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Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 2
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This thread will be deleted too.... but?

I married a guy that couldn't get off with oral. I saw it as a personal challenge..LOL Not an all the time thing, but I still gave him oral... Yep...i was successful. Did it make me happy? HELL YES. Did it make HIM happy? HELL YES. Did it work every time? HELL NO. LOL To be honest? When I couldnt' make it work? I felt like a failure in a sense... It truly is a blow to the ego not to be able to get your man off with a blowjob...but? I learned fast that he was kinda rare
Joined: 6/5/2005
Msg: 3
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 3/15/2007 8:34:12 PM
the myth that is created is one that says that every man out there is absolutely ecstatic about receiving oral sex......but this isn't so.......OS is not perceived the same by all men.....for novices, it is something to experience, but as one ages, there are differing views......the root of pleasure from OS is often psychological!......if it wasn't, then a man should be able to get pleasure from either a man or woman (who have equal skill) performing it but obviously this isn't the case for straight men!
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/17/2007 4:27:52 AM
Yeah I know a guy like that - um have to say it really pissed me off - I love giving BJ's and I am told I give them extremely well - this guy made the rest of the encounter a bore for me. I get off on making my partner happy and he just never seemed happy ! He did have issues that's for sure!! He is the only guy I ever encountered that didn't like BJ's!! There is nothing better than a man who is wildy turned on by what you can do for him!! Especially orally - very intimate!!!
Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 6/21/2007 7:29:50 PM
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 20
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:19:32 PM

our responses both negative and positive to sex are based on what happened with your first and early experiences.

This seems to be largely (no pun intended=pun )true. Personally I've always found it rather difficult to get off recieving oral. Note my username. Its NOT that I try to hold back it simply has ALWAYS taken me a very long time to orgasm. Keeping in mind my username note that to give oral for a long time to such a stretch could become less than pleasurable to BOTH if its seen/done as a challenge. I greatly prefer the feeling of being SUBMERGED in hot smooth, steamy wetness. This cannot occur during a bj(unless she is a swordswollower and I don't wish to be made part of a circus act). That doesn't mean I don't like it at all. However, I KNOW I'm offended/frustrated when a woman makes it her job/challange to get me off from oral rather than just to be with me as a lover. There IS a difference. How many women identify with the feeling when a man is NOT necessarily having sex with her to be and enjoy her for who she is but is instead on some quest? I say, let the lovemaking be natural, let lovers be what they are and experience the multitude of connections from being,kissing,caressing,smelling,tasting,licking,sucking,grinding,pumping,churning, listening, breathing, touching heart and souls;the physical,emotional,spiritual and psychological BEING that exists and longs for those connections even in a "quicky"f**k for those who are attuned to being aware of them and attentive enough to explore them. When this happens.....pleasure is ALWAYS and constant.

I never want to be a part of someone's physical only quest ie " bj". I DO however enjoy a woman who is interested enough to make the REAL exploration of ME a quest(as I do her). She is the MOST talented of lovers . This is why a great lover is NOT an status which requires sexual experience but rather sensual substance and real awareness.

A side note, It makes sense to be a bit leery of women who give head without condoms to men whom they may not even have been in a long term(more than 1 yr) relationship with. Just as it is to be leery of women who have sex(intercourse)without condoms in non monogamous "relationships" or relationships that last less than 1 yr. 1 in 4 people carry an STD. Yes, that does place them in a higher risk group.
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 22
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:48:40 PM
I've never known a guy who didn't get off from oral.
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 6/21/2007 11:56:45 PM
I can though not always. Most of the time though it's not a problem. If the woman is putting forth a lot of effort (as I do when I lick her) then more than likely I'll orgasm. If not, or if she scrapes me with her teeth a lot then will probably have to finish up with penetration.
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 26
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 6/22/2007 3:27:19 AM
I love it but.... it might take me a looooong time to come, so if she isn't enjoying what she's doing for her own pleasure, or isn't in it for the long haul, she's going to get tired of doing it, and I just won't get there either.
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 28
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 6/23/2007 12:30:25 PM
Yes , that condition he has is truly rare,lol. Ive heard of guys that dont enjoy recieving oral.
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 35
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 6/27/2007 9:18:18 PM
im a guy that carnt get off by oral i dont no y i love it. my gf gets mad at me sumtimes dosnt think she is ne good but she is its just me
Joined: 4/21/2004
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/7/2008 8:21:17 PM

My "hypothesis" on it is that some guys are much more sensitive to touch...guys that get off on oral probably cum quicker or more easily also. Guys that don't get off on oral maybe last longer.

See - I'm nearly the opposite... Can't remember ever having an orgasm from oral alone no matter how long it took but the velvetty, all encompassing pressure of being inside a gal that I care about sends me over the edge more quickly that I would like.

Hoping to work on the latter once I find a gal who's willing to be a regular sex partner again.
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 37
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:19:41 PM
I've had a few that i had to cut short..they were using their teeth..and it hurt like had braces on and i couldnt zip up anything for a week!!! The best b.j. was by a white girl that dated black she knew what she was doing..and i enjoyed it very much.Alas, we only had that 1 date.. :-(
Joined: 3/17/2008
Msg: 38
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 8/8/2008 11:30:45 PM
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 40
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 9/4/2008 11:21:53 PM
Where have you been all my life? I love to give orally but it really p!sses me off when he cums before I even get any So I wouldnt have a problem with you not cumming from me giving you oral. Id love it. My ex would always do that, Id please him and then hed roll over and tell me Ill give you some in the morning. Id want to kick him out the bed But if you cant cum, dont push yourself just enjoy it when it happens and then give it to your girl Im sure she would appreciate it:
Joined: 12/28/2006
Msg: 43
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 9/5/2008 12:15:11 PM
I want you to send me an email and I want to find out more about you.
Joined: 7/4/2008
Msg: 45
Guys that don't get off from Oral sex
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:45:13 PM
I got off from road head once, when it was over I realized I was goin about 110.
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