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 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 1187
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HYPERGAMY--my ex came from a lower economic family and in the divorce, he tried to get my parents to give him money, said he had married me because of their money. Now he has no access to it, nor did he get any of it. Gold digging comes in both sexes.

As far as younger men, I have found most younger men are simply wanting sex with an older women, sometimes the relationships work, but if he eventually wants children--he would be out of luck.
 Jen3407
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 1188
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/20/2008 1:13:36 PM
I found many of the younger guys are just wanting play . Nothing serious . I rather date older than me cause the older ones tend be more understanding an caring than the younger ones . I am only 34 but i have lived my twentys dont want go back thers an found a lot of em are just way to inmature or pushy insisting if u date em more than once they want live togethers . And tween there to interested in going out an partying .
 looking4u2345
Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 1189
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:24:29 PM
"Tell u why coz am 19 and they must think "hes 19 hes 2 imature". well do u?? What do i need to do grow a few years??? Am sick of birds my age!! Fcuk sake someone help or tell me what the hell am doing wrong??"

^^^Because many write and talk like this. There is just a world of difference in what has been experienced.
 Enigma252
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 1190
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:18:11 PM
Of course we are into younger guys. It just depends, ya know? I remember being at the Ritz Carlton many years ago with my younger lover--just 7 years. People at other tables kept staring at us. I'd have a problem with 20 years difference. A guy in his mid-40's isn't even an issue at this point.

And, as far a men my age and older, I've already done the dance with Viagra. I glad it's been invented. It sure beats pop-cycle sticks and duct tape. "Hey honey it's time to take a happy pill!"
 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 1191
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:52:05 AM
The guy I am seeing will be 47 next month, I am 57. So what? We have a lot in common and there are differences. I have yet to meet a 27 year old with whom I have a great deal in common. I am not saying the 27 year old is not worthwhile, he is just not for me. I have also dated a man in his 70s, while he had a lot going for me, in that particular case, he did not have the energy to do the things I like to do--hiking and dancing. He would go but tired early.

My 28 year old son dated a woman 40 for a while, he liked her personality, etc, but they did not have enough shared interests.

My ex-mother-in-law was married to man younger than me yet older than her son who was 5 years my junior, by one year.

It depends on the people. Whatever floats your boat and makes the two people involved happy.
 wears paloma
Joined: 1/25/2008
Msg: 1192
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Posted: 5/3/2008 6:17:06 AM
Hey Bomber,

I don't date younger guys because:

1) my kids look at him funny, since they are the same age;
2) my grandbrats ask, "Who is that boy?" (out of the mouths of babes...);
3) it is unlikely you will understand the Cold War references in a BullWinkle cartoon;
4) I don't want anyone changing me, therefore I do not prefer some one who may need to change due to age. It is more than just lack of maturity...it has to do with letting you be yourself and grow on your own terms.

On the plus side for you is that music crosses generational differences and sexually, you would be in your prime while the woman is in hers.

It depends on what type of relationship you're trying to have...but for me, that's too little in common.
 californiaa
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 1193
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:54:26 PM
There's nothing wrong with being 19 n liking older women. ur not weird. u r just going 2 have to wait ur turn. Dont rush things.... b patient. d right 1, despite of her age will come along soooooon enough..... hit d boks for now....
 sunnychic78
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 1194
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Posted: 6/27/2008 11:53:51 PM
I've dated younger guys.... Actually almost exclusively in the last year or two....
Of course my saying I date younger guys, and the fact that I'm 29 isn't that big a deal...

I do refuse to date guys younger than 23 however.... We're in different places in life, I've found and can't relate well. They want to go get hammered every weekend and I want to have a couple of drinks and be done.... I want to wake up and be able to do stuff the next morning, they're hungover from the night before... Its not ALWAYS the case but 99.9999999999% of the time it's spot on.

And I've found a lot of guys that are 18, 19, or 20 that want a older woman to 'teach them' so they can go out and sow their wild oats and such... Thanks but no thanks....
 Indi85
Joined: 6/12/2008
Msg: 1195
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:25:56 AM
Hmm, how old are we talking about? The largest age gap between me and the woman I dated was 5 years.

Oh and one more question, what will you do if you hit 30 and she hits 75? Would you still be with her? Or are we just talking about short term fun here?
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1197
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:39:45 AM
I think some older men know very little about sex. They were married for years to women who did not enjoy that part of the relationship, and some seem to have no clue as to how to please a woman. Not all are that way, but enough for me to consider younger guys.
 Smart Lass
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 1199
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:12:12 PM
I have only dated one younger man, he was seven years my junior and we had a wonderful time until he asked me, after watching me play Barbie with his niece if I would consider getting married and having a child with him. The answer was no due to the fact that I probably couldn't carry a child to term due to a very bad miscarrage I had when I was much younger and first married and my age. We stopped seeing each other shortly therafter, I knew he really wanted a child and I would never hold someone back from becoming a parent.

