 PM
I just had this conversation with my friends the other day... what a coincidence.

I would say most of the men I have met on the internet, do not look as good as their pics. I have met a few who looked better though.

I always get told I look better in person and think that is a major compliment, since they liked my pic to begin with. I always thought people should look better in person than pics because most aren't photogenic or hate getting their pic taken.

My friend said it is because sometimes pictures don't show the flaws you would see up close or in person. Plus with the age of technology, guess one could touch up their picture. I agree some use old pics. I met this one guy once (1 1/2yrs ago) and in his pic he had hair etc. Met in person and he was almost bald. It made a total difference on how he looked. I saw his profile recently... and he is still using that same pic. I think it is deceiving or just being lazy, not to use a recent pic. Of course, it is better than no pic.. then you never know what you are getting at all. I don't do the no pic profiles.
 Whataday
Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 78
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Posted: 2/3/2007 8:08:16 PM
I met a woman online, on another site, we chated for about a month and got along great, we agreed to meet......Well to go back alittle, on her profile she said she was 5ft9 145..... let me add this, I believe beauty is from within...Well we met and I knocked on her door and low and behold she was 5ft3 300 lbs....We went out to dinner and had a great time, when the night was over I bid farewell and told her you lied to me and that I can't handle
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 79
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Posted: 2/3/2007 10:38:21 PM
A lot of people won't respond unless the person sending the msg includes a photo. It may be fickle BUT the fact is we are all attracted to different types. Some people like BIG and others like skinny. I'm looking for a compatible age so why would I even look at 25 yr olds? I see a photo and guess 35 or 37 and the posted age sez they're 49. The opposite of that is a photo that looks like she's late 50's and she states she's 39. HUH??? WHY bother meeting somebody if there isn't even the slightest possibility of an attraction based just on ones prefs, right? Why post pics or state your age when it simply does NOT match your profile age.

I've met several women off this site. Over 50% have lied about their age/weight and their posted photos have obviously been from 15 or 20 years ago. Average seems to mean just shy of morbidly obese for some. Others post several photos that start off around their high school graduation shot and end sometime in their late 40's or 50's. With some the progression just gets better and better with age and sadly for others it doesn't. I just think it is totally dishonest not to mention dumb and insulting to portray yourself - both written and through some ancient photo - as one person and end up being somebody else. Don't you think the person you're meeting is going to notice?

To be fair I've also met several very nice ladies whose photos didn't do them justice either. No sparks yet but then sometimes we forget that it may not produce sparks that first few times meeting. There may just be a smoldering interest and given time the flames appear. Like one guy above stated though. If you LIE from the start don't expect any follow up. From my standpoint it can oly get worse from there so my advice is bail immediately. Be polite but ... Go. Go NOW!!
 trip007
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 80
First date: picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:50:24 PM
I have been lucky...The men I have met looked just like their pics...and some even better.
My pics are all within 5 months.....And not all dressed up. Im in my work clothes.
 pornstarben
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 81
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:43:29 AM
hey hows it goin im ben 25 from orillia wanna chat on msn pornstar_ben6969@hotmail.com
 oceandreamer67
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 82
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:50:11 AM
Wow, I've heard about all the horror stories, but I have been fortunate. All but 1 guy looked like their pics in person. I tend to have a bigger problem with people not being who they say they are...lots of weirdos, lol! Although, a few e-mails and phone calls pretty much weed them out.

I agree with the glamour shot pics, bad idea. I went with pics that are who I am... I don't go around all dolled up when I am hanging at the house...and I also have a goofy side which I posted, lol!
 Bwitching_Bella
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 83
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 8:12:53 AM
If I'm gonna meet someone online....
I will want to see more than a profile picture and I would have to see them on cam to know that it's really them in the picture

Too many Looney Tunes out there not to make sure who your meeting from a site > irl
Proving I'm real is easy I'm on IMDb

Bella
 bittentwice
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 84
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First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:00:14 PM
I have never met anyone from online yet. But from reading this post, I would walk away. I hate being lied too and mindgamed. The picture would be the defenite *first* lie. Not trying to be calous or shallow. Just real. If a person can't post a decent, recent pic.... then there is no sense in continuing. It is the first lie so to speak.

