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 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 621
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Champ, your problems have to do with your image of yourself, not your age. I just cant believe you havent realized it yet.

You also seem to have a hate on for younger men, which I dont understand. It also baffles me that you think that age is so important. When you find someone you get along with, someone who makes you smile everytime you hear their voice or look into their eyes, you really wont care how old they are.

As i said, go back and read tyhe negativity in your posts in this thread, it shines through, and really is a big part of the problem you have with meeting women.


Well first off myself I know I am very negative, takes time, years, to get over that and be a good person. Time has somewhat passed me by anyhow.
I do not have a hate for younger guys, sorry if it seems that way. What gets me is, I will contact and chat to someone and she says "Oh see guys my age (I am her age) are always boring and younger guys are the best." or I hear and read the stuff they all say is so amazing about younger men. So for me it is a case of knowing then I am just not good enough to impress these women of today because no matter what I myself, cannot compete with youth. They will be way better in the sack, they will be better looking, dress better, so there are 3 areas i completely lose out to.

I am starting to decide to either give up on dating forever, or start meeting women over 45/50 and maybe things will be alot brighter. Not bother with women anywhere close to my age as they are more into the younger men. Maybe that is also a problem, not going older like all other men do.
I had a 19 yr old like me, 22 yr old like me and 23 yr old like me. Now for me, I find nothing in common with someone 15-19 yrs younger than me. Maybe I should go for it next time. Just like the women in their mid/late 50's that have contacted me, maybe I should start looking at that as being ok and go for it.
 gypsyjules
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 624
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:50:14 AM
Not too worry sweetie ,,,I find it quite flattering when a younger man sends me a message ...Yahoo ,,,,, the dancing banana ,,,,well too be honest now that you have burst my image of dancing green men i really thought they were pickles lol .,,,,,
Don't despair young bomber,,,,you have not bombed out ,,,Myself i am 37 now and i still get messages from young hotties as young as 21 and I personally love it ....Age is just a number ,,,,Things happen when you lease expect it ......Go out there and cast your line out there ,,,Trolling away mmmmmm you never know what is nibbling on your line ,,,always worth checking it out ....All the best in your quest ,,,,i believe older woman are the best lol cheers gypsyjules
 freebird22
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 625
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 6:45:40 AM
Captain Jack, I'm here, Tick-Tock you misunderstood and Champ, you are so lucky to be the age you are. Do not give up. There are so many fantastic women out there that are right around your age that want you and you just don't see it. You will. I don't know what has happened but at 38 there is no need to throw the towel in.

My dear friend who is turning 50 this year is not freeking out. (I did when I hit the 5..0...) but you my friend are only 38, come on ... enjoy life. There is nothing wrong with you. Probably some sh**ty girl dumped on you, get over it and live life to its fullest. Life is too short. Have fun ......
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 626
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:17:54 AM
As I always say, I am a sucker for punishment. I will take a "break" from dating, then some stupid sign gives me a signal to get back in there, I think right on and I feel much better..then bang..reality hits and the same outcome again. Gets really redundant like my posts.
Then I get a younger woman who has a bf start flirting with me, and wanting me to go out with her sometime...I do it, then after that I think is that all I am good for? But should I complain? Then I meet some women my age, they say I am not their type. Rejecting me based on my job, etc, never basing it on who I am as a person to them.
Then I get contacted by women 20 years older than me. But why? How can a guy who is old enough to be one's son, have anything in common with someone that much older. But should beggars be choosers at 38? Maybe dating the 23 yr old who has a bf I should go for. Nothing else better going on for me dating wise, or maybe dating the 58 yr old is what i should do, or sit back, keep getting rejected by women closer to my age and think what gives?
Lots of confusion here for me. Older/Younger/Same Age...not sure what to make of it all.
 Blossom65
Joined: 9/26/2006
Msg: 627
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 2:27:49 PM
Captain, I dont think you got what I meant!! I didnt say that older guys CANT perform, hell no, I meant that sometimes younger guys who are still living with their parents and going through school and working part time only have a nice hard **** to offer whereas with older guys its the complete package.


