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 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 842
i am not a cougar!Page 29 of 58    (18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58)

Men in their 30's are more desired by women in their 50's I think. Cuz women 30-50 still want that hot guy in his 20's who is awesome in bed. As they all say, the sex with a younger guys is so much more amazing than with an old guy.


OH DEAR ME. I am 43. There is NO WAY in hell I'd be caught dead naked in front of someone near my son's age. As for younger men being "awesome" in bed ~ HA~ now that is a hilarious statement. I've known some 30ish men who don't know the difference between the top and bottom of a woman ~ I've also known a couple of men older than myself that simply seemed to have a very firm grasp on what sex is or is not about, depending on the individual woman they are with. It isn't age that dictates someone's sexual maturity, knowledge, skill or preferences. Those traits come from learning about women and not being afraid to experiment, ask questions as well as knowing who they, themselves truly are. Age doesn't determine someone's interest in sex ~ nor does it determine someone's ability to learn how to be a better lover. That all comes with attitude and interest. If someone told me that I suck in bed, I'd be enrolling in every single sex seminar within driving distance and maybe even a few plane flights ~ if it's broken ... fix it.

Life isn't over for men at 35. My bf is 35, and I can safely say ~~ he's definitely NOT going downhill, in any area of his life.
 Oregongrown
Joined: 4/7/2007
Msg: 843
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:24:53 PM
LOLLLLLLLLLLLL!!! Yes, I hat 'dat banana

Well, I am way old(54) so but Im going to give my take on the older woman younger guy thang If I had it to do over again, I would not hesitate to date a guy younger in highschool, or, after graduation. Now, the main reason, and this is hard to admit to God and everyone who reads this, I just feel too old for a younger man and figure that sooner or later he will be looking for someone either his age or younger. That's my problem I know and I really need to quit categorizing men. I mean I do suppose it's possible that I could have a guy 10 years younger that loved me more than anyone ever has and he would not leave when I turned 60, and so on and so on. I mean it doesn't look like Kurt Russell has any plans to leave Goldie, but then again, who knows the rest of that story.

You will find that woman when you least expect it(I say that because everyone tells me the same thing)

denise
 princess too
Joined: 10/15/2006
Msg: 844
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:58:50 PM
Well I think it depends on the individual..... I have dated "mature " young men and immature men my own age? Alot depends on personal life experiences and upbringing. When you are saying that you have asked out older women who said they werent interested , you didnt mention the age difference involved ? What is considered OK age differences varies from person to person? Are we talking 5 yrs or 20 years ? I dated someone who was 17 years younger and we went out for 3 years. We broke up 2 years ago and remain very close friends, talk daily and still hang out . In the last 6 years since my divorce I have dated younger men more, I enjoy the fact that they havent been made bitter by divorce, dont have kids,have lots of energy are generally more positive and seem more willing to try new things. I think that because Im mistaken for BEING alot younger than my age is why I also seem to get asked out more by these guys. Older or younger its ALL in being compatible. Just my 2 cents worth .... lol
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 845
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:56:52 PM

If someone told me that I suck in bed, I'd be enrolling in every single sex seminar within driving distance and maybe even a few plane flights ~ if it's broken ... fix it.

Life isn't over for men at 35. My bf is 35, and I can safely say ~~ he's definitely NOT going downhill, in any area of his life.


I wouldn't waste my time and money going to sex seminars, what is the point. If it is all about pleasing her then why bother. Sex is supposed be both people enjoying and communicating to one another as well. Communication is where it falls apart. Because alot of people do not bother with this.
And not every guy is going to be a stallion in bed. I know I am not and never will.
Life is not over for you bf because he has someone..YOU...guys who are single still and for a long time and over 35 I think we hope to be in a happy relationship BUT the reality is many of us are undesired but do not want to accept that reality.
 territwo
Joined: 1/2/2007
Msg: 846
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:17:23 PM
Hello everyone. Im probably going to hear about this but i'm 44 years old and i am dating a 26 year old. We have become good friends and we are having fun. I have met a few of his friends and they accept me for me. He has met a few of my family members and they get along good. I'm not saying this is forever but it is for now. Right now is what matters to me. I am happy where i am in life and i want to share my time with this person. Good evening to all.
 DonnaP3
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 847
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:44:39 PM
I appreciate getting emails from "younger" men but you guys have to look at the age of the women you are contacting. If you are betweent 19 & 25 - I have a son that is 19 and another one that is 22. I also have a 20 year old daughter. I have a problem dating someone that is the same age as my kids. I am also looking at someone that has life experiences similar as mine - someone that has life experience similar to myself. I treat my kids as adults but not my life partner. Find someone closer to your age, not someone that will be a notch in your bed post.
 The_Champ_Is_Here
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 848
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2007 7:31:57 PM

Hello everyone. Im probably going to hear about this but i'm 44 years old and i am dating a 26 year old. We have become good friends and we are having fun. I have met a few of his friends and they accept me for me. He has met a few of my family members and they get along good. I'm not saying this is forever but it is for now. Right now is what matters to me. I am happy where i am in life and i want to share my time with this person. Good evening to all.


