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 callendargirl
Joined: 5/21/2005
Msg: 137
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Because they GROPE, THEY GRAB, THEY TEND TO BE ROUGH......... they will sit through a conversation, ask , look interested over dinner or a drink. and the moment you say goodnight , it is OCTOPUS!

personally , as i say good night, i dont like a hand rapidly rushing up my stocking legs, unless it is invited, i don't like a hard hand grabbing, a breast! I dont like a tongue stuck down my throat.............

Nope, we arent all cougars!

If younger guys want the attention of older women, simply put, they have to treat us a little nicer!

just my thought , but then again, I am not prowling
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 142
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 12/24/2006 10:22:48 AM
Don't know where you live but here there are plenty. Although for you older might be more like 25-30.

I am almost 40 and find most men my age or older are out of shape. There are a few who aren't but men in their late 20s to early-mid 30s are in shape and have their lives in order. And contrary to popular opinion, a lot of them are looking to settle down (or at least they say they are).

Nothing wrong with that either...some women my age are deciding it's not such a big deal, and are considering them as prospects.
 affection+kisses
Joined: 10/24/2006
Msg: 147
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 12/24/2006 2:41:17 PM
but, what is it about older man/younger woman? I think the tides are moving in another direction.. I have dated woman older than me . I'm friends with two who are in their 60's...And i have seen ads {not here} from a woman who was 65 looking for guys 50-66..
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 150
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Posted: 12/24/2006 9:09:20 PM
This topic has been discussed before. And yes, as a much older woman, not quite as old as dirt, but close, been contacted by young guys my son's age...have one 27 and one 19. And when I has 48, got contacted by a male 18 years old. Sorry, couldn't imagine dating a young man who was the same age as my own young men who are my children. If I were, I'd date their friends. Yeah...I have fun hanging out with my sons and daughters and their friends but date them? Ummm...no. For myself, that much of an age span, there just isn't anything to build a relationship on, and I'm not at all interested in the whole sexual thing with a youngster. From my own limited experience, all those who contacted me, were so infatuated with my "maturity" and sophistication, yeah, whatever, just wanted a sexual experience with someone more experienced.
I don't judge anyone by what they want, if a woman my age wants to have that with a younger man, go for it. I wouldn't think any less of her for it. It's just for me, blekk...not gonna happen.
 Iowapaperboy
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 157
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 12/25/2006 1:29:10 AM
First of all, dude, 19 is not all that.

I thought I rocked at 19. I thought I had all the moves and knew exactly what to say. Man was I wrong.

The truth of it is that most men are immature, inexperienced, irrational and extremely jealous at age 19. Sadly, many men have those characteristics until the day they die.

But, the point is that an "older" woman wants a man who is relatively stable, has a career, knows how to control his emotions, knows what matters in life and also knows how to please a woman in the bedroom.

As far as the bedroom goes, at 19, all men are concerned about is how many times they can do it in a day. "Older people" simply care more about quality.

Then, there's personality, which is usually what any woman of any age will judge you on first. And, with that in mind, I would take some grammar lessons, stop using street speak, buy a Speak n Spell, quit referring to women as "birds," and lay off the yelling and swearing.

Regardless of where a woman comes from or how old they are or what they are into, they deserve respect. If you present yourself to women as you have presented yourself here, you are showing them no respect at all.

-IPB
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 160
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Posted: 12/25/2006 5:52:09 AM
I totally agree with Lastresort.

Iowapaperboy...You've said it all and on behalf of us older ladies..."thank you".

For example, I got an email from a 20 year old not too long ago and all it said was..."Hey Baby...let's get it on". He sent a photo of himself slumped over on a bed, like he was waiting for me... NOT!!!

