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 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Dating artistic/creative people and relationshipsPage 13 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)
Nice post. One date in 30 years actually gave a hoot that I perform/write/produce music. I guess I'm over it, but it just seems sad, since it's such a huge part of who I am. Many times a song I've written and/or performed has come on the radio or TV while I've been out with women, and they barely react when I make them aware of it. I'll get royalties long after I expire, and the thought of someone that doesn't care about the music cashing the checks it generates turns my stomach. I find that there's a correlation with artistic/creative ability and cooking as well.
 ClosetExtrovert
Joined: 5/8/2008
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Posted: 1/6/2009 1:10:28 AM
This is a very interesting discussion... As an artistically inclined person myself, this topic caught my eye right away.
I agree that there's much more to things than just 'Hey, I write sonnets and you paint. What time should I pick you up at?'
"Zest for life," as said by Fancynanci, is at the top of my list. An artistic inclination is a plus, but wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 1/6/2009 12:40:18 PM
I consider myself artistic and talented. I say in my profile "if someone understands my obsession with movies, great--gives us something extra to talk about!"

Yes, absolutely, you should share the same passions! When sex comes and goes (and it does), ultimately what you have is two people having conversations over the breakfast table. Having the same passion(s) to talk about is what keeps things sizzling.
 Sherlock101
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Posted: 1/8/2009 8:14:05 AM
Funny I was just thinking about this the other day. I'm one of the artistic/creative people and most relationships I had were with people that weren't. I was thinking how great it would be if I had a relationship with someone that is but I think the most important thing is if are they supportive no matter what they are.
 Zephyr2553
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 305
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Posted: 1/8/2009 8:52:51 AM
It's not that I have a problem with anyone who isn't artistic, its that the people who are Creative and artistic tend to think on the same level that I do and we have more in common to talk about and enjoy together.

In my own personal experience, I'm both left and right brained. In other words, I think both artistically/creatively AND analytically. I can plan a whole job from the creative invention of it all the way down to the financial bottom line, how much to pay the employees, balancing the ledger and deciding what kind of wallpaper, what color scheme, what kind of plants and how to keep the employees happy with their jobs, how to encourage them to stay and grow with the company.

SO, it's extremely difficult for me to find anyone who can relate to me. I scare most men off unless I "downgrade" and be a cute, stupid little twit who gushes and acts coy.

It's not fair! But the world isn't a fair place.
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
Msg: 307
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Posted: 1/8/2009 10:34:24 AM
Differences in artistic ability aren't too important to me. Sometimes people are pretty interested in various types of art, even if they haven't yet gotten involved in any of them. People don't have to be into all the same things to hit it off, and it can be fun to learn from each other.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 1/8/2009 10:44:03 AM
i hate to burst everyone's bubble, but i will share this with you. i once was dating a very famous musician. i could go into a trance, just listening to him play. BUT, i found out very quickly from a wiser mentor (i was 34), that the man is not always the same as his music!!!

i think that i feel most comfortable in the creative crowd, despite my years of "strategic planning". however, everyone has to deal with the same stuff when it comes to the "innards" of relationships. i believe they should flow easily, but i am no longer fooled by what a person "does" --even if it's not mundane and leaning towards the edge.
 ernstt
Joined: 12/20/2008
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Posted: 1/14/2009 8:15:40 AM
on a lot of levels you need to be similar to your partner, creativity is one important trait,

i am pretty creative, i am ok hanging out with less creative types, but if i am gonna get intimate, it has to be with someone who is also creative in some way
 riotdorque
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 312
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Posted: 3/11/2009 7:09:54 PM
Heh I try to stay away from 'artist' types for anything meaningful. I've tried but in the end too many emotions between me and said person no thank you very much.

I'll take engineers any day....they may be bland but they can keep us artist types balanced :)
 2nd_Chakra
Joined: 11/21/2007
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Posted: 3/11/2009 7:39:51 PM
I see "creative" and "artistically talented" as different: creativity is based on the degree to which a person is in tune with his or her own imagination, while artistic talent is based on the degree to which a person is able to convey the content of his or her imagination to others. I gravitate toward men who are creative, particularly artistically talented men.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 3/12/2009 9:01:47 AM

Now out of work, looking for work in both fields. Graphics and Sheet Metal fabrication. I have two interviews set-up this week already, both in both fields.


Can you please also add to your graphic design expertise what an excellent writer and communicator you are dude. Good luck!!
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 3/12/2009 9:58:35 AM
Answers to all your questions, somewhere:

YES.

