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 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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When ever I go on a date I always ask the dress code, and I dressed according to the man's wearing.

P.S. If the dinner date is on me, I tell my date what I am wearing and they kowtow with me. But if they are paying I asked the dress code, they bark at me ~~~ guy: "Iam not dressing up!!!
 sammylg
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 101
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/18/2010 7:21:50 AM
Here's a sideline question:

What are tennis shoes? I hear that alot on this thread. I remember wearing tennis shoes in the 1980's (plain white runners with flat soles) but the term isn't used very much nowadays.

Now there are basketball shoes (mid cuts), cross trainers/runers and street sneakers as main atheletic wear nowadays. Where do Tennis shoes come in?
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 104
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/18/2010 8:18:58 AM
To me it depends on what day it is, if I meet someone after work I may be in scrubs. This hasn't happened yet, because I don't usually schedule dates for after work.
If a man meets me after work, my guess is he will be in his work clothes.
If it is a day off than I would like to see him well groomed, it doesn't matter if he is in jeans and a t-shirt as long as they are clean and he has combed his hair.
 CookieLady66
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 107
What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 9:41:04 AM
I find nothing hotter than a guy wearing Levi's that are worn nearly white in the seat & knees!! I guess I'm "strange", but I really don't care for suits or polyester slacks...ick.

Gimme a redneck in Levi's any day...as long as he can hold up his end of the conversation!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 108
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What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 10:52:40 AM
When a person is in social meet,s/he has to make an effort to look presentable whether it is casual or semi formal attires.

Sometimes my job was productions,that my uniform is black jeans and smocks, but when ever I have a date or meet people for socializing /dental appointment ect.., I bring a change of clothes to work and washed and changed in the company's restroom.

Even your face or body or attitude is sexy if you have no presentation you are nothing to others,especially to the opposite Sex....



P.S. People gauge you on what you have and what you are....
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 109
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What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 1:01:39 PM
i favor an eyepatch, a Depend and one galosh for first meets at starbucks, and invariably the lady wants to do me right there against the muffin case.
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
Msg: 110
What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 3:43:38 PM
I didn't get a chance to read all 7 pages worth but read the first page and yes, this has happened to me too many times to count and it's irritating as hell! Especially the ball cap thing! I want to just yell at them, "do you honestly think I am attracted to you like that and do you think I am ever going to want to go out with you again, you MORON!?!?" I've even joked with them about how they should take it off, we are indoors, blah, blah, blah, blah and they will sit there and defend their nastiness. That's when my eyes glaze over and I'm counting the minutes until I can run for the door. Is it because we live in the South, God forbid, please don't say it....I live in a big city for crying out loud! OP, if you'd like to gripe about it further, feel free to write to me, we can talk about it some more when we are bored....LOL!
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 111
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What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 5:37:32 PM

I have had several dates like this. I wear nice clothes, fix my hair, wear a little makeup on a blind date, and he shows up dressed like he's going to a tractorpull. I'm from the south and there alot of rednecks here but do they always have to wear a baseball hat and tennis shoes. Do they own a pair of khakis? Are they afraid to show they have a bald spot? Whats the deal. Anyone else have this problem?
If this happens to you, and you aren't happy with it, then it seems to me that there is a huge discrepancy between the type of people you go on a date with, and the type of people you want to go on a date with.

Me? I prefer to dress down for a date.

I dress up for people I am trying to impress, like a boss. My reason for having a job is to earn money. If I like the job, I stay. If I don't, I just give notice. Usually, the company would rather not have me on the premises if I am not happy to stay. So I usually get severance pay and am expected to leave on the spot. I don't care what they think of me. Once I'm gone, I don't expect to see them again. So for my purposes, I just want to get in to the job, and if I have to dress up just to get them to accept me, then I don't care.

