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 stillsweetnstillsingle
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 986
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The OP's topic is a generalized statement and for that reason, unfair. As the above poster pointed out, it is somewhat dependent on the age difference, but there are plenty of women in their 30's, 40's and beyond who would, and do, date and even marry younger men. Look at Elizabeth Taylor!

Ha ha, kidding, but, celebrities aside, two of my uncles married women 10 years older than them, and they are still happily married 20+ years later.

I personally have always been attracted to and involved with slightly younger guys. Not a huge age gap, mind you, but I'd rather date someone 10 years younger than myself then 10 years older.

For years, men have been doing it, and for the most part, it's rich, successful men looking for perfect, perky, "trophy" girlfriends or wives. Their excuse is that as women age, we become less attractive.

Well, eff that! IMO, MEN are the ones who become less attractive with age, and that is partially because while women are expected to stay toned, tanned, wrinkle-free, stylish ALL while running the world , society doesn't frown on a man who gains a belly, goes grey or bald, and ceases his grooming habits. Personally, I feel what's good for the gander is good for the goose! I want someone who is attractive and in shape, too! I feel young at heart, and I want my partner to match my energy level in ALL areas.

I've only dated a man older than me once ( and even that was only a couple of years older) and it will never happen again.
 BrAt_FaCe
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 987
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/13/2007 8:15:55 AM
i have never dated a younger guy most of the time they just look too young and lack maturity. i know i look really young as well but it works in my favor i guess since most guys like to date younger
 i_like_fishing
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 988
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/13/2007 8:22:09 AM
$ they always go for older guy $
 Ramjet1964
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 989
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:39:09 PM
Its natures way: The female looks for a mate with the most experience and many women (whether they want to admit it or not) are looking for a father figure. And of course, being as young as you are there is the issue life skills/experience which comes with age. It also depends on how you carry yourself. I have been involved with several older women and it always boiled down to how I carried myself. Don't have the attitude that you are doing something wrong, just be patient and mature. Women are women, be happy with the one that's happy with you and enjoy yourself.

Also, there's persistence. If you are turned down ask again - but when you are turned down initially make sure she sees how well/maturely you handled it....
 frecklesandgreeneyes
Joined: 7/23/2007
Msg: 990
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:46:03 PM
It's not $ or a father figure thing....it is a prefference to me. I like to feel the man and I have more in commen than if I'm with a man that does not remember when "The Herman Hermits" were the thing , like "I'm Henery the 8th". Not that I'm into that song or band, bt it can bring a giggle.....Or a commercial of OVALTINE, or when " TANG" was a space age drink, or remembers man walking on the moon....
 snowbuns
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 991
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/14/2007 2:36:17 PM
Im a 41 yr old woman and I have dated older and younger men. Age isnt a factor when 2 people are attracted to each other (legal age of couse). Experience is important in all aspects but a younger man with an older woman is no different than an older man with younger women. Let fate decide whats best. But no matter what, any children involved come first and besides, isnt it what the person is all about that counts, not the number(age)....... best of luck with your search....
 regalrose
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 992
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Posted: 10/14/2007 10:03:33 PM

younger men tend to want to just please themselves,as for us older men we take the time to explore our partners and find parts of the body that turn them on EI: the elbows,hip bones and fingers to name a few, it's just not the main three and us older guys know that,young guys just jump on and off,then go wash there cars or whatever they do as for us older guys we lay there and hold our partner
Since when??? My last ex was 42...heck every man I've ever known did this...and he was the please himself, jump on jump off guy....I'm still wondering, since WHEN does a guy wanna explore their partner, or even CARE that they are in the room once they get what they came after?Must be a new breed than the ones I grew up knowin about.
 regalrose
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 993
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:59:21 AM
Well, I've changed my mind about alot of things, dating younger guys is one of them, but I still don't think I'd date anyone too awfully young.

Very true, I would think, MAPT. Although, couldn't prove it by me during my marriages, lol.

And just what makes ya think they are ALL that way Liquidus?

Dracitamo...26-30 isnt that far from 23 hon...3 to 7 yrs difference isn't much, but take me for example. If I were to date someone your age....whew! I'm 44 so I'm 21 years older than you!!! Big difference.

Sunshine 30...hon, not to disappoint ya, but there are some that are 40+ who STILL don't know how to make love.

