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 jf468
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 1173
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There are plenty of "older" women who would date younger men, but 19 is too young for most of them. I know some women in their late 30s and 40s who usually date men who are about 5-10 yrs younger than them.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
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Posted: 4/16/2008 4:00:57 PM

Older men like younger women for a very good reason !


Well, some older women like younger men for a reason...teehee...
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 1176
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:19:59 PM
Why are ( some ) older women not into younger guys???


Some women feel that younger men are only looking for sex. That is true for some younger men. But there are also some younger men who would date and even prefer older women. There are also some men around my age who are only looking for sex.



There are plenty of "older" women who would date younger men, but 19 is too young for most of them. I know some women in their late 30s and 40s who usually date men who are about 5-10 yrs younger than them.


This applies to me. I'm 40 and I would date men in their 30s or late 20s. However I would not date a 19 yr old man. Most men around that age are still maturing and aren't independent yet. I probably wouldn't have much in common with a man would be young enough to be my son.

 PalomaPark
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 1177
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:58:38 PM
Age is just a #. If you carry yourself like a mature person, there shouldn't be a problem.
 SilverCee
Joined: 10/9/2007
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:08:52 PM
I just don't want the financial responsibility of being a step mom, the head of the house and the one who knows what
happens if things aren't kosher in his life
Getting really out about it.........
I am not into robbing cradles...I prefer an older man as I am not a teacher, advisor or financial planner....
Nor do I desire to pay for services rendered............
ROFLMAO, as I have not reached the age yet, where
I am so desperate to believe I can keep up with a man of that much younger..2 to 4 years is the max limit for me.
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
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Posted: 4/17/2008 2:49:49 AM
I love the fact that you women think that younger men are actually in to you. If you only knew the true reason, you'd feel like a schoolgirl to a pedophile. Anyhow, have fun with it.
 medana
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 1180
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:52:27 AM
i love em younger. delicious and cute like puppies

i dated one that was 18 couple years back. he just told me last mo that he's turning 21 this year, so he can come see me dance... sooo cute!!!
 Enigma252
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 1181
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Posted: 4/17/2008 7:17:24 AM
Yeh, well it's all cool. But, when it comes to a long term relationship, such as marriage there is something to be said about "shared values" and "common experiences". As far as male virgins go in their youth, I would hope their first experience is with a woman a bit older than them just for the learning curve with sexual activity.

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 northeast25
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 1182
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Posted: 4/17/2008 8:21:55 AM
Based on this thread and other things, these are main reasons why some older women don't date younger men.

1) Not compatible with younger men.
2) Younger men are immature
3) Younger men are only looking for sex or a "Mommy figure".

I can understand reason # 1. Reason # 2 is not always true. Maybe a lot of young men such as 19 yr olds or men in their early 20s would be immature. But after a certain point, maturity has nothing to do with age. A 30 yr old man could be more mature than many men in their 40s.

Reason # 3 could be true in many cases especially if the age difference is very large such as 20 yrs. But it could also be false in many other cases as well. Sometimes it is the older woman who is using the younger man for sex. Sometimes a younger man likes a woman who happens to be older. Sometimes a younger man is generally more interested in dating older women.

FYI if a man is only interested in sex, the age of the woman is often irrevelant. If I was only looking for sex, I wouldn't care if the woman was 20, 30, 40,50, or even 60 yrs old. I have seen a few women around 60 that are fairly attractive for their age. Also, there is nothing with a younger man and older woman using each other for sex if that is what both of them want.
 prairiechick2
Joined: 12/12/2007
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Posted: 4/18/2008 4:25:00 PM
I think younger guys are a lot of fun!! I prefer to date a younger guy to an older guy. I can date older guys when I'm 50.
 Icey43
Joined: 9/17/2007
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Posted: 4/20/2008 9:02:05 AM
tick tock did you not read the entire thread to see that I said and I quote, " Just my two cents worth".

I have on occasion dated younger men. Hence why I can speak from the experience I have learned from this.

Will a relationship with someone that much younger go the long haul highly unlikely.

I know how I felt when my daughter was dating someone fourteen years older then her.

I think having children puts a different perspective on one's life choices.

Younger men have hard bodies..mmmmmm can go for hours...oh yes and are nice eye candy...but when it comes down to where to go in live were not on the same page.

Again my two cents worth from life's experiences.
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
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Posted: 4/20/2008 10:30:42 AM
Icey43, I was referring to your assumptions:



Young men want older woman b/c we know what we want. Were not ashamed of our bodies/ we have experience/ were not into head games.

This may be the truth in your head, but definitely not true in the majority of cases. How would you know their real underlying motives?



Older men want younger woman b/c they are trying to relive their youth/prove they still have it and want someone who does not immediately realize they are complete and utter idiots who have yet to mature

This is the statement that I thought was completely out to lunch and obviously biased. While this may be the truth in some cases, it is definitely not true in all cases. Like I said before, I've known many women (in their early and late teens) that actively pursued older men for a variety of reasons.

While it may very well be your 2 cents, it doesn't hurt to recognize when you are actually biased in your opinion.



Younger men have hard bodies..mmmmmm can go for hours...oh yes and are nice eye candy...but when it comes down to where to go in live were not on the same page

Yes, nature's green is gold and this is exactly the reason a lot of men want younger women, plus the fact they come without all the baggage.
 lets chase rainbows
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 4/20/2008 10:36:46 AM
Why has this thread not died an indecent death? This is a topic that has been well and truly beaten to death. Put it to rest people and leave this tombstone unturned!

Personal preferences..... all about personal preferences.

