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 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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I've been a singer/musician/artist my whole life. I have had relatioinships with creative men and not so creative men. If a man has an enormous heart, great passion and a zest for life, his creative talents don't much matter to me.
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Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 263
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Posted: 6/10/2008 10:40:39 AM

Do people who are artistically talented, tend to seek out relationships with other artistic people?

I used to, I don't anymore. I want someone who compliments me, I dont need a clone.


Does a creative person feel that they have more in common, with another creative person?

Yes, but that doesn't equal a satisfying relationship. I like to think that a successful couple fills in each other's gaps. I tend to go for logical math-brained types now to balance my emotional art-brain.


Does an artist feel they'd be better understood, or their talents more appreciated by another artist?

I have found the opposite to be true. In a two-artist household, there can be creative competition. Not necessarily a bad thing if ego's are in check, but two creative egos under one roof is volatile.


Do you intentionally seek out other artistic/creative people?

Don't have to. Birds of a feather and all that...


Have you had relationships with artistic and/or non-artistic people? and did you notice a difference in compatability between the two?

I had an eight year relationship with another musician. I had a six year relationship with someone who thought Rush was the pinnacle of artistic achievement.
I loved them both but I wasn't really compatible with either man or I wouldnt be here.

Just because someone isn't an 'artist' does not mean they are not creative. I think every single person is an artist, some just havent found their medium yet.
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 264
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Posted: 6/10/2008 5:15:54 PM
My dad owned a music studio and his sisters owned a dance studio. I grew up in both. I danced from the age of three and taught and performed for many years.

Except for once, (which didn't work out because we were too young) I've never dated anyone who I'd consider an artist. So far those relationships have bored me.

I find I connect quickly to musicians and artists and I would like to meet someone who understands me on this level. I'm just not sure I'd go out specifically looking for that.
 WeAre1
Joined: 3/18/2008
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Posted: 6/10/2008 7:13:30 PM
I knew this thread sounded familiar - and realized why when I clicked on this last page of it and found my previous post as my previous identity at the top of this page!

Anyway, I'll try again, as it has been a few months since answering before - yes, basically, to the OPoster's questions. I am creative and I do find all my relationships are and have always been with creative people.....and, really, my close friendships are also with creative people.

Why? Because it is what naturally happens I find, and also because most people do have creativity in them. As I wrote before, I am attracted to people who tend to be creative and spiritual, for they seem to so often go together. It is just natural for me and them to attract each other and get along - perhaps because there is this innate thing we have in common and can appreciate in each other.

It is, basically, one of those essential areas of connection that gives a great basis for compatibility....never mind making music together, literally, is magical.
 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 270
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Posted: 6/10/2008 8:37:55 PM

Creative:imaginative, and the opposite, unimaginative
hmmmm.
I think the comparison between creativity and imagination is interesting.

I suppose there's many examples of imaginative people proving to be creative, and unimaginative people proving to be non-creative.
However,
I think I may be a person who defies that example. I'm pretty imaginative. But I really have no type of creative talent.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 6/11/2008 2:04:19 PM
I don't seek out other artists/musicians.....just someone with a good heart
 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
Msg: 273
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Posted: 6/11/2008 2:29:30 PM
I am both an intellectual and a creative type. My passion is writing fiction, but I have held down jobs too and am quite responsible. I paint, sculpt, write, and am passionate about artistic pursuits. It is a myth to think creative/artistic types are irresponsible. I have known CEOs who are irresponsible and go bankrupt. Professions do not denote responsibility.

I have worked in the corporate world and now steer clear of business types. I like to unstarch their shirts, but they looked down on my imagination and creative spirit. I found them to be quite judgemental and rigid minded, which is tough in relationships.

I am thinking of becoming a professor, but I am not a political animal and there are a lot of politics at colleges.
 lyfenlyn
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 278
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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:51:17 AM
I have always wanted to date a creative man. However it is a constant challenge for many reasons.

Most of them want a muse to be with, some etherial woman who does not exist.
I am also a person who does not do drugs or drink and there is an ongoing myth that to be creative you have to kill your brains with these things.

There is also the issue of the kind or artistic guy too. Let's just say I am looking for more like John Lydon and less like John Tesch. It's difficult to find someone with an edge that isn't always falling off of it.

Creativity and drama, dysfunction and psychosis seem to all be in the same boat together and I don't want a stressful broken life.
 godliketoaster
Joined: 2/18/2008
Msg: 279
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Posted: 8/24/2008 12:55:55 PM
Everyone is creative, it's just "creative" people just know how to express it or are not scared to show their creative sides.
 cre8ivediversionnc
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 283
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:58:40 PM
I've been in a creative profession my entire career. I thrive on trying new things, finding new ways for old things and generally stretching my boundaries. I once dated a co-worker who is most certainly the "female me"...and we were explosively good together.

