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 eurosteve
Joined: 9/24/2009
Msg: 1363
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This is NOT always the case.

I am 31 years old and I am with a 41 year old which I now am starting to regret, the first two weeks was awesome, super & fun but now everything is rollin down hill, she works 6 days/week, has 3 kids, a house to keep up but she hasnt had any time for me in the past 3 weeks which leads me to believe that either there is someone else or she is just super busy and has no time for me in her life but is holding on to me as long as she can until her crazy busy life untangles itself a little bit which makes me wonder if 1) that will ever happen or 2) if I am willing to wait as long as it takes....

I'm 31 years old and would like to be married or at least engaged by the time i am 35

I dont have time to sit and wait around, I was willing to more than happily take the package that she comes with which is a lot, her ex husband still being in the picture (understandable for the kids), ex boyfriend that she dumped 2 years ago still calling and texting her and her male best friend whom she said was like a brother to her but than mentioned that about a year ago they kissed on the lips a few times and it was awkward and never spoken about again.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1366
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/4/2010 6:16:12 AM
magyarsteve: I read your story and all I can say is that she's using you. You're 10 years younger and it was fun while it lasted. Now the fun is over, therefore your company isn't desired anymore. She got what she wanted - maybe you, too, but you want more...

As for being close with an ex (with or without kids), male friends, ex this or that bullsh.it, I know exactly what you're talking about. It's nothing but nonsense, bullshi.t lies. Just walk away from it. Do yourself a favor and find a younger woman and one who doesn't have kids or "ghosts" from her past still haunting her mind.
 AbstractZen
Joined: 1/8/2010
Msg: 1376
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/13/2010 7:25:54 PM
The last girlfriend I had lasted one year and a bit and she was 33.

I am interested in older women, it's just hard to meet them and convince them you aren't some punk when you're 22.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1377
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/13/2010 7:40:52 PM
It's not about being a punk. It's about not being old enough. She was 33, huh? Well, I don't know any details but from own experience and from what I've heard and seen, I can't even imagine that she saw a future with a 22 year old, and most likely met older guys next to you. Sometimes women, as well as men, like to experiment only to realize that it's a waste of time to live in an illusion. In 9 out of 10 cases it's ALL up to her. She sees nothing but a kid in front of her to play around with a little while. The fun almost never lasts long. An age difference like that means that the two involved are at completely different stages in life.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 1381
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 1/15/2010 8:37:03 PM

probably because they are usually only after one thing and they think older woman can teach them what someone their own age cant?


But sometimes, we can.

The younger men that I have dated often say that older women are less into playing games than younger women. I disagree: older women just play different types of games.
 Red Fish GF
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 1382
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Posted: 1/15/2010 10:21:59 PM
I could have a child who was 19 so no way would I of dated a 19 year old, that is still a kid to me. When I was looking my cut off point was around 25, any one younger than that I'm robbing the cradle...lol The legal drinking age here is 21 so 19 is just way too young.
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 1387
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Posted: 1/27/2010 12:47:39 AM
^ Sadly, this has been the most honest comment yet.
 cdukshnow
Joined: 3/19/2010
Msg: 1390
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 3/25/2010 5:38:12 AM
Where are they?

Thom
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 1394
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 8/9/2011 12:36:41 PM
The youngest I can accept to date is 25. As long as he projects himself as mature and responsible and respectful with a stable job.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 1398
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Posted: 8/10/2011 9:11:23 AM

Anyone with adult children ever date someone the same age as their children or younger?

Very briefly, when my kids were in high school I dated a guy who was barely legal. Felt like a cradle robber, and the only thing we had in common was liking to dance.
 gypsylady20090
Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 1399
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Posted: 10/28/2011 9:09:43 AM
Banana??? I always thought it was a pickle...javascript:smilie('') Ok. it says banana but it still looks pickley to me.
 Inexperience
Joined: 6/15/2011
Msg: 1400
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Posted: 10/28/2011 8:56:41 PM
Most of the girls I have met from this site have been a few years older than me. Only a hand full of times I have dated girls younger than me. Some girls want an older man regardless because they feel that the its more manly. Theres nothing "Boyish" about it.

Its possible to date an older woman it all depends on how you market yourself. Remember don't mention anything about her age. Tell her how great she looks and so on.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 1401
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Posted: 10/29/2011 8:42:09 AM
Velma Valento,

If I were a 19 years old dude, I will exclusively date you, you are not just dammed good looking and drop dead gorgeous at you age, what rocked me is you know how to TEXT.