My two bits worth.

jtf
 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
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Posted: 4/20/2008 10:40:10 AM
HYPERGAMY--my ex came from a lower economic family and in the divorce, he tried to get my parents to give him money, said he had married me because of their money. Now he has no access to it, nor did he get any of it. Gold digging comes in both sexes.

As far as younger men, I have found most younger men are simply wanting sex with an older women, sometimes the relationships work, but if he eventually wants children--he would be out of luck.
 Jen3407
Joined: 4/8/2008
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:13:36 PM
I found many of the younger guys are just wanting play . Nothing serious . I rather date older than me cause the older ones tend be more understanding an caring than the younger ones . I am only 34 but i have lived my twentys dont want go back thers an found a lot of em are just way to inmature or pushy insisting if u date em more than once they want live togethers . And tween there to interested in going out an partying .
 looking4u2345
Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 1189
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Posted: 4/30/2008 7:24:29 PM
"Tell u why coz am 19 and they must think "hes 19 hes 2 imature". well do u?? What do i need to do grow a few years??? Am sick of birds my age!! Fcuk sake someone help or tell me what the hell am doing wrong??"

^^^Because many write and talk like this. There is just a world of difference in what has been experienced.
 Enigma252
Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 5/2/2008 7:18:11 PM
Of course we are into younger guys. It just depends, ya know? I remember being at the Ritz Carlton many years ago with my younger lover--just 7 years. People at other tables kept staring at us. I'd have a problem with 20 years difference. A guy in his mid-40's isn't even an issue at this point.

And, as far a men my age and older, I've already done the dance with Viagra. I glad it's been invented. It sure beats pop-cycle sticks and duct tape. "Hey honey it's time to take a happy pill!"
 outofthedesert
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 1191
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Posted: 5/3/2008 5:52:05 AM
The guy I am seeing will be 47 next month, I am 57. So what? We have a lot in common and there are differences. I have yet to meet a 27 year old with whom I have a great deal in common. I am not saying the 27 year old is not worthwhile, he is just not for me. I have also dated a man in his 70s, while he had a lot going for me, in that particular case, he did not have the energy to do the things I like to do--hiking and dancing. He would go but tired early.

My 28 year old son dated a woman 40 for a while, he liked her personality, etc, but they did not have enough shared interests.

My ex-mother-in-law was married to man younger than me yet older than her son who was 5 years my junior, by one year.

It depends on the people. Whatever floats your boat and makes the two people involved happy.
 wears paloma
Joined: 1/25/2008
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Posted: 5/3/2008 6:17:06 AM
Hey Bomber,

I don't date younger guys because:

1) my kids look at him funny, since they are the same age;
2) my grandbrats ask, "Who is that boy?" (out of the mouths of babes...);
3) it is unlikely you will understand the Cold War references in a BullWinkle cartoon;
4) I don't want anyone changing me, therefore I do not prefer some one who may need to change due to age. It is more than just lack of maturity...it has to do with letting you be yourself and grow on your own terms.

On the plus side for you is that music crosses generational differences and sexually, you would be in your prime while the woman is in hers.

It depends on what type of relationship you're trying to have...but for me, that's too little in common.
 californiaa
Joined: 6/20/2008
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Posted: 6/27/2008 9:54:26 PM
There's nothing wrong with being 19 n liking older women. ur not weird. u r just going 2 have to wait ur turn. Dont rush things.... b patient. d right 1, despite of her age will come along soooooon enough..... hit d boks for now....
 sunnychic78
Joined: 11/7/2006
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Posted: 6/27/2008 11:53:51 PM
I've dated younger guys.... Actually almost exclusively in the last year or two....
Of course my saying I date younger guys, and the fact that I'm 29 isn't that big a deal...

I do refuse to date guys younger than 23 however.... We're in different places in life, I've found and can't relate well. They want to go get hammered every weekend and I want to have a couple of drinks and be done.... I want to wake up and be able to do stuff the next morning, they're hungover from the night before... Its not ALWAYS the case but 99.9999999999% of the time it's spot on.

And I've found a lot of guys that are 18, 19, or 20 that want a older woman to 'teach them' so they can go out and sow their wild oats and such... Thanks but no thanks....
 Indi85
Joined: 6/12/2008
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Posted: 6/28/2008 12:25:56 AM
Hmm, how old are we talking about? The largest age gap between me and the woman I dated was 5 years.

Oh and one more question, what will you do if you hit 30 and she hits 75? Would you still be with her? Or are we just talking about short term fun here?
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 6/28/2008 2:39:45 AM
I think some older men know very little about sex. They were married for years to women who did not enjoy that part of the relationship, and some seem to have no clue as to how to please a woman. Not all are that way, but enough for me to consider younger guys.
 Smart Lass
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 1199
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Posted: 6/29/2008 7:12:12 PM
I have only dated one younger man, he was seven years my junior and we had a wonderful time until he asked me, after watching me play Barbie with his niece if I would consider getting married and having a child with him. The answer was no due to the fact that I probably couldn't carry a child to term due to a very bad miscarrage I had when I was much younger and first married and my age. We stopped seeing each other shortly therafter, I knew he really wanted a child and I would never hold someone back from becoming a parent.

I would date someone younger again, because they are fun, more lighthearted and actually seem to view older women in a much more positive light than some men my own age.
 zXScottXz
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 1200
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Posted: 7/12/2008 10:44:19 PM
I believe that some older women aren't into younger guy's "but" I also read on pro-file that 1/3 of women would date a younger man,, and I would have no problem dating an older women,, "after all every body just wants' to be happy",, and we only live once,, so If your happy with that person and that person is also happy with you nothing else should madder.
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