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 SweetItalian174
Joined: 12/23/2006
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I write very nice messages to women with good grammar and spelling, but still don't get any replies back. This site is a joke anymore. A lot of the profiles, the women are only half dressed, and then they wonder why the men want to talk about sex right off the bat.
 Karl the Hermit
Joined: 3/31/2007
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Posted: 4/15/2007 2:26:58 PM
Great thread, OP! You're quite the sassy, zombified, yinzer chick... If I were younger, I'd invite you to a nice picnic in a lovely, South Hills cemetary...

Let me add another to the list of "Why She'll Never Message You Back"...

-Because no matter how well matched you are, and no matter how well-crafted your message is, she just doesn't want to entertain the notion that your ugly mug will ever show up on her doorstep.
 Cheerful_Trousers
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/15/2007 5:50:27 PM
^ I wouldent really say that. I'm pretty decent looking and my pictures get me nowhere with any but the least attractive of women on this site.

OP- just for fun I'll look at your profile, write a message I'd normally write if I was interested in you, and you evaluate it on this thread. Be brutally honest, I'm dying to know.

EDIT: You wont accept messages from Canadians, you fascist :P
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 4/16/2007 5:54:44 AM
This is why she will never message you back:


Hi there sweety. You feeling adventurous?...how would you like to have a little cam fun...I watch and you enjoy...free your mind and body and let me guide you to fulfill your deepest fanasties. Look at you...sitting in front of your computer...alone...maybe looking at some porn...feeling hot and wanting someone inside...your breasts begin to swell and your nipples are becoming sensitive...your moving around in your chair...feeling the heat between your legs...you can't control yourself any longer...you begin to squeeze your breasts...come with me to the next level...


Just what every intelligent woman needs: some idiot with a cam.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 55
Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back, gee I wonder why
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:34:32 AM
My English teacher soul recoils.
 Jaymz70
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:41:17 PM
LOL! I enjoyed your rant. I myself never use text language, except when I am actually texting on my cell phone, and that's only because the message space is limited. Honestly, I have yet to suffer any physical damage from taking the extra time to write words out in full.

Also, whenever I send an e-mail/message to a woman I am interested in communicating with, I try to say something interesting or complimentary--such as, "Hey, what a beautiful smile!" or "Your eyes are very hypnotic," or even, "Gosh, you have amazing curves!" Or I will say what I liked about her profile, or ask her particular questions. For instance, if I see that she likes music, I will ask her what kind of music does she like, or what bands are her favorite? Does she like movies? I will ask her what her favorite movie is, and share with her my favorites as well. Does she like dining out? What kind of restaurants does she prefer?

I refrain from saying anything sexual. A good rule--never write in a message anything that you would get you slapped for saying to a woman.

Of course the danger of presenting myself as a gentleman is that I will get perceived as a "nice guy." And as we all know, women don't like "nice guys," because "nice guys" are boring. I'll rant about that at some point in the future, but for now, I just wanted to give you props for your rant, and I hope I helped someone out there with ideas on how to present yourself to a woman when initiating communication.

Peace, love, and chocolate chip cookies to all!

 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:41:23 PM
Dude, you say:


"Gosh, you have amazing curves!"


to women whom you meet on the street or in other places???
 windowshopping04
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 4/24/2007 9:10:49 AM
Hey Tenz and DRG,

It seems to me that whether you're female or male, if you are very attractive and/or active in the forums, you become a moving target for "fantasies" to be built around... you become "popular" with some portion of the populace! I think it is a phenomenon which occurs to members of both genders, but especially to those who seem exceptional by virtue of their appearance, their humor, or their intellect - God help you if you have all three in abundance!

While I'm sure it's frustrating (you'll notice *I* don't have that problem), take it as a sign that you are desirable... even if you aren't getting responses from your desired targets, yet (hopefully they'll come around?!?).

Would you really rather languish in total anonymity? (ok, the answer might be yes... better to be anonymous than to draw predators or scavengers, eh?)
 Jonathan85
Joined: 4/16/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 4/24/2007 12:32:04 PM
"Guys! Read this, ponder on it, and LEARN from it!"

No, you don't really want that! Think about it! Imagine that those guys learn how to mask themselves by becoming literate. Oh no! Then you gals are going to have spend time figuring out who's really worth your while. The way it is now, it only takes you a couple of seconds.

Guys do this too. We all, gals and guys, tend to focus on the losers, wishing that they'd be winners, rather than on being happy that losers identify themselves as such so that we can move on and know that we're leaving the losers behind.


Let's compare ZombieBovine's first example:
hey how r u?. would love to talk to u some more, i do have more pics also, write back am very interested:) where in pitts? im bout 20min from robinson twp. very nice pics u have there. well write back off to work out


With a typed out and grammatically correct equivalent.
Hello, how are you? You are very attractive.

Where in Pittsburgh are you from? I'm about twenty minutes from Robinson Twp.

I would love to talk to you. Unfortunately I have to head off to work. I didn't want to lose your profile, and I didn't want to just add you to my favorites list.

I have some pictures up if you would like to see them.

