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 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
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My son is 19 yrs old! Younger men are cute but have not matured yet, emotionally mainly. There hormones are raging and want sex with whoever? They are usually not responsible in this area either. 'They also do not know the social skills of how to treat a women and are still experimenting to know right from wrong. Even some of the more "mature" men don't know how to treat women.
Stay with your own age and treat them the way you yourself would want to be treated----with respect and be responsible and they will respect you back. Work on yourself and become stable in all areas.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 1302
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Posted: 10/22/2009 3:26:45 PM

I'm a 48 y/o woman who would like to date younger guys. It's not a $ thing it's not a father hang-up. Its just finding the guy who's really into you. I'm finding that men around my age or older are looking for too many women juggle around. At least that's been my experience of late. I have a friend who has been in a relationship with a man 12 years her junior, he was 27 when they got together now he's 45 and she's now 58. And he still prefers her to women his age. That's a good thing.
One aspect of it is many younger men are tired of the BS/drama etc some younger women make them go through. Some guys are ready to be appreciated NOW rather than interrogated/and treated like a criminal suspect who needs to atone for his sins. Some of these younger gals are effectively PUSHING men away from them then they complain all the good ones are gone......no shit! lol KEEP PUSHING I say and tightening the vice of your own woe!

Some overestimate their power in thinking that a guy is at their mercy. ONLY TO A POINT then he may very well decide the aggravation isn't worth it.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 1303
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 10/23/2009 11:26:27 AM
~OT~ It's no secret that I personally prefer men a little younger than I am. BUT, I learned long ago that a LOT younger (if you are wanting something long-term) likely won't produce results that are, indeed, long term (there are exceptions, I'm sure, but......) I recently got email from someone clearly too young for me and when I politely explained I wasn't interested due to the age difference, this is what I got back:

Doesn't mean older man make you happy and
stay with you.
What's wrong with being young. I keep you
young and give you lots of energy
you should be thanksful to have me younger
than you

I guess he thinks he'd be doing me a favor. I think I will give him spelling lessons, but I certainly won't date him.
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 1305
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Posted: 10/23/2009 6:49:57 PM
I have no idea why some ain't into younger guys. Although Im sure they all have their own reasons.

Now whether your having just a casual convo with her, or simply trying to get into her panties, always remember to be respectful. And most of all, act like an adult.
 13karat
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 1306
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Posted: 10/23/2009 7:20:19 PM
I have dated men with a wide range of ages ... about +/- 15 yrs ... and I have come to a the conclusion that my personal limit is about +/- 10 yrs ... and that is pushing it at both ends. It is more like +/- 8 yrs. Why?... well, there are pros and cons for both older and younger men. Now, while I realize these are not always true, they are GENERAL statements that I have seen or heard of from friends.

Pros of younger men:
They are like the EverReady bunny in bed.
They bring a fresh perspective on life... their viewpoint is younger, and this is not necessarily a bad thing.
They have the energy of life that seems to have deserted so many older men.
They don't have near the amount of baggage of an older man.

Cons of younger men:
They don't "get it" when you make a reference to something cultural from your child hood.
They don't understand the aches and pains of aging... and why you can't "go all night."
They tend to party more than I can handle.
They lack the maturity to understand how the trials of life can really challenge a person.

Pros of older men:
Usually a lot more skilled in bed.
They have the maturity and understanding that only seems to be brought with age.
They don't even consider "going all night"... when I find one that even thinks he can... hmmmm.....
They are not into Queen (or any other rock band from years gone by) just because they are the "new and latest renewed thing"... they liked their music when it came out way back when.

Cons of older men:
They often have that attitude of "giving up" as life has beaten them down too much.
They often have a lot of baggage that is still not checked... many have female hatred issues.
They often have real life medical issues that inhibit their "going all night."

