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 Jayhr75
Joined: 11/5/2011
Msg: 468
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Never married and no kids, run! I just went out with a woman that was never married and has no kids. She seemed to be more in love with her animals than anything else.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 469
Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/15/2012 3:16:20 PM
^^I would believe you if you had met 30 women who were single and had no kids and seemed to be too much in love with their animals. Glad she was able to avoid someone as closed minded as you seem to be.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
Msg: 470
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Posted: 1/15/2012 3:58:37 PM
I am 31 and have never been married. To be honest marriage seems to be going out of style for men but thats my opinion. Id rather be alone and happy than with someone who isnt at all my type or what I am looking for. I admit I do feel like a freak because I havent had a decent relationship in years and never been married but life goes on
 EMunchy2010
Joined: 8/23/2010
Msg: 471
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Posted: 1/16/2012 11:19:49 AM
Maybe, maybe not...assuptions w/o further looking into it is a fools' state of mind.
 rtenorio16
Joined: 12/10/2010
Msg: 472
Never married & no kids
Posted: 1/26/2012 6:18:50 PM
If the women is Hot with no kids! one word "Crazy"!!!!! If she was such a catch some guy would have may her his wife a long time ago.
 Spank_Me_Honey
Joined: 4/3/2011
Msg: 473
Never married & no kids
Posted: 2/15/2012 2:25:08 PM

Posted By: domo31 on 1/15/2012 337 PM

To be honest marriage seems to be going out of style for men but thats my opinion.


Your opinion is very much spot on - it is out of style for men

Its easier for men to just hook up these days because women are continuing to throw off the shackles of sexual oppression and embracing their sexuality - girls traditionally have been raised to downplay, deny, and suppress their libidos but in reality women are just as if not more sexual then men - don't believe me ? well consider the adult sex toy industry - its geared for women primarily with the never ending plethora of vibrators and such.

Also all reproductive and civil rights concerning marriage are firmly in favor of women

A failed marriage can bankrupt a man and many have had their lives ruined by the legal system - this is making men more averse to signing the marriage contract because it seems rather than saying "I do " they are in reality saying "I pay"
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 474
Never married & no kids
Posted: 2/15/2012 2:29:50 PM

You see a profile of interest & he or she is 30something & up, as you continue 2 read a lil further, you notice that he or she has never been married & has 0 kids, do you question why or just immediately make assumptions?


Before talking to her, I would make all possible assumptions, and then deduce and/or confirm which assumption(s) was/were correct from our conversations and interactions.

 Spank_Me_Honey
Joined: 4/3/2011
Msg: 475
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Posted: 2/15/2012 2:40:07 PM

Posted By: fifi47 on 1/10/2012 102 AM
Being married 3 times and having 4 children makes a woman a lot more marketable here than being single with no children it seems. Many of the single childless men I have met online prefer divorced women with children. They want to be her knight in shining armor.


I disagree completely with you and speak from the stand point of a never married no children heterosexual male.

in fact I disagree with you so vehemently that if given the choice of the type of woman you describe in your post and homosexuality that I would choose homosexuality without a second of hesitation. In no way do I want to be any where near a woman with children such as you have described. To choose to do so would be in my opinion choosing a slow death for myself.
 Robert122077
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 476
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Posted: 2/15/2012 3:48:07 PM
I find that many people who choose to not marry and have kids well into adulthood, are generally more intelligent and well-rounded people than your typical married/divorced types. Sure, it's a generalization, but I think it has some merit. A person like this has made a conscious, reasoned, effort that has trumped biological urges. I find this impressive.
 Robert122077
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 477
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Posted: 2/15/2012 3:57:00 PM

Just a bit. On what do you base it?


Many of these people have decided that they're more interested in personal growth and culture than procreation and perpetuation the traditional family unit. They also tend to not live "fear based" lives. What I mean by this in this context is the fear of dying alone. So, no rushing into marriages.
 Robert122077
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 478
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Posted: 2/15/2012 4:09:34 PM


What people? How many are you basing this view on? And I would dispute that people marry because of the fear of dying alone. They marry for lots of reasons, that may be one of them, but not the most common by any means.


People that I've met in real life and online. These people aren't mythical creatures. They do exist. Marriage is somewhat insidious to me. It's set up more as a business proposition and survival plan than the emotional, love drenched, institution that it's purported to be.

I disagree, though. Fear is the root of much of our institutions, it's just uncomfortable to admit. Marriage and religion being the most notable. I once heard a man state that marriage was devised to civilized men and protect women. Couldn't agree more. Of course if you're already civilized, and have no interest in "hurting" women, it's not quite as appealing. Just my own view, of course.
 Robert122077
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 479
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Posted: 2/15/2012 4:28:46 PM
Sorry for the typos.

