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 *Babydoll272*
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*The Lastresort*
Well said Mr. Rooney!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 539
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:37:42 PM
Babydoll you kill me.
Seems when a guy does not agree with what all the masses agree with...you go and bash someone. But bashing someone is fine, I enjoy it when it is me. I guess speaking some truth is wrong because it is not warranted?
My apologies to those women who do think old men are no fun, lazy and boring. You must be right and for a guy who is almost 38 to disagree..what am I thinking?
I suppose alot of what i said is not the truth and makes no sense? Ok, then why is it that all the comments made by women who prefer young guys are always the exact same ones?
Let's see

1- Set in his ways...women must never be set in their ways at any age right?
2- Lazy...ok so women again are never lazy, only men watch tv..ahh but watching sports is against the woman's rules, but she is allowed to watch soap operas yes
3- No energy...this one kills me, what is the energy? Running laps around downtown everyday? Always going out somewhere all the time?
4- Can't keep up...so it always boils down to sex? Older men suck in the sack basically?
5- No fun....hmm what is each person's definition of fun? Going on a trip to sit on the beack for 2 weeks? That is not fun for me. Hitting the bar every Fri or Sat? I did that in my 20's and would rather spend my money on something else other than at a bar.
6- Older men look so old or awful...since when is it only men who age, wow never knew women do not age and look awful or old. Nice to know that.
 The lastresort
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 540
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:54:23 PM
1- Set in his ways...women must never be set in their ways at any age right?
2- Lazy...ok so women again are never lazy, only men watch tv..ahh but watching sports is against the woman's rules, but she is allowed to watch soap operas yes
3- No energy...this one kills me, what is the energy? Running laps around downtown everyday? Always going out somewhere all the time?
4- Can't keep up...so it always boils down to sex? Older men suck in the sack basically?
5- No fun....hmm what is each person's definition of fun? Going on a trip to sit on the beack for 2 weeks? That is not fun for me. Hitting the bar every Fri or Sat? I did that in my 20's and would rather spend my money on something else other than at a bar.
6- Older men look so old or awful...since when is it only men who age, wow never knew women do not age and look awful or old. Nice to know that.


1. - it's called 'compromise' for women!
2. - women our age are working fulltime, raising kids and sometimes going to school...
3. - energy to maintain a home, raise kids, work all day, bookkeeping of bills, mortgage and still find time to go to the gym or enjoy a nice walk or bike ride out
4. - keeping up with fun and new ways of making love (sex is what younger guys or dirty old men call it)
5. - fun - as in going out for long drives in the country, bowling, shoot pool, and yes dancing! and maybe some sex! or a nice picnic in the park....use your imagination!
6. - both sexes age but some age gracefully and care for themselves; some let themselves go without caring!

Does this help ya 'champ'!
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 6:58:26 PM
freelancemark,

these couples you describe lasted 18 years. see, that's the argument one of my pof buddies in his 40's gives me. they have lasted longer than most marriages with closer ages! and if they aren't shmoozing, they are on porn sites all night long! what ever happened to playboy magazine? the one where madonnna had pictures that were like art?

these couples lasted longer than my two marriages of ten years apiece. my first ex-husband was five years older and i married him in grad school. my second ex-husband, who i married after a ten year interlude, was five years younger and i met/married him in my mid forties. now my 6 month duration, recent ex manfriend (alas, met him on another site) was only two years younger and he "depleted" after 6 months. i just cannot compete with those dominatrix websites, not in my nature (lol)!

so, i am totally, totally confused. plus, i still believe in marriage (the hopeless romantic that i am), although if you are financially disparate (not desperate!), i guess a pre-existing clause can be arranged. i never thought i would be divorced, although the first one tried to come back after a year of feeling like someone cut out my liver (i learn quick and i said "no") and i had to ask the second one for a divorce. his actions were irreparable and probably biological. a totally different person than the man i married and that can be attested by all who knew us.

however, the more i learn, the bleaker it sometimes looks (at least tonite, didn't get out today. too much to do! never got to flirt at that coffee shop as my form of therapy!). i have joined meetup dot com and most of my ex boy/man friends from over the years still call or write me. so, i just don't get it? what's going on in this world? you cannot be too smart, or independent, or dependent, or kind, or whatever. and G-d forgive you if you make the best of life! people keep taking everyone else's inventory but their own. where are the sane and intelligent people who also have retained their passion?!* and who aren't still in diapers?!*

also, while i am whining: whatever happened to lassie? well "father knows best" had a drinking problem and they tell me wally from "leave it to beaver" became a porn star! and poor bill cosby and what he went through with his son! hey at least demi and ashton have a life! i just don't know. and besides, i'll be damned if i get fake boobs and have incisions in my chest, all for the sake of modernity and to get a guy near my own age! i guess the only really joyous way to express yourself nowadays is to DANCE! and if jazz wasn't created, i think i'd hang myself. at least the fantasy is more jungian than commercial.