Ha, until I came to this site, I'd never even HEARD of the term "cougar" other than in relation to a cat!

I still get mail from guys aged 19 all the way up to 70+, but what I don't understand is why on earth a young guy your age would want an old chick my age? I mean I'm not dead by any means, but hell, let's face it, younger chicks just look better in most cases, and men being visual creatures as they are, looks like that would appeal to you more than stretch marks, varicose veins and sagging boobs....or is it just a case of scoring one for your "guy" resume?

I still haven't read all the posts...too many, but still....I think most of the concerns have been covered by the others.
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 994
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Posted: 10/15/2007 5:32:19 PM
^ you probably don't want to know the truth as to why they are really interested, nor am I going to waste my time trying to spell it out for you women.
 Indigo rose
Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 995
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/15/2007 6:33:30 PM
Because old girls are easy? Damn all this time I thought it was my mad cooking skills and..and...and..Damn Tick your right! When I was young and nubile I sure didn't want to do any old guys..it was an aquired taste for sure...took me years and years to love the old coots my age
 Lyricallady
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 996
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/15/2007 6:55:30 PM
I think it's all a matter of maturity.
However, I just cannot see myself with someone too much younger. It seems like whenever a really young guy hits on me, all I can think about is how he could possibly date my daughter. Feels kinda creepy for me.
Besides, men my age or older are just so darn sexy! Plus, I just love salt & pepper hair!
 SilverSky11
Joined: 9/8/2007
Msg: 997
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/15/2007 7:22:14 PM
Younger guys can be cute, nice and appealing at times.

But they are called Cougar-Snacks for a good reason. Snacks aren't just not filling enough...

Why would I want a Snack when I'm craving a juicy Filet Mignon?
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 998
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 7:51:22 AM
Younger guys can be cute, nice and appealing at times.

But they are called Cougar-Snacks for a good reason. Snacks aren't just not filling enough...


Sometimes "cougar snacks" can actually become a "full course cougar meal". I can understand a 40 yr old woman not wanting to date a 21 yr old man. I don' t think that a 40 yr old woman would necessary be more compatible with a 40 yr old man than a man around my age ( 28-34 yrs old, I'm 31 ) just because of age. A man around my age could be good looking, intelligent, mature, successful, have a good job, own a house, share some common interests and personality traits etc with some 40 yr old women. I don' think a 10 yr age difference is a big deal if both people are around 30 yrs old or older.
 SilverSky11
Joined: 9/8/2007
Msg: 999
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 1:32:12 PM
EC22 Msg 1011:
Your arguement is very good. You are right it can work out.

But I had a couple of these relationships. Everything was great until eventually the issue of having kids comes along.

At 42, I'm thinking I am pretty much done. At 32, he has lots of time to change his mind (even thought he may think otherwise at the time).

Cheers.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 1000
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 1:36:28 PM
Younger guys can be cute, nice and appealing at times.

But they are called Cougar-Snacks for a good reason. Snacks aren't just not filling enough...

Why would I want a Snack when I'm craving a juicy Filet Mignon?

I'll take the snacks. They're just right for me, I am trying to keep my weight down, so I don't eat a lot of filet anyway.

Younger IS nice and appealing, and since I am not marrying anyone off, I say bring it...younger guys are more energetic, more laid back and not trying to settle down in two weeks, have less baggage, are more trainable and don't bring as much drama to me.

VVV - Added: I like younger guys, not guys so young they don't have chest hair yet - let me be clear on that. - VVV
 MsWizard
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 1001
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 1:37:43 PM
In my case I think I'd just have a little bit of a hard time relating to a male who has more in common with my 18 year old son than he possibly could with me.
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 1002
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:59:23 PM

Your arguement is very good. You are right it can work out.

But I had a couple of these relationships. Everything was great until eventually the issue of having kids comes along.

At 42, I'm thinking I am pretty much done. At 32, he has lots of time to change his mind (even thought he may think otherwise at the time).


I understand your point about the issue of having any kids could cause problems, but that could still be an issue if both people are around my age. Hypothetically she could have kids from a previous relationship and not want anymore kids and he doesn't have any kids and wants kids.
 ~Myth~
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 1003
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/16/2007 10:56:19 PM
Okay . . . I'm not good with math . . . so I use my oldest son as my guide . . . and he is going to be 30 next month . . . now add 15 to the 30 . . . and that is 45 . . . yeap . . .that sounds about right . . .

