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 preaches
Joined: 4/20/2009
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Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?Page 4 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
yes i do think men expect the women to dress in sexy lingerie. it shows that they intimately care. Most men i guess! are turn on by the idea that their women not only need them, but make such great efforts to make themselves sexually attractive and desirable. In addition, it does make you feel very special as a man.
 marriednindy
Joined: 10/24/2008
Msg: 144
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/14/2009 5:43:38 PM
sexy lingerie and/or intimate apparel is very sexy. I would prefer my friends in this type of outfit.
 kms_19
Joined: 6/21/2006
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Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/14/2009 6:11:57 PM
Only started reading a bit of the thread, but I just felt compelled to say that different clothing other than lingerie could be a turn-on for a guy. I think it would be awesome to see the person i'm about to sleep with come in wearing nothing but my hockey jersey. Mmmmm, sexy. Lol. Well, a clean, home-team jersey that hasn't been worn at a game is probably better though, but it's the thought that counts.
Thoughhhhhh, for me, I love seeing a girl wearing heels, stockings, garter, and maybe even a bodice. For the most part, I would just want her to leave on the stockings though in the end, real sexy and sleek. Preferably with make-up on and such, like after a romantic dinner or something.
 lovinvixen
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 146
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 3:16:39 PM
Men just like women have fetishes. And with some of the men I've dated it's as though they can't get that excited unless she is accenting her curves, no matter how desireable she is to them, without provacative lingerie of his taste!

Don't get me wrong, I'd only wear it for my husband: providing he will hurry up and show himself!

But we girls get in the mood strutting around the house in lingerie as well. And a few of us wear sexy lingerie just in case we are in a vehicle accident and a good looking surgeon is removing our clothes while we are unconscious!

Believe me girls don't even tell me that you have never noticed the 'horn-dogs' re-action when you wear a short skirt or revealing blouse around town! Just think of the effect it has in underthings around the home!
 Lup
Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 147
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 6:06:17 PM
Hi all,

I expect it. Nothing better than keeping that sensuality burning. It just adds wood to the fire. Nothing better than having your woman wear a short skirt, and then drop something on the floor, as if by mistake, just by her foot, opening her legs to show u that she isn't wearing anything underneath. Or, wearing a low cut blowse n bending fowards placing her breast right in front of ur face. It is tantalizing! n the flirting keeps the fire going and the love alive... once a woman doesn't feel desired, then she doesn't feel sexy, the the realationship is close to over... and if not over, it will get boring.

i need and expect a woman to keep the fire going!
 gingerpoodi
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 148
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 6:30:43 PM
My ex husband loved it on me! The last guy I met on POF, I bought a really nice red nighty, and u know what he said? "Why are u wearing that, it's just gonna come off, u can wear a t-shirt, it don't matter 2 me". That crushed me, Guess what I don't date him anymore!
 gingerpoodi
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 149
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 6:33:05 PM
Exactly, we (men/women) all need a little attention and complimenting sometimes.
 danzandsing
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 150
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:04:44 PM
No, (as a man) I don't think I expect it. I certainly appreciate the opportunity to enjoy how the contours of a woman's body are displayed.

The real intimacy is watching her dress, (if you're a couple) when you're dressing to go out for an evening. Watching how a woman brings her splendor together is both funny and amazing.

Danz
 Lup
Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 151
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:13:34 PM
you see, i want to be desired.. n a woman wearing sexy intimate apparel shows that she wants me.. n that is a huge complement and a turn on! how can you not expect that from your partner?
 rahkonen
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 152
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:22:17 PM
This question makes me sad...wanna hear why???

My ex fiance was out for a long time, so before he came home I cleaned, cooked him dinner and had the baby in bed. I had also shaved my legs, fixed my hair, and put make up on. When he came home I was waiting for him in his longsleeved camo shirt and black lace panties with his favorite porn and dinner in hand....All he said to me was "Do you know how cold it is in here and you're running around like that?"!!! So yeah, I don't dress up for guys anymore, because I don't feel like they really appreciate it when I do!
 CREngineer
Joined: 3/5/2008
Msg: 153
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:26:02 PM
I think it looks best spinning around the blades on ceiling fan and if light hits it just right brings me back to disco days
 danzandsing
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 154
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/27/2009 9:59:42 PM
rahkonen said:



When he came home I was waiting for him in his longsleeved camo shirt and black lace panties with his favorite porn and dinner in hand


....all I would've said was..."sugar assault me now!!!!"

lovinvixen wrote:


Don't get me wrong, I'd only wear it for my husband: providing he will hurry up and show himself!


