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 bellazingara
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 201
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WOW...and here I thought I was the last of a dying breed....LOL Nice to see so many men out there are single, never married and have no kids like myself. Now where do y'all hide out cause I keep meeting the other ones
 1countryboy73
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 202
Never married & no kids
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:53:05 PM
Ok so I have to know what is so bad about someone male or female that has never been married and has no kids.Are you saying we are DAMAGED GOODS and do not deserve to find true love because it did not happen soon enough in our lifes.Is there a time limit.I believe that when I find that somone to share my life with it will be Forever and I will not be here on POF.
 SomethingManly
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 203
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:18:52 PM
I must be missing something. I'm HOPING i can find a woman in my area who's never been married with no kids. I see it as a postivive, not a negative.

Unfortunately, in my area anyways, i find that the more attractive women already have kids. But i'm in a rather small town.

Cheers
 Coliuke23
Joined: 10/29/2007
Msg: 204
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Posted: 5/14/2008 4:58:45 PM
n how to find man never married n no kids?:)
 leo\leo
Joined: 1/17/2006
Msg: 205
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:23:28 AM
you can be a little all about your self
 Cuda_426
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 206
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:20:49 AM
Maybe too many people opt for the.......i don't want to be left on the shelf " you''ll do" approach to marriage.
If i go past my " use by date" as such.....and i'm still single so be it......i can think for myself ..........beats married and miserable any day.......you have seen the divorce rate..haven't you??????
 ml456
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 207
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:52:16 PM
There could be many different reasons why a person is 30+ yrs old and never has been married. Maybe they didn't have the time for a serious relationship. Maybe they preferred to remain single. Maybe they had bad luck in relationships. Maybe they are too picky or have a poor personality.
 Violet Brown
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 208
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:00:56 PM
I don't make assumptions - everyone's life follows a different path. I just hope they don't judge me because I happened to marry the wrong person when I was younger.
 CoolJarrod
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 209
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Posted: 5/20/2008 2:25:23 PM
Look I'm in My 30's,Never-Married,No-Kids

But Should That Make Any Women Not Want to Date A Man Like Me???


If People Would Just Stop Assuming Things They Don't Know

Only One Person In Your Life Truly Know Yourself And That's You

Nobody Can Be Read Like a Book And You Can't Judge a Book Without it's Cover

Never Being Married Without Kids

Could Maybe Be Because This Person Has Lived A Shy,Lonely Life
Maybe In School This Person Wasn't Popular

People Stereotype People

they Either Say Think Good Things About People Or They Push People Out Of Their Lives

Seeing a Never Married Man With Children Is Actually Good Because

Like A Virgin,Women Out There Are Waiting For there Unique,Special Person

 Ur Xoxo
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 210
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Posted: 5/20/2008 2:52:21 PM
I agree wholeheartedly with your response CoolJarrod. Especially with the last line.


Like A Virgin,Women Out There Are Waiting For there Unique,Special Person


In womens' mind we are like a virgin.
So teach me your carnal endeavours.
 Cuda_426
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 211
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Posted: 5/22/2008 5:36:20 AM
Imagine if someone had of said to you ( say at the age of 20 or so ).........in 20 years time, if your single and never married/divorced and don't have kids.......you'll be an outcast in the dating world.........i must be missing something in the fine print.
 jgolls
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 212
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:18:35 AM
In my experience women do proceed with caution. Because "there's always got to be a reason." A reason for being single in this case. Honestly, there are a lot of individuals, both male and female, who I think just slip through. All of a sudden you look at yourself one day and your 30. Wondering where the last ten years went. It was easy for me to become focused on things other then marriage and a family. That wasn't what I wanted then. Now I know I've changed, but it's alot tougher to date in my 30's. What are you going to do?
 mellie44
Joined: 5/29/2006
Msg: 213
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Posted: 5/25/2008 3:19:35 PM
Yes safe sex seems to be a foreign concept to a lot of people but I always took it very seriously as I did not believe in having children out of wedlock. I have been lucky to have some long term relationships that did lead to engagement but it was always for the wrong reasons. One guy told me that he proposed because he thought that it was "time" as we had been in the relationship for about 4 years. It became clear as time went on that he was not the type of man that would be there for me and the children. I have always believed that children should have two parents so I have been careful and at 41 I have still not been married and therefore no children. I don't feel like I missed out but rather that this was the path that was chosen for me and that I should be happy that I have had such a full life with some very special relationships. I think that I am lucky in a way as I am not frustrated as a single parent. I do not plan to have children now as I have reached the age where I am planning for my retirement. I have several friends who had children out of wedlock and not one of them stayed withthe children's father so how is that better? Their children have had to adapt to several men and I am glad that I did not have to go through that type of life. I am lucky to have great friends and am very close to my parents. My life is as full as I want it to be and I am looking forward to possibly meeting someone in the same situation as me and I am open to marriage regardless of my age. My grandma always tells me that there is still hope!!!
 GreenOlivesYum
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 214
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Posted: 5/27/2008 2:20:57 PM
I think its strange for people who are like 40 and have never had a serious relationship, Im not talking about marriage or kids....I think its great if someone chooses to not marry and breed kids, a fine decision. The thing that I wouldnt accept is someone who is clueless about serious relationships and has never had one but has already approached middle age.
 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 215
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Posted: 8/25/2008 6:26:54 PM

I would assume that he has been responsible enough to use birth control with his partners, because he might have realized that 1. There are already too many people on the planet. 2. He might feel that he would be unable to provide a safe, financially secure environment for his offspring, and he doesn't want to be irresponsible. 3. He didn't find anyone compatable to marry, and was not willing to settle for a relationship out of mere desperation, in order to avoid being single.