As for me personally, Ive never had to be with any guy yet that couldnt perform do to my ugh "Unattractiveness" as you put it!
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 628
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 3:10:50 PM
^ wow...classy.
 Janet4now
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 629
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 3:15:06 PM
Oh Champ... why don't you start your own forum based on the "other" issues you've told me about... there is so much more here than what you're letting on.

Why do you do this?
 JPrincess
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 631
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 3:22:59 PM
I am looking for a man that is well on his way in his career. A guy that may want to settle down. I can't keep up with someone who is just really starting to party legally. I want to stay in watch movies, go to dinner theater. And i definitely do not want to be the one driving and paying. Also owning your own house is a bonus too since we wouldn't have to always be in my house.
 emmyrn
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 632
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:54:24 PM
Im about to turn 42, and my passion/hobby/social life is online gaming. As you can imagine, I meet a huge amount of young men who think they want me for some reason...maybe my voice, maybe the idea that I actually like to shoot rockets at them..whatever:) Dont get me wrong, over the years there have been a special few young guys, and I mean under 20, who have DEFINATELY caught my attention. The point Im trying to make is that its extremely important to know what you want from whatever kind of relationship you might find yourself involved in. If you just want fun and games, be honest and go for it. If you want more than a casual no-future kind of thing, then be more discriminatory in who you allow yourself to find interesting.
 bettyboop1979
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 633
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:56:55 PM
well me personally i dont like the younger men either they are not mature enough...older women want older men ..men who know what they want in life who have a strong head on there shoulders..dont get me wrong sum women do like younger men but for boy toys not sayin all but sum women do coz they make them feel more younger,sexy alive, and vibrent...and once there spirits have been brung back up they leave them and move on to an older man coz they want to feel stable again....i suggest just keep looking and one of these days u will find an what u r lookin for
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 634
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/4/2007 9:49:36 PM

Oh Champ... why don't you start your own forum based on the "other" issues you've told me about... there is so much more here than what you're letting on.

Why do you do this?


Oh so sorry for not being good enough to post my opinions regardless if they seem to be whining, redundant, stubborn, make no sense. I will make sure then I agree with all things and follow the leader on this topic.
Just because one gets so many dates and probably can date whoever she wants, does not mean a guy can do the same you know. Just some food for thought there.
Women hold all the power in dating, so if they feel younger is better, they will get what they want.
Men on the otherhand, we have to do the chasing, the impressing, the approaching, the acting and we have to accept rejection...
 oceanfront
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 635
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:14:42 AM
We are! Or at least we want to. I guess its just the fact of what people will say and think about it. I also think we, the older woman feels insecure with a younger man - longterm - thinking that in 10 years he will want someone younger or closer to his age.

I thought it was a pickle
 Janet4now
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 636
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:43:13 AM
^^^^ Insecure? So you'd want to be with a younger guy if you weren't afraid he'd dump your ass for a younger model down the road?
 NaiveandWitty
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 639
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/7/2007 9:49:00 AM
INDEED! It benefits you to stay within your own age group....Grow gradually....and as was aforesaid in the upper response......when you are a little older......some experienced and distinguished woman will take a liking to you. But for now....you should enjoy your youth, preserve it!!!
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 640
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/7/2007 5:23:09 PM
Uh oh..I am responding again LOL.

Might have a date with a 59 yr old on the weekend. Ya figured what is better going on a date with a 23 yr old and getting called a pervert or go on a date with someone who will be praised?
 The lastresort
Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 641
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/7/2007 5:32:24 PM
Might have a date with a 59 yr old on the weekend. Ya figured what is better going on a date with a 23 yr old and getting called a pervert or go on a date with someone who will be praised?