Wow..what arrogance! I guess he feels he is at an age where he thinks he has all the moves and all he has to do is write an email and I will be there.. "Respect" isn't even in his vocabulary or he wouldn't have sent me such a ridiculous request..kidding or not.
 GREASEBALL
Joined: 12/12/2006
Msg: 172
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Posted: 12/25/2006 11:56:55 AM
Nothing wrong there. As long has you are OLDER. Wanna kick back with me and watch Lawrence Welk?
 TS_69er
Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 175
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Posted: 12/25/2006 6:34:27 PM
lots of older woman loves the younger guys, when im in a bar I see a lot of older cougars hitting on the young ones..
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 176
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Posted: 12/25/2006 6:40:29 PM
"when im in a bar I see a lot of older cougars hitting on the young ones.." And that isn't here is it? Most women have an age range of about 10 years. More than that, well it gets to be more like an age of a child and that's just weird on so many levels. Would you younger guys hit on your mom's friends?
 Huggles
Joined: 12/15/2006
Msg: 178
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Posted: 12/25/2006 6:51:12 PM
Depends on the maturity level of a "younger guy". I, for one, do have a limit of even entertaining the idea of dating a younger guy for numerous reasons and it has nothing to do with what is "socially acceptable" or "what would my family and friends think/say". I'm the one dating this person, not them. I've dated men that were 15 years younger than me...not together anymore... Why? We had different interests, conversation was lacking and, well..we'll leave the bedroom out of this....(it IS true that women do peak at 40)

 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 185
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Posted: 12/26/2006 4:47:02 AM

Everytime that I was with an older young lady it was getting better and better each and everytime.

OK, I'm confused. Older or younger? Hmmm.
 fwblooking
Joined: 12/15/2006
Msg: 186
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Posted: 12/26/2006 5:10:11 AM
Who does not like to train puppies, indeed? Puppies, yes... young people? absolutely not!!! I find the majority of responses on this thread seem to indicate that older women do not like younger men... I should put that question to my 1st wife, since she left me for one. But on the upside, she has gone through at least 8 unfulfilling relationships in the last 4 years... and what about younger women longing to meet older men? The younger women I have met and dated are all interested in partying, kissing other girls, and showing their ta-ta's to anyone with a video camera in the hopes they will be on the next "Girls Gone Wild" video... and speaking like a sort of 21st century Valley Girl. "Oh my God!", indeed... I, personally, have instituted a quote rule when i date. If i can throw out a Shakespeare quote, and they can tell me it's a Shakespeare quote, then all is well, and I can have an intelligent conversation. Call me old-fashioned, but I like talk. If my mind is stimulated, then why stimulate anything else?
 Neysha61
Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 190
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Posted: 12/26/2006 8:10:25 AM
@ The Champ
You stalk these kinds of forums, don't you buddy ?
Remember what I said before in the other one, well it STILL GOES!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 196
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Posted: 12/26/2006 11:36:16 AM
I date men my age or younger. I do have a very small window of range (no one younger than 35, no one older than myself.) I have many reasons for my preferences, none of them pertaining to sex.

Most of the men that contact me here on POF are older than myself ~ and the funny thing about that ~ many of them post here in forums that they don't understand why women date younger. I find that hilarious. They want to eventually date me, me being younger than they are, but they are offended that I date younger men. Go figure.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 198
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Posted: 12/26/2006 11:45:15 AM
Why are older women not into younger guys???

Pardon me while I barf .................

To the guys that think that - just wait around a few years and you will be in older girl heaven.

Almost all of the females that are in my target age range are actually looking for guys younger than they are. Cheer up - you have tons of older gals in your future.
 East European Girl
Joined: 2/1/2006
Msg: 199
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Posted: 12/26/2006 11:50:59 AM
I have no problem dating men younger than me; and as a matter of fact the general trend is that I have dated more men who are younger as opposed to older than me. However, what I look for is not age specific, it's all about compatability; similar values, ideals and so on. I find it's challenging enough to find someone with a similar life's path, who is willing to take me as I am and of course vice versa! Nevemind the age difference!!!
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 204
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Posted: 12/27/2006 6:21:30 AM
^^^Lastresort^^^


**babydoll** why is it that 'young guys' think that us 'older women' seem to want to 'get it on' .... because we're at our prime?


Hmmmmm..I don't know why but I find alot more younger guys today like us older women.

I get lots of emails ranging in ages from 20 to 35 and believe me, I don't mind at all as long as they are respectful and not crass like the one I mentioned in the previous post. I always reply to the ones who write with finesse and it all depends on the guy. Some guys are more mature at 32 than some around our own age. And you know that Lastresort...

