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Joined: 1/29/2007
Msg: 217
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hi dear
this is not true at all. all good men &women meet and they talk all about the future things ,past mistakes and successes etc . food ,small trip hugging ,kissing and sex at last if they like. sex is main attraction if it is not there no relation ship will last
good talk, food and sex are good part of a good relationship. no man will like one lady for going out and another lady for is natural and it must be from both side.
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 221
why SHOULDN'T men care about sex???
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:11:08 AM
Sex is only important when you're not getting any..

sort of like money, people who have lots, say "it's not that important"..

people suffering without beg to differ..

if you're familiar with Herzberg & Maslow's theories of motivation, sex is more of a "hygiene" factor, necesasry, but not 'motivating' ..

when you ask this question, are you sure they "only" care about sex?

or are you saying you HAVE friendship, relationship, etc..and they would like to have sex TOO..but you don't ?
Joined: 3/15/2007
Msg: 230
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/4/2007 5:48:48 PM
it's because you caught the boquet. Its the curse that goes along with it.

Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 248
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 4:54:39 PM
and what else is there? just kidding , but seriously... why do women only care about money, do you have a job, where can you take me...blah blah blah...not all men are like that, sure sex is a very important part of any relationship... if we did not want sex at all, then what would be the point of any relationship, i mean do you really want to hang around my garage all day, drink beer and help me pull a motor?
Joined: 6/5/2006
Msg: 249
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Posted: 8/17/2007 4:59:02 PM
this is the generation of guys who only want sex. 12 years ago when i was dating they wanted relationship and sex. But wait, it is the women who tell me they don't want a relationship and they only want sex from guys to which gives them the idea
we are all like that . I have a gf who says she only wants sex and free meals from a guy that is all she wants. WHen enough guys meet girls like her, they expect girls like us to be the same. Keep ur chin up, there will be a guy who wants u for the special person u are. I have guy friends who want a gf and marraige and they tell me the women are flaky and don't even show up for dates
Joined: 11/24/2005
Msg: 251
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Posted: 8/19/2007 2:39:23 PM
Hi faith,

Having sex without love leaves little noble sentiment. However we cannot ignore millions of years of evolution with noble sentiments. Nature is not interested in details no matter how much we were inculcated as children. It is the second imperative after survival.

It takes time to know someone and having sex too fast is a good way of finding yourself in a bad relationship. Being friends first has been the smartest approach despite our animalistic tendencies.

Good Luck,

 Flipper Jones
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 254
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:29:38 PM
If you are dating guys your age I'd say the answer is HORMONES.

Sex is a great bonus to a meaningful relationship. If the guys you are dating don't want to take the time to build the relationship I'd say you need to start dating older men.
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 256
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/29/2008 8:13:08 PM
White_Gardenia, i bow down to you. as an aspiring model myself i know EXACTLY what you are talking about can certainly relate..even with my fiancee by my side i still get the ogles and so does she and i also agree that is all about how you present yourself.

I also find that if you really want to make it look like your not interested...just say so. A guy can approach me and have an amazing conversation and still get turned down yet walk away with dignity.
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 259
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:08:06 AM
First of all take responsibility; I'm also sick of women that make dumb choices in men; believe every word they say, give up sex, then wonder when they finally see the truth. Pick better guys. Not all guys are like this. Choose responsibly.
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 281
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:22:35 PM
To be completely honest with you, I have no idea why men would want sex from you. However if you are asking in general, why men want sex from women? Well that is because we love it!! Now a question you might want to think about and answer for yourself, why do women what emotional involvement from men?
 untamed one
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 282
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:26:19 PM

why is it that every guy i meet or talk to automatically thinks i want sex from them? dont they know there is more to me then whats between my legs??? Im tired of being used by men for sex. Are there really any men out there that dont want women just for sex? I feel that sex is a bonus.... but only when both ppl are ready for it. Just because he is, does that mean i have to be as well?? This is an everyday thing i deal with and i would like to finally know why thats all men want me for.