With a woman, I'm trying to form an honest relationship. I do want to care about her. I do want to be around. I don't want to just "give notice" when I'm not happy. I want to work things through. So my reasoning is that honesty and commitment are more important. I want her to see me as I am. If we are going somewhere swanky, where black tie is required, then I wear a suit. If it's casual wear, then I wear casual.

If I was really just trying to get in her knickers, then I might consider wearing a suit. If that gets her motor running, then I guess it might be a good thing. But I wouldn't expect it to last. She's not dating me. She's dating her impression of me. That's someone else. Eventually, she'll get to know the real me. Then she'll realise she didn't get to know me at all.

But maybe I'm just not being realistic. Maybe I should treat women the way I treat jobs. There for as long as I need them, and not a second more.
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
Msg: 114
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/18/2010 8:25:44 PM
CW35, you seem like a well dressed guy who "gets it"...we are talking about your basic "Bubba" who hasn't got a clue and when he say's he's dressin' up for a date, he mean's his cleanest baseball cap and shirt with the fewest holes! You think I'm kidding and I wish to GOD that I was! I've been out with a few too many of these guys!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/18/2010 9:02:33 PM

If I was trying just to get to her knickers, then I might consider wearing a suit. If that gets her motor running, then I guess it might be a good thing . But I would n't expect it to last. She's not dating me.. ""She's dating the impression of me.""....


I thought if you want to get into a woman's knickers you have to get her drunk and take her to Motel 7 lol.
Wearing a suits or blazer and slacks is not really a big deal if you are going to a nice place even a Star Buck at the Nugget Casino in Sparks NV..
It is common attire to some women like me. Unless you are going kayaking,fishing or skiing dates,then you don't wear suit or blazer/slacks...
I just wonder who are those women that are so impressed of men wearing a suit or blazer and* not the person* ? Are they street sweepers or working at MacDonald ?
No pun intended ,I am just curious....
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 116
What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/19/2010 11:26:48 AM
I got bored after page 3 or 4 lol

I think its VERY funny how most women jumped to the conclusion that this guy came unshaven, unkempt, dirty, smelly, ratty etc, from her saying he showed up in baseball hat and jeans +tennis shoes.

that's hilarious...also if you look at many men's fashion magazines, dark jeans, can be dressed up or down, they can be paired with a blazer/sport coat, or white sneakers (not the alien wear, but say a nice plain white K-swiss) or casual dress shoes...many top designers and celebs wear this exact look.

its not 1950's where jeans were WORK clothes, jeans nowadays are made in different cuts, colours, etc, and can be worn for almost anything ( save white and black tie affairs)

Yoodle to be honest, you are in your 50's and seem kind of uppity/uber-religious...so im not surprised at your outlook on clothing...but thats not current trend...you might have luck with Ahmish/mormons.

I'm with the guy who dislikes button down shirts. Don't get me wrong I own several button down shirts, some are issued to me by my government (dress uniform) but i find them uncomfortable, and not very flattering, because i'm a bodybuilder I have to get them big to they fit my shoulders but then they are baggy and LONG around the stomach/waist. the ONE shirt I have that looks mildly good is an 85$ guess shirt, that I have to basically squeeze my arms into lol

Also khakis?? seriously...I don't even own a pair, and apart from my dress uniform I also don't own any dress pants...god rid of them after I left Catholic High school.

First date for me is usually casual, so jeans, polo shirt (not baggy ripped ill-fitting jeans)

So you'd rather have a man, pretend to be something he's not by showing up looking/wearing stuff he doesn't normally do, you'd rather he lie to you, then know the real person?? I'm a jeans and T-shirt kind of guy, hell I love my sweats too...HATE TIES and would be freaked out by a chica who dressed to the nines on a first date....
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/19/2010 3:38:34 PM
I wear jeans pants~ skirts/blazer very savvy ,though I am in my 50+ I am not a typical oldie. when going on a date I wear attires that compliment my date, rugged to casual or formal.:peace
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 118
What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/20/2010 12:35:33 PM

"do you honestly think I am attracted to you like that and do you think I am ever going to want to go out with you again, you MORON!?!?" I've even joked with them about how they should take it off, we are indoors, blah, blah, blah, blah and they will sit there and defend their nastiness. That's when my eyes glaze over and I'm counting the minutes until I can run for the door. Is it because we live in the South, God forbid, please don't say it....I live in a big city for crying out loud! OP, if you'd like to gripe about it further, feel free to write to me, we can talk about it some more when we are bored....LOL!


