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 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 161
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I cant just join up with someone because I am "lonely." That would be easy, especially if I liked married men, I get more propositions from married guys than single men. Today's dating world has to be one of the more difficult in recent times. People want everything and are willing to give nothing. Everything has to be about accommodating their needs, and huge issues like alcohol abuse/drunk dialing are blown off and ignored, they will never get help.


I agree with VulcanoKing's statement above. It's better to work on oneself, than go chasing waterfalls for whatever they provide only for the sake of getting rid of that loneliness.

When my last relationship ended. Which was a shock to me, since I was very fond of her. I did not date for a while. Instead I set out to write a novel. In six month I had a total of one date, and it was mediocre to be the least. This did not bother me one bit. I was happy discovering myself. At night I had my cat, my story, my friends, my family.

When I decided to date again, I quickly went through about 5 dates and found myself dating one awesome woman. So I don't know if dating has become more difficult, but rather than we have to keep an open mind.

I think in the end, as much as we want to protect ourselves, when we create a wall to protects us, it also becomes the cell that keeps us away from the outside. Sometimes we need to overcome our own conditioned identity driven by our own fears. Fears of other people, fear of getting hurt again. Fear that the other person will turn out to be the thing we hated before.
 LuvADKs
Joined: 8/31/2011
Msg: 162
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/21/2014 6:29:58 PM
There are so many places to go if you are lonely. The local animal shelter is a good start. Another place to visit is a book store. Churches may offer some appeal. Lowes and Walmart offer mingling opportunities, and of course there's always the local gym or diner. (I would avoid the chinese food place next to the animal shelter)
 TOaks91360
Joined: 11/22/2013
Msg: 163
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/22/2014 2:52:24 AM
And just how the fvck do you know someone's in debt or an alcoholic before you've slept with them? Keep on judging and looking down on us human folk while you're alone. Sounds like a lot of shagging was going on before these other things were discovered.
 Fun4us57
Joined: 11/5/2009
Msg: 164
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Posted: 2/26/2014 11:19:18 AM
Is there a p[lace where you can volunteer ? Hospital, library or even dog walking , I have meet a lot of
new friends volunteering for different places . Sorry I guess other people have suggested
this
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
Msg: 165
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Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/26/2014 2:10:20 PM
As others have mentioned look up Meet Up groups in your area. Hundreds in my city. I attend at least 3 a week...often more. My boyfriend and I belong to a dozen groups...some together and some individually. If I wanted to do something this evening there would be some Meet Up group doing 'something' that would interest me...indoor women's soccer...coffee get together...an evening walk...etc. just regular people of all ages and walks of life getting together. If you are shy or have social anxiety there are also a few groups here for that.
 or_current_resident
Joined: 6/3/2013
Msg: 166
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/26/2014 3:54:29 PM
Message:
As others have mentioned look up Meet Up groups in your area. Hundreds in my city. I attend at least 3 a week...often more.


Yes, very good points …..as for many who think there is nothing they can do, its like that Chinese Proverb, it all takes is that first step…. there is so much to share, love and enjoy….whether it be alone or with someone….
As with my lady, aka [Poopsie] we both also partake in various get togethers or alone in our area……as we both enjoy each others passions and this is how we first met…….
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 167
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 2/28/2014 2:06:05 PM
VolcanoKing- I appreciate your honesty and you aren't the only one struggling with this.
I put my trust in someone for 22 years, made decisions based on my love and trust, and had it blow up in my face.
Am I older and wiser or a bit jaded? Probably both.
People put their hearts and lives back together after a relationship ends and it's more common than some people think to be wary of being played the fool and/or hurt again.
I would rather stay alone and work to improve my life and be happy than jump in blind or too quick and fail.
I honestly think it might break me to fall in love like that again and get my heart broke, again.
While I hold out hope that that special someone is out there, I don't overlook signs of trouble just to have someone.
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 168
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/1/2014 6:25:03 PM
Bamagrl- You are young. You have much to learn yet
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 169
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/1/2014 6:25:13 PM
Bamagrl- You are young. You have much to learn yet
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 170
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/1/2014 7:09:32 PM

I would rather stay alone and work to improve my life and be happy than jump in blind or too quick and fail.
I honestly think it might break me to fall in love like that again and get my heart broke, again.
While I hold out hope that that special someone is out there, I don't overlook signs of trouble just to have someone.