Besides . . . I have always been attracted to the "OLDER" look . . . I find "salt & pepper" to be . . . how can I say it . . . Hummmm. . . hummmmmm hummmmmmm!


~Myth~
 lie to me
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 1005
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:06:48 AM
Well, some older women DO like younger men - they like the energy they can bring to a relationship. Some of us DO NOT - nothing against them, but - I don't feel like babysitting, I don't want to wipe the snot from their noses, and I don't want to house-break them. No offense. Just saying..........
 coolestname
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 1006
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:24:12 AM
I'm a man, so obviously I can't speak for women. But after having read 6,000 POF forum posts(lol) I feel I have a decent understanding of the things women need from a relationship. Of those things, most are abilities/traits that are men improve upon over time. I think as men age, they become more stable, grounded, and able to provide the support women need(be that emotional, physical, financial, or spiritual support). Not to mention the fact that as we age, our desires, needs, aspirations, and sources of happiness evolve. This is true for all of us, which is why the greatest compatibility is usually shared by two people of similar age. Sure there can be physical/sexual attraction between two people of any age. But the important thing in a relationship is an emotional connection. Seriously, try not to laugh at the thought of a 40 year old woman who claims she has found her soul mate... and he's 19.

On a personal note, I lived with a woman 5 or 6 years older than me. We got along great, and I had absolutely no issues with the age difference. However, I think it arroused insecurities in her that she wouldn't have had if not for the age difference. She would say things jokingly like "ha... in 10 years you will just trade me in for a younger model." Usually when comments like this are said more than once... they reveal themselves as being serious concerns masked by the joking manner in which they're told. Human nature is such a curious thing.
 12_BUCKS
Joined: 7/15/2007
Msg: 1007
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/17/2007 5:16:08 AM
GUYS come on really who wants to date an older women. saggy boobs, lowered libido stretch marks, celulite should i go on?
Its just wrong i like some older women may be 3 years older than me but thats about it.
Its common that relationships have always been that the man is older than the women simply because the chick is
" MATURE"

for the mans age cuz thats when he's also applealing towards the girl. vice versa
Younger guys are just seen as brothers, toys or even entertainment sure women like our energy if you know what I mean.
But when it comes to raising a family or being
financally stable
thats when it comes to women wanting a MAN apparantly.
 Julie3167
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 1008
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/20/2007 8:55:14 AM
hummmm .... this subject has set still to long , but I will be back to comment sometime soon. Right now I'm getn ready for the Stratt .... oh yeah...party time with the YOUNGER GUYS ...
couldn't resist ... but I will tell you that I do not generally approach younger men, they ususally ask me out ... its nice but not to much age difference. I mean something about that intro that goes "no this is my boyfriend, my son is slightly OLDER" ... lol...thats just funny, I don't care who u are ~!~
 southernsue
Joined: 8/16/2007
Msg: 1010
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/20/2007 9:45:51 AM
I'm a 48 y/o woman who would like to date younger guys. It's not a $ thing it's not a father hang-up. Its just finding the guy who's really into you. I'm finding that men around my age or older are looking for too many women juggle around. At least that's been my experience of late. I have a friend who has been in a relationship with a man 12 years her junior, he was 27 when they got together now he's 45 and she's now 58. And he still prefers her to women his age. That's a good thing.
 tallblonde111
Joined: 10/16/2007
Msg: 1011
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/20/2007 3:35:40 PM
I'm 42 and I prefer younger men. Most men that I'm attracted to are in their 20s and 30s. I generally seem to have the same interests and lifestyle with younger men. Men in this age range are still old enough to be mature, successful, and financially stable. However I still would consider dating a man around my age or a little bit older if we were compatible with each other.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 1013
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/20/2007 5:22:05 PM

GUYS come on really who wants to date an older women. saggy boobs, lowered libido stretch marks, celulite should i go on?


I'll agree that most older women may have all or a combination of the above...EXCEPT..lower libido?..lol...I don't know why you think that, most women over 40 have more libido than they ever did when they were young..I'll make an educated guess , and say maybe 2-3 times more?..rofl

I have dated men who are younger than me, some an insignificant difference, some pretty big gap..I also agree with the poster who said after 30 or so, the age difference isn't that significant..
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