ps ok. i feel better now. thank you all for listening!
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 542
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:02:35 PM
1. - it's called 'compromise' for women!
2. - women our age are working fulltime, raising kids and sometimes going to school...
3. - energy to maintain a home, raise kids, work all day, bookkeeping of bills, mortgage and still find time to go to the gym or enjoy a nice walk or bike ride out
4. - keeping up with fun and new ways of making love (sex is what younger guys call it)
5. - fun - as in going out for long drives in the country, bowling, shoot pool, and yes dancing! and maybe some sex! or a nice picnic in the park....use your imagination!
6. - both sexes age but some age gracefully and care for themselves; some let themselves go without caring!


Ahh so women are perfect...now I know...men are nothing once they reach I guess 35/40?

It is called compromise..yes women want a man to compromise..aka..change in all ways...while she does not have to change because women are perfect, never wrong.
Ever notice guys always say "I can't go with you guys, my wife/gf won't let me"...now do not tell me that comment is never said and that it is not true.
Women do not allow or want their man to associate with his friends who are single because they are bad influences...but god forbid women and their single friends, no no they are all squeaky clean.

Women want younger guys because they are in the driver's seat, the young guys relishes being with an older woman and the older woman loves the fact she has the control.

All about sex I noticed. Oh well I guess it all gets sugarcoated but as you mentioned in number 4 and 5, sex seems to be the kicker...the young guys win out there huh. Why is it always that women can do no wrong these days and men once a certain age are considered always in the wrong? And if an older guy does not act his age, women call him immature, women can and are allowed to not act their age. Why all the double standards these days?

Oh damn I am whining, a broken record, need therapy..all because I do not date older and and prefer to date my age and state some of the obvious things here. My bad...
 gypsyloves1069
Joined: 11/28/2006
Msg: 543
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:05:17 PM
raven why dissimulate,im doing it for fun,im not here to judge you have reasons,i have issues,but be you be happy life is short..you are a smart lady,act like who you are ok .its all good
 The lastresort
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 544
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:09:39 PM
I give up! You must have had real bad relationships 'champ'.....I've had nothing but great dating experiences with older and younger men.....only thing is 'champ' I choose whom I want to be with for a life time! I choose to be 'unattached' at this time.....but if and when I meet my equal.....then it'll be our decision to continue the relationship for a lifetime....whether they're younger or older.......geesh! Can't you get it....we're all different...we all can't be want you want us to be! Some of us women like older or same age, some of us prefer younger.....so what?

i'm going to bed now....vent at me tomorrow 'champ'!
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 546
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:51:24 PM
^^^ it is like when I was chatting to this older woman, 42, who was saying all these reasons why younger men are so much better. And I said to her
let me guess here: You got married at 25 to a guy who you thought was going to be the world to you. Have a couple of children, live in a big house and be happy. You had 2 kids, the guy turned out to be a prick, treated you bad, made you feel crappy. You stuck it out for the kids, they got to be teens and either he left or you finally did after about 12 years. So now it is time to relive your youth, make up for those lost years. And because of that bad marriage your views on men your age are all negative and a young guy came along, 10 years younger say, said you are so great, made you feel great and that made you decide that men your age are this and that and young guys are where it is at.

her reply was 'You are just jealous and an a-hole. And I said why? Because I didn't agree with your insults towards us old guys as to why you prefer younger men and I instead told you the truth?
Shows when someone says some sort of truth, most times people get all defensive and start justifying their actions.
Bottom line is, hey fine and dandy that you date younger guys, but to insult the older guys with "you are all old looking, look awful, set in your ways, no fun, boring, suck in the sack" and when we say something like "when you 50 yr olds are dressing like you are in your 20's, that is so pathetic" why all the fuss? Because the insults said by women are in fact the truth in women's eyes so when we insult them..they take it personal.
Like rejection, men are supposed to endure and accept both insults and rejection. Women get to be all happy and perfect in their own right. remember ladies compromising is not one person changing or accepting change, it is two people communicating and accepting some change in one another...seems it is usually one sided these days because women know they hold the power but hate to admit it and so they deny it.




