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 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 38
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^^^^^^^^^^^^ What is your point? Maybe he is eyecandy and the women emailing him are dullards. Why do you find it so fascinating? He was fresh meat! You know what, we all have had a message not replied to for a myriad of reasons, wellwritten, stupidly written, illiterate, didnt read persons profile, whatever the reason. This is not a gender issue, this is a people issue. Search the many threads regarding this and you will see that everyone has a different take on whether they will respond or not, male or female. Generally people will not pony up the fact that they are an idiot in a public forum or lack social graces mostly because they dont know it, so if you are looking for someone to raise their hand and admit to this you will probably be waiting a while, male or female.

I will say that I have not responded to some emails that I am sure that the writer possibly believes is well written. I guess its a matter of perception?
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
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Posted: 4/11/2007 5:05:37 PM
at least once daily i get the following (or a reasonable facsimile thereof):

'are you nekkid on that horse??????????'
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 4/11/2007 7:09:47 PM
I believe that the OP was only speaking about her personal experience and since she will generally only get mail from men that is what she was basing her post on
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 42
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back
Posted: 4/12/2007 4:11:42 AM

WE DO WHAT WE WANT... SIMPLE AS THAT


Yeh and so do we - Hence this thread.


 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back
Posted: 4/12/2007 5:16:06 PM
"Well spoken also ... so has this thread actually figured anything out?" It depends, like anything written, you take from it what you can or if you don't find it applicable, you move on to read something else.
The OP has actually made some very valid points, in a humorous way, a talent not many have.
So you take from it what you do, laugh about it, say wow, that's right or just shrug and think well never had that happen and go read something else.
 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 44
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back
Posted: 4/12/2007 6:10:44 PM
Oh come on, everyone knows that its all about the looks......if one of those buffed supermodel type guys wrote you these short lazy messages most girls would definetely write back. Sure there are some women on this site that rate personality and email content more highly than looks, but they are few and far between.
 windowshopping04
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 4/13/2007 7:35:06 AM
Oh come on, everyone knows that its all about the looks......if one of those buffed supermodel type guys wrote you these short lazy messages most girls would definetely write back. Sure there are some women on this site that rate personality and email content more highly than looks, but they are few and far between.


If *I* receive a short, lazy message from a "buffed supermodel type", I automatically assume that the avatar picture is fake... => *next*

that's why content is so important to me...

can personality and content be faked, as well? yes - but it takes considerably more effort and intelligence... at the very least, it shows enough genuine interest and initiative on the writer's part to merit a response...

Excellent thread, OP - and a wonderful sense of humor, as well!
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 47
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:43:58 AM
If *I* receive a short, lazy message from a "buffed supermodel type", I automatically assume that the avatar picture is fake... => *next*


Oh yeh definitely!!! that reminds me of my other favourite email type, The one with the fake pciture of the buff hotty downloaded from Male Models inc, complete with trademark in the corner. Honesly if you are gonna fake a pic check it for copyright first..???


Oh come on, everyone knows that its all about the looks......if one of those buffed supermodel type guys wrote you these short lazy messages most girls would definetely write back.


No sorry not quite- . I have had some definite eye-candy email me and you know what - they are usually the key ones with the lazy emails going"" here is my msn - add me"" "Here is my number, call me""

me: oh wow really??? CAn I? can I ?can I? - oh god I am SOOOOO lucky and thrilled and priviliged you chose ME to bless with your written instructions. Oh I cant wait -where the phone..

Puh- leaseeee

I dont give a rats what the guy looks like he . He gets a polite thanks but no thanks
 betterlate
Joined: 12/22/2006
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Posted: 4/14/2007 3:11:35 AM
To the angry, pathetic... nomarriagedot com suggestion... Men that are in bad marriages with American women go searching for women in other countries because they don’t have a clue, or just don’t have any desire to be decent men. The women from other countries want your money and a green card, lots of those men end up robbed, dead, or the women do.

Lazy men that are angry at the world because swimsuit models are not throwing themselves at them,,, mad that the wife wont do what they want...or unsuccessful marriages in this country are the fault of the women and all can be cured with a foriegn wife... get a clue!!

Lots of people have the mind set of a perfect relationship and are disappointed when the reality of marriage (hard work) sets in. Dating is fun for the most part, but like a business, marriage takes work. To go for the weak, submissive, uneducated women from third world countries that will do what you say... when you say it, just shows that the man doesn’t want an adult relationship. He wants a power/control/abuse relationship... you know King of his own castle... almost as much as a fairy tale as the women looking for prince charming. NOT real...

If the OP wants to rant that some men on POF make a pathetic attempt at beginning a relationship with a HI, how r u? or less, then ****es about how women won't return the email...or expects that woman to begin chasing them, showering them with emails, love, sex and loyalty, then they are sadly mistaken.