Here I am!!!
 SmellOfPoop
Joined: 6/8/2007
Msg: 155
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/28/2009 4:16:36 AM

My ex fiance was out for a long time, so before he came home I cleaned, cooked him dinner and had the baby in bed. I had also shaved my legs, fixed my hair, and put make up on. When he came home I was waiting for him in his longsleeved camo shirt and black lace panties with his favorite porn and dinner in hand....All he said to me was "Do you know how cold it is in here and you're running around like that?"!!! So yeah, I don't dress up for guys anymore, because I don't feel like they really appreciate it when I do!


I think he was gay. Don't punish all straight guys for one gay guy's actions.

Dress like that and we'd be eating each other long before dinner...
 lovinvixen
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 156
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/29/2009 12:37:25 PM
For post # 187:


I expect it. Nothing better than keeping that sensuality burning. It just adds wood to the fire. Nothing better than having your woman wear a short skirt, and then drop something on the floor, as if by mistake, just by her foot, opening her legs to show u that she isn't wearing anything underneath. Or, wearing a low cut blowse n bending fowards placing her breast right in front of ur face. It is tantalizing! n the flirting keeps the fire going and the love alive... once a woman doesn't feel desired, then she doesn't feel sexy, the the realationship is close to over... and if not over, it will get boring.


Well that is all nice for a bride to do, or a husband do something male and simular.


But let's say we are getting older someday, IF nothing kills us first.

Say we are 70, 80, or higher in age......because we aren't youthful no more does the relationship just fold because we are now old and our bodies Are NOT as appealing as we used to be. And maybe our hormones do NOT humm and moan the way we used to.

Do we just let go of the relationship because sex doesn't have the same focus as when we were teenagers?

I mean what will a garter belt do for my future husband when I turn 80????????
 CynthiaM
Joined: 8/29/2008
Msg: 157
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/29/2009 2:54:59 PM

because we aren't youthful no more does the relationship just fold because we are now old and our bodies Are NOT as appealing as we used to be. And maybe our hormones do NOT humm and moan the way we used to.

Do we just let go of the relationship because sex doesn't have the same focus as when we were teenagers?
I mean what will a garter belt do for my future husband when I turn 80????????

Different focus than as teenagers does not, necessarily, mean LESS. I know my grandparents were doing it into their 80s (I didn't WANT to know but I knew).

I, also, don't assume that my man's body will become less appearling as we get older because I'll be getting older too and my perception of attractive will change. I mean, when I was 18 or 30 I didn't think 45 or 55 was attractive. Now I don't find 20 or 35 attractive.

As we get older, lingerie can help hide a multitude of sins so may actually do more for your future husband when you're 80. If it doesn't give him a heart attack ;-)

I certainly hope my future husband is chasing me around the bedroom at 80+ and I intend to keep buying new lingerie to ensure that happens.
 Lup
Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 158
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/30/2009 8:55:19 AM
It is not the lingerie per se, it is the reason why women wear it.

i mean, i expect to be a flirt at 80.. why not?.. n that is what lingerie is, a flirt. it sparks seduction, and desire. it brings attention to that amazing emotion. at 80, im not dead yet, and ofcourse, like now, then i will expect my partner to have that feeling. perhaps it will be different, but nonetheless, it must be there. it is pleasurable!

i would love my relationship to be extremely sexual even when i am 90. n to do that, we have to be creative, sometimes is lingerie, other times is a touch, a dance, a kiss, a look. whatever it is, i expect the spark.. if no spark, then we are just friends.. n thats ok, but i want more than that!
 eschec mat
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 159
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:05:15 PM

longsleeved camo shirt and black lace panties with his favorite porn
Camo shirt is intimate? Around here they are used to go hunt Bambi...splattered with blood sometimes. How romantic could that be? The lace panties would be intimate, but I am guessing he couldn't see them. Where were the stockings or the heels? You wanted him to look at you not a porn. Skip the porn. Have a meal you can feed him with your hands. Have the music playing and nothing to distract him from you. A negligee would have been so much nicer or short black dress.