I give up! You must have had real bad relationships 'champ'.....I've had nothing but great dating experiences with older and younger men.....only thing is 'champ' I choose whom I want to be with for a life time! I choose to be 'unattached' at this time.....but if and when I meet my equal.....then it'll be our decision to continue the relationship for a lifetime....whether they're younger or older.......geesh! Can't you get it....we're all different...we all can't be want you want us to be! Some of us women like older or same age, some of us prefer younger.....so what?

i'm going to bed now....vent at me tomorrow 'champ'


Bad relationships 90% of the time are a man's fault anyhow right? Sure I got dumped because I was not up to standards in bed...not surprised these days anyhow. I think most of what i have said seems to get more misunderstaood. No idea why but then again I am a man who does not date older women or younger women so go figure. I guess if I was into dating much older I would be in the "good books"
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 7:55:48 PM
msg 542....
What I'd like to know is : where do I get me one of those?...seriously ...I don't run acrosss many like that...maybe I'm too old for them.

It's a funny thing ...I honestly thought men age atleast as well as women ....and I kind of thought that was common knowledge too!...
 packleader
Joined: 8/18/2006
Msg: 548
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Posted: 1/25/2007 7:56:53 PM
Bomber you are just dead wrong when you say older women are not into younger guys.
Unless I miss my guess times are not all that different than when I was a young man.
When I was 15 she was 37,and yes she was the teacher and I was the student that was just as eager to learn all about lifes mysteries, as she was just plain horny.This first episode with an older women set me on quest to bed all the lovely ladies of her age and persuasion,but there did come a time in my life to settle down and I chose a lady just a mere 5 years older than me and we had a great life.The point that I`m attemting to drive home is it probably does not matter with the age difference as long as you both have your eyes open,so I would think that there are plenty of older women out there who would like to have fling with a much younger man.


Pack.
 tanner
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 549
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Posted: 1/25/2007 7:59:35 PM
i for one love younger m@n......they have the drive that is needed for a w0man in her 30's... if you know what i mean.....

older ones spend alot of time, it seems, complaining about aches and pains......

i like em young.....
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 8:00:32 PM
msg. 551 .....That's very very unsual you broke the code and stuck up for a guy who is sticking up for other guy's ....that take's character...hat's off to you!
 sassymiss
Joined: 5/7/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 8:14:57 PM
Maybe older women have raised thier children and don't wish to have another kid to train.
Young people your age are more interested in partying and having a good time. They are not serious about a relationship. It seldom works out for a permament relationship.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 8:24:33 PM
champ, i am going to try this only once. you are only 37 years old. you are far from "old". you are a good looking man. but, it seems you had someone dump you because you were not "up to standards in bed" (your words) . well, that was her. men and women who care about each other take time to "learn" each other, in bed as well as other places. haven't you heard the joke? as soon as a man or woman trains his/her mate, they up and leave them and the next person gets the benefits! well that's because for many, it takes a long time--particularly in the 30's (if my memory serves me).

you need to develop some humor or maybe the right woman will just pass you by and you won't even know it. and sure, i think the best is your own age and you are at the age where that is quite doable. so, unless there is more to this story, it makes no sense to be so angry at all women. or all older women. and if women or men are using each other, then it doesnt' matter what their age, just keep away from them and take care of yourself. people use others for power, sex, money, to fill in their own interim loneliness, etc.

or are you simply saying that the woman who gave you the hard time was an older woman? if so, i am sorry and i hope you get over it. the world is filled with good and bad women and men. as cedar implied above, there are more important issues in a relationship and a good part of that is intention. you need to develop the knack of understanding and sensing intention. it's an expression of the soul and it makes the generalities go away, once you get the knack of it. and as for getting older, i myself never even knew the problems that men faced until my last recent relationship. i have a lot of male friends and they tell me that what happened with my recent ex manfriend is not unique for our age group. it makes me quite sad actually. but when i was a younger woman, i had the same problems in my 20's as he does now. maybe it's like this to curb population growth, who knows? to forgive is not that the offender was right, it's just to "let go" and free up energy and space to live the rest of your life to it's utmost. and in the interim, to vent on pof!

namaste.

ps cedar, you restore my faith in "manity"!
 availablevirgo
Joined: 7/22/2006
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Posted: 1/25/2007 8:38:05 PM
Most older women probably wouldnt take you seriously
You may find some older women to share same life experiences..but
far and few between...as their lives must be at a stand still...I would
rather have a wise ol man(let him believe it anyway) who
knows what a woman REALLY needs....not trying to be cruel to younger
men....but I think older men are more apt to share the pleasure than
to just persue it....good luck in your journey
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
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Posted: 1/26/2007 12:14:34 AM
Oh my, raven...remember to use your 'inside voice' when writing in the forums, so people don't think you're yelling (*cough* being defensive *cough*).