In this country we are all free to do what we want, the roles for a married couple have changed drastically and things must be communicated up front for any marriage to work. No longer does a man NEED a woman for cooking (24 hr restaurants) housekeeping ( maid service), shopping (delivery, internet and catalogues), child care, or sex (prostitutes) and

Women, can own a home in their own name, own and run businesses, can also hire out most of the things a traditional husband would have done in the past... so the dynamics have all changed and temptations are running wild. Commercials on TV promising you will speak to a hot woman or man..., constant messaging that youth and sex are the only qualities worth while...and bombardment of commercials for cars, jewelry, expensive clothes with promises that if we buy "their" crap, we will be happy, successful, popular, envied, lusted after and the total babe magnet... what a load of crap.

This society is so stressed out. It takes more than just a HI, or a knock knock.. to get anything or anyone worthwhile. Why not make an effort?,,, it appears if the person male or female is not willing to make an effort in the beginning, it sends the message that they are lazy, dim, and looking for a miracle to take them away from the miserablle life they are leading... so... remember that anything valuable is going to be more difficult to achieve, the easier, the more common... less valuable..

Well that is my rant... I also have chuckled at the lame attempts at guys trying to spark interest...

I usually write back and say nicely that I am not interested. I should tell them to learn how to spell, a type error is understandable, yet when things are misspelled over and over, it just says... "I am under educated, don’t make much of an effort in anything... I will end up on the sofa, ****ing at you, complaining to the guys that I never get "any" I will let you do all the work... So, read my profile so I don’t have to type anything more than necessary and write me back if your interested and we can hook up... how about Saturday, I think your hot, I hope you like sex? Suuuuurrreeee... NOT.

Just because you are miserable, unsuccessful don’t try to get other men to join your little women-hating club... Yuk!
To the OP and all of the other funny posts,,,
BL
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 49
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back, gee I wonder why
Posted: 4/14/2007 12:48:59 PM

Men that are in bad marriages with American women go searching for women in other countries because they don’t have a clue, or just don’t have any desire to be decent men. The women from other countries want your money and a green card, lots of those men end up robbed, dead, or the women do.


Sister, tell it like it is!

Any frightened man who would resort to taking a mail-order bride from another country is NOT a man that strong willed, independent American women want anyway.
 TheBigID
Joined: 8/7/2006
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He won't message idiots either
Posted: 4/15/2007 10:33:30 AM
I admit, the messages in the OP are somewhat...stupid. But, I have to agree with Serious Sam, there's not much we can do to actually get someone's attention. At least you remembered those guys (not that I'm advocating complete, and total stupidity), where all of my messages have ended up in the virtual trashbin.

I've sent out plenty of messages which I think are similar to what Sam presented, and I've found that they quickly find themselves deleted with no response (more than a few unread/delete). In fact, I challenge you to find a guy who has had worse luck on here than I (okay, 8 guys). Sam makes a good point (regardless of what his profile picture may be), that largely seems to have been ignored: Being articulate, polite, and pointing out that we've actually read your profile, doesn't exactly win us any points either.

I think these guys have figured it out that it really doesn't matter what we put in the message, so why worry about grammar, spelling, typing full words, and talking the english real good (<-see what I did there? Its funny).

The point is, the strategy of the OP's lamented pack of idiot-like admirers is likely working out better than mine. They can send out a mass of emails that 99 recepient curse at, and will immediately delete (while 1 may respond), while I carefully craft an email to one select, and lucky person... that they will immediately delete. I completely understand why they send such moronic emails...it has better odds of getting someone's attention than my thoughtful email.
 SweetItalian174
Joined: 12/23/2006
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Posted: 4/15/2007 12:25:52 PM
I write very nice messages to women with good grammar and spelling, but still don't get any replies back. This site is a joke anymore. A lot of the profiles, the women are only half dressed, and then they wonder why the men want to talk about sex right off the bat.
 Karl the Hermit
Joined: 3/31/2007
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Posted: 4/15/2007 2:26:58 PM
Great thread, OP! You're quite the sassy, zombified, yinzer chick... If I were younger, I'd invite you to a nice picnic in a lovely, South Hills cemetary...

Let me add another to the list of "Why She'll Never Message You Back"...

-Because no matter how well matched you are, and no matter how well-crafted your message is, she just doesn't want to entertain the notion that your ugly mug will ever show up on her doorstep.
 Cheerful_Trousers
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/15/2007 5:50:27 PM
^ I wouldent really say that. I'm pretty decent looking and my pictures get me nowhere with any but the least attractive of women on this site.

OP- just for fun I'll look at your profile, write a message I'd normally write if I was interested in you, and you evaluate it on this thread. Be brutally honest, I'm dying to know.

EDIT: You wont accept messages from Canadians, you fascist :P
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 4/16/2007 5:54:44 AM
This is why she will never message you back:


Hi there sweety. You feeling adventurous?...how would you like to have a little cam fun...I watch and you enjoy...free your mind and body and let me guide you to fulfill your deepest fanasties. Look at you...sitting in front of your computer...alone...maybe looking at some porn...feeling hot and wanting someone inside...your breasts begin to swell and your nipples are becoming sensitive...your moving around in your chair...feeling the heat between your legs...you can't control yourself any longer...you begin to squeeze your breasts...come with me to the next level...