But hey, that is just my 32 years of experience in what has worked for me.

Again, men, let us take the stockings off before your hand contacts...gosh, stockings must be in the oil fields, their price keeps going up.
 IKnowWhatBoysLike
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 160
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:36:09 PM
Re: the camo shirt... it really depends on the guy. I'm assuming she dressed according to his tastes and what turned him on, though not sure why that didn't work. So maybe he IS gay... haha... who knows??

I've dated guys who loved the satin, and garters, and 4-inch heels... and I love to do it, it turns me on as much as them. Primarily because I know what a turn-on it is for them, and that, in turn, does it for me. I also love to wear the pretty, feminine lingerie underneath my clothing and "let them" catch little glimpses of it... keeps things charged up a bit, particularly in situations where nothing can really be done about it, but build up anticipation for later. On the other hand, I can think of one ex-bf in particular, who didn't really go for the satin, girly stuff, but I had this camo tee-shirt that turned him to jelly. I think had it been Bambi-blood spattered... he'd have lost control upon sight. :) To be fair, I usually added my 4-inch camo-pattern heels... but that was more for me, cuz I just like what heels do for me.

Did they expect it?? Not necessarily when we first started dating... but men can be trained. :)
 Lup
Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 161
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:44:15 PM
yeap, you do know what we like.
 danzandsing
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 162
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:06:18 PM
^^^ Indeed, she does.



One6irl wrote:


I think sexy is sexier in his tank with side and front cleavage on display... nipples protruding... no panty lines from no panties on... curve clinging... waiting for him to come home in that and a pair of ****me*pumps.


Can I have all of that...to go?
 SirSpankaLot7
Joined: 2/17/2009
Msg: 163
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/31/2009 6:24:56 AM
I like all sorts of lingerie, particularly garter belts and thongs and anything else that shows off the ladies hinie.
 TheToefactor
Joined: 2/11/2009
Msg: 164
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/31/2009 1:26:33 PM

I have a lingerie fetish so i'm all about females dressing sexy in the bedroom. I also buy my wife alot of it though. It's a fun game for me.


A white T-shirt that reads "John Deer" on the front is not lingerie.
 CynthiaM
Joined: 8/29/2008
Msg: 165
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/31/2009 1:54:30 PM
^^^wrong. makeup, bustiers, camoflage, lingerie accentuates what is already there. silicone creates what is not there.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 166
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/31/2009 7:20:51 PM
I definetly expect them to have pride in themselves enough to wear something that is sexy. Somehow the magical illusion that grandma panties are hot is so 1950's.
 rahkonen
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 167
Sexy Lingerie; Intimate Apparel.... Do Men Expect It? Does It Really Matter?
Posted: 5/31/2009 8:26:45 PM

Camo shirt is intimate? Around here they are used to go hunt Bambi...splattered with blood sometimes. How romantic could that be? The lace panties would be intimate, but I am guessing he couldn't see them. Where were the stockings or the heels? You wanted him to look at you not a porn. Skip the porn. Have a meal you can feed him with your hands. Have the music playing and nothing to distract him from you. A negligee would have been so much nicer or short black dress.


Around here (Arkansas) us girls know how to turn a guy on. A camo shirt and lace panties really do it. i'm not going to put on a shit load of extra crap when it's just gonna come off. And heels are so over rated. And dinner and a porn is a very good way to turn a man on. After the porn, he'll definitly be looking at me. And if I choose the right kind, he'll be ****ing me the way I want him to as well. So I don't know where you come from, but around here that's how we roll. And it has only NOT worked on one man. Maybe you should try it. By the way...camo is almost always a turn on for any man!
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