Nah, I don't intend to change my team in to a dude, I am content to be 59 old woman who doesn't know how to text.
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 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 1402
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Posted: 10/29/2011 3:52:04 PM
bomber(d40455)- For me it's about common interests and frankly I would NOT be comfortable with someone that much younger than me.
A 19 year old is in a completely different stage of maturity than someone in their 30's or 40's.
My oldest son is 24, the idea of being with someone that I'm old enough to be their mother??!, not goin' there!
 TreeinForrest
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 1403
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 3/10/2012 5:07:10 AM
Why I'm not into younger men?

I don't know, text my son and ask him!!!!
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 1404
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Posted: 3/10/2012 8:51:57 AM
It depends on the person. Some older women feel that they don't have much in common with younger men. Or they think younger men are immature, only looking for sex or mommy figure. Having said that, there are some other older women that date younger men. Sometimes it's the older woman that is looking for sex with a young attractive stud. Or some older women feel that younger men are more fun and exciting to be with compared to men around their age.

 Triumph800rider
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 1405
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Posted: 3/12/2012 3:21:55 PM
For the past three years I have dated older women exclusively. By "older" I men ten to twenty years my senior. It works for me.

Contrary to the hype, most women are NOT looking for a younger man. I would say that 25% to 30% of the women in the age range I date on POF are open to younger men. Of those willing to date younger men, maybe one half of them are open to dating me. lol.

Everyone has their own reasons for being interested in an age gap relationship. The most common reason I find that women between the ages of 58 and 65 who date "younger" want somebody with more energy and a willingness to do more things together like travel or outdoor activities.

Guys who date older need to develop a thick skin. If two thirds of the women I am interested in are not open to dating younger guys there will be a good deal of rejection. Many of these are borderline rude and imply that I am a child. I find that insulting because I've raised two kids and have a successful career. At 47 I am no "kid".
 otterplay
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 1407
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 3/12/2012 5:53:11 PM
...for some reason the original posting isn't loading. Perhaps all the EDers here have interferred with it - :-).

We are TOTALLY into younger men, if you are legal, intelligent and working then bring it on! I always date at least 10 years younger, to have intelligent conversations with men who work and think, and who can sexually perform. Men my age cannot, not without medical aid and it isn't free, so 90 % don't fix themselves.

Younger men bring fresh energy, ideas, jobs, earning value, into a relationship. They also drive their own cars as women do, have their own homes as women do, have their own jobs or businesses as women do, and can have orgasms, as women do.

We love you younger men! Welcome!!!
 FantazzyGurl
Joined: 4/20/2009
Msg: 1408
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:26:05 PM
I did & it as the best 5 yrs of my life. God needed my man more than me I guess. Gone but not forgotten.
Still looking for my smile.
 hereNnow4you777
Joined: 8/30/2011
Msg: 1409
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:56:13 PM
I am sure you aren't doing anything wrong. But why would you want an old hen when you could have a young chick? :-) I am 56 years young and have always wanted to be the young chick in a relationship. There are many Cougars out there looking for cubs. As for me, I want someone from my own era that I have common interests in music, we would remember the same television shows growing up and have similar memories of years gone by. Don't give up if you really like more mature women. But also don't forget there are mature and beautiful women in your own age group too.
 hereNnow4you777
Joined: 8/30/2011
Msg: 1410
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:57:35 PM
I am sure you aren't doing anything wrong. But why would you want an old hen when you could have a young chick? :-) I am 56 years young and have always wanted to be the young chick in a relationship. There are many Cougars out there looking for cubs. As for me, I want someone from my own era that I have common interests in music, we would remember the same television shows growing up and have similar memories of years gone by. Don't give up if you really like more mature women. But also don't forget there are mature and beautiful women in your own age group too.
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 1411
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Posted: 3/12/2012 9:02:30 PM
I look at it like this, young men have one thing to offer Richard..and you if you know his nickname you know who Im talking about. Where as older men have Richard too, and their intelligence and life experience behind them.

Banana I thought it was a dancing pickle..
 JohnnyHalo
Joined: 2/16/2012
Msg: 1413
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Posted: 3/13/2012 12:55:37 PM
i have a couple of older women that i see from time to time. we'll go out once orr twice a month. they're very attractive women.
i take them out to dinner, we split the bill and talk. sometimes we go to the museum or the danceclub.

i'm 28 and one is 39 and the other is 51. i haven't had sex with either. but we do enjoy each other's company and have alot of laughs.

Johnny
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 1415
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Posted: 3/26/2012 6:56:42 AM
Usually younger men are sometimes immature and are not financially stable and women are usually looking for stability.
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
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Posted: 3/26/2012 6:57:27 AM
stability. Younger men are not usually stable financially.
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