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 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 43
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I have, but the rest of the sentence went like this...

.. so now I have to kill you.


 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 44
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:26:46 PM
kindacute,

I don't want a buddy that I can just boink, I was in a relationship with the girls I mentioned and cared for them deeply. The thought of loving someone within a month or two is not that unreasonable to me, I don't put time limits on anything and hearing the 3 words does not scare me in any way. The proposals came as a surprise to me and I didn't know how to respond on both occasions which is probably why I am single right now, I did not dispose of either of them at a whim like you seem to think and I never once sent them mixed signals. These experiences I speak of happened years ago, and back then I was not ready for marriage even though I was in love with one of the girls that proposed. Does wanting to be sure and ready before taking the next step make me a person who wants a boink buddy?
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 45
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:28:56 PM
Those three little words have been the demise of more than one nice situation in my past. Boy, when they are said too soon ~ I have the ability to turn invisible. Today, that is no longer an issue, thankfully. But I sooooo remember that horrific feeling of: "OMFG ~ I have got to vacate this vacinity immediately." Ewwww. Not good.
 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 50
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:37:01 PM
kindacute,

Now you are just making assumptions and jumping to your own conclusions without knowing all the facts. Yes, I did tell her that I loved her and I genuinely meant that, it was never an "i love you, but i'm not in love with you" thing because that statement itself is very pathetic! The proposal caught me off guard and I wasn't sure how to respond, I gave her a kiss and a cuddle and told her that I couldn't. I wasn't ready to make such a huge committment so soon into a relationship (under 2 months), so now according to you that makes me a bad person for encouraging a relationship-minded woman? I can still be committed in a relationship and I have been, never cheated on anyone in my entire life, the only thing I wasn't ready to commit to YET was a lifetime relationship also known as marriage.......I need more than a few months to sense if a girl is "the one". Anyway after that night things were never the same, slowly faded away because she was embarassed.......so if u want to get techincal she was the one who ran for the hills, not me . Thanks for the advice though.
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 54
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Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/7/2008 1:29:27 AM
They're just words. True love is expressed over many months or years. Love is expressed through genuine actions--not through some silver-tongued manipulator looking for an angle. A person saying "I love you" after a just a short time together either has an ulterior motive or just likes to hear themselves say it.

But no, I don't go running for the hills. I'll give the girl opportunities to show that love through genuine actions.
 Ftt_nyeh
Joined: 9/12/2009
Msg: 56
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/17/2010 5:25:06 PM
Yeh... actually that happened last week... after 3 weeks of cautiously seeing a girl. I didn't want to get too involved because I'll probably be moving soon. Then she said the words that will set her up for a world of hurt when I do leave. I haven't run for the proverbial hills because I guess I'm too polite for my own good. But it's incredibly awkward now.
 bornfree67
Joined: 1/1/2010
Msg: 57
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Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/17/2010 10:54:12 PM
haha! this is so hilarious! I'm that person who says the 3 little words to guys I dated briefly and I guess they ran for the hills. It is rather informative to read from the forum how people do handle the 3 little words!

I think a lot of people got mixed up with falling in love and loving that person. From my past experiences, I realised that a lot of people either do not have the capacity to receive or give true love. Maybe they had been so used to having a controlling and jealous partner that they do not know what the word "I love you" meant!

On hindsight, I'm referring to the love mentioned here:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (New International Version)

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

As a compassionate and non judgemental person, I love people for who they are and accept them just the same. I don't need time to know a person as I'm rather intuitive so hence it doesn't take me long to utter these 3 little words. I'm not clingy nor needy at all. I guess when any guy run to the hills, it only show that they were not that serious about me and that certainly saves me from further heartaches.

 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 59
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/17/2010 11:15:41 PM
yep, more than once..If I'm not feeling it, I'm not faking it..does neither person any good.
 novoaus
Joined: 12/30/2009
Msg: 60
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Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/17/2010 11:21:36 PM
Personally I think the words 'your in love' is the greatest statement in the world

but only when she grabs your arse and says 'your in, love'
 mcalgary
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 61
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Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/17/2010 11:36:26 PM
I think we run for the hills when we don't have the same feelings. Some people can fall in love too quickly for me but it might work with a different person that falls in love fast too. I would definantly run for the hills if it happened in the first month.
 catlover2
Joined: 1/24/2008
Msg: 64
Ever hear the words I love you and ran for the hills?
Posted: 1/18/2010 1:02:02 PM
Maybe its the though of having your world invaded by a person when your not ready to hear the 3 words. I have ran way before those words were said. At a certain age people need a good friend more than a lover, or a wife- husband.
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