Nah ..you can belly ache about how stupid and beneath you men are and how you are expected to travel to meet men and they are bums all alone..littledove.

It isn't rocket science.

let me repeat
Gawd..How complicated does life HAVE to be?

You make a date, coffee or dinner( whatever) and say "I plan on wearing such and such, what will you be wearing?"

It is the polite thing to do, saves you both from being over or under dressed.

Also helps you recognize them." I will be the long haired woman in a black turtle neck and red skirt, how will I recognize you"?

If he says "the dude in jean shorts and git r dun cap"..Well, you may suggest an alternative or just go ahead and break the date if it is that big of a deal.


I happen to LIKE to be casual in jeans and a sweater first meet. So much pressure people put on people without having to look like I just stepped out of a Vogue magazine first date.

Just think and be considerate.
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 120
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/20/2010 5:26:32 PM
this is why i stopped wearing casual clothes like sneakers, caps, and loose jeans last year. i now wear tall boots, tight jeans, and good looking shirts.
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 122
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/21/2010 7:41:44 AM
Well in your case sugania, just specifying exactly where or what kind of drink would have solved everything.

I know like many other guys here, if a woman asks me what i'm wearing before the date, red flags, UNLESS we've gone on dates, and i'm not telling her what we're doing, and she's asking me so she can dress appropriately. But for first date....not so much.

Main reason I don't want to know what they are going to wear or vice versa, is because I want her to be herself, and me be myself, and if either of us doesn't like what we get...then at least we know off the bat. like someone once said, be with someone not to change them but because you want to be with them. I hate suits and ties...whoever winds up with me is gonna deal with it...not to say I don't wear them for the appropriate event.

Agreed on all points, no matter what you wear, make sure you are showered, your clothes are CLEAN, not wrinkled (unless its those wrinkley material shirts) iron if need be, and just make sure its YOUR style and comfy.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 123
What is the proper garb for a first date?
Posted: 1/23/2010 7:27:14 AM
David said: " favor an eyepatch, a Depend and one galosh for first meets at starbucks, and invariably the lady wants to do me right there against the muffin case. "

Don't forget a five oclock shadow from working all night and a dazed and confused smile!


 perfectly_me
Joined: 8/16/2009
Msg: 125
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/23/2010 3:30:49 PM
I'm the same way. I take my time getting ready to look nice and if a man shows up looking like he just rolled out of bed it's a turn off to say the least. I once went out with this guy to dinner on a first date and he showed up looking like he was about to go hunting. He had on camouflage pants and a t shirt with a deer on it. LOL
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/23/2010 5:44:42 PM
^^^^^ HAHAHAHA!!!!


I love it - the underwear was Harley. LOL!!

Oh God.


Actually - Im meeting some friends tonight to hear a band.
Im thinking - you know what - Im sick and fccking tired of looking all
gorgeous. Fcck it - I got on my Uggs, jeans a sweatshirt and a turtleneck
for warmth.

Screw it. Im sick of looking like a doll for fccking nothing.

But hey its real life. Maybe I will meet someone tonight who likes
me in Uggs.