Sex , Sex , Sex , every sentence has sex in it .. and what is between your legs must be amazingly different than the other 3 billion women on the planet ... congratulations by the way ..
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 283
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:42:17 PM
I didn't read all the replies here but I have a question that maybe a few ladies can answer. I'm a guy but after seeing/meeting someone say three or four times, they think I am not "interested" because I have not cooked them breakfast the next morning. Why is it that ladies complain when a guy respects them enough not to get pushy? Then they complain when we don't get pushy? I'm confused, which do they want? Do they REALLY want a guy that will take the time to get to know them first or not? I do agree with the OP tho, it a bonus. Sex is sex, making love is a whole new thing.

I've also noticed that some ladies say they are tired of games but then play them themselves. That's getting to be another of my pet peeves here. I mean really, if you get a message and you are planning to meet someone else, just say so and if it is meant to be, then get back to them later.

 4 U R IZ only
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 289
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Posted: 6/11/2008 7:16:24 AM
The older men all want the same thing.....most times it is all in their head....but it makes them feel good to 'think' they can make it with the younger the don't even want to bother with women their own age!!
 sweet aries
Joined: 6/28/2006
Msg: 291
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Posted: 6/11/2008 7:52:18 AM
Well, if that is all they want, then they are not the one for you. It takes time to build a trusting relationship for starters and getting to know one another. If they are not willing to do that then i venture to believe they are not worth it. Friends first then you can take it to the next level.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 297
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Posted: 6/11/2008 9:30:15 AM
Youre not sweetie, they are.
Its not just men, I guarantee you.
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 299
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:24:10 PM
Honestly,.. I like sex,.. I want sex,.. if you DON'T want sex,.. we, are incompatible.. it's simple. MY biological clock is ticking,.. just like yours. Like that stupid mail blocker "must NOT be looking for an intimate encounter" I'm ALWAYS looking for an intimate encounter. I don't need Viagra, Levetra,etc., etc... YET.. and I'd like to get all I can before I do! In my opinion,. when your sex drive dries up.. You are the salmon that swam upstream, beat the bears at the waterfall,.. deposited your mess, and are changing color, waiting to die. NOT ME! I'm hangin' out upstream waiting for the "late-comers" (pun intended) If you guys want to sit together, watch TV, play spades, checkers, read the latest best-seller on the couch together.. FINE!.. DO it. I'll find the pool of late-swimmers, or catch the young ones before they hit the open sea!
 Adam 4 Coffee
Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 304
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:52:54 PM
Just as we as people enjoy food we also enjoy sex. Its as natural as pooping or eating. People make a big deal out of it sometimes ebcuase they are prudes or saving themself for marriage due to religious reasons. Most guys don;t just want sex. They want a realtionship with lots of highly enjoyable sex! Just because a guy talks about sex and enjoys it does not mean he won;t take you out to dinner and treat you right. Or buy you flowers. Prince Charming is not a unich he has needs! Some men do use women for sex and they give the rest of us a bad name. Some women likewise tease men or even use them for sex as well. I;ve been used before its not always fun. Life is short have fun with it. go out to dinner or a movie, have sex then cudlle or get ice cream then cuddle. That sounds like a good time to me. Saving yourself for marriage si for religious freaks who pose a false modesty. We are all animals! Enjoy your youth while you have it. And where protection!
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 305
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:55:27 PM
sex is a part of it... but id much rather hug ya and hold ya during a bad day, than to force ya to gimme some... its give and take, and maybe looking in the wrong places.... just my thought
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 307
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:14:07 PM

It is getting to be more and more that there is nothing else women have to offer men, and I am stating this as a well thought out opinion, not as an insult to the female gender.

