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 LoneAstronomer
Joined: 12/22/2009
Msg: 1328
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I will "second" that one! Cougars=CUTE!!!!!!!
 Blk_Archangel7
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 1329
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 12/30/2009 11:58:48 AM
Cougars=Cute? lol wow. I heard of Cougars=Sexy.

Some mature females don't want to put up with the immaturity of a boy.
 aaamm
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 1330
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 12/30/2009 12:31:04 PM
Turk182! ummmm 35 isn't 19. The OP was way young, he was 19. He was talking about going out for drinks, not legal in the US to drink. There is a huge difference between a little boy that is wet behind the years and someone that has been there and done that ie 30's and up. There are some woman that don't want to go beyond 5 years either way. Personally I go by the person, but have to agree that too young you deal with the man still wanting kids or not being able to deal with your having kids.
 juliet88_10
Joined: 12/5/2009
Msg: 1331
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 4:20:09 AM
simple " young boys are just not discret and are very impatient i really dont like young boys dont even same my age i prefer and i love mature guys.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 1332
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 10:00:01 AM

Ok I will try not to get to far into this, but I would say ONE of the reasons MAY have to do with competition with beautiful young woman such as myself. No disrespect to the ladies over 40, but they know in their hearts, many of them don't have it anymore to the extant that a young healthy female has it. They are at a different stage in their lives and unfortunately it is this stage that also MAY produce bitterness, because of the fact that they know they are not what they used to be among other similar reasons. Young guys somtimes are confused or just plain scared to face a strong independant beautiful and super sexy lady, especially the not so good looking guys like I mentioned elsewhere. Those kinds of guys I would imagine would run to an older lady out of desperation because they know they can't get none from an attractive young woman like me and other ladies. Most good looking youthful looking guys would not date an older women without having something else up their sleeve. But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligense all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all.


I saw this as a quote so I don't know the poster.

competition with beautiful young woman such as myself.
since when is conceit attractive? The most beautiful people don't know they are nor do they shout it from the roof tops.


many of them don't have it anymore to the extant that a young healthy female has it.
attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. I may not be as young as you, but I am healthy and many of my fellow over 40 sisters have not lost it....and when did 40 get to be over the hill?


they know they are not what they used to be among other similar reasons.
some of us are BETTER!


Young guys somtimes are confused or just plain scared to face a strong independant beautiful and super sexy lady
there are some women over 40 (your benchmark, not mine) who are strong independant, beautiful and super sexy.


to an older lady out of desperation because they know they can't get none from an attractive young woman like me
You might find that most women over 40 aren't as easy as a lot of younger women. Again, this smacks of conceit.


Most good looking youthful looking guys would not date an older women without having something else up their sleeve
not everyman has the Tiger Wood syndrome.


not so good looking guys
they may not be good looking by your standards--but the interior of the man can often be the drawing card. I would rather have average with intelligence, charisma, talent, manners than a good looking man who is empty(not all are).


But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligense all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all
Aren't grammer and spelling included in intelligence. If you are going to claim to have something, at least learn how to spell it...along with extant for extent and rapped for wrapped.
 elitemind
Joined: 12/27/2009
Msg: 1333
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 10:14:01 AM

But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligense all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all


Well From my own Humble perspective of myself I think I qualify as the above stated young handsome honest man, and let me tell you, you could not be more far from the truth with that statement.

I actually prefer women older than me, and often date women much older because of their maturity, intelligence and also for many other reasons, believe me any mature strong man would appreciate true qualities of a woman, I don't see where you're basing your opinion's from, maybe your own conceit.



Most good looking youthful looking guys would not date an older women without having something else up their sleeve



Really Cause I would beg to differ




many of them don't have it anymore to the extant that a young healthy female has it.


Have what? having it to me is having it together having what counts, such as wisdom knowledge, maturity, confidence, independence, doesn't play games, knows what she wants, loyalty, trust, and skilled intimately.

Just funny because in my personal experiences, the older women have been the ones who have it.
And age as no bearing on who's healthy or who's not.




Outofthedesert No worries hun, take it from me, from the mind of a 27 year old mature guy I would much prefer older women and think most of what this other lady posted was garbage, and spoken out of conceit.

I did laugh here though dear


Aren't grammer and spelling included in intelligence. If you are going to claim to have something, at least learn how to spell it...along with extant for extent and rapped for wrapped.



grammer is spelled grammar....


No pun intended just thought it was funny..
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 1334
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 11:25:44 AM
.......................grammer is spelled grammar-----------was intentional. Wanted to see who was paying attention. You get the prize. Finally went back and found the writer has flown the coop.............guess she got her wings because 'heaven is missing an angel'. ...............at least in her own eyes.