And yes, I know I have a twisted sense of humour.
 azgymgirl
Joined: 6/20/2009
Msg: 1307
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Posted: 10/25/2009 9:00:47 AM
Young man, I can only speak for myself, but I have a feeling I may be speaking for many women..................For me, being with a younger man is alot of differant things, its revitalising, its sexy as hell and its an ego boost for sure...........however we are women that have already lived what youve yet to go thru and the qualities we seek have not even be instilled in you, thou they may one day. We tend to look ahead. you 19 me 44 hot at the moment, however what about you 39 me 64 now thats gross and thats years lost for us to invest in a young me and give to him the last good years to give into your fantasies but to lose time and yrs is not in our best interest.
Keep in mind, please, there is ALWAYS the exception to the rule, but generally this is how it is..........................would I enjoy a younger man, yes. Is he willing to give up having kids and being a kid to be with an older women, cuz we dont do nintendo! My daughter dates boys your age. And I have too, but it doesnt work no matter how hard you try.........................................Good Luck young man. We love you guys.
 lilflyer
Joined: 10/10/2009
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Posted: 10/25/2009 9:04:05 AM
well if you already have a decent steady career and ur own place to live, then age is not a problem. a lot of older women are looking for a serious relationship, someone who is stable that they can move in with. is that what you are looking for? if you are just looking for girls to drink and hook up with, you should go for your own age or younger
 adventurousme57
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 1309
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:31:02 PM
OK...ladies. I have a question! Who has the BIGGEST age spread between you and a younger guy you've dated? I have agreed to meet a man who is ridiculously younger than me and need some support here!
 Britt884
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 1310
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:31:52 PM
I dated someone who was two years younger than me, it was a terrible experience though.
 Thaddal
Joined: 10/23/2009
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Posted: 11/4/2009 3:34:31 PM
Absolutly...Iwant a man...not a boy who thinks he can....and...she probably was old enough to be your mother....Your still a teenager...REMEMBER~~~
 curiousaboutu77
Joined: 12/28/2007
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:57:52 AM
I feel a bit strange reading this thread because i always seem to end up with women roughly my own age, certainly not 10 year or 20 year gaps or anything. Maybe i should broaden my horizons and give it a try for something different
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:43:56 AM
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I love Matured ripe bananas, the green one reminds me of a dude who wants a mother and a lover at the same time.
An older woman who will support him financially,his cook and laundry woman and in return ,he give her a 10 minute barah boom barah BANG..

In my case ,young guys don't like me because of the scents of my lotion it is called BEN GAY....
 amillio-bello
Joined: 10/22/2009
Msg: 1314
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Posted: 12/29/2009 1:50:40 AM
There may be a variety of reasons. But I would guesse some ladies at a certain age just would prefer to be with someone there own age due to life experiance or they may be at the same area in their lives. But there are many women that go for younger men too. So everyone has their own reasons.




<div class='quote'>Ok I will try not to get to far into this, but I would say ONE of the reasons MAY have to do with competition with beautiful young woman such as myself. No disrespect to the ladies over 40, but they know in their hearts, many of them don't have it anymore to the extant that a young healthy female has it. They are at a different stage in their lives and unfortunately it is this stage that also MAY produce bitterness, because of the fact that they know they are not what they used to be among other similar reasons. Young guys somtimes are confused or just plain scared to face a strong independant beautiful and super sexy lady, especially the not so good looking guys like I mentioned elsewhere. Those kinds of guys I would imagine would run to an older lady out of desperation because they know they can't get none from an attractive young woman like me and other ladies. Most good looking youthful looking guys would not date an older women without having something else up their sleeve. But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligense all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all.

Well put, and very precise hun!!. luv u!!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 1315
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Posted: 12/29/2009 3:55:25 AM
Because hunny bunny, we don't really give a chit how many levels you beat on your new xbox game last night... we don't wanna ride around in your little rustbucket smoking blunts and blasting rap music....it would be too wierd taking you to our class reunion knowing your mom will also be there with her date... we'd also prefer not to run into our children while we're attending your frat parties with you...we likely have underwear older than you...we can get our lil bob out and take care of business without having to wait for you to get done squirting one on our leg first... the list goes on and on.

But hey, if you wanna chill at my house for awhile, I will give you twenty bucks to cut the grass for me...
 amillio-bello
Joined: 10/22/2009
Msg: 1316
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Posted: 12/29/2009 4:17:10 AM

Ok I will try not to get to far into this, but I would say ONE of the reasons MAY have to do with competition with beautiful young woman such as myself. No disrespect to the ladies over 40, but they know in their hearts, many of them don't have it anymore to the extant that a young healthy female has it. They are at a different stage in their lives and unfortunately it is this stage that also MAY produce bitterness, because of the fact that they know they are not what they used to be among other similar reasons. Young guys somtimes are confused or just plain scared to face a strong independant beautiful and super sexy lady, especially the not so good looking guys like I mentioned elsewhere. Those kinds of guys I would imagine would run to an older lady out of desperation because they know they can't get none from an attractive young woman like me and other ladies. Most good looking youthful looking guys would not date an older women without having something else up their sleeve. But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligense all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all.



Sorry, this is the quote I quoted in my previous post, I don't know why it didn't stay highlighted???!!!!!!!!!

AAANYYWAAYYS...I mentioned that she made a good statement I beleive, and it was well put, and I agree with her on this!!
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1317
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Posted: 12/29/2009 5:26:04 AM
A good statement if you think that young and beautiful ( a totally subjective term)and seemingly conceited are attractive. I have actually known some young men who put personality and intelligence first, and if the woman happens to be pretty or cute that is a bonus, although they have been perfectly content with women who are seen as average to most. Even as a younger woman I avoided any man who said he was good looking, as to me there is a difference between self confidence and arrogance, and I prefer the former over the latter. I seemed to miss the memo that stated that middle aged women were all washed up and ugly.
 Sag Girl
Joined: 4/20/2009
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Posted: 12/29/2009 8:21:13 AM
I don't know about anyone elses experiance with younger guys. However, I get the late 20 year old and early 30 year olds. Some are looking for sex and others for someone to support them. I have found a few who are serious and have their live together enough to date. I guess the only advise for anyone is be yourself. Keep yourself up to look good for yourself and your beauty comes out from the inside. Ladies be happy for who you are and don't let nothing keep you down for long. I wish you all well. Everyone is different and don't judge.
 Simply willing 2 Smile
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 12/29/2009 8:38:13 AM
I love the banana! :)
 WinstonDoubtfire
Joined: 7/29/2009
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Posted: 12/29/2009 10:55:47 AM
Uhhhh....older women aren't into younger guys?
Oh man, guess I'll just have to stop talking to every woman older than 35.