I totally disagree with this statement.

Bamagirl. You are living through pain avoidance. You are living as if there is something wrong with you. You are not perfect. The demise of your relationships were not entirely the other person's fault. There were causes and effects. triggers. So why blame yourself in a state of I am not going there.

If you stay in this attitude, that is where you will be for the rest of your life. Nobody is going to come and rescue you. NO BODY. You can only rescue yourself out of it. And part of it is a willingness to open the door. Don't be naive, but also do not have the gates locked. And it will happen.

If an idiot, moron like me can do it. You can do it. You are a hell of a better person than I am. Go do it.
 suky582523y
Joined: 5/28/2011
Msg: 171
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Posted: 3/4/2014 4:01:21 PM
Being rude doesn't help. She wasn't asking for criticism but advice. Kindness goes along way.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 172
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/6/2014 2:09:43 PM
outmind-I'm not saying never, I'm just talking about taking my time.
Yes, I know, too much caution can backfire. It's a fine line to walk-hope, verses protecting your heart.
My heart is too big not to share and/or to stop hoping, but that doesn't mean rushing things or overlooking basic compatibility issues.
When I do go there again, I want to get it right.
 MisPlacedYankee63
Joined: 6/12/2009
Msg: 173
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Posted: 3/8/2014 11:06:14 AM
Don't laugh,but I joined a weekly knitting class. I've already made about ten scarves. Cute scarves.
 papp1812
Joined: 2/19/2014
Msg: 175
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 4:10:18 AM
Annapurna, why do you want to go out when you feel lonely?

I feel just as lonely, in the comfort of my own home, as I would in a noisy singles' place where everyone is having fun except me.

I really can't imagine why you need to feel lonely in a crowd, when you can do it on your own, without any peer pressure or having to spend money to do it.
 papp1812
Joined: 2/19/2014
Msg: 176
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 4:15:01 AM
Mara, beautiful and becoming pink. It's cute... goes well with your other colours.

Wanna take ping-pong classes together? Or how to make orange slices look like elephantic airplanes. Or how to wake up the neighbourhood without their realizing the source of their wakefulness. Anything, really, anything to learn, just to be in the same room with you.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 177
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 12:13:45 PM
I feel just as lonely, in the comfort of my own home, as I would in a noisy singles' place where everyone is having fun except me.


I was wondering why a 32-year-old man would be posting to women in the Over 45 forum---now I see you're actually over 60. If you're that lonely, it might behoove you to post your correct age at the top of your profile. As it stands now, women in your own age group can't contact you, and you can't contact them.
 papp1812
Joined: 2/19/2014
Msg: 178
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 5:42:00 PM
Thanks, Halcyon skies, I had no clue I was advertised as only 32. Who put that number in there?

I never lied about my age, but should have, once, at a singles' dance, when this incredibly cute chick showed a lot of interest and she was dreamily gorgeous. In my line of manhood this happens very rarely, even back then, 30 years ago or so. She asked me how old I was, I said 35, so it was 25 years ago, Miss Simpkins, my grade 3 teacher would pat me on the shoulder for figuring it out so quickly. The woman, this dream-come-true angel, dropped me like a hot potato, she said I was too young, she was 42. What a bore it was. I am still cringing when I think of how lucky I was, and an hour and half later how unlucky I became, back to normal.

So... how did you know I am sixty. Not a secret, but if my profile says I'm 32, then how would you know?