But that is just my 2 cents. I am a realist and a bit of a****when it comes to the opposite sex.
 honestoriginalguy
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 85
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:04:45 PM
So far, fortunately, the people i've met online did look like how they looked in their pics. The one of me in the goatee, that IS what I look like. And yes, you can't judge a book by its cover.
 chilady07
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 86
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 7:54:12 PM
Digital cameras are less than $100 these days and even cheaper around the holidays. Disposables are dirt cheap and photo processing costs $4. Nine times out of ten, you know someone with a digicam who can take your pic for you. There is almost no reason for someone who is seeking a relationship online not to have a recent picture.

Anyway, the last guy I met from here was gorgeous in person. His pics did not do him justice. Such a shame we didn't click. Another guy was a cutie but he was guilty of posting older pictures as well. However, the pics weren't too far off to make me call him a liar.

I just don't understand the whole deception thing, either.
 Sigi
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 87
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 8:13:27 PM

First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.


Therefor I communicate first through/with a web cam...and yesss....with our clothes on!
 p911gt10
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 88
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/1/2007 7:16:56 AM
It's called having "Angles". The term was coined on MySpace when people, mostly women, would post pics of themselves either from the chest up, looking down from overhead, laying on their stomachs...anything to hide certain characteristics of their bodies. The unfortunate part came when they met up with someone in real life and *poof*, the illusion is blown. So the term got out there and it was said "She had Angles!". It's since gone worldwide and now both men and women do it daily.

and yes, I've met up with a few girls that had Angles and I was disappointed.
 L.B DUB
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 3/1/2007 12:30:16 PM
hey if u cant change the pic' u can change the frame
 WarmingTheColdest
Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 90
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:51:07 PM
This is why nothing compares to attraction in person. Like it or not, visual attraction is the starting point of attraction. The foundation is personality. I love getting those butterflies in my stomach when I first glimpse the women I like. Nothing compares to the first encounter face to face.
 blast3r
Joined: 9/17/2006
Msg: 91
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 6:06:41 AM
I think women do this more than men as someone else stated. What really bugs me is how some women will take photos and crop 30 lbs of fat off. I met one woman from match once and was pretty pissed when I saw her. For some reason people think once they meet you they will just fall in love and not care. I went looking for a sword to throw myself on.

And another thing that REALLY bugs the crap out of me is women that contact me that don't have a photo and they try and play stupid about their computer hates them and won't allow them to upload a photo. Total BS. I know the real reason. They are saving up to buy photoshop so they can crop it. :)
 JulietJuliet
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 92
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 6:52:05 AM
I met two guys that looked much older than their pic's, when I was dating (the drunk one looked 20 years older), and I met two guys that looked better than thier pic, so I guess it's a lucky dip scenerio
My pic's are ALL recent, so I don't feel guilty about misleading anyone. If I have a drastic change (ie: recently I changed my hair colour), then I make sure it reflects on my profile. We have a tendancy to put our best pic forward, and in a lot of cases it's the only pic, so I find this can be misleading. Pictures in the dark, pictures with a sexy part of the body that don't show the entire body etc etc......
 FistnCuffs
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 93
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:26:00 AM
this aint exactly rocket surgery...of course a female is going to post her best pics...duh...but if you do meet someone from the site face to face they should bear some semblance to their profile pics...(and most do)...any discrepancies...outside of blatantly obvious ones...should be overlooked...
i would suggest going to a pof function such as a dance or something and meet some of the ppl in person...i dont photograph well so obviously i posted what seemed to me my most flattering pics...i have been told that i do look pretty much like my thumbnail pic...
for some ppl the camera adds pounds...and years...no big deal...
for me...what a person is like on the inside is far more important than how they look anyway...i know a lot of really evil good looking women and a lot of very nice "plain janes"...
just my 2 cents worth...
 kdf99
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 94
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 12:29:58 PM
I have had this happen on many occassions. To me it is a garunteed way to ensure there will be no second date. Not because of how the person looks but because the person was so willing to use deception. I make a point of updating my pictures at least every couple of months. I have had people say..wow you look just like your pictures and be uterly surprised by that so this must be a pretty common problem...
 redzed
Joined: 9/29/2006
Msg: 95
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Posted: 3/11/2007 2:58:14 PM
I have yet to meet anyone online offline, If I do and they do not match the pics ? Its done before it started.
 **Ruralblondie**
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 96
When pictures in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:05:25 AM
Yes, I also have had the dissapointment of this experience..lol
I met someone here on POF about a half year ago. We were both very attracted to each others picture, so we began to talk, alot.
We talked every night on the phone , ..for hours, and he lived out of town so we couldn't meet up rigt away. ...anyway, the time came to meet and he flew me to where he was.
When he walked up to me at the airport, I honestly did not know who he was, I didn't recognize him, .. at all, he was literally about a 100 pounds heavier than his picture.
I got there friday and was suppose to stay for a week, but came home on sunday.
People, there is no need to lie about your appearance....