:/

 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 1322
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Posted: 12/29/2009 3:56:02 PM

Why are older women not into younger guys???



Because I want a partner to spend the rest of my life with, not someone to have sex with for a month or two.
 oye101
Joined: 10/20/2009
Msg: 1323
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Posted: 12/29/2009 9:06:29 PM
I would date a younger guy, no younger than 28. If a young guy wanna date me I think it would be just for kicks or a phase he is going through. I don't want to be somebody's experiment.
 Shoedaddy
Joined: 3/2/2006
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Posted: 12/29/2009 9:49:16 PM
Dating older women..?
Meh.. I mean, a woman is a woman. Generally it's gonna be a headache as long as she has a vagina; her age really doesn't play towards any difference. The issues that men have with dating younger women are basically the same we'd have with older women: *Not taking the realtionship as serously as them.
*Wandering eye.
*Wanting more time to ourselves

At least as how it appears to me, when women age they seem to change or 'evolve' what they desire in a partner to a greater extent than do men. Young women turn down the safe, reliable guys for a chance with the fun and risky guys. Older women do the opposite (assuming the fun, risky guys have offered a bid for the older woman). It seems the idea is that both would rather have a guy somewhere in the middle.
 Shoedaddy
Joined: 3/2/2006
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Posted: 12/29/2009 10:13:36 PM
I do find curiosity in the topic- 'why aren't older women into younger guys???'. Shit, it was my understanding that younger guys for the most part didn't really consider dating older women. Me having been a younger guy myself, have had the honor and pleasure of bedding a few older women, and sure, it's something a guy shouldn't abstain from if for nothing else but to ease his natural curiosity on the comparison of "young chick vs old chick- youth & vigor VS maturity and experience". You gotta find out just for the sake of knowing. But 'dating'? ... I dunno about that. I have a strong enough aversion to get into monogamous, *committed* (that word sounds like nails on a chalkboard everytime I hear it) relationship with a woman who general society would assume perfect of me [Gorgeous, natural D boobs & thick ass and trim thighs, about 24, 5'6-5'8 funny, athletic as hell, knows when to be quiet, demon in the bed, fantastic vagina, fantastic cook (who also enjoys cooking), seeks to test her human potential, loves sports (or at least acts like she does for me).



Even meeting a girl with all this, I'd probably turn it down. There's just too much going on out there, too much to see and do to lock yourself into one girl. So of course dating a woman who is older just for the sake of doing it seems completely out of the question. Don't get me wrong, there's no foul in keeping one on the team, as they can be beautiful for you. Older women's maturity and experience in dating make them fantastic girls to keep around as friends/confidants/sex partners. Like when you hear of men talking about how they have a girl in a certain city whom is supportive of the arrangement of 'i'll see you when I see you', older women are fantastic for that purpose. They are usually more 'secure' (there's a word women like to throw around, I'm sure they don't mind a guy flipping the coin and using it to describe them) and more level headed. The only concern you'd have is of her getting married or something silly like that- and really, even then all that means is that..
 elitemind
Joined: 12/27/2009
Msg: 1326
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Posted: 12/30/2009 6:34:14 AM
It seems to be common that people automatically assume just because their particular situation is failing that everyone else is in the same position.
Like people saying," Why dont women like nice guys? " Why dont women like short guys?"
"Why are guys all aholes?" "why dont women like fat men?"

It is a little ridiculous, although I can understand maybe you are becoming frustrated with your lack of success or what not, but just because things aren't working for you doesn't mean they dont work for anyone else.

As far as the topic at hand goes, I am 27 years old the last woman I dated was 34, and my last ltr was with a woman who's almost 41, as a matter of fact I know alot of older women who like younger guys.

The fact is a good majority of men under 30 may not be a good match for an older woman, because they are at a totally different place in their life, or they lack the wisdom or maturity that an older woman seeks, I'm not saying all younger guys are like this but alot are.

I personally think age is just a number, and that all people should be judged as individuals not all grouped in together just because of one or a few bad circumstances with someone of a specific age.
I think anyone who judges someone before knowing them is more likely to be a bitter, close minded person themself.


Have a Happy New Year Everyone !
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1327
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Posted: 12/30/2009 6:38:47 AM
I have more in common with a younger man if he has not been married and does not have children than a divorced man my age who has children. ( or so the men my age tell me) I will date someone who is late 30s and older, but younger than that would make me wonder if he is looking for a sugar mama or has an older woman fetish.
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