Or, she probably felt sorry for ya!
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 643
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Posted: 2/8/2007 12:03:15 AM
I have dated a 24 - 25 year old which was hard to swallow


I'll bet.
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 646
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:54:59 AM

Or, she probably felt sorry for ya!


Actually you are right!! She said "I guess we should meet, you need a date more than I do"
So true.
 Onaturel
Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 647
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:10:03 AM
Maturity has nothing to do with age.

Many of my friends(male and female) are several years younger then me. As much as I adore them, most are living a different life then me. They are single or just starting a marriage. I'm a single mom who was married for 13yrs. Worlds of difference there.

I've dated younger men before, it's more about the connection you have then age. If they are stable in their own rights, job, home, etc, I'm more comfortable with it.

That said I've also dated older men and find they are ( huge generalization coming!!... JMHO >>)more honest, openbetter comminicators, and know what they want out of life/relationship. They can go with the flow of things easier. They don't take everything personally, and dont' want a commitment.... which I'm not ready for.

Younger men and older women esp women in there 30's is a great match, sex drive wise......... least thats been my experience.



 SthrnButtrfly
Joined: 10/17/2006
Msg: 648
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Posted: 2/8/2007 6:12:42 AM
I myself am 43....I recently went out with a 35 yr old who was divorced w/kids altho he doesnt see his kids on a regular basis. His maturity level surprised me...most his friends were in their early 20s and altho we had alot in common all he wanted to do was show me how his new PS3 worked, the games, the computer hook ups to it, etc, etc. He wasnt into life situations and had no plans for his future. He told me the age difference bothered him.....I have gotten some emails from guys in their 20s and also had a 22 yr old ask me out over the holidays....I went to a mutual friends party with him and we had a good time but it was more on a friendship basis then anything...HONESTLY, its kinda hard to date someone that young since my son is 21....I prefer a man who is more mature and settled down, not so much into the party scene...so anyone less than 10 yrs younger than me is out of the picture. Bomber, find you one in their 30s or late 20's if you want older...any older than that its prob going to be an ego trip on both your parts.
 Charm1ngMuse
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 649
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:38:45 AM
Ten years ago in my thirties, young 20 somethings were hounding me like there were no other women on earth. It was really quite amusing and great for my ego since I divorced at 30! I wouldn't consider a man under 30 now because our lifestyles would probably be very different. I also don't care for board shorts, surfer cuts and video games so I don't know what they would see in me besides an exceptionally great f***

Now in my forties, I love men in their 30s but if they haven't married yet, most will want to have children (I'm done with that!), or if divorced with children, those kiddies are very young (Don't want to change diapers or babysit). Men in their forties are awesome because their kids are grown, generally speaking, and they are experiencing a renaissance of sorts. I'd love to be their Venus!



I thought this was a pickle too until I clicked it the first time... It's all good as long as it's firm yet pliable...
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
Msg: 651
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:10:39 AM
Pretty funny....a radio station here has people call in with stories in the AM Mon-Fri. There are always young guys who call in to tell how they were "cougared" the night before. Sort of gives you a different perspective on the whole "age doesn't matter" thing.
 Quist
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 652
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 9:45:03 AM
Cause you have pimples!!!

Listen ..... maybe I'm old ..... maybe I'm tooooooooooooo conservative.

I have a friend that has a very young girlfriend and it occured to me .... WHY?

They fight all the time, they have nothing in common. He is ready to retire. She wants kids. He has kids her age!

It's just silly.

Ok he has a trophy, but he paid for it and pays daily.

Now if ya just want to get laid ..... OK .... but to be serious, not I'm not saying it can't happen. But for a women to be serious with a much young man ..... that's gotta be a rare thing indeed!
 deesgreeneyes67
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 653
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:13:12 PM
no guys too much younger...tried that a few times , goals are just too diff.
nothing personal against the young hotties out there...lol
dee
 Sigi
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 654
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:52:19 PM
I just prefer a man around my age...give and take...
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