Not a bad thing at all. I think men in their 30's could learn alot from the younger guys these days. I currently go out with people from work who are 19-25 and I am starting to see that yes they are way more fun than I ever could be at my age. I see now why women like these awesome men and I envy these great guys for getting and impressing the ladies that many of us old men wish we could have.
Good for you and good choice.
 hiphop53
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 850
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/21/2007 12:43:14 AM
Hey,Now lets not talk for all women! Ive been dating younger guys .So far 10yrs younger & if u like eachother,go for it!!! I do! Some women like men their own age or the guy might be the promblem. I have 2 daughters & ive yet had a younger guy ive dated try too hit on one of them and they are very pretty young women. My question is"why are younger guys into older women"?
 samidala
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 852
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:37:33 AM
I know I myself tend to be attracted to guys that are 2-5 years younger than myself.. Not sure why, I just find a better connection with them
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 853
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/11/2007 10:39:15 PM
Not all older women with younger men are only dating them for sex. Some older women actually have more common interests. Why do many people on this thread think that it is rare or impossible for a woman to be compatible with a man who is 5-10 yrs younger than her.
 Kixxie
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 854
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 5:25:29 AM
19? My youngest son is 19!!!!!!! OMG I'd feel like a pediphile!!!!!!
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 855
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 7:11:38 AM
The guys in their 20's and 30's that email me asking me out get this response:

I've already lived through those years and I barely made it out alive....

Why the hell would I wanna go through THAT again!? lol

mho
 llj42
Joined: 3/5/2007
Msg: 856
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 7:39:34 AM
Your mother is dating a man 65-70 and is having the time of her life??? WOW, OK !!!
you said 25 years her senior....that means older then her... Senior is older and jr. is younger.. I'm Sorry I can't go out with some that looks like he could be my father or someone that looks like he could be my son..It would be ok if he looked younger but not to young....and if you meant her Jr. Then he is a baby and he could change so fast and get tired of your mom and then all she is doing is wasting valueable time because she is not getting any younger...But to each their own!!!
 llj42
Joined: 3/5/2007
Msg: 857
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 8:20:17 AM
I don't think the last reply understood what he was repling to..He said he was a dating a 26 year old man...not as a friend and that it wasn't forever but it's for right now.. I'm sorry life is to short to be wasting time..We are not getting any younger..I would not have a problem dating someone younger. The question is how much younger... He would need to have had his fun already ( partying, hanging at the bar with his buddies and drinking a lot.) and have his live in order, a good job and someone muture and has at least some idea of what he wants out of life and then have fun with the person you are with.. So that could be as young as 25 but more so at around 30....
 Teebear1
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 858
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 8:33:19 AM
Its a matter of experience and who is in your area. . I have had several older women ask to meet me. I met a few and have had very good luck. I still see 2 older ones steady. They dont ask for a comittment either, which is nice. I prefer women a little younger to a little older, but the older ones are there and willing believe me. It is a changing world.
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 859
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 8:55:27 AM

Not all older women with younger men are only dating them for sex. Some older women actually have more common interests. Why do many people on this thread think that it is rare or impossible for a woman to be compatible with a man who is 5-10 yrs younger than her.


I meant to write that "some older women actually have more common interests with younger men".
 amythyst26
Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 861
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:22:59 AM
I'm beginning to think I need to start dating younger guys... I've typically always dated older men and it seems that other people have jaded them so much most of them are not looking for serious relationships anymore.

Need to get them while they're young before some other women screws them up for life. lol.
 lookingforawiseheart.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 862
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:42:03 AM
I am 38yrs old. When I was 23, I dated an old man (42), because I lacked confidence and felt he was trustworthy, devoted and honestly - "the best I could do". But I grew up and in just a few years, I found him unattractive, and dull. Last year a young'n posted his 23yr old eyes on me. I was on course, away from home and easily could have had a fling, but.... I had some major walls....1. I had the past, 2. Dispite his giddyness, he felt "gay and hiding" to me and who wants to hold a soul up?, 3. What happens when you see my gorgeous child???, 4. He had no education yet potential, and no money, these matter when your middle aged, and providing house and home for what is ultimatly a child to you is NOT sexy,5. Friends and family- trust me people divide when they find oddity, age, sex, race, etc.... and why bring more flack into life?....HOWEVER, I did find his body amazing and taught (mine's not), I found him funloving, joyful, sweet (old men aren't) , he was everything a young girl would be looking for, and an older woman willing to be his mommy and lover. (=BLACHHH!) So, having chosen not to be a cougar in the past, I'de just like to say, look into why you think you are so 'mature', what you find attractive in older woman, and try to make choices based on what you want in life long term, and what pains and joys you want to give and get in this life. Best wishes for a long and happy life.
PS isent it really a green pickle and not a banana at all?!
 dpd22
Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 863
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:01:56 AM

Because most younger men are more immature. I dated someone who was 6 years younger than me for 5 years and there were times I just cringed at some of the things he did and said!


