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 gholden2004
Joined: 1/14/2005
Msg: 101
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ANd yet half the biblical men had more than one wife...hmmmm so maybe we should allow polygamy...wouldn't that erase adultery?
 *BumbleBee*
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 102
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:21:49 PM
gholden ......

I'm not going to debate religion, but in the Old Testament things were as you refer to them being. However, in most organized religions today, the New Testament is followed. Therefore, that blows your justification of adultery out the window.

It's wrong.


Besides, if people practice polygamy, everybody in the relationship is consenting. If you date a married person, the other spouse is not consenting to the destruction of their marriage.
 Jetplague
Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 103
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:27:02 PM
exactly.


(Nice new pics by the way Mommyof2)
 gholden2004
Joined: 1/14/2005
Msg: 104
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:27:52 PM
my dear mommy of 2 far from trying to justify adultery I was simply trying to suggest an alternative that might keep everyone happy...you may also note a slight hint of sarcasm...but then again you may not...depends on how fanatical and how desperate you are to turn this into an argument rather than just a fun chat forum....lol
 jpl3447
Joined: 2/5/2005
Msg: 105
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:28:25 PM
^^^ That was a pretty good post Mof2!
 illnevertell
Joined: 11/17/2004
Msg: 106
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:31:06 PM
would I date a married man?? no
have I UNKNOWINGLY dated a married man? yes
 gholden2004
Joined: 1/14/2005
Msg: 107
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:36:23 PM
ooh you little jezebel...and did you repent of your misdeed and say 10 hail mary's because that will get you forgiven....so the church says
 *BumbleBee*
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 108
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:37:24 PM
Thank you Jet

gholden... As far as I can see, you have been playing devil's advocate for adultery throughout this entire thread. If you are indeed being sarcastic, does that reflect the fact that these are not your views? If that's the case, why would you choose to discuss and debate an issue that you don't support? I'm not trying to argue. I simply state my opinion, or in the case of the Biblical references, fact. Btw .... "The Church" you make reference to in your post above this one is the Catholic church. They say Hail Mary's, and 10 is not a set number to be forgiven for any sin. (I'm not Catholic either). I know you were being sarcastic there, but it's not a joke to some people.


jpl... Thanks ... I was raised in a cult and have explored other religions as well. I may be non-religious, but I've read the Bible cover to cover many times.


OT: Adultery is wrong. Period.
 KarlieB
Joined: 2/7/2005
Msg: 109
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Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:42:31 PM
Marriage has never stopped me before lol
 illnevertell
Joined: 11/17/2004
Msg: 110
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:42:43 PM
ooh you little jezebel...and did you repent of your misdeed and say 10 hail mary's because that will get you forgiven....so the church says



can I do that even if I'm not Catholic?
o.t...nooo married men for me..not even if they are "unhappy", "getting a divorce", "she doesn't understand him", "he only married her cuz she got pregnant", "only stayed for the kids", "they have a open marriage", I have heard them all...
 gholden2004
Joined: 1/14/2005
Msg: 111
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/1/2005 11:43:17 PM
mommy of 2 I like to play devils advocate it stirs fun and brings fanatics to the surface...you proved my point admirably....as for the cult thing and exploring other religions well that is about as useful to this thread as a bible in a whorehouse....do you think you are alone in studying religion.....how special are you? lol something tells me you are rather personally affected by this...but then I have studied psychology and read many books on people's reactions to this kind of thing so maybe that makes me an expert or something lmao
 longte
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 112
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 3:13:02 AM
Would I date a married woman = No
Would a marry a woman who was Very recently sepeated = No
Would I date a woman who had been seperated a long time =Yes
Would I date someone in a relationship = No

No matter how you attempt to justify it there would very very few occassions
anyone could possibly justify this.

Scenario.
To the married people on here who try to justify it
Great, fine, let me talk to your husband/wife and get his/her ok first
What would be their/your reaction???

......
 Diggy03
Joined: 4/7/2005
Msg: 113
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Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 4:59:21 AM
do unto others as you would have them do unto you!!!

Honestly if you date a married person.. they are cheating on their spouse..... sooooooo who's to say if you were married to them... they wouldn't cheat on you?

I think that says alot about a person.... looking for whatever is missing while still attached. They must have HUGE issues with abandonment and being alone... and I don't have time for crap like that!!!!






Just my 2 cents
 SIMMYBABEZ
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 114
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 5:02:45 AM
No way hose ay! But i understand your question and someone said it was a stupid one, i disagree because there are tons of people out there that think its ok.. just some are most afraid to admit it..
 Webbum
Joined: 1/18/2005
Msg: 115
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 5:03:47 AM
Never!
 joaquin17
Joined: 11/12/2004
Msg: 116
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 5:32:15 AM
Would I date...

...a married woman? No way ( I never did, even though my friends laugh when I said that)

..a woman who is separated? Yes, if its definitively over.
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 117
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:19:47 AM
Like I said I tried it...
was just coffee...
no harm, no foul...
I have since been discovering that if you want that kind of adventure then join a swingers club...singles aren't welcome but hey, go for it...

Question: is it cheating if your partner says to go ahead and fullfil your every fantasy?
 adonsia
Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 118
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:31:49 AM
NEVER....

I have gone out w/ them - only cause they led me on to believe they weren't.. -- BUT no F'n Way...

I've dated Seperated and it got real HOT... I had to let it stop - cause I figured he had to resolve his issues, get to know himself before starting a new...

Now that I look at it.. I wouldn't even date a SEPERATED MAN... (probably not even a divorcee)...

So many swinging singles out there, why occupy my time w/ anothers issues..
b
 Exray1
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 119
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:34:32 AM
It doesnt matter whether its just lust or love people grow apart and things change, i have been married and have had my significant other cheat. I dont hold a grudge. We grew apart and we both needed more. IS THAT SO WRONG?
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 120
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:37:34 AM
nope it isn't
 Aurielei
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 121
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:47:13 AM
No, once a cheater always a cheater.
 adonsia
Joined: 5/10/2005
Msg: 122
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:50:22 AM
Nope Ex... it is not wrong...


for me though... Personally... I get to emotionally involved...

Example when I dated that Seperated one.. It was going real well... and we were talking of moving in together and he wasn't even divorced YET...

all the while I was think'n.. many times the EX.. would come around and pick up the kids and they see ea. other... -- and perhaps old feelings may surface...

Now .. He pointed out the same reason that HE wasn't in LOVE w/ her, that he had no feelings for her ..( she was a bit overweight, and felt he needed better)... But, I didn't buy that... - And I'm a very confident person w/ myself in looks... he was also much younger - so there were two outstanding factors that really made me think even harder...-

As for today - after experiencing such, I really can't say I would even Date one...

Just going by what I tasted...

I probably will stay single for the rest of my life, because many men my age today are married or have kids....
 longte
Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 123
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:52:36 AM
"I dont hold a grudge. We grew apart and we both needed more. IS THAT SO WRONG?"

If you were still in a relationship the only answer is, YES it is Wrong

....
 HB2
Joined: 5/11/2005
Msg: 124
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 6:55:10 AM
Join a swingers club if ya need more...don't drag someone else into your misery!
 ~Songbird~
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 125
Would you date a married man or woman?
Posted: 6/2/2005 7:27:49 AM
It happened, but by mistake. OMG That was a long, freaky, weird story. Ended up talking to the wife for quite awhile too...very interesting convo.
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