Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 soaringangel86
Joined: 12/2/2007
Msg: 36
Why are most women so flakey?Page 4 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
"I don't know if it's an age thing ,I've met flaky women who were well into their 30's.I don't think it's a gender thing either.I just know I don't stand for it,I move on.Isn't it funny how a guy can start a thread about women being flaky or doing wuss tests or dumping you,the nice guy for a jerk,then when you post about,you suddenly get posts from women who claim they aren't the way you're complaining about.Funny thing...where were these women when you were looking for a date?"
Exactly....
 Soul Union
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 38
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:11:14 PM

I haven't ever come across a woman who wasn't flakey. Won't call when she says she will. Cancels at the last minute. Takes days to return a message. I keep having to end relationships because of flakeyness. Is this just a woman thing or something? - shespinsmeround

> Maybe your user-name has something to do with it. What you focus on is what you attract. You are, therefore, attracting women who spin you around.
> Your profile says you are also an astronaut. Maybe they are tired of waiting for you to come back home and put your feet on the ground.
> Good luck - Soul Union.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 39
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:23:13 PM
"...you suddenly get posts from women who claim they aren't the way you're complaining about.Funny thing...where were these women when you were looking for a date?" Because some are overlooked by you guys? Plus when someone posts "most" about the opposite gender it's pretty degrading and puts people on the defensive. Flakiness is really not a man/woman thing. It's a people thing. Some people are flaky - pure and simple. We've all met at least one in our dating lives.
 Thatguy67
Joined: 9/20/2006
Msg: 40
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:44:44 PM
To me, women are flaky when they have a scalp condition.
 newportsun
Joined: 2/17/2011
Msg: 42
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 2/20/2011 1:04:45 PM
It is a woman's prerogative? If a lot of Men did the same exact thing to many women, then he is considered by many women as an inconsiderate Pig! Women have that prerogative and Men don't? That sounds like DOUBLE STANDARDS! I feel that is ONLY SEXIST AND IT ONLY REPRESSES MEN! MEN HAVE FEELINGS TO! If a women came on to a guy and gave her cell number and made a commitment to a Man and does not have the decency to call him ASAP to canceler out the date. It is just plain RUDE! If a Women does not have a SPINE TO SAY NO because she does not want to hurt your feelings and FLAKES OUT ON YOU THE LAST MINUT. It is very embarrassing, disappointing, degrading and that guy could have made other plans to see someone else. By Flaking out on a date only hurts men 100 times more then if she where truly honest from the begining. If she can't say no from the begging because she does not no how to communicate, She is mentally challenged! She should not be dating in the first place! It is just plain common sense!
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 44
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 2/20/2011 1:38:42 PM
i'm dating a gal who is not only flaky, but she waffles a lot, in addition to being nuts and bananas. it's exasperating, but i don't have a beef, because the breakfasts make it all worth it.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 46
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 2/25/2011 11:42:26 AM

Why are most women so flakey?

They're looking for cereal daters.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 47
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 2/25/2011 12:52:24 PM
I read this post and it was for sure an OMG you have got to be kidding post. Men are infamous for this sort of flaky behavior.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 48
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 2/25/2011 7:50:56 PM
It's your fault if you let it bother you, or put yourself in a position to be inconvenienced by someone you don't know and can't predict the habits of. Male or female, some people don't mean what they say, and that has to be something you're prepared for. If someone cancels on you, then you only get inconvenienced the hope they would be a match - but you haven't lost any time or money.

Also, there are people who don't get stood up that would rather have when it all went down, and people that do get stood up by someone they'd have probably chewed their own arm off to get away from had they actually kept their word. Make sure you realize a blessing when it's bestowed upon you.
 jrb1979
Joined: 11/19/2011
Msg: 52
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/22/2015 7:33:42 AM
I came across this thread and thought I would respond to it. I used to keep chasing women even after they canceled plans with me. Now I don't time for that. Ever since the start of the year my attitude now is I don't wait around for anyone. When I meet a new girl and she can't commit to plans within the first 2 weeks of meeting I move on. I have found the younger generation seem to be the worst for being flaky. Men and Women. I don't get it and that is why I stay away from dating younger then 30 now.
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 53
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/23/2015 3:30:16 AM
Well, yes, the idea of meeting is to meet as soon as possible. Two weeks is more than enough time for somebody to decide if they want to meet or not. Of course if it's a long-distance meet, more time is needed, but not too long. I don't wait around, either -- because chances are probable that it isn't real life holding them back, that it's a matter of them exhausting their other dating options, first. I mean, who wants to be put on ice when somebody else might be interested?

