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 North3rn Lights
Joined: 12/26/2006
Msg: 339
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Because we don't want to look like we are dating our kids! LOL.
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 340
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/5/2007 6:33:44 PM
What I laugh about is why the OP asks Why Older Women Are Not Into Younger Men when it has been said time and time again on numerous threads they certainly are. Not all but the vast majority are.
So I Deal With it...DEAL

I have now climbed off my soap box and joined with the masses to say it is great to see more older women dating younger. I think younger men who think they don't should get out there in the real world more often.
You will indded see that these days a whole lot of women in their 30's, 40's and 50's are dating, having sex with, and preferring to be with men in their 20's and some 30's.
I may not personally agree with the so called justifying reasons, but hey all the better for the older women to find a man who is the way they like him to be.
I think you will see it to be the norm that many women will date alot younger as they get older. So guys just get out there and pursue them. They are waiting and wanting and take it from an older guy, we do not approach much as we get older...at least I don't, and so that leaves you guys in a way better position to get these women than us. Go for it, you will not be disappointed.

edited: Besides I somewhat agree with some things said about us old guys. Ya we do get boring and content...and yes one can represent 1000 of us as that is human nature.
I used to get bent about it because I felt it lessoned my chances of dating but all it is, is that older women want what guys like me can't give is all. Life goes on and the chip becomes respect and I think it is now great. I would never date anyone any age anyhow. Not worth the time and effort until I felt I was good enough is all.
All the best and go for it guys. Stop sitting there wondering.
 passioniteone
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 341
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/5/2007 7:42:41 PM
ok 28 my limit sheeesh
 A_lost_Angel
Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 342
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/5/2007 11:15:12 PM
^^^^^^^

Oooooh yeah!!! You go GIRL!
 Jenn67
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 343
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:56:01 AM
Personally, I love younger men....they're fun, energetic, spontaneous and have a really short recovery time...if needed!!! I've been on this site a year now and I don't think I've ever "dated" anyone older than I am. When these young guys message me, I generally ask if they are concerned with the age difference. All of them have said that it's just a number, and I totally agree with them. I have seen 25 yr. olds on this site who I would love to go out with and I've seen 55 yr. olds who I also think are amazing! It's just a number!!! I'm 40 and have been seeing a 25 yr. old for over a year now. He's incredibly hot, funny and doesn't come with a lot of baggage...and I like that. So the time that we spend together is fun time!!! I love being Mrs. Robinson!!
 lilhuladancer
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 344
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:33:20 AM
OK- most women, including myself, arent into younger guys. why? lots of reasons. Personally, I have a daughter... most men (or boys :P ) your age are only into parying, having fun, and doing whatever and who ever they want. They dont have the maturity or life experience of an older man. Im not saying its YOU, its just the general idea of the younger guy. Not always good in any woman's book. JMO. << Love the little green guy! He just got lucky! LOL
 Catperson
Joined: 12/26/2006
Msg: 345
Why are older women not into younger guys - Reply to Initial question
Posted: 1/6/2007 8:45:57 AM
Reply to MINX....from Catperson

ABSOLUTELY. I AM LOOKING FOR THE RIGHT PERSON; NOT A BODY TYPE....but you are 37 years old and I am 58. You are young enough to be my son....

Good luck with your search here and "Have a Nice Day".......
 wexus
Joined: 12/12/2006
Msg: 346
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 3:07:22 PM
Always looking to correct & help the original DADDY - the first daddy they ever had...

& they want to be dominated by an older looking guy so they can complain...

(from expierence - They want to be ruined!!!!)...

Kahuna-=
 Titian
Joined: 6/23/2006
Msg: 347
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:00:19 PM
I tried dating younger guys and found that the ones I did date were immature...spent most of their money on their toys,living with mama...and have no clue what raising a family is like...so I chose not to date younger guys...cause from my experience we dont have alot in common since I have children...to take care of...It seems we were on different wavelengths of life....
 Senor Spode
Joined: 7/11/2006
Msg: 348
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:19:36 PM
It works both ways. There's definetely 'nothing' wrong with a woman dating a much younger man if he's at least 18. The same goes for an older man dating a much younger woman.

If a young man or young woman are around the age of 18-21, and they complain that a much older person was eyeing them, or hitting on them at a club or bar, they need to understand they're of 'legal' age. A 21 year old man or woman can't go into a bar where 'being hit upon' goes hand in hand with drinking, and expect a 60 or 70 year old to not approach them because they're supposed to 'discern' the age difference. If one is 18, they're open target so to speak.
 Cattilac
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 349
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:32:33 PM
I don't think there's a right or wrong here......if you have common interests, goals, lifestyles, etc it shouldn't really matter. The problem I see with it is that often people are at different stages in their life - especially in the area of having/starting/raising families and that can very adversely affect a relationship.