I like to think I'm creative/artistic and seek out other creative/artistic people as well. But I also have a practical/technical side and like paying the bills on time. I don't want to hook up with a financial idiot.

So the best mix for me is a person who is creative AND practical. Welcome to the world of filmmaking.
 2nd_Chakra
Joined: 11/21/2007
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:38:43 PM

btw - I believe Everyone has some talent .. unfortunately for many they don't seek or discover the gift.


I agree. What a sad truth for so many people...and what a blessing it is when people DO find that creative spark within them and find the courage to express it and the wherewithal to attract people who nurture and support that creative spark.
 arcticdude
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 326
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:13:32 PM
I might not be the most archetypal artist type to answer this, because I don't think I'm so terribly artistic...just persistant & really good at marketing...more 'creative', I'd say(refering to myself), than 'artistic'...but anyway... in keeping with my own view of myself, though I don't seek out 'artistic' women...I do very much apreciate someone who can think creatively...whether or not that translates into artistic ability is of little import to me.
If I had to choose, I'd actually probably prefer someone who 'appreciates' what I do, rather than one who could ‘execute' what I can.
I am drawn more to someone who shares my taste in music, or overall view of the world, than someone who shares my particular career path...
I am self employed...I haven't ever been with someone who was also self employed...I wonder if that would be more of a common ground than artistic ability...My guess is yes, in my case.
Creative? Yes. Artistic? Couldn’t care less, I think.

Good questions.
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:42:59 PM
Beware the ego freak! I don't care how effed-up/crazy a creative person is; it's the one who insists that any others' creativity pales in comparison to their own that drive me up a wall and compel me to give an attitude adjustment to STAT! I know some schizo-effectives who totally wrecked their most important love relationships by reckoning themselves their partners' 'mentor'. As if! What a-holes! At any rate, I'd try to find one (if I just had to try one out, that is...) who knows how to tactfully critique and/or who knows and practices humility (and takes their meds). Otherwise, a dry logistic might be able to force the megalomaniac to think about someone else besides #1. Good luck! Love, Titus
 La Gioconda
Joined: 6/27/2008
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Posted: 3/20/2009 10:42:43 PM
I think it's personal preference. And I also believe that alike attracts alike. Being a creative person, I am also drawn to creative people in my intimate relationships as well as friendships. What I find interesting about creative people is their mind, it's like parachute, always open and expanding. Creativity can take many forms, and can be expressed in variety of areas: music, art, writing, design, technology, architecture design, and so much more.

Also creative people tend to show this part of themselves in their way of dress, attitude (usually they are hillarious, personal experience), and there is some sort of spark I find in their facial expression, when they light up about something they love, they seem to be always curious, they are like cats. I tend to think of cats as being philosophers and mysterious, they have their own corridors/path they walk on.

I also tend to seek out creative types. I don't have much in common with non-creative, as I find non-creative people tend to have this world figured out, everything seems to be black and white, whereas I don't see it as black and white at all, but contrary. To me it's about lifestyle - bohemian.
 WanderingRain
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Posted: 3/21/2009 12:02:05 AM
Very cool thread!

Do people who are artistically talented, tend to seek out relationships with other artistic people?

I think the desire is still in the realm of fantasy for me. The last artist friend I was close to moved away and had another boyfriend... I would love to date another artist if I can... I just can find her somehow... Would it make for an interesting relationship!!!


Does a creative person feel that they have more in common, with another creative person?

My answer would have to be yes. You will have plenty of things to talk about, for instance. I dated a scientist as my last girlfriend. We could talk a bit about our own works, but we both could not go into technical jargon without losing the other.


Does an artist feel they'd be better understood, or their talents more appreciated by another artist?

Perhaps. Only another artist can understand what it took to paint that canvas. To most people, they equate that with the most common question of "how long did it take you to paint that"? Not knowing that the time you took to execute the artwork is only part of it... the seed of the idea may have been alive for years slowly growing...


Artistic people:
Do you intentionally seek out other artistic/creative people?

Not specifically, but I would like to since I've already dated non-artists before...
The thing I like about dating non-artists is that they aren't part of your world. Since I have made a small name for myself in my industry, I date women who aren't in it so that our relationship isn't influenced by what she thinks of my work, if that makes any sense... almost like if she only knew really who she was dating... I guess it would be like me dating someone famous in the dog show circuit. To that business, she is a star, but to me, she is just a regular woman...


Have you had relationships with artistic and/or non-artisic people? and did you notice a difference in compatability between the two?

