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 jesscarmen4
Joined: 12/1/2007
Msg: 143
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I didn't read every single response but I want to elaborate on your question....if your guy is pulling away from you for reasons unknown, and you've already said how you feel...is it best to just leave him alone until he wants to talk to you? That's not the same thing as ignoring. Ignoring is flat out not responding to any communication attempts at all.
 mixminus
Joined: 11/22/2008
Msg: 144
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 4/26/2010 7:56:53 PM
So here's the dealio, you can't "ignore" a dude if you're interested in him or he'll prolly just return the favor and bail out, I would. Now, having said that... If there is a method to your madness, and you know how to play the chase game, it can be quite an enjoyable run around the rose bush. When you do make contact, and you can't wait too long or we lose interest, you have to let us know that you're interested. You know, be flirty, playful, be different than the other girls, and be an ACTIVE LISTENER!
 motownmaniax
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 145
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 4/26/2010 9:32:56 PM
OP: Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?

Or is that the best way to insure that he NEVER pays any attention to you?


It all depends on the guy. Some men buy into the hard-to-get game, but many don't. All I know is for anyone, no matter the gender, to "purposely" ignore someone they like just to manipulate their emotions and force a desired behavior, they're scum. Personally, I would lose interest in them instantly.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 146
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 4/29/2010 1:19:42 AM
go ahead and ignore me, take a number and a spot in line. There are whole continents of women that are totally oblivious to me, you could be infront of them since you are actively ignoring me, and that trumps ignorant oblivion.

If you ignore me, dont be surprised if I dont bother with feigning interest.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 147
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 4/29/2010 11:30:31 AM
Case in point, I was out one weekend on a road trip, partying it up with a buddy of mine, and a couple of girls he knew (we're all 28-30). He had a guaranteed hookup with one, and the other flirted with me a bit; however each time I drew close to try and get a little more intimate, she pulled away and eventually kept a certain distance, though kept her eyes fixated on me.

Since they both knew this was one of those "one-weekend only visits", I decided she was wasting my time and that I was going to fill my hotel room that night, one way or the other, so I proceeded to pick up a cute girl (20-ish) that had been eying me across the dance floor all night.

No sooner than I start to secure Girl B when all of a sudden Ms. Rigid comes out of the woodwork sulking, and eventually drags us off to her place and I get my original hook-up.

Silliest behavior I've observed this year thus far on the singles circuit...
SO SO typical of many women. More proof that indifference toward them is the correct path. Like the kid who doesn't really show much interest in a toy until some other kid starts playing with it then that triggers the 'oh if they want it it must be valuable therefore NOW I WANT IT' thought process. Laughable. But let's all remember women don't play "games" no sir....eee. They are super straight up

I love human psychology. It's hysterical.
 cheeriness
Joined: 8/23/2009
Msg: 148
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/11/2010 10:07:37 AM
Its a delicate balance.

Expressing your interest in him but make sure YOU are not doing the chasing. Its my experience men joy the chase. If you are ummmmmmm too available, he will loose interest quickly. ~in the dating game that is~ relationship is much different.

good luck
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 149
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/11/2010 10:19:39 AM
Case in point, I was out one weekend on a road trip, partying it up with a buddy of mine, and a couple of girls he knew (we're all 28-30). He had a guaranteed hookup with one, and the other flirted with me a bit; however each time I drew close to try and get a little more intimate, she pulled away and eventually kept a certain distance, though kept her eyes fixated on me.

Since they both knew this was one of those "one-weekend only visits", I decided she was wasting my time and that I was going to fill my hotel room that night, one way or the other, so I proceeded to pick up a cute girl (20-ish) that had been eying me across the dance floor all night.

No sooner than I start to secure Girl B when all of a sudden Ms. Rigid comes out of the woodwork sulking, and eventually drags us off to her place and I get my original hook-up.

Silliest behavior I've observed this year thus far on the singles circuit...


no no...that girl was playing a different game with you than the "ignoring game"...

she was doing the "push pull" game with you...she likely did not want to "feel" as though she "had" to be deemed the automatic friend hook up...so she was trying to play with you a little to make it more interesting.

after all- yall just met right? i completely do NOT blame you at all for going and finding a younger version...

after you finished with the younger model- you should have gone and found your first girl and finished up with her...she would have been ready then...

if you really wanted the first girl bad enough from the beginning- you should have stopped making advances and pretty much ignored her with her sitting right next to you...she would have realized her game was silly and it would have confused her as to why you were not throwing yourself at her...

then she would have thrown herself at you...
 thutch901
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 150
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/11/2010 9:41:26 PM
It can be a mixed signal deal. To much of it leads to both being frustrated both men and women. A little bit of a chase is fine either way but, there has to be a hook or an interest. For me the chasing around just leaves me bored and tired.

I have this one girl who thinks I am really into seeing her run around with other guys and what not. So I pretty much crossed her off the list. Occasionally she calls but, I am not into cons or head games. In fact I told her to go back to her finance and leave me out of it. It works for awhile but, then she comes back somehow.
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 151
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/14/2010 6:23:53 AM

If a lady ignored me, i'd turn my back and go elsewhere. But thats just me.

^^ I would think this is the case in most instances...silly game for silly boys and girls...
I personally use the "I want you" approach...and if that doesn't work, a full frontal tackle usually gets the message across...
 *Eiledon*
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 152
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/14/2010 10:02:27 AM
Nope. I'll take that as a 'not interested' vote and move on and not look back!

