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 brian3400br
Joined: 4/4/2007
Msg: 19
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?Page 9 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
I think what a person did in the past is just that, the past. Too many people want to dig up other peoples mistakes and use that against them. The way I have seen things is that if you do something good nobody remembers it but if you do something bad no one forgets it.

As long as a person in that proffesion can put that behind them and not let old habits and old lifestyle choice affect a new relationship then it should be as if you never ever did this in your life.

I have known a lot of different peoople in my life and I can honestly say that I have met prostitutes that are way more real and honest and caring than a lot of other girls out there who claim to be in the mainstream of things.

I think I would go out with a girl like you but like anyone else I would base that on what you were like inside just the same as I would go out with a girl who never did this kind of thing.

I would love to here back from you real soon.
Take care for now.

Brian.
 orchidtigress
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 20
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/19/2007 6:16:25 PM
I guess it comes down to you and what you're comfortable sharing. If someone truly loves you though I do not believe it should matter. I went out with a male gigolo years ago and it didn't matter to me that "professionally" he had at one time slept with women for money....he was sleeping with me for free!..lol.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 22
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Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:20:19 PM
I haven't worked in the industry, but if I did, I would be inclined to bring it up about the time when any past indiscretions need to be mentioned. I'm not a saint. But I don't have regrets about what I did or went through. So I have no respect for anyone who thinks less of me for them. If she cannot handle hearing about the basic facts, then she definitely cannot handle me.

If she used to be in it, I'd want to talk about it, because there could be a lot of problems:
1) Her attitude to sex with me. It might affect how she views sex, and so I'd need to be upfront and honest and see where our views differ.
2) Her attitude to the relationship with me. Same as above, but for relationships.
3) If guys in the area paid her for sex. The area I live in right now has a lot of a**holes, who love to discuss other people's sexual history and bring it up. So I could get very angry with certain people, and it might mean that we would have to avoid certain places, like the pubs in the area.

I've met a few prostitutes and become friends with them. But that's as far as it went. No real attraction, or connection. But if it happened, I would have no choice but to deal with it all, and try to give it a real chance. I very rarely fall for someone, but when I do, my heart does not care what they did, so I ended up finding I was only over her when I moved out of the area. So it's a real issue for me. Not everyone is that way. Most women can just move on and forget people. I don't really forget anyone, I'm just not thinking about them right now.
 Bezoar
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 23
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/4/2007 9:06:49 PM
I would have no problem at all. Past or present is fine with me because at least id have the knowledge that i would know she is sleeping aorund, and not have to wait 5 months after getting dumped to be informed that she was cheating on me with 5 other guys, all at once.

Ive known whores and i have known prostitutes. Prostitutes being the ones who traded sex for money they normally spent on cloths, toys, booze.
And the whores well, there was one in particular who would give you vaginal sex for a 6 pack of heiniken, and would strip down and let you stick it vaginaly/analy and with out a condom if you wished for a bottle of rum or vodka.

so i dont see a problem if ya wanted to hook up with me at all. no problem.
 smsweendoggy
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 24
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/4/2007 9:09:56 PM
No way baby!! Im not into eating other guys rockets! I'd have to pass ,there's plenty more fish in the sea.
 Philhelm
Joined: 6/25/2007
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 sometimes_miss
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 26
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:30:52 AM
It's called 'the oldest profession' for good reason, so considering my ex took me for all she could basically made her no different from someone who charges by the day. And you know what, no matter how you look at it, it's just a job. Would you date a physical therapist that rubs your neck? Yes? So why not someone who rubs your penis? What's the big deal?