I don't necessarily seek out a creative, but I most definitely find them more attractive than someone meek and timid.

And let's be honest; 2 creative people make for some killer-great sex!

 submarinequeen
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 285
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Posted: 8/24/2008 9:01:19 PM
I am artistic, and in the past, I hadn't at that time met anyone like me, so, I didn't.
Now that things have changed, I very much would like to be with someone with whom I would be able to do joint ventures with in art. Somehow create together.
A lot of artistically swayed people are so much more open- minded as well, and have a lot more appreciation for women, and actually many things in general.
Also, they understand being "different", and are usually sympathetic, understanding and generally endearing, as well as a hell of a lot of fun, and non- judgemental. They like the real you, not just the pretty wrapper. Actually sometimes a pretty wrapper can be disturbing to an artist. I mean beautifully wrapped crap, is still crap. Although maybe to some crap is beautiful.... who knows.
*sorry, went off on a tangent*
 toomuch13
Joined: 6/28/2007
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Posted: 8/25/2008 12:24:31 PM
I am a writer and I need passion! That means someone who is invested in living fully. Creative types actually work well with workaholics! I never minded if my man was not around, because I had so much to do with my work. I am a loner too and cannot stand being with someone 24/7.
 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 289
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Posted: 8/25/2008 9:11:42 PM
post 304:
I have always wanted to date a creative man.
That's interesting. I've always wanted to date a creative woman.

For some reason, I consider women who are creative, or artisically talented, to be fascinating. Yet I am certainly not an artistic, or creative, person myself.

I usually suspect that an artistically talented women would find nothing about me to be interesting to her.
 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 8/26/2008 12:58:42 AM
Nice post. One date in 30 years actually gave a hoot that I perform/write/produce music. I guess I'm over it, but it just seems sad, since it's such a huge part of who I am. Many times a song I've written and/or performed has come on the radio or TV while I've been out with women, and they barely react when I make them aware of it. I'll get royalties long after I expire, and the thought of someone that doesn't care about the music cashing the checks it generates turns my stomach. I find that there's a correlation with artistic/creative ability and cooking as well.
 ClosetExtrovert
Joined: 5/8/2008
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Posted: 1/6/2009 1:10:28 AM
This is a very interesting discussion... As an artistically inclined person myself, this topic caught my eye right away.
I agree that there's much more to things than just 'Hey, I write sonnets and you paint. What time should I pick you up at?'
"Zest for life," as said by Fancynanci, is at the top of my list. An artistic inclination is a plus, but wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 1/6/2009 12:40:18 PM
I consider myself artistic and talented. I say in my profile "if someone understands my obsession with movies, great--gives us something extra to talk about!"

Yes, absolutely, you should share the same passions! When sex comes and goes (and it does), ultimately what you have is two people having conversations over the breakfast table. Having the same passion(s) to talk about is what keeps things sizzling.
 anchors
Joined: 12/4/2008
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Posted: 1/7/2009 5:56:54 PM
I've dated both artistic and non-artistic people. I have a great appreciation for the creative arts, since I'm a musician and filmmaker. From my experience, artistically talented guys are funner and more passionate, so I tend to lean more towards the creative type. I find guys who play musical instruments, paint, act, or even cook sexy. Extremely sexy.
 Sherlock101
Joined: 1/4/2007
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Posted: 1/8/2009 8:14:05 AM
Funny I was just thinking about this the other day. I'm one of the artistic/creative people and most relationships I had were with people that weren't. I was thinking how great it would be if I had a relationship with someone that is but I think the most important thing is if are they supportive no matter what they are.
 ~Hello~
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 304
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Posted: 1/8/2009 8:23:59 AM
........................................No......................................


Do people who are artistically talented, tend to seek out relationships with other artistic people?

>Do people with blue eyes tend to date or seek out relationships with other people with blue eyes?
>Do accountants tend to seek out relationships with other accountants?
>Do farmers tend to seek out relationships with people who have green thumbs or who can milk a cow?


Does a creative person feel that they have more in common, with another creative person?

Do accountants feel they have more in common with other accountants?


Does an artist feel they'd be better understood, or their talents more appreciated by another artist?

See accountants, lawyers, busboys, waitresses, librarians, politicians, doctors, blondes, .. and so on and so on ..