Wise words for shallow fish. I wouldn't mind being half of a never-married DINK couple, but the prospects of finding such a partner in the women near my age seem fairly slim.
 Bridge Jumper
Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 216
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Posted: 8/26/2008 12:44:58 AM
I hear that enough from my family I don't need to hear it from people who don't know me! When I meet the man for me I'll know. I truly believe that. I would never marry someone I couldn't spend a moment without simply because I thought society expected it from me.
 flutterby56
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 217
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Posted: 8/26/2008 4:04:52 PM
Why would you make assumptions, So what your saying is that I am supposed to feel bad about myself because I haven't found someone that lives up to what I want. I don't think so.
 fanta33
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 218
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Posted: 8/26/2008 5:10:55 PM
I'm never married and no kids, but had no idea this was even an issue until I posted a profile on a dating site. I've actually had guys ask me so why don't you have kids even though my profile states NO to wants children, or ask why I'm single or never been married. I thought it was given that if someone has never been married that they just didn't find the right person yet? When did this become a negative against someone, LOL.
 Dr_Righteous
Joined: 11/15/2004
Msg: 219
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Posted: 8/26/2008 5:11:33 PM
I fit this category. Sometimes it just hasn't worked out yet.
 TheDirtyBen
Joined: 8/25/2008
Msg: 220
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Posted: 8/28/2008 7:03:47 PM
Well, I almost fit into this category. But may still have something to contribute anyways.

I have had my share of LTRs. Some, I've ended, Others were ended for me.

Just because I've never married, doesn't mean that I haven't tried.

Imagine being totally happy with the one you are with, buy the ring, and take the leap......

Now imagine how you would feel, If the person you just proposed to, said "We'll see..."

Been there.

Am I totally jaded to the idea of marriage?? No

Am I in any rush to take that leap/risk again? No


30s, never married, and no kids............Is not relevant to anything, means nothing, and you are just reaching/projecting problems onto others, that you may have to deal with inside yourself. This is just an excuse for you to justify that nobody is good enough for you because you feel that you are not good enough for anybody.

Are you going to disqualify someone that might have been meant to marry you and have kids with you???? I certainly hope not. In our 30, I would venture to say that we are more comfortable with ourselves and need not be so self-centered and self-serving. This would allow us the capacity to focus more of ourselves, our attention, and our energy, on that someone special and actually WORK to build something that will last a lifetime.

Whether you know it or not...............you do actually have to have patience and work to create a successful relationship. The perfect love of a lifetime doesn' t just plop in your lap.
 FavoriteofSet
Joined: 8/19/2008
Msg: 221
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Posted: 8/28/2008 7:27:56 PM
Seeing as I do fall into that category of never having been married and having no kids,it's actually quite refreshing if I see a man in my age range with similar background.I'm not all that comfortable in a situation involving kids or ex wives and such.
So my immediate reaction to the solo fliers is relief.
 XprsvBrownEyes
Joined: 7/4/2008
Msg: 222
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:25:48 AM
I'm in agreement...shows good judgement and common sense. I'd rather be with someone who doesn't have the kind of baggage that being divorced/kids brings along. Plus, I'm old fashioned, I'd like my first baby to be my partners first as well. No preconceived experience on childrearing/marriage etc.
 notjesus
Joined: 7/4/2008
Msg: 223
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:48:40 AM
Search results for (ladies) 30-39 with kids 75miles from me : 690
With no kids : 319

So 7/10 ladies in my 'range' are single moms? Sheesh. Not hatin' on em, I'm down with the milf action, it's just a higher number than I expected.
 TheDirtyBen
Joined: 8/25/2008
Msg: 224
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:59:07 AM
Pre-existing MILFs are hot!

But, I could be just as happy to "create" a MILF !
 piscescoda
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 225
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:07:52 PM
Search results for (ladies) 30-39 with kids 75miles from me : 690
With no kids : 319

So 7/10 ladies in my 'range' are single moms? Sheesh. Not hatin' on em, I'm down with the milf action, it's just a higher number than I expected.

Ooh, good idea for an experiment!

I just did a search for a 25 mile radius, males 23 to 35.

no kids, don't want kids: 70
no kids, wants kids: 700+
has kids, may or may not want more: 533

egads.
Oh well, I've got 70 to choose from, right?
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