*For one, there is someone out there for everyone.
* Also, you are starting the friendship off by lieing and decieving.
* Show some respect for the other person and allow them to decide for themselves wheather or not they are attracted to the "real" you.
...and last but not least, if you're are that unhappy with the way you look that you have to lie about it, ..then do something about it.
*BE REAL*
Just my two cents worth...Ruralblondie
 lonestardaddy
Joined: 11/18/2006
Msg: 97
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:19:24 AM
As I've yet to meet anyone from this site, I get the feeling from this post and some new 'friends' here that I may not care to any time soon, but I've yet to meet more than one woman who looked better in person than her on-line photo showed for herself.

It was her words and smile that attracted me to her. Too bad that she proved to be less than true to these.
 1UniquePerson
Joined: 1/1/2007
Msg: 98
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Posted: 3/12/2007 11:05:52 AM
See this is why I'm worried about meeting people on the internet. With cyberspace, you can actually make yourself out to be who whoever you want people to see you as. With pictures, it's hard because alot of people don't look like their pictures for one thing unless taken with a really good camera. Then people can do a whole bunch of things to make themselves look better in pictures. I've taken webcam pics & with programs like Adobe Photoshop, you can touch up the lighting and you can actually make yourself turn out to look like some supermodel.I'm vary wary of people who post glamorous shots like that because mostly, they won't look as good in person. Even if you see someone on a live webcam, it can still hide flaws, specifically if you have the cam placed at a nice angle.

I'm very self conscious so I don't like to meet people off the internet. I always think I look better in my pics or in person and I don't want to throw people off. I'm worried that the person might not find me as attractive as they did on the webcam.

I met one guy who I found very attractive on myspace. In his picture he portrayed himself to be this very macho muscular guy with light brown eyes. I was so mesmerized by his eyes, that I asked him, are those your real eyes and he replied with a yeah! So we met in person and how about he was more on the chubby side & I later found out that those were not his real eyes but he was wearing colored contacts instead. He was still cute and I actually began to like him, but I later found out he had even more skeletons in his closet that really began to freak me out so I left him alone. As I began to know him more, I began to see his true side.

That's why I don't like meeting people on the internet, you can hide so much stuff about yourself and there are really crazy people out there so you gotta be careful. I rather just talk to someone I see at the mall or at the club or something. That way, you can see each other for who they really are and there are no disappointments. You really can't hide much when actually meeting someone face to face.
 blond with green
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 99
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:30:43 PM
i guess i have been pretty lucky here most did look like their pic and some looked abit different and if they lie about themselfs on that note i wont talk to them again cuz if they lie about themself looking like that what else are they lieing about and if they say they are good looking to me i have ? cuz why say that when it could be flase and have enough selfstem and thats what is. dishonsetly is the worst and wont go to far when meeting somebody my thing.
 eeek
Joined: 9/23/2005
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Posted: 3/12/2007 8:30:53 PM

i guess i have been pretty lucky here most did look like their pic


I must look like my pic. At a POF even last weekend one woman shouted "eeek!" as soon as she saw me.


dishonsetly is the worst and wont go to far when meeting somebody my thing.


There's no point in being dishonest in your profile if you ever expect to meet someone in person.
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