One of my fantasy relationships would have to be with another artist. She and I would have our own spaces... she works at her art and I, on mine. In the middle of the day, she gets up to stretch and I do the same, we make passionate love on the living room, have lunch and then go back to our studios...
 xlmagboy
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Posted: 2/24/2012 9:25:03 AM
Did you remember to oil your question mark key after you typed that?
 PairODachs58
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Posted: 2/25/2017 5:00:20 PM
I know this is a very old post, but wondering if anyone has found any answers in the last 9 years to this question.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 2/25/2017 6:06:16 PM
the answer is....It Depends :)

Someone who's entire life is about art, may not date the dumb jock. But they sure might like to end up in bed with his Adonis body :)

Those who enjoy beauty, may suffer for their art..especially if they are attractive enough to get the uncreative hottie. But the quiet church mouse who spends her time in the library? who else is she going to meet? of course, when we're young, we want to be accepted, when we mature, we may be more about dating and less about "gettin' some". Personality might be more important, esp. to those who have much more of it. Those who have more body than personality to share, frankly, might see the world thru that prism. Looks may be more important to them b/c...what else is there?

if you've been creative/inventive, you likely know that growing up, there's a lot of people who can't look at something you propose, and see the potential for success. You have to invent it and make it work, and then people can see the actual success and realize you're a success. By then, of course, you don't need their support anymore.

the more faceted you are, the easier it may be to deal with those who are one dimensional. You can work around their shortcomings, if you feel you have to. not just in dating, but in office politics, too :) But the person who only focuses on work, may have terrible people skills/bedside manner.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 2/26/2017 7:59:04 AM
People think common interests are important, it's one of the biggest myths, but that's not the case at all. If two people are attracted to each other they will want to spend time together, and if they are easy to get along with, they will find plenty of things to do together. Who doesn't like a walk on the beach with the right person?

It's about common interest in each other.
 Cynderella
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Posted: 2/26/2017 4:15:50 PM
Hell ya
One has paint
One has brush
And a masterpiece is born
 Perspektiv
Joined: 2/11/2017
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Posted: 2/26/2017 5:13:46 PM
I find as an artist myself, I tend to gravitate towards creative minds. Not necessarily artists, though.

I think someone that's able to think outside the box to me, keeps the relationship interesting and the spark there. It goes both ways, in terms of being creative and keeping things interesting.

I also tend to prefer creative people as they tend to be unconventional, and I tend to hate routine. I think routine is destructive to a relationship, as it takes away from your appreciation of the little moments you get every day.
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
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Posted: 2/27/2017 8:50:39 AM

I know this is a very old post, but wondering if anyone has found any answers in the last 9 years to this question.


Harking all the way back to the OP, the answer is that artists don't seek relationships. Artists have groupies not soul mates. The excelling in the art, whatever it may be. is first, last and everything in between.

There are lots of people with lots of entertaining talents who do seek relationships. They aren't artists though. At best, they are capable posers. Hipsters who wear cheap sunglasses and churn out pedestrian crap and popular fluff call themselves artists but true artists wouldn't deign to piss in their mouths. Posers want to be understood so they do exactly what all of the other "creative" people are doing. Artists produce what the ART demands of them.

Posers seek relationships with other people to be understood. Artists already have unbreakable relationships with the muses alone so that they, themselves, may understand.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 2/27/2017 10:27:34 AM
First off, the "artistic/creative" person's goal is not to "excel" (in the art, whatever that's suppose to mean) but, it's a good description from someone that is looking in from the outside. The artistic/creative are usually never "understood" by the majority. They have something within them, that yes, others that have the same, can understand.

With that, there are some artistic/creative that can adopt to another's artistic/creative quirks, talents and practises. As an example, when these types are "lost" within whatever is going inside their minds. No one will, at that time, be able to "get" or "enter" into their world at that time. Another artistic/creative person will understand that, and leave well enough alone until the time is right. They know/understand that the other is deep within their work/expression. Another example would be when people "look" at things, and then try to explain what they "see". The artistic/creative understand and know that what one sees, another, more than likely will not. That, in a lot of relationships would cause confrontation but, with the artistic/creative it usually does not. Rarely is it ever "black" or "white".

Another thing that should be pointed out is how the artistic/creative person expresses themselves. Some write. Some paint. Some sculpt. Some garden. Some write, tales, poetry, music, etc. Some play, music, act, etc. Some sing. Some decorate. I've seen "successful" relationships between artistic/creative couples when they are not involved in the same type/form of expressions. I've also seen some wild, not so successful relationships involving two people that play within the same arena, though, I don't know if it really wasn't "successful" but, just ran it's course. That, I do believe can and does happen in any relationship, though people that believe relationships should last "forever" would disagree with me on that one.
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