And, for me personally, I just don't feel that comfortable "dating" someone a lot younger. Although I've met - both on here and IRL - some pretty interesting men who are "out of my comfort zone" as far as age goes,,,,,,so who knows?

I guess it's really just personal preference.....which everything should be, after all.
 Senor Spode
Joined: 7/11/2006
Msg: 350
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:47:56 PM
If a woman in her say, 50's, made in her prerequisite that she wants no one over, say 30, that's entirely her business. If she pulls it off, no has anything to say about it!
 Minx
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 351
Why are older women not into younger guys - Reply to Initial question
Posted: 1/7/2007 4:33:22 AM
Umm.. Catperson, I was replying to your statement of "I would also like to say to all of those older men out there who have posted on their profiles that they want to meet 21-31 year old model "body type" women" because I am a woman who's having this problem.. they all want model bodies.. I sure don't have one and never will because it's just not in my genetic makeup..
 whitemagnolia105
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 352
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:49:00 AM
I think there is a place to draw the line I am 47 years old I have went out with a guy who was 37 years old that's 10 years younger. NOW 19 years old for me I could never do that my son is 19 years old. and I guess it's really what your comfortable with. You live life you go through many experiences, you become more knowledgable and wiser (ah let no one fool you wisdom comes at a great price)and that just puts you in a whole other ball field, and it depends on what and why and the intentions involved How would a 19 year old boy be on the same level with a 40 to 50 year old woman? I believe it doesn't seem to matter more so once you get up 10 more years in age your so young your only 1 year older then the legal age of being considered to be an adult and not adult enough to even drink yet. fine example if i was 27 then a ten years different would actually be illegal . Just hang in there sweetie you have a HUGE life awaiting you go for it
 shyblondee
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 353
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 8:23:59 AM
To be honest, if I were single I would not be looking for a much younger man. I prefer someone within about 5 years either way of my own age. I like being with someone who went to high school at the same time I did and shared similar life experiences growing up.

If I happened to meet someone younger or older that I clicked with, sure, I would go out with them. I am sure there are men who are younger and have a more mature outlook on life, just as there are older men with a youthful outlook. I try not to generalize on age, but again, I like being with someone relatively close to my age. Lucky for me, there are tons of men around my own age who absolutely ROCK!

Just speaking up for the men in their 30's (so far my favorite time of life!)
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 354
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:28:55 AM
i think alot of times younger women are thrilled if an older guy is nice to them, showing them respect and not trying to get in their pants. They see it as a compliment.
I think older women like the fact that younger men are seeing them as attractive mature women, it impresses these guys to be given the time of day from someone much older.
But in the end I believe it will come to a point where one person has lived that part of their life and although it is great to talk to old friends about the good old days, reliving them with someone younger is rehashing the past really.
I did my partying days in my 20's. And I am not up to reliving them again with a woman say in her mid 20's. Was a fun time.
I think men and women like the ego stroke of someone younger showing an interest in them. Makes us feel young again and feel wanted as we have gotten older. But I don't know, I myself cannot really see me at 38 haning out with a bunch of people 15 years younger than me. Just not on the same wave length.
Can older women really see themselves having alot in common with a guy who just got out of college/univ, has not really ended up doing what he plans on doing, has not had a family and has not made up his mind yet? Just a couple of things.
I know the sex is mind blowing for both the young guy and older woman, but is that what matters these days?
To each their own I am not knocking anyone just explaining a few things that to me and others makes sense.
 eduhbuhl
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 355
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:35:22 AM
"Why are older women not into younger guys"

Apparently you've never heard of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.
 Minx
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 356
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 3:12:43 PM

I think older women like the fact that younger men are seeing them as attractive mature women, it impresses these guys to be given the time of day from someone much older.


Ummm.. no.

When you've been hit on by younger men as much as I have, you see it as 'Riiiiight, so you can tell your friends you screwed a Cheetah?' or 'You think just because we're older we're going to fall for your words? You think it makes it boosts the self-esteem to be hit on by a younger male? Pfffft.. Older and single does not equal desperation... Move along, kid..'
 dreamblade
Joined: 2/5/2006
Msg: 357
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Posted: 1/7/2007 3:58:05 PM
WHen I was 20 years old, I hooked up with a 39 year old. It was a fantastic, mutually satisfying relationship we never regretted.