Just what every intelligent woman needs: some idiot with a cam.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 55
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back, gee I wonder why
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:34:32 AM
My English teacher soul recoils.
 Jaymz70
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:41:17 PM
LOL! I enjoyed your rant. I myself never use text language, except when I am actually texting on my cell phone, and that's only because the message space is limited. Honestly, I have yet to suffer any physical damage from taking the extra time to write words out in full.

Also, whenever I send an e-mail/message to a woman I am interested in communicating with, I try to say something interesting or complimentary--such as, "Hey, what a beautiful smile!" or "Your eyes are very hypnotic," or even, "Gosh, you have amazing curves!" Or I will say what I liked about her profile, or ask her particular questions. For instance, if I see that she likes music, I will ask her what kind of music does she like, or what bands are her favorite? Does she like movies? I will ask her what her favorite movie is, and share with her my favorites as well. Does she like dining out? What kind of restaurants does she prefer?

I refrain from saying anything sexual. A good rule--never write in a message anything that you would get you slapped for saying to a woman.

Of course the danger of presenting myself as a gentleman is that I will get perceived as a "nice guy." And as we all know, women don't like "nice guys," because "nice guys" are boring. I'll rant about that at some point in the future, but for now, I just wanted to give you props for your rant, and I hope I helped someone out there with ideas on how to present yourself to a woman when initiating communication.

Peace, love, and chocolate chip cookies to all!

 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:41:23 PM
Dude, you say:


"Gosh, you have amazing curves!"


to women whom you meet on the street or in other places???
 windowshopping04
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 4/24/2007 9:10:49 AM
Hey Tenz and DRG,

It seems to me that whether you're female or male, if you are very attractive and/or active in the forums, you become a moving target for "fantasies" to be built around... you become "popular" with some portion of the populace! I think it is a phenomenon which occurs to members of both genders, but especially to those who seem exceptional by virtue of their appearance, their humor, or their intellect - God help you if you have all three in abundance!

While I'm sure it's frustrating (you'll notice *I* don't have that problem), take it as a sign that you are desirable... even if you aren't getting responses from your desired targets, yet (hopefully they'll come around?!?).

Would you really rather languish in total anonymity? (ok, the answer might be yes... better to be anonymous than to draw predators or scavengers, eh?)
 Jonathan85
Joined: 4/16/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 4/24/2007 12:32:04 PM
"Guys! Read this, ponder on it, and LEARN from it!"

No, you don't really want that! Think about it! Imagine that those guys learn how to mask themselves by becoming literate. Oh no! Then you gals are going to have spend time figuring out who's really worth your while. The way it is now, it only takes you a couple of seconds.

Guys do this too. We all, gals and guys, tend to focus on the losers, wishing that they'd be winners, rather than on being happy that losers identify themselves as such so that we can move on and know that we're leaving the losers behind.


Let's compare ZombieBovine's first example:
hey how r u?. would love to talk to u some more, i do have more pics also, write back am very interested:) where in pitts? im bout 20min from robinson twp. very nice pics u have there. well write back off to work out


With a typed out and grammatically correct equivalent.
Hello, how are you? You are very attractive.

Where in Pittsburgh are you from? I'm about twenty minutes from Robinson Twp.

I would love to talk to you. Unfortunately I have to head off to work. I didn't want to lose your profile, and I didn't want to just add you to my favorites list.

I have some pictures up if you would like to see them.

Bye,
-Sender's name here


I don't think that was much better. It was just easier to read. Just because someone can spell and use good grammar doesn't mean they can spontaneously figure out how to include appropriate content.

But I understand your point CreativGuy, there is no reason to make it harder to sift between the chaff and the wheat.
 CrystallineSunshine
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:58:31 PM
Best. Post. Ever.

Seriously. This should be in 'Online Dating for Dummies', if there is such a thing.

Ha ha!

And can I add to that... that I don't reply to...

'Hey! Love the ad!!'

... because most those men, havent' even read my 'ad' ... aka, my PROFILE. I don't get it. What does that mean anyways? Sound like something someone says just to break the ice.


 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 4/25/2007 10:44:36 AM

Bottom line guys.
It isn't whether you write one line, one paragraph, one page or a whole book. If you are not the one she wants to hear from you are SOL.

Exactly ....or there are many other reasons you don't get a response.....it's just a mail and it's not a big deal.
 CrystallineSunshine
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 66
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back, gee I wonder why
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:34:43 PM
"it's just a mail and it's not a big deal."

Well said!!!

I often wonder why people get so upset over not getting a reply to their 'ice breaker' ... because, that's what that is... it's an ice breaker. I do think when you say something childish, stupid or creepy, you do discourage a reply, and shouldn't expect one. But, it's just a message, from one stranger to another. If they don't answer, check the ocean and see what other 'fish' is out there for you to cast the hook out to. To ne honest... a lot of times it's better to get NO reply, then some kind of rejection message anyways!!!

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