Would love to buy some people for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth..................... I would rather be average and know it than to be conceited over outer beauty. Give me inner beauty any day.
 aaamm
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 1335
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 11:34:54 AM

I would rather be average and know it than to be conceited over outer beauty. Give me inner beauty any day.
I don't understand conceit but I do believe I have known some outwardly beautiful people. Some people are beautiful when you meet and become more beautiful the longer you know them because their insides are that beautiful. Some have gotten uglier. Some people on the threads are like that, I may have felt compassion for them when I first read their posts, but as time has gone on, I read anger, jealousy, denial, bitterness, and even lies.

There is nothing wrong with younger men, but really, there is too young. I don't want to date anyone that is young enough to be me son again. Although it is the person, I don't want to deal with the kid issues - any of them.
 ToughLuv1984
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 1336
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 11:49:21 AM
I'm still pretty young but I have this sneaking suspicion as soon as I am 40 I will date as many guys half my age as possible... lol.
 whitetigeress
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 1337
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 11:51:39 AM
But Any young handsome male who is honest will always tell you, that the young beautiful ladies with youth, beauty and intelligence all rapped up into one person, is the most desirable of them all.

^^
and she, like everyone else in this world, will get old
all the young beautiful boys and girls who know it and flaunt, who point fingers cackling at the older "has-beens" will one day look into the mirror
and become just as bitter as those they put down
their spouses leaving them for a younger, more beautiful, body they once were
vicious circle hmmm?

I don't date younger men because they are only good for one thing... to sit still and look pretty
I suppose older men can tolerate this better with younger...why else would it be so common for them to get together?
I also don't date them because I have no desire to torture myself with self consciousness.
I know I'm old! I know I'm get wrinkly and saggy, etc etc and will only get worst..... I don't need to delude myself with false images of what I am not and false acceptance to get past any bitterness or jealousy.
Like popeye says .. I am what I am

Now... there is a saying; age is no barrier when it comes to love
true true
rare but true .. it takes a rare person to look at a much older one and truly love that person inside and out

meanwhile... sit still and look pretty
 See N Date hahaha
Joined: 12/30/2009
Msg: 1338
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 12:58:23 PM
Hmmmmm... Age old problem as I recall when I was young like you the older girls all wanted older guys who were more "mature and experienced"... I thought I hit the jackpot when my now ex who was 5 years older was crazy about me...

When you get to be an old guy like me the "only ones" who want you are older... Not sure when the tables turn, but be happy you can get someone your own age or younger while you can!
 See N Date hahaha
Joined: 12/30/2009
Msg: 1339
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 12:59:43 PM
I truly agree that is really quite funny!!!!!!!!!!!
 ToughLuv1984
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 1340
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 1:31:22 PM
Whitetigress, you say sitting still and looking pretty between bouts of mindblowing sex like its a BAD THING?!?!?

Idk, perhaps we are just of a different mind.

If I want to talk high culture, go to galleries, musuems, theater... that is what my gay friends are for.
 _basgeti_
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 1341
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 1:59:13 PM
Yes, turk182 darlin,

stop talking to us!!!!

---------

I truly enjoy the tude of an intelligent youth who can't spell intelligence and wrapped....yup..now that is true intelligense.

OP: Most mature women are not into playing Mrs. Robinson!

BTW...I love the bananas!!!!!!!!
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1342
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 2:02:09 PM
Well, let's face it. I'd say that in 9 out of 10 cases it has nothing to do with love. It's about getting fu.cked by an older or younger. That's it - plain and simple. Why would someone who's significantly younger waste his/her time on an older man/woman in the first place? How about money and/or sex? If that's all it's about, why not pay a prositute for an hour or two and get it over with. It's faster, easier and you won't have to put up with any complications unless he/she is sick, but let's leave that possibility out the picture.
 elitemind
Joined: 12/27/2009
Msg: 1343
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 2:20:37 PM

don't date younger men because they are only good for one thing... to sit still and look pretty



is that really fair to say? see I read the rest of your post so you did make some valid points. But people are individuals, regardless of statistics or stereotypes.


also don't date them because I have no desire to torture myself with self consciousness.
I know I'm old! I know I'm get wrinkly and saggy, etc etc and will only get worst



You know what I just wanted to mentino that I found you to be Beautiful just from your one picture, wrinkles and aging is a sign of maturity in some cases and experience, wisdom, I see nothing wrong with it as it is the person inside that truly matters.



Now... there is a saying; age is no barrier when it comes to love
true true
rare but true .. it takes a rare person to look at a much older one and truly love that person inside and out

meanwhile... sit still and look pretty



Age is just a number, I can say there is a repeating pattern in my family, I have 2 sisters one 28 and one 26 I am 27, we all have always dated older and we all are considered older souls.

My 26 yr old sister is with a man who's 50 she has taken alot of grief and really you would never know they are more than 10 years apart.


I know myself well enough to know that I am not a normal human, I am a rare breed especialyl for my age.