She was 5', 100lbs, lovely eyes, former ballet dancer, accounts exec. Had her own house, never had a shortage of men to choose from, judging from all the times she'd get approached when we went to clubs. For some reason, she found herself connecting with a College student 19 years her junior. Neither of us were desperate, but we found a lot more common ground than one would expect. And the things I didn't know about, I would happily listen to and learn, and some of the things she missed out on, she delighted in catching up on.

Face it, ladies, think back those 15-25 years back, the giggling, the flirting, the little things you'd do to boys that made no sense (to us, at least). Compare that attitude to what you are now: a confident, strong, experienced woman... now that's attractive.
 cassiejay
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 358
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:33:50 PM
Not all older women are not into youger guys...Between marriages I had a really nice thing going with a much younger man. I was 50 when we met..he was 36. He was a really nice man, divorced, and working hard to keep a relationship with his kids and to support them still, in every way. We saw each other off and on for 7 years, and the best part of it all was the sex. It had to end and it did, gracefully. We were on different rungs of the ladder and when he declared he was in love, it had to end. The age difference was really too much. Those 14 years matter a whole lot more as time goes on. I think that was a once in a lifetime thing for me, obviously. I want to meet someone to share the future with and he needs to be just a little closer to my own age, lol...
 passioniteone
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 359
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/10/2007 1:48:51 AM
yes when they like you toooo much end it...
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 360
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/10/2007 4:16:25 AM
^^^ I agree. I thought the whole point of dating younger for women was fun, no pressure to settle down, great sex? Not love and commitment and all that. We can get that from men our age if we really want it.

Then again if the younger man is 37, that explains it. Men over 35 tend to be more serious about that type thing.
 passioniteone
Joined: 8/20/2006
Msg: 361
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/10/2007 7:27:21 AM
I am KIDDING I don't date much younger than myself...I find there is nothing mentally in common.....
 TodaysSpecial911
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 362
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Posted: 1/10/2007 8:54:47 AM
Ok here goes...im 54...i've been asked out by guys from lets say 19 to 35 on a continous basis.

I find a vast majority of younger men think they are doing the older woman a favour by asking them out. A lot of them think that older women are needy. So its a sure thing. They dont understand about relationships in general because they havent had enough experience. On countless occasions i have been asked ...but dont you want to be with a guy who can go all night long? My experience has told me that all night long really relates to the point that they think about it all day long and when the night comes they last all the way through until they are finished. Which is about 3 minutes from my recollection on a good day and on a bad day the numbers on the digital clock doesnt change before its over. That constitutes all night long in a lot of cases.

I have a 24 year old son and he has a lot of friends that are over all the time. No i dont see any of them, but i do note their behaviour. I perceive these guys as extended family like sons. I can't relate to them in any other way because i'm a mom.

Most 19 year olds cant afford to buy a 40 for themselves let alone one for the older woman..hahha...ya thats primo for sure.

Wanna go to the art gallery or a museum...forget it..they just did that on a field trip from school.

I am always flattered and appreciative that someone of any age takes the time to read my profile and has the grace to ask me out however i decline of course. I try to explain to them that a younger man for me is like 35. Plus i let them know that Pimp Daddy with the Caddy (my son) probably wouldnt appreciate me bringing home another sibling for him to deal with.

On a serious note...what if..what if you did go out with this 19 year old and your someone like me in they're 50s (and this does not interest me believe me) but you do fall for them and for a few months they are so cute and nice....and then of course they move on. Who wants to put themselves in a totally vulnerable situation of the heart with a frigging 19 year old. It doesnt make sense. Getting dumped by a 19 year old would be the epitomy of embarrassment. Cause we all know that when we are involved with someone who is age related how devastating a divorce or separation can be for some.

If your a mature younger man and you find younger girls are just not there yet...then show your maturity and make it your job to educate them by introducing to them what they might want instead of zeroing on on what you perceive as a sure thing because the line is classic....i like older women because they know what they want....ya right...they just know what they dont want. You may find younger women are not any different than older women.

Younger men like to live out their fantasies...which is what it is.

Just relax about older women and concentrate on age related people that you can share common interests with and enjoy some of the same things and learn new things together instead of having some old sage telling you like it is and probably treating you more like a kid than a significant other.
 shtork
Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 363
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/10/2007 9:08:15 AM
Haha i was a toyboy once, She was 12 years older than me. I enjoyed it and had a fun time bringing up her son then she left me for someone younger lol. Anyway, we are still freinds and its her computer i'm using now as mine blew up and burnt half my house down. Wish i had insurance lol.
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