Do you think all younger men are immature because of 1 man you dated? Certainly many of them are immature, but there are many others that are mature for their age. That's like me saying that most white women, tall women, thin women etc are this because of 1 relationship or most older women are bitter, stubburn, and boring because of 1 relationship?
 yoga jan
Joined: 5/3/2007
Msg: 864
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:17:01 AM
I personally enjoy the company of younger men...I like their energy and enthusiasm. Interesting...most of my female friends are also younger and age is rarely discussed. Age differences are more relevant if you are looking to have children, are not willing to understand the physical and health changes that occur with age and do not understand that everyone has different social needs during certain times in their life.

I developed a wonderfully close on-line relationship with a young man who is 40 years younger than me. We had very similar interests and I loved mentoring him in his education and career. He remains someone with whom we both share a mutual bond. But, he needs to move on (and is) to developing a relationship that is more age appropriate and so do I. However, I am not guaranteeing that nothing will happen if and when we meet in person. He was that special to me, but every day reality sets in and life goes on for both of us.
 blue sunshine
Joined: 12/23/2005
Msg: 865
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:27:34 AM
Well, I posted way earlier in this thread..... and I had a theory about younger guys being like puppies....BUT, I tell ya what....I'm being proved wrong all the time! And so the theory changes....often these "younger" guys have fresher outlooks. While some truly are "old souls" (and that is something I find attractive) they're proving that age doesn't matter.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 866
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 10:43:56 AM
To msg #1:

Mate, the few consistent things that people bring up on this site that shows maturity is:
(1) Spelling:
For instance, writing "he's", not "hes",
And writing "immature", not "imature".
Shows you make the effort to use a spell checker, so you'll make an effort for them.

(2) Writing complete sentences:
For instance, writing "you", not "u",
And writing "I am sick of birds my age", not "Am sick of birds my age".
Shows you take enough time to write a complete sentence, so you'll take time with them.

(3) Talking about women with respect:
For instance, referring to them as "women", not "birds".
Shows you think of them as more than a sex object.

(4) Reading their profile and then talking to them about the info they put there. Not just emailing them without checking out what they're into, when you have the chance.
Shows you want more than just sex, and are willing to talk as well.

(5) Being yourself, and NOT trying to impress them with being pictures of your sex organ, your fantastic abs, stories of your conquests, how you're a brilliant cook, or how much money you spend on them. They've had all the show-offs. They want a man.

(6) Ask her for a coffee, not a drink. You get a woman a drink to get her drunk and into bed, not to get to know her.

You're plenty mature. But act like it.
Watch what the older guys do, that the guys you're age don't do. Ask them why. They'll love to tell you, because you are showing them respect. Then pick the few things that they do that you would like to do anyway.

Women want a man with a mature mind and a young body.
Do that and you'll be knocking them back with a stick.

And remember, most guys you're age is only into sex, so when you email or talk to them, start with, "I am sick of birds my age!! They're so immature! I want a conversation and a rapport, not just sex." It's a huge compliment to say you prefer a mature woman to a young woman, and it tells them that you want more than sex, and it's honest too.
 Hott Buttered Soul
Joined: 5/2/2007
Msg: 867
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 11:18:49 AM
excellent post scorpiomover.
 lookingforawiseheart.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 868
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 11:27:44 AM
No, it was an example of a point in your life when you LEARN something from your habits and events. I have worked in a job for 18 years, that is 94% men - and alot of them are younger (under 28) and very physically fit, confident, and outgoing. And there is more than one example of youngish interest - I just never was interested back before then, and, although the men, being young, sexy and charming, are also noteworthably with less income, childishly idealistic, and are still in the "I want..." stage of their lives - and thats a great time in your life, but I see cougars crying in the bathroom saying "he didn't call, I seen him with this little puff of a girl, his mother hates me, my children are wondering what happened, and boohooooohooo".
But being human also gives me the right to my opinion. Hee hee.
 Smart-Blonde
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 869
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/12/2007 11:41:40 AM
My finding is, generally the only reason a younger guy wants an older woman is for sex and someone to be the assertive one in a relationship.

I get approached by younger guys in public all the time. I ask their age and then tell them mine. Most think I am younger than I am. They say, oh age is only a number. Then I ask them a list of questions:

Have you experienced marriage, divorce?
Do you have kids?
Are you settled in a career?
Do you live alone or own your home?

Then I tell them, see, I have and have experienced all that and you haven't. You haven't experienced half the things in life that an older woman has. We want someone on all levels of life, not just someone who can keep up with us sexually. That usually shuts them up!



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