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 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
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redneckgirl133,
In retrospect, you're probably right. But I was just so damn pissed that she had lied to me so blatantly that I felt she deserved nothing better. I didn't really want to create a scene, so I left it at that.
 casino man
Joined: 1/11/2005
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 4/21/2005 9:14:02 PM
a friend of mine was deported back to jamaca,for a felony he commited,he was only born there ..but that's another story...anyway,he needed some toiletrys from the states,asked me to purchase them and his sister would send them..while speaking to his sister she had the hottest most sexiest voice ive every heard her conversation was the bomb!

somehow i did the thing i would never normally do and decided to take her out to lunch during her lunch break...when she appeard i could'nt believe my eyes!!!she was at least 300 pounds and i dont mean a clean decent 330 pounds..she was sloppy and her hair was a mess!

i went to eat lunch with her and after about 5 minutes my phone rang...i must admit i pulled the same stunt..after my phone conversation was over i pretended it was still going and faked an emergency..what else was i to do???????

i'll never do that again ...
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
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Posted: 4/21/2005 9:19:03 PM
sputnan,
That seems to be a favorite last resort with a lot of guys. I learned it from my brother. Only thing he has ever taught me that was worthwhile
 casino man
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Posted: 4/21/2005 9:26:46 PM
i hear ya kickin....
 YamIhere
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 4/21/2005 9:35:36 PM
Hey, another one that was suggested to me ... now mind you, this came from someone who isn't "all there" ... start talking to imaginary people. Apparently works like a charm.
 Passinthru
Joined: 2/3/2005
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 4/21/2005 10:04:19 PM
Married her
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 4/21/2005 10:07:57 PM

(Whew, that was a long story ... wonder if anyone will actually read the whole thing LOL)


I did (read it all that is) :D
and I think he should have been honest...his lie/ommission cost him a bus ticket.
 YamIhere
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Posted: 4/21/2005 10:17:39 PM
@Mommy of 2,
Read it, start to finish, and I have to observations: 1. That's a frightening story; 2. You write pretty well. So it flows from end to end.

My experience was similar in that, when I went to meet this woman she weighed at least 200 pounds more than the pics I saw. Even more frightening was a friend of mine, as it turned out, went to college with her and knew her from that time and assured me she was in fact the quite attractive woman in the pics. Honest to God, when I walked into the restaurant, I thought the woman waving to me was either waving to the person behind me or mistook me for someone else. Frightening.

And no, you're not cruel. I think many of us would have done the same thing.
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 4/21/2005 10:56:19 PM

Married her

passin', you poor baby this rounds on me
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 7/20/2008 12:53:03 AM
I admit to ducking a woman once, before the date even got started. This was back in prehistoric times (the 80s), but people were strange even before the internet came along.

We interacted on one of those telephone chatlines that were big before the world of online dating. After talking several times and getting to know each other, we made plans to meet at a restaurant near her house. Then the list of things I needed to do started. She wanted me to get there first and call her to let her know I was there, so she didn't have to wait for me. Odd I thought, but OK, not a big deal. Now its the night of the date and I get to the restaurant and call her on the payphone (another device from the Dark Ages). At this point she tells me her regular babysitter canceled, and she needed to get a backup on short notice. Since this will cost her money that she says she doesn't have, if I still want to see her, I need to pay for the babysitter (about $20). By now the first hint of alarm bells are going off in my head, but again I think, OK, I'm already here, and a single mom might not have much money, so what the hell. I tell her I'm sitting at the bar having a draft beer, and while we had previously given each other a basic description, something told me not to tell her exactly how I was dressed. She proceeds to tell me that she doesn't want me to wait at the bar for her since she doesn't feel comfortable having to come in and look for me, that she wants me to sit in the lobby til she comes in, or else she isn't coming. I agreed to that too and was told she'd be there in 15 min, but after hanging up the phone I decided this was all too weird for me. I sat at the bar and finished my beer quickly, then ordered a drink. I moved to the far end, where I could see the door easily enough. About 15 min later she came in; she was attractive enough, but I was so put off by her demands and insecurity at that point that I was no longer interested. She sat down and waited, and after a few minutes I decided to go to the men's room, which meant I had to walk right past her. She saw me coming and asked if my name was Joe, and I said no, you must have me mistaken with someone else, my name is Mike, and went into the head. When I came out she was gone.

I felt a little guilty afterwards, but in all those intervening years I've since heard of a scam where a woman is actually wacky enough to attempt to get her date to pay for her babysitter (usually they don't even have kids). Who knows, maybe she invented it...lol
 Happily Ever...maybe
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Posted: 7/20/2008 1:25:31 AM
^^^You may be right about the "social contract" aspect of it. It doesn't take too much effort to sit thru a date, unless they are rude or obnoxious, and at the end just tell them plainly that it was nice meeting them but that you didn't think there was enough common interest to merit a second date, and go your separate ways. It does suck when somebody pulls a stunt to leave a date; I once had a woman, after a pleasant (or so I thought) 3 hours together, go to the bathroom and not come back. I also had a woman do the fake phone call routine, where she had an emergency 15 minutes into our date. Its all rather childish, and I know how badly that made me feel, so I wouldn't do that to someone else. I'll go the honesty route, and if they can't handle that, well, its their own problem. I know I can walk away with a clean conscience.
 Frankycadillac
Joined: 5/1/2008
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Worst thing you ever did to get out of a date gone wrong...
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:40:19 AM
yah man, its far less cruel to just be open and out with it.

15 minutes is good enough, if you cant keep em past that then it just wasnt meant.

I dunno man, I just figure you cant do well if you got your balls cut off.
 Gourmetchef50
Joined: 11/24/2007
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Posted: 7/20/2008 7:20:53 AM
u should write a freckin' book there, bumblebee..goes to show you..(online)..dating..especially from afar..is full of surprises..
 misslindakansas
Joined: 8/3/2008
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Posted: 9/9/2008 1:57:57 AM
worst thing i did , hmm proably told him i got called into work , but most the time i try to atleast finsh the date i mean if he is nice enough to ask you out , and he is not trying to hurt you , then i say thank you when its done , and dont call him back
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