For the record, I'm sixty, and seeing I confused you, and I am not into that game really at all, you know, lying, therefore now I am forced to say "I'm 60" in every of my posts. Or however old I actually am. Must ask my mother, she was there when it all started.

What does Halcyon mean? I could google it, I guess.

Thanks for warning me what my profile says -- most people never remember what they put in there, including me, because we never check out our own profiles, do we. "Should I contact this guy, to make him my friend, so we can exchange war stories about our escapades with women? Hesus, this guy is a loonatic, I don't wa... GAAA!!! HE IS ME!!!"
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 179
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 6:06:41 PM

papp1812:
So... how did you know I am sixty. Not a secret, but if my profile says I'm 32, then how would you know?
Thanks for warning me what my profile says -- most people never remember what they put in there, including me, because we never check out our own profiles, do we. "Should I contact this guy, to make him my friend, so we can exchange war stories about our escapades with women? Hesus, this guy is a loonatic, I don't wa... GAAA!!! HE IS ME!!!"


I guess along with not being able to remember your birth date when filling out your profile. You don't remember posting this in another thread....

Now in my sixties,


I guess CRS is kicking you hard these days........
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 180
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/17/2014 9:28:51 PM

Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?


Downtown.
The lights are much brighter there.
You can forget all your troubles......forget all your cares....when you're....

Downtown.


because we never check out our own profiles, do we.


Actually, I check mine out constantly. To tweak it a little, and remind myself how much I like it.
 papp1812
Joined: 2/19/2014
Msg: 181
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/18/2014 3:38:59 AM
What is CRS? I am not very good with Internet abbreviations. I know LOL, IMHO, and STFU. I never even seen CRS before. It must have a meaning. What?
 papp1812
Joined: 2/19/2014
Msg: 182
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/18/2014 3:55:04 AM
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/18/2014 1259 PM



I posted this about ten-twenty minutes ago, and the system time on my computer NOW is 6:52 a.m. The real time is 6:52 a.m. I live in the Canadian and US eastern time zone daylight savings time, same as Toronto and New York. According to the POF timetable, my post came about six hour before the guy's whom I answered.

Who's got the computer glitch: me, or POF? What is the reason for this?

HEY, HEY, HEY, HEY, HEY!! I NEVER POSTED THIS:

Posted: 3/18/2014 12 < img src = http : / / www.plentyoffish.com / smiles / icon_38 . gif border= 0 > 59 PM

(spaces inserted by me for you to show you guys the code inserted by the website)

I have never seen a computer system of any singles's site so densely ridden with malware.

I'm outta here. I don't think it's worth to chat with you, people, if what I get for is a lot of computer infections. Nothing personal, you understand.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 183
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/18/2014 7:57:41 AM
I'm outta here. I don't think it's worth to chat with you, people, if what I get for is a lot of computer infections. Nothing personal, you understand.


Make sure you remember to post that you're 60 in your next profile so that we over-50-women can all message you. Toodle-oo!

P.S. CRS = Can't remember sh!t
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 184
Over 50-Where do you go when you are lonely?
Posted: 3/18/2014 8:00:43 AM

Make sure you post that you're 60 in your next profile so we over-50-women can all message you. Toodle-oo!.


I would bet it's more likely the poster was male and under 28.

Since the poster was total BS, hard to say what if anything was true. In those cases, I don't think it's worthwhile even interacting.

No one will miss this poster, but no doubt they will be back.
 tribalfusion1953
Joined: 8/31/2012
Msg: 185
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Posted: 3/27/2014 7:44:51 PM
I'm in a small semi-rural community ... and well, culturally, it's all about high school basketball, kids and their (grand) kids ... their lives are centered around them. The nearest city is 50 miles - Well, a smaller city is nearby, but it's still limited - very limited. It's frustrating. Yes, I've learned to love being in my own company ... but sometimes you want (and need) more.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/28/2014 3:33:27 AM

What does Halcyon mean? I could google it, I guess

It's slang for
Sharp cookie................. GOT YA!!
Only those under 60 know that.
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