Bye,
-Sender's name here


I don't think that was much better. It was just easier to read. Just because someone can spell and use good grammar doesn't mean they can spontaneously figure out how to include appropriate content.

But I understand your point CreativGuy, there is no reason to make it harder to sift between the chaff and the wheat.
 CrystallineSunshine
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 64
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:58:31 PM
Best. Post. Ever.

Seriously. This should be in 'Online Dating for Dummies', if there is such a thing.

Ha ha!

And can I add to that... that I don't reply to...

'Hey! Love the ad!!'

... because most those men, havent' even read my 'ad' ... aka, my PROFILE. I don't get it. What does that mean anyways? Sound like something someone says just to break the ice.


 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 4/25/2007 10:44:36 AM

Bottom line guys.
It isn't whether you write one line, one paragraph, one page or a whole book. If you are not the one she wants to hear from you are SOL.

Exactly ....or there are many other reasons you don't get a response.....it's just a mail and it's not a big deal.
 CrystallineSunshine
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 66
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Posted: 4/25/2007 2:34:43 PM
"it's just a mail and it's not a big deal."

Well said!!!

I often wonder why people get so upset over not getting a reply to their 'ice breaker' ... because, that's what that is... it's an ice breaker. I do think when you say something childish, stupid or creepy, you do discourage a reply, and shouldn't expect one. But, it's just a message, from one stranger to another. If they don't answer, check the ocean and see what other 'fish' is out there for you to cast the hook out to. To ne honest... a lot of times it's better to get NO reply, then some kind of rejection message anyways!!!

 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 4/25/2007 3:44:23 PM
.... there really is no such thing as rejection on the internet .....it is too impersonal to be a true rejection ....
I think not getting a response back is only just a waste of your typing ...but ....there's way too much typing on here and not enough real life....so I really try to avoid too much "virtual" anyway.
....I often lose interest very quickly if I feel she is into a long mailing thing ..it's just a bore and that probably shows in my mail. lol
...the forums are typing but somehow it's more satisfying. (-:
 windowshopping04
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 68
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Posted: 4/25/2007 6:59:43 PM

OT: Why’ll She’ll Never Message You Back ....Why this DUDE will Never Message You Back....why can't we all just massage each others back?


(WS04 perks up, tilts head to listen more intently...) Did someone say massage???

That's an idea that could functionally provide a positive outcome to the question "Why can't we all just get along?"

OTOH... some of the ladies here are already a little concerned about some of the gents' allusions to "hot rocks"...

 windowshopping04
Joined: 3/10/2006
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Posted: 4/28/2007 12:00:35 AM
Tenz,

you might be onto something... piquing someone's curiosity is always a good first step in trying to establish a dialog... hope it works for you!

At the very least, you have minimized your effort, and, hopefully, your frustration level. If it works, you can "patent" the technique!
 Cheerful_Trousers
Joined: 3/28/2007
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:07:05 AM

I don't know why people have to be nasty to each other. I have this back from a guy who does not much compatibility with me...


Not compatible as in... he was not good looking and pushover?
 HillbillyDiva1
Joined: 10/1/2007
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:04:35 AM
At another personal site I put on my profile that I would not respond to men that didn't fit my match criteria. I still get a few a day anyway which I just delete. One guy emailed me with a very graphic description of how beautiful I was and how he wanted to make love to me. He didn't have a pic on his profile he was way above my age limit and he live a lot farther away than my match distance. So I deleted it and the next day he emailed again saying he was waiting for my reply. Of coarse I deleted this one too then the next day he emailed me calling me all kinds of names for not replying to him. Why is the world would any women want to get involved with a man that would fly off the handle this easily?
 strong_hands
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:30:37 AM
Here's the sad reality.
I think my a key is sticking.... :-) But more critical than that. Messages can only break the ice. No matter how well someone writes... even if they have the chance to run it through the handy dandy spell check. Its not in real time... and its not their voice reading the email its yours. Which sucks....because well it just sucks :-)

Anyhooo... and I use that in the lamest way that I can think of... Everything is a "trick of the tail" When it comes to online dataing / etc you never know what you are going to get. You may get that perfect message.. only to find out that the sender is a closet 24 hour computer user choc full of Mcdonalds Big Macs with a great command of the cut and paste function in windows. Or the other side the sad quick and dead "text" from someone who can string 768 words together ...Alot like that Forest Gump box of chocolates thing.

But its all in fun

I choose to not be responsible for any spelling errors on this page
 DuneTiger
Joined: 10/10/2007
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Posted: 10/17/2007 6:53:16 PM
How about posting things that you DO respond to?

All the messages I have sent in my short time here have been, for lack of a better word, cordial. I tend to respond to people who I am both attracted to in their photos and people that have terrific profiles (normally a combination of both) and really just comment on things that interest me in their write-ups.

They're very clearly read and discarded, which doesn't really bother me in the long run, but I'm just curious as to what kind of messages you all have responded to and whether or not it went anywhere, guys and gals alike.
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 10/17/2007 7:37:23 PM
It doesn't matter how good a man's profile or email is. If she isn't attracted to him or if she doesn't think that he is compatible with her or if she is too picky or whatever, then most likely she won't respond to him.
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