Artistic people:
Do you intentionally seek out other artistic/creative people?
Do you intentionally seek out people who do the same job as you?
Have you had relationships with artistic and/or non-artisic people? and did you notice a difference in compatability between the two?

Have you dated someone from a different line of work and found that there is a difference in compatibility between them and those you share an occupation with?


Non-artistic people:
Have you had any experiences with dating, or relationships, with artistic people?
Did you feel that you were able to rlate to them?

I know I don't rlate with most mechanics, however I can relate to a few of them! ;) lol

Why would I want to date someone who's gonna mess up my paints n brushes??!! lol ..
Can you see 2 accountants arguing over who should take care of the finances?

What a person does for a hobby or a living does Not define who they are.

It is nice to have 'certain' things in common, it is also beneficial to a Healthy relationship to have 'differences'.. I tend to believe that a "good" relationship is one where the 2 parties compliment each other, not mirror... one where "my" weakness is his strength and vice versa..

You know what they say about "too many cooks" .. same could apply to any hobby or profession..
JMHO

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 Zephyr2553
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Posted: 1/8/2009 8:52:51 AM
It's not that I have a problem with anyone who isn't artistic, its that the people who are Creative and artistic tend to think on the same level that I do and we have more in common to talk about and enjoy together.

In my own personal experience, I'm both left and right brained. In other words, I think both artistically/creatively AND analytically. I can plan a whole job from the creative invention of it all the way down to the financial bottom line, how much to pay the employees, balancing the ledger and deciding what kind of wallpaper, what color scheme, what kind of plants and how to keep the employees happy with their jobs, how to encourage them to stay and grow with the company.

SO, it's extremely difficult for me to find anyone who can relate to me. I scare most men off unless I "downgrade" and be a cute, stupid little twit who gushes and acts coy.

It's not fair! But the world isn't a fair place.
 matchlessm
Joined: 11/11/2007
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Posted: 1/8/2009 10:34:24 AM
Differences in artistic ability aren't too important to me. Sometimes people are pretty interested in various types of art, even if they haven't yet gotten involved in any of them. People don't have to be into all the same things to hit it off, and it can be fun to learn from each other.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 1/8/2009 10:44:03 AM
i hate to burst everyone's bubble, but i will share this with you. i once was dating a very famous musician. i could go into a trance, just listening to him play. BUT, i found out very quickly from a wiser mentor (i was 34), that the man is not always the same as his music!!!

i think that i feel most comfortable in the creative crowd, despite my years of "strategic planning". however, everyone has to deal with the same stuff when it comes to the "innards" of relationships. i believe they should flow easily, but i am no longer fooled by what a person "does" --even if it's not mundane and leaning towards the edge.
 cmraseye
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 309
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Posted: 1/8/2009 11:10:29 AM
Having an artistic side and practicing regularly, yes I tend to look for 'artistic' hobbies and interests in a potential women partner. Its a GREAT common ground item to have. It does mean that you can appreciate them more, and in turn, they will appreciate you more. At least that is what I have seen in practice. As a pro-photographer, I can tell if someone is genuinely interested and appreciative of my work. It IS a great motivator and provides inspiration.

What better understanding, appreciation, and inspiration than that which you can receieve from your intimate, loving partner??
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
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Posted: 1/10/2009 5:58:15 PM
I'd love to date someone creative (I'm an artist myself), but I've actually dated very few guys who share that trait with me. It would be nice to date more men who shared that with me actually, but it's not a requirement for me to date them. I do enjoy it when a guy really likes my artwork. It's a nice ego stroke I suppose. Even if they aren't creative themselves, it's nice to date someone who at least has an appreciation for the art world.

Two creative people in a relationship, can be a great thing. But there can also be some creative jealousy. I dated a guy several years ago, who wanted to create his own comic book, or be a writer. He shared some stories with me, and I liked them and praised them. But when I finally showed him my artwork and some early comic workups I'd done, he just seemed jealous of my abilities. It hurt me deeply, that he couldn't be as happy about my talent, as I was about his. I decided if I ever dated someone else who was creative, I'd have to make sure they weren't the "creative insecure" types, who only wanted their work praised but couldn't the same for others. That's a common trait in the creative world among artists actually. Creative jealousy.
 ernstt
Joined: 12/20/2008
Msg: 311
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Posted: 1/14/2009 8:15:40 AM
on a lot of levels you need to be similar to your partner, creativity is one important trait,

i am pretty creative, i am ok hanging out with less creative types, but if i am gonna get intimate, it has to be with someone who is also creative in some way
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