It's been discussed that some people can wait an extended length of time, talking. flirting, with the intention of meeting and then decide to flake -- after plans are made -- tickets purchased or other scheduling committed. The person stops answering calls and responding to messages or doesn't pitch up for the meet even if it's local; they then pretend nothing has happened or there is some wild excuse messaged of how somebody in their family has died, land in the hospital from some freakish illness, or work problems got in the way. Whatever.
 J3LV3HL_WV3JP
Joined: 4/5/2015
Msg: 54
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/23/2015 2:40:19 PM
There are a lot of people who just seem to be in an endless loop of texting. Both genders are guilty of that. Personally, I want to meet ASAP because why waste time if it's not going to go anywhere?
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 55
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/23/2015 5:15:06 PM
jrb1979

Glad you have stopped your needy stalkerish behaviour in pursuing women who have cancelled on you. Online dating is rife with fakes and flakes. We all know that and you have to take your chances I guess.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 56
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/23/2015 5:21:08 PM
northeast25

It is annoying but think of it this way, she was obviously not who she said she was, or was butt ugly and you have dodged a bullet.
Better than you actually turn up and she has not shown up at all or has disappeared once she caught sight of you..
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 57
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 12:48:48 AM
writingwiseman

Seriously!!

Your pics are bad, you dont have a car apparently and are not looking for anything serious. But you didnt ask for a review so up to you to lift your game or not.
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 58
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 3:28:38 AM

Sounds kind of insulting honestly and yes not everyone in the world owns a car, so tired of that being a prerequisite to have someone in your life, lol.


You have your own preferences. What's the issue, again?
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 59
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:00:03 AM

Fine, have preferences...I do same as anyone else...but from my brief exp here some people have very little tact in being 'constructive' because the first two parts, esp the second, implies I have no value at all to anyone due to these prefs and the latter insinuates that I am some lost little lamb, when quite the opposite is true.


Nobody really knows you.

Again, if they don't want to entertain a profile in which the subscriber has poor-quality photos posted, no car, and
not looking for anything serious seriously, what's the issue? None. Find somebody who will.


Bottom line, anyone having prefs is fine but tact and not being open to the fact that those are their prefs alone and others do not feel the same is not really being too kind as a human.


I'm sure you'll consider your own words when meeting people to whom you aren't necessary attractive...
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 60
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:18:41 AM

Sigh...first of all did you read where I said the prefs were fine and dandy by the tone and wording made it come off as slightly judgmental and rude?


Those judgments were made based on the content of your profile. I agree this isn't profile review forums and it did seem out of place in the course of the discussion.

People make this quiet judgement on their own by clicking on another profile and without having to respond to any e-mails. I'm subject to the same (open) criticism and it doesn't matter to me.
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 61
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:22:02 AM

Also, I do 'practice what I preach'...if i did meet someone and had such thoughts I might let them know (only reason not to would be as said if I thought it would come off as un-constructive or in the wrong tone).


What difference does it make: a declination is a declination, whether or not it's employed with decorum. You're employing the same right as do they, to decline something you don't want. What that other poster is doing is something I'm sure you have made in your mind when refusing somebody's attention.
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 62
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:24:07 AM
There's no mutual understanding.

Nobody owes you anything; not even to keep their opinions reserved about you. If there's an agreement on that, so be it. It doesn't matter to me.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 63
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 3:52:56 PM
Back to the original topic. I know the OP is gone. But this applies to both genders. People can be flakes offline although online dating can add on to it. Some possible reasons. They were never that serious to begin with and use OLD as an ego boost or a way to pass time when they are bored. They get cold feet about dating someone from OLD. They found what they perceive to be a better option. They are married / in a relationship. They were dishonest about their profile or photos.
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 64
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:10:38 PM

Why are some people so flakey?


Because they eat too much filo pastry?

What do I win?
 Peas_
Joined: 5/2/2015
Msg: 65
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 6/28/2015 4:45:18 PM
Re hydration and exfoliation helps.
 Mummymania
Joined: 6/22/2015
Msg: 66
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 7/8/2015 9:49:59 AM
Sometimes women are intentionally flaky . . . I think they think it makes them more desirable, more in control somehow. In my opinion, it makes them more no-go in the relationship department. There are a number of women I left behind when I was young, because they were into their flakiness games. I refused to play, even then.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 67
view profile
History
Why are most women so flakey?
Posted: 7/8/2015 11:46:41 PM
southcity, nailed it!!!
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  >