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 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 115
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^^^^^ hee hee hee hee
 Bubbles27
Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 116
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/5/2007 12:45:34 AM
Just ask yourself how you would feel if the tables were turned.
 newporter4u
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 118
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Posted: 3/5/2007 5:38:02 AM
Of course it is cheating. I would say that mutual masturbation would be cheating too....lol
 StevenLewis
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 122
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Posted: 3/5/2007 10:11:11 AM
I feel that the sex involved is superficial, it's when you decide that you want more from someone other than your committed...
 floridaman4u
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 3/5/2007 10:17:11 AM
yes ..period i dont know if others feel the same but if your talking to someone about haveing sex (ie.. phone sex ... online etc.) mental and verbal sexual chat with another person is also a form of cheating when its kept secret from your other half ...the best sex starts in the mind ...im i the only one who thinks like this ?
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 125
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Posted: 3/5/2007 3:26:47 PM

I would go as far to say chatting with other women on line is cheating. Phone calls, texting, and many many more. But I am thinking about how I judge my own behavior!


i agree, ponie, if you are with someone, in a committed relationship, and you are chatting up people online?

not cool at all. ...it means you are getting ready to cheat.

if one is unhappy in the committed relationship, they ought to get out of it, or take a break.
 accidentalbirthh
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 137
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/5/2007 10:24:36 PM
.. don't mistake , my lust for love .. who wrote that ? ..
 rockondon
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 139
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Posted: 3/5/2007 10:50:43 PM
the rule of thumb that I go by is this - imagine that your partner is about to do what it is that you plan to do (or the equivalent of what you plan to do). If you'd be comfortable with him/her doing it, then go ahead. If you wouldn't want him/her doing it, then don't do it.
 justforumsplease
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 143
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:35:33 AM
:: a conversation::

"But it wasn't cheating! He just tripped and accicentally shoved his junk in my mouth... twice... once in the car, and... wait! it was three times!"

"Oh, that's ok, honey... as long as I still have your heart!"
 bostonjen
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 144
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/6/2007 8:01:29 AM
If you are talking about sex and mean oral that way, NO.
If you have your mouth wrapped around or someone's mouth is wrapped around your penis-
YES YES YES.

I guess if you think the answer is NO, it wouldn't be cheaping in one of you was wearing a condom since no one actually touched each other.
 Bubbles27
Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 148
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/6/2007 11:28:21 AM
If someone is dating me then I am the only one they should be kissing, faking, licking
 justforumsplease
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 158
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/7/2007 3:29:51 AM
"If you cant do it in church in front of your mother and family..its cheating"


I don't mind an audience... but performing in front of my mother? Good Lord, I can hear the nagging now.

"She doesn't look like she's enjoying it, dear... try putting it in there. Dear God, you have no rhythm, you're just like your father!"
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 2:01:40 PM
^^^^ right on, angel! great post.
 afirefighter
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 170
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Posted: 3/8/2007 7:32:54 AM
learn the rules of the game before you play it, its that easy!
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/9/2007 7:08:23 AM
wow... i cannot believe we are still having this discussion, i cannot believe POF, whose administrators are always so happy to delete threads willy nilly, let this one go... sheesh!
 UrNotCute
Joined: 1/19/2007
Msg: 197
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:45:24 AM
SLUT WOW

Like school on Sundays... NO CLASS
 justforumsplease
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 205
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:08:23 AM
I'm not sure I share that view, Nick ... eloquently as you have stated it.

What I view as intimate may not be what others perceive as such. I give female friends and male friends hugs when I see them... I try to be as open and honest with others as they care to have me, although sometimes people have a hard time with hearing the truth.

What I see on this thread is that people are not afraid to be intimate with other people, but they view sexual acts as certain forms of intimacy. And for some, including myself, oral sex is a very intimate act.
I feel that if the one I love performs it on someone else while we are in an exclusive relationship, then yes... one could view it as treason or betrayal.
If the person I am seeing is dating other people? Well... I'm not too keen on the idea of her moking someone's cannoli, but women do what they will do.

Don't be in such a hurry to paint everyone with such a broad brush...
 justforumsplease
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 206
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:17:30 AM
My mistake... I stand corrected.
 Tigress
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 207
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:07:51 AM
Yes, it is cheating!

If you are in a committed relationship, you should not do ANYTHING intimate or sexual with anyone else. It doesn't matter who is giving or getting.

Here's a good rule to follow; If you are doing something that you wouldn't feel comfortable telling your significant other about, it's probably wrong.
 cumfish4me
Joined: 3/16/2007
Msg: 215
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/19/2007 12:19:08 PM
Send your B/F over here, I will let him give me some, I will send him back home.....I will call you to see how I taste, and I will ask you this same question......."Is oral sex really cheating?"
 cumfish4me
Joined: 3/16/2007
Msg: 218
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 3/19/2007 12:52:01 PM
Wow buddy, relax.......sounds like someones' ex didn't think it was cheating, and he hasn't worked through the pain yet......can I get you something? Water, aspirin, maybe a Prozac?....but no oral, we are fresh out of that!
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