It does start with teaching young sons on how to respect their female friends at school...so when they reach teenage to adulthood, they will be fully aware on how to treat their girlfriends etc. "Respect" is the key word.

To answer the OP's question...To me...it all depends on the maturity of the guy ...at any age.
 Americanlove
Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 205
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Posted: 12/27/2006 7:23:33 AM
I like men about 10 years younger than myself. I am young at heart and can not deal with men that are my age very well. he is cute...
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
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Posted: 12/27/2006 9:19:03 AM
@ FireandIce


there is a plethora of jaded women here...


Wow..how cynical is that statement!!

The original OP's question was "Why are older women NOT into younger guys???

"NOT" being the operative word. What we jaded women are trying to say here is that we WILL date younger men, depending on their maturity. "AGE" has nothing to do with maturity. There are older men who have the mentality of a 20 year old and young men who are have the wisdom of someone much older...same goes for women.

It's too bad that the only woman you've dated on POF dated you because she was only out to "get" her exhusband, as you put it..which is my point exactly. All you've done was pick the wrong woman to date. That doesn't say that all women, young or old, on POF or in your home town are like that.

Stupidity and Immaturity comes in all ages and genders. It's not an "older" issue where some think Wisdom should be in tact...some people NEVER learn with age.


Pure ego drives on older person with younger people..
..FireandIce
How obtuse is that statement!!! I see you are 38 and by the way you write I can see that you are well educated...but I have to tell you that the statement above proves that you are immature mentally. You did date a woman who was trying to get back at her ex husband. Didn't see that coming did you? Maybe it's you who can't chose to date a woman with class and maturity, no matter what age she is.

And your statement..."I gues women don't watch porn!" How laughable!!! Well this woman doesn't need to watch porn to differentiate between maturity and immaturity where people and sex are concerned..Don't forget..those people in PORN movies are getting paid.
 Natscha
Joined: 8/15/2006
Msg: 215
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Posted: 12/27/2006 10:20:00 AM
I love life experience and the wisdom, knowledge and perception that comes from just having been around longer! It's very important to me!
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 217
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Posted: 12/27/2006 12:35:48 PM
^^^Fireand Ice

As for the majority of women i date... i think you should mind your Ps&Qs.. I mentioned 1 woman.. not all.... and they are wonderful people not to be mired in your own self indulgence.


Wow...are you WAY off base! Have you ever missed the point I was trying to make!!!...How do YOU know if I am self indulgent? You couldn't be furthur from the truth...and mind my Ps & Qs???..you brought up your misforturne with your lady friend on a public forum...not me. I just commented on what you said ...that's all. Give me a break!!!

"Someone like me?? What's that supposed to mean? No kneecap blows from me either...just my opinion..I didn't say older men or younger men are preferable...just mature men...men that can keep me interested with their intellect and that goes at any age.

In answer to your comments...well if you are comfortable with them...why do you feel the need to defend them...although you don't think you are...You just don't like anyone to disagree with you. I'm not alone in my comments either..so what does that make us...even??

and Good Day to you too.
 MotleyGrrl
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 224
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Posted: 12/27/2006 2:32:23 PM
i don't care much about age, but 19 is a bit too young.
i'm only 28 - and i dont have children- so maybe it's different for me. i have been dating guys in their early 20's recently and i prefer it =)

i always dated older men. i've come to realize they're pretty set in their ways and not always willing to compromise. plus, some have kids or are too into their career.

so for me, it's younger all the way
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 226
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Posted: 12/27/2006 2:43:40 PM

I'm with you Lastresort
Party on 2007
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 230
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Posted: 12/27/2006 3:15:23 PM
Thank you Fireand Ice

Well thought out response and very logical. Why is that some people constantly derail threads to pontificate on a completely opposite question?



I date the men who I fit with best....the ones who are at the relative same place and who have the same interests and desires and goals as I do. Obviously I am not interested in dating a man who wants a family nor am I going to be dating one who is planning on retiring in the next couple of years.

Seems pretty logical to me.

Oh...and I find both COUGAR and MILF to be definite INSULTS.
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