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 shirizzle
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 101
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?Page 5 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
Ok really short story.

Yes, I've felt that way... Today= the most recent, and I'm sad to say it was on pof. I felt I recieved a message that was loaded with sarcasm regarding my appearance...

As I'm sure many women on this website do, I recieved the typical "you're hot"/"you're a babe" message, but this one just seemed loaded heavily... and I almost felt attacked. I feel like its either someone just being a jerk or me just being paranoid, and I hate being in limbo and defensive about something that is really just trivial, but even if it was "sincere", are men really thinking that solely complimenting a woman's appearance (and doing so crassly) is going to get them somewhere?

My gut reaction is: Defend!
Right or Wrong: ?
 hockeygal07
Joined: 4/2/2007
Msg: 102
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:52:26 PM
YES!!!! Many, many times. Even when he would look me straight in the eye and lie without flinching I KNEW something was wrong. And I was right.

Always go with your gut! I need to make a point of listening to mine more often and sooner in the future.
 trishadish
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 103
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:57:38 PM
Yes i was lied to, and he is the one who is ANGRY at me cuz the relationship could not last?survive his last lie of HOOKING UP ONLINE FOR NO NAME SEX, he is in door co.......however he reads everything i write so yea, it sux to be involved with a liar....

Sometimes I think those people believe their own lies.......
 corgi 1
Joined: 10/2/2004
Msg: 104
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/8/2007 8:32:43 PM
lies lies ... your tellin' me that you'll be true. lies lies , thats all i ever get from you. tears tears, i shed a million tears for you .... lies, you know your breakin' my heart ..... baby baby , your breakin' my heart lmao ! we'll get over it
 soundchaser1962
Joined: 5/1/2007
Msg: 105
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Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:04:48 AM
I believe in my heart AND with evidence that our "gut feelings" are right. Our minds often will try to argue with our gut feelings. We want to believe our relationship is fine. But our gut feelings are almost always right. I think of the song "I Can See For Miles" by The Who. After being in an 11 year marriage with a liar, I can see for miles as well.
 corgi 1
Joined: 10/2/2004
Msg: 106
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/10/2007 8:03:34 PM
^^^^^ cool song my friend !! i also agree and have felt, as you. its funny , cos the lying in my case wasn't about another man. ask me if i give f ? lying ..... just means two are living that lie. a good relationship has enough trials and tribulations on its own. lying won't be part of my love equasion .... its that simple.
 *CLICK*
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 107
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/10/2007 9:40:35 PM
I was so naieve when i started on this site, thinking all people were forthright, hoinest and sincere. Now, what I think this site is for most people is an ego boost. They get online, become the perfect guy/gal tell ya all the things they think it is you want to hear.. BUT,, they are likely saying the same things to the other women/men they are talking to as well.. If it seems to good to be true it probably is. I still want to believe there are some people on this site looking for a genuine connection but honestly I have had more of these type of experiences ( lied to).
Actually not entirely true, the fellas I'm interested in all seem to be the player type so thats my fault. I did try to change it up a bit but that didnt work either. Just remember if your gut is saying it doesnt add up then it DOESN'T ADD UP... If he/she can't won't give you a number, doesnt follow through with things said, makes excuses regularly then you are liekly being lied to ....Just my 2 cents worth..
Happy
 JustReal47
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 108
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/22/2007 6:08:31 PM
I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months. She was married for a month and decided it wasn't right. She told me they were selling the house and separating. However I could never get a straight answer out of her about what she was doing with her life. I told her I wanted a relationship and she moved into a new house with her husband without telling me.

If you feel like something is not right, confront the person. If they can't give you a straight answer, save yourself the heartache. Say goodbye and find someone that respects you enough to be honest.
 Jillian2006
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 109
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/22/2007 6:10:02 PM
I cannot state how many times I did not follow my gut and regretted it. Intuition is everything.
 tmotts
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 110
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/22/2007 6:21:52 PM
Unfortunately, my gut feelings have always been right.......there have been times where I was forced to draw my own conclusions and because of this my imagination sometimes ran wild. But ,I must say my intuition has never been that far off. Sometimes I think its a curse, I usually always know when I am being lied to.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 111
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/22/2007 6:27:12 PM
Oh my. Let's see ~ I got the "feeling" ~ and within about 2 days it was not only proven I was being lied to, I was dead on right about what the lies were. Unfortunately, it happens, and it seems to happening more and more often (at least in my life.) Sigh.
 kb_baby_again
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 112
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/29/2007 6:57:32 AM
I have to laff about this one even tho its not a funny situation at all. (but i tend to laff the puzzled things in life off...beats beating ur head)
This is a common feeling for me. Too common, as it usually turns out, Im bang on. I acknowledge the feelings I get but I guess im some situations put it to the side in the hopes that Im wrong. In some aspects its kinda a curse as U just know what the ending will b but at the sametime struggle with some hope that what ur gut is telling u can b wrong this one time. I try to have faith, (ignore the warning signs) , but its getting old knowing what the outscome will b before they even happen (which usually isnt good for me! ). But I have a glimmer in my eye still, I have to beleive that there are still some good people out there that can b trusted. (heres hoping)
The lying thing doesnt make sense to me at all anyways. Like really.....if one lies or lives a lie, sooner or later it will come out and taunt ya, so why lie in the first place??!!!?? It just wastes everyones time! My policy is that im open and honest, why cant everyone else b??!!
 Christopher0914
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 113
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/29/2007 8:19:26 AM
Short story:

Yes, I thought I was being lied to: red flags included that she wouldn't tell me her last name or where precisely she lived.

Yes, I was right: 10 years older than advertised (not that I cared), married (THAT'S a problem), and possibly 6 kids (whoops).


Go with your gut. If it feels dodgy or sketchy, it probably is.
 lindy_3333
Joined: 3/6/2006
Msg: 114
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Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/29/2007 8:33:35 AM
We have instincts for a reason. Follow them!! I ALWAYS regret it when I DON'T follow mine. You don't need my stories. It wouldn' t matter. I have learned from my own experiences to trust ME. You should do the same. If you have that feeling of doubt then you need to ask the other person for more information. Find out what is what for how you are feeling. You don't necessarily have to jump ship with someone, because sometimes you just need more information to make a good decision on something. You might just have a missing piece and with that piece in place, you will get things more clearly. Just proceed with caution until you do know.

Linda
 destiny1949
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 115
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/29/2007 9:32:46 AM
Im making an appointment for a physical very soon, Im sure there is a magnet inside of me, that is drawing all the losers and liars. If an operation is possible to remove this magnet, then I might consider staying on POF, if not Im outa here, after a year in this swamp I havent met an honest man yet.
 Number456
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 116
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 5:12:54 PM
Our gut instincts are powerful indeed but even people who train their intuition daily aren't always 100% correct. I have had times when I thought someone was lying to me but I learnt the best way to handle such a situation is to be patient and keep giving the person the benefit of the doubt until it warrants otherwise.
 Brandie46
Joined: 5/16/2007
Msg: 117
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:04:21 PM
Yes and I am usually right 99% of the time. Sometimes the liar is so good at telling lies that you begin to doubt yourself and give them the benefit of the doubt. But what I've learned is to trust my gut instincts and I've also discovered is that if you keep telling the truth eventually the liar disappears from your life.

Brandie46
 Allritenow
Joined: 5/26/2006
Msg: 118
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:11:15 PM
Its strange because I know a guy that was on here and he lied about 60% of the stuff in his profile. But it was written in a way that seemed honest & sincere. Had I not personally known him I would've had no reason to think he wasn't honest. He's not the only guy I know personally that has an ad that is not true. You have to meet people in person and then there's still no guarantee.
 lfrs
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 119
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:58:45 PM
Yes, and Yes.......
 Debbishoe
Joined: 5/1/2007
Msg: 120
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Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 7:43:16 PM
You know the saying...if you have to ask the question, you already know the answer.
 Cattilac
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 121
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 8:53:30 PM
I generally tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. I think our past experiences can sometimes colour our perceptions so don't always go with my "gut feelings". However I do pay attention to red flags and sometimes they just add up enough to make me take action but more often the other person will do something that doesn't require gut feelings or red flags....they'll just out themselves, and it's so obvious you don't have to second guess yourself.

To me that's preferable to mistrusting everyone just because. Even the best players will give themselves away sooner or later. And if you've enjoyed your time with them it's not a total loss....and if you haven't you shouldn't have been there anyways. JMO
 rjpeagles
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 122
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 9:30:15 PM
I have 14 & 8 year-old sons, I get lied to everyday.
 Quest for Love
Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 123
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 10:25:28 PM
mile high,
i think some of your research is incorrect and not as hard and fast as you presented here. for example, you said when people look down it means they are lying...but, did you know that they could be accessing their emotional recall about the topic being discussed?
 Quest for Love
Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 124
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 10:33:14 PM
back to original op

its a feeling....you just know
 IHAVEAMIND
Joined: 3/5/2007
Msg: 125
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 5/31/2007 10:37:32 PM
Thankyou
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