In that same spirit, let me flip that over...except men have nothing else but LOVE to offer women. Most of us support ourselves,take out our own trash, kill our own snakes. If we don't have a loving man in our lives at the moment, we have bob for our jollies.
And too many women think that giving sex quickly will create love. That's going at the whole thing bassackwards. I'm not saying that women should be "keeping their legs crossed until there's a ring on their finger". There's no TIMETABLE, and sex should not be used as a "bargaining chip". But a woman who participates in sex that she may not really WANT, thinking it's the road to a full fledged "relationship", is delusional. You have to take each situation on it's own merits( or lack of them!) and be prepared for the possibility that sex was in fact all he cared about.
So when you have sex with someone new, have a riproarin' good time with it, for it's own sake. Don't have it because you think it'll help further a "relationship."
And keep in mind that there ARE still guys out there that hold sex to be very special/sacred,and guys who STILL operate under a double standard.
Cindy O
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 320
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 5:56:33 PM
bretashly said: "Hey Demon Leather you made me laugh...for being refreshingly honest...but why do you limit yourself to "young ones" ? "
I DON'T! ... read it again,.. I think you'll see I said waiting for the "late comers" upstream(pun intended) which was my way of saying the old-ones ,. (almost dead, like me ) sometimes realize they ARE actually breathing, and start living live like they only have days left and their color is changing.
In reality,.. I think all this man/women just want sex crap, is just that...CRAP.
Of COURSE you want sex! Man, Women (or some place in between) One of the greatests gifts we have! 99% of the rest of the mammals have to breed by annual or semi-annual cycles,.. and by instinct. WE,. get to choose, share, enjoy, ANY time we see fit. People start putting different values & meanings on it due to religion, up-bringing, culture,..etc. etc. and muddy the whole beautiful thing up!
I'm sorry, I don't follow religion, political correctnes, or the witch-hunt to brand the masses with the "scarlet"A".. If you do,.. fine for you.. just stay out of my way while My partner and I enjoy ourselves... or you might get something on you.
PS: I like making people laugh,. it's another "good-thing".. don't think any of this was written for you, other than the explanation in the very first part. The rest is for the incessive whiners that don't know what to do with the testicles & ovaries God gave them... geeeze! talk about "Boo-Hooers!"
Joined: 4/18/2007
Msg: 323
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Posted: 6/13/2008 9:53:06 AM
I get so tired of women viewing all us men this way.We aren't all trying to get in women pants.I see nothing wrong with playful times if that is what you both want but my main purpose here is to find a female friend to do things with.If she's not looking for sex that ok with me.I'm getting tired of going to movies and the beach and doing stuff alone.
Joined: 10/7/2008
Msg: 326
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Posted: 11/5/2008 5:40:11 PM
I"d just like 2 say that im xcited evry day all the time but I definitly dont use the words or phrases or even actions that the opposite sex uses . And may I also add how easily they slip them in .LOL
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 334
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Posted: 11/7/2008 9:15:39 PM
Now here is a reallly positive answer. we are all not pigs please don't lump every male into the same group unless you would like to have it done to you. She is just dating the wrong type of guy .
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 338
why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:46:00 PM

the honest answer to this question is time invested. i know that sounds really bad but i can explain. a man will never try to date you or get to know you unless he has already desided he would love to have sex with you..

We GET that.
But it's the guy that's got his shorts on fire to get right to the "assisted masturbation" ASAP, and then magnificently floats off into the mystic,never to be heard from again,that makes having sex a decision that rests on more than just the words a man says with his mouth.
There are men out there who have undoubtedly been wronged by a woman,or women,who think they are perfectly justified to put on a big act to get sex, then shun her, because he's decided all women are alike and are only good for sex as a form of vengeance.
There are also good men who've been jerked around by their d*cks about one too many times, and if the lady in question has too slow a timetable, he decides she is another one of THOSE women, and he moves on.
It can be nearly impossible to figure out which kind of guy you are dealing with,so, my advice to women is, have sex when YOU want to,and be prepared for him to become a missing person afterward.
If he sticks around, mebbe you found a keeper.
Cindy O
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