[QUOTE]Yep.. primarily here for the Forums. Meeting people the 'old fashioned way' of Real Life stumbling into, is more my suit, ty. Woo... [/QUOTE]
Amen sista.
 girlie1smile
Joined: 9/20/2009
Msg: 131
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/24/2010 5:35:40 PM
I can honestly say I am a GIRLIE GIRL and I always wear perfume, lipstick. a pearl bracelet and heels. That is just me! I would not be me if I did not dress this way. I also wear the same with jeans, not heels if at a park 0r ball field. My dates wear anything from dress pants to jeans and tennis shoes. BUT I will have to say, if he wears a ball cap all of the time, he is just NOT my style. I think it is a matter of how you were brought up and the respect for yourself and others. Men DO CARE how us women dress, they SAY they don't but for the most, they love a GIRLIE GIRL, and if us GIRLIE GIRLS want to go to a formal event, then OUR jeans and HIS tennis shoes and hat just does NOT CUT IT! It truly is whats INSIDE a person NOT what they wear, however guys, what do you prefer??? A FLANNEL NIGHT SHIRT or A SEXY PINK AND WHITE NIGHTY ON YOUR GIRLIE GIRL????!!!!!!??????
 seperate1
Joined: 1/21/2010
Msg: 132
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/25/2010 7:52:24 AM
maybe the guys are just casual dressers, some people prefer to be casual unless they have to be anything else; if that is the case you just need to find someone else to date because it seems to be an issue w/u.

your not wrong for asking or for having an issue w/it; but unless your going somewhere that his clothing is inappropriate, alot of men aren't gonna have an issue w/being casual; so either specify you want him to dress nice, go someplace that demands he dresses nice, or move on.
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 136
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/25/2010 11:03:52 AM
Girlie: there's a limit to how girlie girl you can be until it becomes annoying.
and as to your question of sleep apparel...NEITHER....she better be buck naked.
 HappyColors
Joined: 12/8/2009
Msg: 138
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/25/2010 1:13:02 PM
There is a special type of guys who SLEEP in their ball cups, hanging on bottle of beer.
Hate this type.
You can sort them out before meeting by looking at the picture. If he is in his ball cup and/or you see the bottles of beer on the background, chances are you are looking at one of them.

:))
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 141
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Posted: 1/26/2010 6:58:44 AM
FilmMaker: wow dude you are reading WAY to much into the situation....what do you wear to a coffee shop for a first time meet? tuxedo??

Only time I dress up is if the occasion completely calls for it otherwise JEANS...although they are clean and nice untorn jeans...and i'm not trying to ONE UP anyone.
 mcalgary
Joined: 11/10/2009
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I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/26/2010 10:37:48 AM
I think she just wants to see that the other person is trying to make a good impression. She asked if they had Khaki's not a 3 piece suit.

I think that when you are meeting someone for the first time with the intention of possibly dating them that you put some effort into it. Jeans are OK with a half decent shirt I would think, but a ball cap. How old are we here?? Maybe these guys are looking for a hook-up and not someone to actually date?
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 144
I dressed nice, he wore a baseball hat and sneakers...
Posted: 1/26/2010 10:54:27 AM
Agreed on the ball cap.

Nothing wrong with jeans, its not 1950 anymore...there all lots of styles of jeans.
Can tell you right now, other then my uniforms I don't own anything other then jeans, and sweats (and 1 suit)...I've got different styles/colours of jeans for different occasions, but that's about it.

how is casual not respectful?? you baffle me with yet another weird post. You can go ahead and pretend to be something you're not, or make wild assumptions about others based on their different sense of fashion as you, that's your entitlement but its silly.

I'm going to a coffee shop not a fancy/ritzy dinner, I won't wear a button down shirt, or a sport coat/blazer...i'm not grandpa or a pompous country club guy...i'm gonna wear a polo shirt, some nice jeans, and either white Kswiss, or some kind of casual shoe. That's ME...that's not some stupid POWER/mind play theory you have, that's what I WEAR, what i'm comfortable in.

Just like you wanna dress to the nines for a simple coffee date, thats your choice, but i'm not trying to invent some weird psycho-somatic/sub-conscious reasoning for it.
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