Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 603
Is oral sex cheating?Page 10 of 43    (3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43)
Arnold Schwarzenegger himself says:

"eating is not cheating"..
 darling_one
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 604
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 1/9/2009 5:44:46 PM
my fav quote
inspired by bill cliton

it's only cheating if you swallow
 ohio07
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 606
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 1/17/2009 11:49:57 AM
Oral sex is a sex act... Um, DUH! Would you want your wife or husband to do it, with somebody while they were dating/married to you? Or how about your daughter. If your cool with that, then hey I guess it aint, huh? It's sex. Unless of course your firing blanks.
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 607
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 1/17/2009 12:12:18 PM
These days people have all kinds of notions about what a "relationship" is. I figure that if you can imagine catching your significant other either giving or receiving oral sex to another person, would you feel hurt? Betrayed? If the answer is "yes", then yes, it's cheating. Although I can't imagine very many people that wouldn't be. Well, that's what I think, anyway.
 maniac1
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 610
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 1/17/2009 12:36:28 PM
I say if a guy or a girl is having oral sex with someone which isn't their spouses its cheating.
 Make it happen!
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 613
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 8:10:35 AM
Are you kidding? Did you really ask that question? :) If you are in a committed relationship, married or not and you have sex of any kind that is cheating. Yes, oral is cheating. That is an intimate act that (my opinion) ............. well it is sex not matter how you look at it. If you are connecting physically and sometimes even emotionally, really connecting is cheating and if you are putting yourself in that situtation you need to look at what you are doing and what you want in life. Some people are not good at communication with each other. Work on that and the rest just might follow. Be honest in your own life. If it hurts the other person you need to evaluate what is going on. Just me. Then again, define your own relationship and do that with the one you are in "the relationship" with. That friends is what counts.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 615
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 8:19:14 AM

If you are in a committed relationship, married or not and you have sex of any kind that is cheating.


Wow, sex within a commited relationship is cheating? Now that's extreme!

Sexual contact with a third party is cheating if your relationship has an expectation - implicit or explicit - of fidelity. I would even say that developing an emotional connection with a third party that interferes with or replaces an emotional connection with your partner is also cheating, in that it deprives your partner of something they have a right to expect.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 616
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 8:20:42 AM
Cheating isn't defined by what you want it to be or what others tell you it is. Cheating is defined by your partner plain and simple. Even if his/her definition seems unreasonable, if it's cheating to him/her then it's cheating.

If you have disagreements with your partner on what is cheating or their definition is too unreasonable to abide, you may have a compatibility issue in the relationship and should end it.
 nothingclever2say
Joined: 10/21/2008
Msg: 617
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 9:31:37 AM
Ya what he ^^^^ said.
However if there is a "rules committee" I would suggest we
make the oral thing legal.
 luv_big
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 618
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 3:07:32 PM
Oral sex is cheating....whether receiving or giving. I would not want a woman I am in a relationship with receiving oral sex from some other guy. WTH?? If the relationship is open then that is understandable.

It seems you are looking for people to validate your cheating as being ok.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 619
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/25/2009 3:30:07 PM
Absolutely it's cheating! Are you kidding me?! What an insane question! To appease those arguing the definition of cheating; OK, I'll give you that "cheating" is defined by each couple on an individual basis. So, IF you have some type of "agreement" that says "sure, just don't swallow" or whatever, I'll give it to you. However, I've never been in a relationship with ANY such arrangement; and sans arrangement it's cheating. Period. A good rule of thumb would be that if you are thinking about doing something that would make you acutely uncomfortable if your spouse or SO walked up...DON'T.
Like most guys say that when they get married that part of the relationship (oral) is not happening.................
Bull$hit. I've only heard this in jokes; or in unhealthy, unhappy, relationships. Studies show that married /committed people actually average significantly MORE sex than non-married people.

*walks away shaking head...is oral sex cheating?...* He comes home from work..."Hi honey, how was your day?" She: "Great! Suzie learned her backflip in gymnastics; Ed stopped by for a blow job; and after that I went shopping for mother's birthday...How was your day sweetheart? Give me a kiss." Him: "Let me wash up first sweetie; I've been going down on the new secretary." What's wrong with this picture?

Back to the original question: "Is oral sex cheating?" Answer: It is at my house.
 smokefriendly
Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 620
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/26/2009 8:19:18 AM
Any act that your partner considers unfaithful is cheating.

It is funny because when I was 20 I dated a girl who I confronted about a blow (&. She had given to another guy and was drunk at a party. She did not consider it cheating because it was oral and she was drunk.

Needless to say before I broke up with her I had sex with her friend, who was always hitting on me. I had no problem telling her that I did this because at this point in our relationship I did not consider it cheating, but she did.

I wonder if someone thinks something is not cheating why would they not just tell their partner they are doing it. It is simply a cop out.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 622
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:03:59 AM
unless you are Bill Clinton



oral sex is cheating because it can also lead to vaginal intercourse.
any type of sex is cheating except for dryhumping.


get real any kind of contact behind the back of your mate is cheating ...even kissing ...flirting and dry humping
 tigershark7778
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 623
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:11:27 AM
If you have no morals I guess nothing is cheating
 Ganymede425
Joined: 3/22/2009
Msg: 625
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/26/2009 6:06:19 PM
Hmm... let me think about that...

Yes!
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 626
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/26/2009 7:11:07 PM
"I say NO, as long as you aren't giving it! I have been in situations where the guy received and it was a pleasurable thing and that was it!"
----------
Isn't that a contradiction?
 IdoAllmyOwnStunts
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 628
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/27/2009 5:43:27 AM
oral sex isnt cheating.................................... if your doing it on yourself!



......................................................................................................................................
 carlmarquardt
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 634
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:30:54 PM
Finally someone that gets to the heart of the matter! the cheating is in the lie or the deception not the act. Everything of importance in any human relationship, especially intimate ones hinges on TRUST if you break that you have nothing
 carlmarquardt
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 635
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/29/2009 6:32:53 PM
...um yeah seeing as you put it that way LOL =;)
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 636
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/27/2011 7:37:44 PM
Ask your partner that question, their opinion will serve you better.
How would you like your spouse playing the red cross to all your single freinds?
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 637
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/28/2011 2:04:33 AM

How would you like your spouse playing the red cross to all your single freinds?


Can you explain more what you mean to say here, please?

I have helped many of my late wife's friends in the past, and will in the future, and not got sexual with them. I am confused by "playing the red cross with your friends" meaning.

Thanks.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 638
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/28/2011 7:23:49 AM
Ping said: Can you explain more what you mean to say here, please?
It sounded at first like she said that it was a gesture to make someone else happy and that is it.
While that is generous it is only generous if the other partner is on board.
As I read more I realized that this was not a partnership based on monogamy anyway so my statement was moot.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 639
view profile
History
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/28/2011 7:31:25 AM
Ok..I think I have it now.

I will be in your area in August..I hope. 40th HS reunion. We are talking about having in Rockford at the park there.
 dare2c4yourself
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 640
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2011 8:38:04 AM
This is a long chain of a post that should have been closed but this is something that will happen foe ages, never out if date.

As long as there is a form of sex, kissing, too close with someone like spending special time alone even without the sex, it's still cheating.
 Vamperella
Joined: 4/27/2010
Msg: 641
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 5/30/2011 5:43:25 PM
Lordy!...37 pages??

I guess the jury is still out on that one then

Uummm...perhaps i should've refrained from comment until it hit the 69 page mark
Show ALL Forums  > Sex and Dating  >