As far as it being your chosen job, well, you find something you like to do, and find a way to make money doing it. Nothing wrong with that. Date an ex sex worker? Why not? Plenty of people date soldiers who kill people for a living. I'd rather date someone who made people happy for a living. Much better for the world.
 Pleasurelimits
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 27
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:58:11 AM
Good question does an ex-sex worker just go away somewhere and shrivel up after their 'use by' date. I work in the Psychology field and an associate of mine in fact married the love of his life who in fact had been in 'the field' for some time. I once had a discussion with both of them out of pure interest not nosiness and her take on it was that she never would wonder about a romantic trist with someone else as she had more than had her fill, no pun intended, and Dave, hubby now takes the position that prior to their relationship he had no influence nor rights so how could he have fears about it. A very good relationship that is the envy of everyone they come in contact with, very loving, so after all that rabbiting on the answer is a resounding 'yes'. you just have to make sure you pick the right person
 dabigfishguy
Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 28
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Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:07:49 AM
I guess also that the key in here is: "had at some point been". If they aren't anymore... what is the whole problem then? And more over: It's just a job. They usually aren't doing it because it's so mega exiting in the first place(some exeptions probably). They are doing it to provide themselves with some food on the table OR because they are forced to do it in some way or the other.

If she's cool... I wouldn't care. In the end it's all about feeling. But if you are a jealous type of person, it will not work out. You'll always have in the back of your head that she used to do it. This will cause arguments in the longer run. When she's out for a couple of hours longer as you thought, you'll get suspicious. When she's hanging out with friends, you may get other thoughts. Etc, etc. So in conclusion I would also say it depends on you. Ask yourself the honest question if YOU can handle it.
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 29
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:25:21 PM
I have been helping some of these women for years , here in southern california , most have a pattern of being sexually abused since early on, most ran away before they were legally adults, one prostitute I ran into and helped her get home to san fransisco was only 15 and she looked much older because of the drugs to drown out the feelings of being with a john and controlled by her "boyfiend" (pimp), most are around their early 20's and as I see them as time goes by , they head down hill. A couple of them I could not help them before they ended it all, some I was able to get their broken puzzle back to gether a little so they can finish it.

Most are not escorts in an escort service, that is not the common thing , most are either on the street or advertize in the local avertizing sites like craigs list and wait for an e-mail or a call on their cell, most are out to survive , they were young and thought they could do it on their own and some guy or girl helped them into their new profession without them even thinking they would one of the workers ,paying for drugs , bills and their "boyfriend" once they are in , hard to get out , either for the money , drugs or the threat of violence .

One girl I have been helping has been out of that for 4 years, I met her since she was 18 , she is now 22, she was prostituted by her prostitute drug addict mother since she was a baby of 2 years old , all her life she never had affection or a christmas or a birthday , just 10 men a day for years, later also commiting crimes to fullfill her money hungry boyfriend's wishes together with her girlfriend in laws (like the girls in kill bill) . Sometimes she was drugged so she can last longer working without sleep, when I met her , I took her in and she did not sleep for 3 days and was terrified what her boyfriend would do if caught hiding. When met her she was cold like hannibal lecture , her smile was acted out , not genuine, never a tear .

Her social worker told me she was a lost cause . no one could help her , she was just human trash of society . Orphan with nothing to lose , no family, no education, no past no future .

The pretty green eyed knockout of a girl was left ignored by the state, just left to wither homeless to find a way to survive imerssed in drugs and self infictions not to mention the ocassional suicide attempts, which is common for most of these types of situations of women working the streets.

All she needed was affection and someone who cares, I sent her away to college, she goes to church now and seems like the girl next door that you can bring home to mom , just that she knows a million dirty jokes , laughs alot so funny with a snort , cries and for the first time in her life even gets and receives hugs.

I guess I gave her too much affection , she is in love with me and I am thinking about it .

No one is less than others, it depends how high up a pedistal you are willing to put them at .

Everyone deserves a chance at love , no matter what happened in the past .



 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 30
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:34:00 PM
If a woman was having sex as her everyday job presently ?

Having sex with men every day to get money in her purse while having a relationship with me is another thing, what if during the relationship I had sex 4 times a day with different women because I was just "hungry " ?that would definitely not cut it for the woman , I know that , and what if? ...especially if children entered the picture ?

Those of you that see no problem would probably see a problem with your daughter having sex for money let say at 16 with 5 strangers a day , that is the legal age in some places ? Yes you would not just stand there and ignore that . not like working at
mc donald's right ?

Not a prude , I know the streets and know the feeing of having nothing or the feeling of desperation , at one time I had alot of friends , alot of friends that were prostitutes , male and female, strippers ... all had their stories .