Ah yes, a psych student. I loved taking sociology and psychology courses to pad my stats when finishing my degree in my early 20's. You need to bury your nose in those textbooks to fully understand that even through your repeated denials, you are very obvious. The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
 tick tock
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Posted: 1/26/2007 1:45:53 AM

the man has something to hide..methinks


I highly doubt you do much thinking at all.
 MAYBE, MAYBE NOT
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 559
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Posted: 1/26/2007 4:12:10 AM
Bedroomeyes4u, I'll bet their into you too. lol literally
 MAYBE, MAYBE NOT
Joined: 12/23/2006
Msg: 560
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Posted: 1/26/2007 4:17:13 AM
Tanner you've obviously never been with me. Although I have been told that I am the exception to the rule, so please no snide remarks honey I say enjoy yourself whatever it is you want, except jailbait, that people should be hung for.
 gypsyloves1069
Joined: 11/28/2006
Msg: 561
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Posted: 1/26/2007 3:19:38 PM
[CHAMP]
First I never judge anyone for what they do are how they do it,its not my place.I was married at 16 to a 25 yr old,we lived in a real rich area in L.A so no big house,I worked from day one of my marrage,I have three grown beautiful kids,we stayed married for 24 yrs,I have no regrets,he tought me alot,I get alot of emails from younger guys,never gone out with one,but I am corious,but I will never probably go out with one.I like a man who I can talk to who can talk to me,and knows what he is doing in the bedroom.All I want is a man that is funny and can make me laugh ,if he happens to be young I have alot of thinking to do.I dont like to hear people pass judgement on others.as long as there happy,know one is getting hurt then lets all be happy..smile k.ME
 rellik639
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Posted: 1/26/2007 4:59:18 PM
older women DO want younger men. they just won't admit to it right away. and yes i do hate that ****ing banana
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 563
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Posted: 1/26/2007 8:37:17 PM

older ones spend alot of time, it seems, complaining about aches and pains......


Now this cracks me up. Can't wait until this woman hits her 40's and starts to complain to the young stud in bed that her lower back is killing her or that her arthritis is starting to bother her. Aches and pains only happen to guys LOL.



older women DO want younger men. they just won't admit to it right away.


I think these days they will admit it because if a woman told her girlfriends or co-workers she is dating a younger guy they all would be saying "You go girl, right on"
Now 20 years ago it would have been "That is disgusting" Total different time and era. These days women wear the pants in more relationships and know they hold the power as well.
Some women may feel it is morally wrong to date much younger, but I think for sure these days a large majority of women are not ashamed to admit they prefer to date young guys.
 tick tock
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Posted: 1/26/2007 8:44:00 PM
Now this cracks me up. Can't wait until this woman hits her 40's and starts to complain to the young stud in bed that her lower back is killing her or that her arthritis is starting to bother her. Aches and pains only happen to guys LOL.


or that she may require a hip replacement.


I think these days they will admit it because if a woman told her girlfriends or co-workers she is dating a younger guy they all would be saying "You go girl, right on"
Now 20 years ago it would have been "That is disgusting" Total different time and era. These days women wear the pants in more relationships and know they hold the power as well.
Some women may feel it is morally wrong to date much younger, but I think for sure these days a large majority of women are not ashamed to admit they prefer to date young guys.


So very true. The attitude towards older women dating younger men has completely changed from 20 years ago. Heck, I even remember when it was a big deal for a woman to date someone even a year younger.
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 565
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Posted: 1/26/2007 8:55:57 PM
these days more and more men have to pay the price for the past. Because men in the past screwed women around, left them for younger women, had affairs with younger women. So now that women have gathered the power and know they have it when it comes to dating. They have now stepped up and say "hey you guys got away with it for decades, now it is our turn"
Sad but true, all spite, and revenge. And we men cannot do anything about it really.
Women will more and more prefer younger men and I will bet that most men when they hit their late 40's/into their 50's, it gets even harder to date as most women even in their 50's won't date guys even remotely close to their age. Us guys look terrible in most of their eyes and why would and should a woman settle for her own age...when she can have what she desires. It is that curiosity of how exciting would it be to date a younger fun guy. And that entices many to say "Damn right I am" and with it being considered "socially acceptable" or "mainstream" you will see as the years go on, more women will be preferring younger. And I will bet if their better half disappoints them, they too will do what the men in the past did...have affairs with younger and leave for younger.
If it was ok for men 20 years ago, it is ok for women now.
And no this is not a slag or slam towards you women, just a fact and view is all.

Never will it be looked at in a good way if men date much younger...always men will be called a pig and pervert and be said he is only after her for sex, is just how our world is.
 tick tock
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Posted: 1/26/2007 9:03:55 PM
Well champ, you can look at it that way as you've presented some valid points. However, you must remember many of these women are in for some painful lessons as a large number of these younger men are not there to stay, but there to get laid. They will fulfill their 'Maggie May' fantasy until the morning sunlight streams throught the window. Also, if so many younger men are gravitating to these older women, then that means there should be an equal number of available younger women, shouldn't it?
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