I would date someone younger again, because they are fun, more lighthearted and actually seem to view older women in a much more positive light than some men my own age.
 zXScottXz
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 1200
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:44:19 PM
I believe that some older women aren't into younger guy's "but" I also read on pro-file that 1/3 of women would date a younger man,, and I would have no problem dating an older women,, "after all every body just wants' to be happy",, and we only live once,, so If your happy with that person and that person is also happy with you nothing else should madder.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 1202
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Posted: 7/13/2008 12:04:40 AM
I don't want to date younger guys for some reason I don't need a toyboy,I want a matured,successful,well experienced man who knows how to treat and dine and wine his woman right. Focus on yourself on how to be financially succesful, focusing dating a Cougar is a cheap shot...
 curlyboop
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Posted: 7/13/2008 3:33:33 AM
I lke younger men but I wouldn't want to date anyone so young that I could have given birth to him.
 cat2252
Joined: 5/31/2008
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:42:23 AM
Okay bottom line, youngs are fun, but that's all us older gals think of. You have not had the life experiences that a person that has had. Marriage, children, losses and gains in life. It would be hard to relate to a person in their early 30's if a person is in their middle to late 50's. Just as a 30 year old to relate to a 19 year old. Some day your gonna want children a family, and all the things that go with it. Some 15+years older is past that, done it. When you are 30 they are going to be 45+ and when you are 45 they are going to be 60+. You will be wanting a younger woman. Thats the way the majority of the world is. Sorry kiddo, you need more living of life, and that includes women of your own age and go through what older gals have already done.
 indehills
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 1207
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/13/2008 9:45:29 AM

This is siucha a great thread for ├│lder'womne to fish with ├Żounger'guy profiles!

I can't see why it didn't get deleted right off, because that was the whole point of the OP: to get older women to view his profile. He's LONG gone, so maybe it worked. His post made him sound more like he was 14, not 19.
 vincerich
Joined: 5/24/2007
Msg: 1208
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 7/13/2008 10:22:57 AM
Think of the question in a different way: Why do women of all ages usually date men that are older than they are? The general way that the female to male dynamic works is that women are raised to look for a person who can lead them and who they can look up to...Someone powerful who can take some of the stress that comes with accountability and decision making away from them. I believe that both men and women naturally want these things but in most societies, only women are allowed (or forced) to take on the follower role without being criticized. Even if they claim to be "independent," watch closely and you'll see that a lot of them are looking for exactly what I said above. Since you're younger, they may not believe that you are accomplished enough to be a suitable mate for them.
 soniajam
Joined: 7/4/2008
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Posted: 7/13/2008 11:34:21 PM
Well due to maturation.....47/57 is not such a streach as say 19/44. Big difference there. I would not date anyone toooooo close to the age of my oldest (26). The youngest has been 30. I find that I am in a different place than they are. The only thing we really have in common is sex. The sex drive is somewhat similar as with the older man and younger woman. Think about it. That is about the only thing that sticks. Now there are the exceptions. What ever floats your boat.
 MrAaronSamuel
Joined: 1/14/2008
Msg: 1210
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Posted: 7/14/2008 12:19:40 AM
You mean why are older women not into YOU??? Are other women into you but just not older women...or are women in general just not into you? Maybe you'd have better luck with older MEN...lol.
 doesitmattertou
Joined: 12/8/2007
Msg: 1211
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Posted: 7/14/2008 12:26:21 AM
Im ok with dating younger men. I tend to not like older men. So younger works out quite well for me as long as they are not just into having a one night stand.
 ml456
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 1212
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Posted: 7/14/2008 9:07:36 AM
I'm not an "older" woman ( unless I was dating a 18 yr old LOL ). But these are the most common reasons that I have seen, read, or heard why a segment of older women wouldn't date a younger man.

1. Not compatible
2. Younger men are immature
3. Younger men are only looking for sex or a moomy figure.

The first reason is understandable. I think most serious relationships between a younger man and a much older woman ( such as 15-20 yrs age difference ) wouldn't work out. Although there are a few exceptions to that. I know a 42 yr old woman who is having a serious relationship with a 26 yr old man. I think the other 2 reasons are stereotypical. After a certain age ( such as late 20s or early 30s ), maturity has nothing to do with age. I think many people from both genders and various age groups ( not just younger men ) are only looking for sex.
 latinoNsingle
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 1213
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Posted: 7/30/2008 10:27:20 PM
so do u date younger men
 alwaysinthought
Joined: 6/1/2008
Msg: 1214
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Posted: 8/3/2008 9:07:55 PM
It depends...how old of a woman are you looking for? 20? I myself have dated younger men, however only a few years younger than myself.

Oh...and the banana ROCKS!
 mgb123
Joined: 5/28/2008
Msg: 1215
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Posted: 8/3/2008 9:27:41 PM
I think older women are in to younger guys who are ok with it too. but often I think younger guys hitting on older women are only interested in sex. even though in my experience I have enjoyed the company of much younger men and had great friendships with them. what I like about younger men is that they dont seem to think about the bigger picture that it might not work out long term but just enjoy the time you spend together.
I am 49 and have had short term relationships with a 24 year old very sweet young man, a 38 year old man and am still enjoying a friendship with a 28 year old very interesting young man. Now I do think 24 was pushing it even though I wouldn't have wanted to miss it. I did not meet any of these men on plenty of fish. most of them I met when I was out dancing and having a good time with my girl friends. what I've noticed is that younger men often come on the dance floor and start dancing with me and my girl friends and friendships have started from there. I also have girl friends of all ages. from 22 - 55. they are all great people that I love spending time with. good luck to you and keep me posted. . . and yes I hate the banana
 thecollector_70
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 8/3/2008 9:30:03 PM
I say no for a lot of reasons one i have a son almost 20 yrs old and for numero two I've went out with a younger guy before and they are too immature.
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