I truly seek a woman for companionship, trust, loyalty, devotion, intelligent conversations, and someone who I can tell anything too and be comfortable and likewise.
Yeah looks are nice and all but at the end of the day whats really important to me is to be with someone who I am compatible with, someone who compliments me as I do her, and age has no relfection on this and either does looks, I really can look past age wrinkles, and whatever a woman considers flaws, because in 10-20 yrs from now who cares about all those things.

I really base things on who the person is on the inside and how well we fit together.

I have noticed alot of the older women I have been with always seem insecure with being with a younger attractive guy "stated from them"

I have tried and tried to tell them that they have nothing to worry about, because I like them for who they are and nothing else.


I'm pretty sure most guys around my age don't have the same outlook on life or women as I do, but like you said it is a rareity and I am indeed a rare man all around let alone for my age.
 amillio-bello
Joined: 10/22/2009
Msg: 1344
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 2:30:17 PM
I'm still pretty young but I have this sneaking suspicion as soon as I am 40 I will date as many guys half my age as possible... lol.


That may be a good idea. I doubt there will be many guys your age willing to date ladies in their own age group when THEY hit 40 also, they will probably be running to the 20 something year olds.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1345
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 4:07:44 PM
Fabio, I know plenty of 40 year old men who like 40 year old women. Ever thought that the 40 year old women might not be "willing" to date them, they want men who are mature and possibly older than they are?
 savepolarbears
Joined: 12/27/2009
Msg: 1347
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 5:16:19 PM
Fabio? fifi47 you are too funny lol
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 1348
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Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 6:21:03 PM

I am 50. I prefer guys to hang out with, kiss, make out with, date, etc. that are 30ish (and have been out on MANY dates in this age range). We have similar energy levels, activity preferences and of course, libidos. (I'm NOT looking for sex with them, btw. That's later.)

Younger men and older women are EXTREMELY, naturally compatible, even if it's just friendship. It takes two open minded people.

 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 1349
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 6:26:24 PM
I have a number of younger male friends--truly friends, no benefits--they tell me the majority (I did not say all) of younger women that they run into are easy, vain and can't carry on a conversation. They did not say all and I did not either as I have a number of younger women friends who are intelligent, kind and down to earth..and beautiful. They all have one thing in common, they realize that inner beauty and confidence can make the exterior more beautiful and and even more sexy. It is all personal preferance.
It is all truly one's experience and observation.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1350
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 7:39:02 PM
It's interesting how younger men in that case want what women their own age can't offer, and older women don't what men their age CAN.
 thumperitis
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 1351
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 8:50:12 PM
I love the banana guy, he's the man. He's so sexy!!!

I've met a few younger guys. I've dated a younger guy...our relationship grew to something beautiful. The problem I have come across is...younger men want children and I can't have children anymore. I've been married once, divorced, and am ready for someone to spend the rest of my life with. I am in a far different chapter and It Isn't fair to ask him to give up so many things in life I've already done.


In your case......How much older do you want..20's? At your age...I think most women won't believe you have matured enough to know what you want....what you may think you want at 19 you might not want at 20 and at 21...!!! And same goes for younger girls. Though in both sexes there may be the exceptions.
 amillio-bello
Joined: 10/22/2009
Msg: 1352
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/3/2010 8:51:53 PM
I think the young guys that date older women most of them have been rejected or constantly turned down over looks or whatever other reason by women their age and therefore feel the older ladies are more mature and less judgmental and that they would understand them better and women who are at the age where they would think looks would matter less and so forth. Simple as that really!!

I think it's a fair reason, and it happens alot. I have read many profiles and talked to many guys who would not necessarily be classified as "mainstream good-looking" or even good looking, who say that they speficially want an older lady because they want someone to understand them and not judge them like many women their own age group like 20's and even 30's have.

I think it's a smart move actually.





"Fabio, I know plenty of 40 year old men who like 40 year old women. Ever thought that the 40 year old women might not be "willing" to date them, they want men who are mature and possibly older than they are?"

(cough) I'm not sure if that was meant for me, but if it was lol thank you for the name, I very much appreciate the compliment HAHA lol.

I know women that get up to 40 and up say things like men their own age don't really want to date them much, and so they kind of say screw it, if they will date younger , so can we. Thats my understanding. There may be other reasons so they claim, but that seems to be the one that is prevelant among older ladies (40+).

I personally would go 10 either way, but especially up and maybe up to 4 to 16 up (older) if I thought she was really sexy and had a really hot sex drive. I would actually come to think of it not go any lower then 25 in the younger side. I do naturally have a high sex drive, so I would prefer to find someone who does too to literally keep up with me. I sometimes think twice with the older ladies because I am not sure what cardiovascular shape many of them may be in when they reach 46, 47 and 48. Thats why I ussually stop at 48 and go no older.
 944man
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 1353
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Posted: 1/3/2010 8:59:33 PM
^This should get some interesting responses.
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