Life's WAAAAAYY too short for High School Games!

So those fools (Oooops!!* Folks*) using this strategy, how's it working for you?

If it is, Are you under 25?

Short answer: NO. Ignoring anyone you're interested in is ALWAYS a foolish idea. IE: It only works amongst FOOLS!
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 153
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/14/2010 11:08:21 AM
OP, it depends on the situation, and also what you define as ignoring. Is it ignoring as in not chasing after him/not initiating contact with him, or is it ignoring as in not responding to his calls or e-mails? The former is a strategy for regaining his interest if he's been pulling away from you or taking you for granted. The latter is just rude and immature, unless you're not interested in the man and are intentionally trying to blow him off.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 5/14/2010 5:35:14 PM

Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?

Yes it does. It tells us immediately that we're wasting our time being interested in you. So, we then turn our attention to other women who appreciate us.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 155
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Posted: 5/15/2010 2:33:39 AM

I would never ignore someone I was really interested in.p/quote]
Needless to say that I would find time to meet up half-way through.
Afterall, any kind of ...... ship is a two way street.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 5/15/2010 6:49:03 AM
I never ignore a guy when he is talking to me, even he is the Hunchback of Notre Dame,
In my case they gave me their attention first.....
Vannili
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
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Posted: 5/16/2010 9:26:56 AM
If a man finds a girl attractive, that's what gets his attention. Ignoring him may send the wrong signal and he will give up without trying. You want to get a man's attention, hold his eyes for a little longer, touch him or smile at him. Men are sometimes dense, so quit sending mixed messages.

On the flip side, I think men can get a girl's attention by ignoring her, but only when she is hot and already has the attention of many men. By ignoring her, he stands out from all the other suck assess, therefore becomes desirable.

To me, attraction is instant, but chemistry is slower to develop. Ignoring doesn't really build chemistry in my mind.
 Ms_6Cs_QT
Joined: 3/4/2010
Msg: 158
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/16/2010 2:20:03 PM
I agree.
It ticks me off that some guys do that, and make up some lame excuse, like what is up with that?

Like one guy told me he wasn't in the mood to talk to me, and not to bother him. So, I stopped saying hi.
Then 2 months later out of the blue he sends me a message asking me what's up? and I send a message asking what he needs? no reply and I'm like what the hell?
What's the point in sending me a msg in the first place?
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Posted: 5/17/2010 11:08:16 PM

Or is that the best way to insure that he NEVER pays any attention to you?




This.


If you ignore me, I assume you aren't interested, life goes on.




Elsewhere.
 merelymortal
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 160
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 5/18/2010 1:54:18 AM
I will say... this depends

If he doesn't know you, yes, its a sure thing he will never pay attention to you unless he already has his eye one you, and the only way to know that is to pay attention to him or at least talk to him. If he thinks he is invisible to you... and he has his eyes on other women that pay him attention... he may just go ahead and go for them because... well, they showed some interest.

that should say that...

playing hard to get is not what it is cracked out to be
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 5/20/2010 12:12:09 AM
Ignoring me get's my attention if your dumb azz doesn't go when the light turns green...........
 Vannili
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Posted: 9/11/2010 9:40:04 AM

Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Or is that the best way to insure that he NEVER pays any attention to you ?


1st. question - some guys if you ignore them , but your body language says different,they are fired up to pester you to get your attention until you cave in .

2nd.question- a guy will not pay attention if he is not attracted to you. Or if he read in your body and verbal language that you are not into him.. just my 2 cents
 Marmite baby
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 9/11/2010 10:44:10 AM
I'm not into game playing but until you get to know someone its difficult to guage their privacy levels as you could be ignored as a back off signal.. For me the distancing going on will probably result in my not meeting a guy on here next week. A lovely warm message , sent photo, with a you look lovely (like my mum?) followed by curt, cold replies once we'd agreed to meet.Have made it clear that I would understand if he didn't want to meet. Now one rose gone. I realise that dating is like interviewing, but theres no need for the coldness.Think I waslucky in the past in that partners were real life friends before dating.
I think you have to be wise about whether or not its worth saving a non starter but in an established relationship you have to communicate.
Should add that I've been guilty of getting so far and then dropping people.
Horrible. At least I may be kinder in the future.
 soflnighteagle
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 164
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?
Posted: 9/12/2010 7:11:08 PM
If a woman ignores me it means she is either not interested, or she is a game player. Which ever one it is I can say one thing for certain; "I do not want to have anything to do with her." I think this falls right in line with the whole; "If you want to get a woman interested in you, treat her like dirt." So I guess guys like to be ignored as much as women like to be treated like dirt.
 readthedamnprofile
Joined: 5/5/2010
Msg: 165
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Posted: 9/12/2010 7:46:42 PM
Does ignoring a guy really get his attention?

Only if he is stupid. Same thing goes for women that chase after elusive men.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 9/13/2010 9:21:51 PM
The last one that ignored me really got my attention.....that air bag will wake your azz up.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Posted: 9/14/2010 2:31:43 AM
It DID, when women were fine with being approached by a man who they were ignoring.

With women's lib, along came accusations of sexual harassment of women by men. Now, men don't want to approach women who are ignoring them, in case they are accused of trying to force themselves on women. So now, if a woman WANTS a man to pay attention to her, she HAS to indicate interest.

"With great power comes great responsibility." (Uncle Ben in Spider-Man)
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