But the one that is sweet on me now has the worst story if told you would cry , again , they deserve a chance to be happy too.
 tiny_wonders
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 31
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:51:24 PM
as long as the girl/guy is clean. why should it matter?
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 9/16/2007 3:14:27 PM

I used to think not, but now I think I would. My theory is that as long as there is anyone on this planet whom I consider beneath me, I will be headed downwards myself. So I have taken to viewing everyone as equal in terms of worth, and cannot rule out a relationship based on conventional thinking about such things as sexual morality. This is a fancy way of rationalizing being desperate.
That is a very enlightened view, swamp thing. More power to you.

I'd also like to ask a question: why is a prostitute any less than a woman who slept with lots of guys? At least she values sex more than a ride.
 sabel15788
Joined: 1/14/2007
Msg: 35
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 9/18/2007 6:20:06 AM
"""People exchange sex for many things, security. companionship, validation, pleasure I think the real question is why does it suddenly become wrong when money gets involved.""""

You know what i strongly agree with this.

sex in an important part of any relationship, i think. if you just suddenly stop having sex with your partner things are going to go down hill. many times I've heard women say that they "weren't in the mood" but they do it to keep there partner happy. because if they don't keep there partner happy they lose that companionship, that certain security that comes with a passionately stimulating relationship.

Many guys have said that there is no way that they would ever "be with" a prostitute, but my question to that would be, 'every girl that you meet up with, that you decide you are going to take home at some point . do you ask them how many guys they have slept with before hand?'. is there a bench mark somewhere between healthy and 'dirty'.. whats the difference between a girl who slept around a lot and was 'promiscuous' to someone who may do the same but decides not for free, as a source of income because all else has failed. which would you prefer a girl who had to do it to stay alive (to eat and pay rent, not take drugs) or a girl who never officially donned the 'worker' name but still slept around just as much?
 Metallicat28
Joined: 9/13/2007
Msg: 36
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 9/20/2007 6:50:49 AM
This is something that needs to be laid out on the table in the beginning. If you wait to tell your future partner, then they will be angry(depending on the person).
If you are out of the buisness at that point, and never want to go back to it... then they need to understand that that was the past, and you are there for them now.
If this is not accepable to that person, then move on, because it will always be an issue in the relationship.
 panmankb
Joined: 4/14/2007
Msg: 37
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:45:38 AM
I used to have a business about 3 blocks from the famous Sagebrush Ranch Butt Hutts just outside of Carson City, Nv. My employees used to work on the girls cars on their days off for 'special' favors in the bathroom. One of my guys hooked up big time with one of them and I paid for their wedding 7 months latter. They are still happily married 18 yrs later and very good friends!
 Candy_Nymph
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 38
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 11/17/2007 8:05:13 PM
It depend on why they were and what they needed the money for.. but i guess in the end all it matters is the connection between two people..

so id say yes..
 nocalsingledad
Joined: 11/27/2007
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Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 12/13/2007 3:19:03 PM

if they would date a person (male or female) knowing that that person had at same stage for however long been a sex worker


As long as they test STD free, I wouldn't have a problem with it.
 nocalsingledad
Joined: 11/27/2007
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Posted: 12/13/2007 3:55:18 PM
a moot point since most of these girls won't even give a blowjob without a condom.


Case in point: I don't believe there is a single case of a customer of a Nevada brothel ever getting an STD.

Legal prostitution is safer, healthier, and eliminates another source of income for organized crime ... which is why you will never see it legalized in most areas ... too many powerful people are making too much money the way things are now. Making prostitution illegal doesn't get rid of it.

(As of November 19, that was still true ... To date, there has never been a recorded STD transmittal in a Legal Nevada Brothel and this data is maintained by the State of Nevada’s Department of Health.)
 Pleasurelimits
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 41
Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:18:01 PM
To xvr145,
and your qualifications for stating this person is a sociopath are what exactly? graduated from where? and you interviewed her when to reach this diagnostic conclusion. I just hate these people who are 5c medicos and really dont know what the hell they are talking about. But fell qualified to force their uneducated opinions on everyone else.
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