I do think that marriage is a subtle way that society is regulated. For instance, it's night impossible to survive, single, on minimum wage. When the minimum wage isn't sufficient to pay the "minimum" rates for rent and utilities in a standard apartment, something is up, wouldn't you say? That's a different issue, so I don't want to dwell on it, but it all ties in.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 480
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Posted: 2/16/2012 10:24:39 AM

I find that many people who choose to not marry and have kids well into adulthood, are generally more intelligent and well-rounded people than your typical married/divorced types


I resemble that remark.

 atebungles
Joined: 12/27/2013
Msg: 481
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Posted: 12/31/2013 5:26:40 PM
Perhaps she or he has finally found without realising it true happiness in life....
 atebungles
Joined: 12/27/2013
Msg: 482
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Posted: 1/6/2014 9:46:26 PM
What assumptions could you really make????

Remembering this is 2014 not the 1920s...
 Ilovechristmas25
Joined: 1/21/2014
Msg: 483
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Posted: 1/28/2014 7:55:31 AM
I think you are getting a backlash because most people are sheep and do what others have done to fit in. I've never married because I never wanted children and thought it would've been unfair in my 20s and 30s to date men who may have wanted offspring to carry on their family name. I'm 49 and wouldn't want to date anyone in their 40s who never married or procreated they'd probably want someone younger to do that with.
 Szaszaspasz
Joined: 11/13/2012
Msg: 484
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Posted: 1/29/2014 12:20:33 AM
I have no maternal instincts and I'm lazier than dirt.
 ThatGirlNamedAlli
Joined: 12/28/2013
Msg: 485
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Posted: 1/29/2014 9:37:18 AM

I have no maternal instincts and I'm lazier than dirt.

My sister :)
 foodieguitarman
Joined: 12/17/2013
Msg: 486
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Posted: 1/29/2014 9:43:36 AM

I would assume, that he has been responsible enough, to use birth control with his partners, because he might have realized, that 1. There are already too many people on the planet. 2. He might feel that he would be unable to provide a safe, financially secure environment for his offspring, and he doesn't want to be irresponsible. 3. He didn't find anyone compatable to marry, and was not willing to settle for a relationship out of mere desperation, in order to avoid being single.



Bravo !

Speaking of being lazy - gotta love the quote option ! lol
 dwmitch
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 487
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Posted: 3/30/2014 1:07:07 PM
I get people not wanting children, but I find some of the way people describe parenthood around here shocking. "Slow death?" My maternal grandpa, who had 13 kids, lived into his mid 80s in an area where most people die between 40 and 60.

I don't see why people would make assumptions. Back when 40 was considered elderly I'd get it but in this day and age where people live longer and IVF can allow 60 year old women to get pregnant and give birth I don't see what the issue with being single and childless in your 30s is.

I was almost married twice, but if I had gone through with either one I'd still be childless. The first one had her tubes tied (claimed it was the reason she wanted to end the relationship, as I want children, but her "sacrifice" was diminished by the fact that she confessed to cheating) and after I started discussing marriage with the second one she insisted that I got a vasectomy, finally saying she'd get her tubes tied when she realized she wouldn't be able to talk me into it.

I'm actually more inclined to make assumptions about women who are 25 or younger with multiple kids and have never been married than I am women who are 30+ with no kids and no previous marriages.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 488
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Posted: 3/30/2014 1:34:19 PM

I don't see why people would make assumptions.


Some possible reasons:

Because they can.
Because they don't know any better.
Because they weren't raised to think independently and outside the box.
Because it makes them feel superior, even when they are completely wrong in their assumption.


but I find some of the way people describe parenthood around here shocking. "Slow death?"


Indeed. Parenting is an extremely important undertaking, and should be very rewarding when done correctly- raising one's child to be an independent, positive, contributing member of society, to the best of their abilities.
 Ainen
Joined: 6/27/2013
Msg: 489
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Posted: 4/6/2014 9:39:15 AM
Having children later in life definitely a good thing? Later than when?

If the mother is 35+ when she has a kid, the kid is much more likely to have problems. For example, autism.

There's a correlation with an alltime high in autism (1 out of every 68) and an alltime high in women having kids at age 35+.

If you want to be a mom at 35+, adopt!

True about most married people wanting single people to join their misery.
 atebungles
Joined: 12/27/2013
Msg: 490
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Posted: 4/12/2014 6:38:34 PM
We are not Clones of each other.
When society can realise that we will all be better off.
 heybabaganoush
Joined: 7/20/2013
Msg: 491
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Posted: 5/4/2014 11:57:29 AM

There's a correlation with an alltime high in autism (1 out of every 68) and an alltime high in women having kids at age 35+.


No.
 idgaf1977
Joined: 6/22/2014
Msg: 492
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Posted: 7/29/2014 11:17:09 AM
I'm 37 and have no kids and haven't been married. I'd assume they may be a lot like me.
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