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Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 101
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just wondering if anyone else out there in dating land has Triggers that Instantly Turn off a budding relationship?


Bad table manners. Was he raised on a farm?
Addictions to IM, texting etc etc etc blah blah blah
All just "friends" eh? *smirks* sure buddy sure ... as he hides behind closed doors whispering on the cell.

And all the other things that men who are not serious or really into you .... do.
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 102
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Posted: 5/9/2007 4:45:37 PM
WOW, I had to stop reading halfway down the first page... I think I have more triggers than I originally thought!! uh oh...
I was going to say, my main trigger is the "push/pull." The powerplay that some guys play, showing interest, then pushing me away again. I don't really give in to that much anymore.... now I'm going to have to go back & read the rest of the triggers... see what else I need to work on!
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 103
Dating Turn Off Triggers
Posted: 5/9/2007 5:01:26 PM
I have two turn off triggers when on a first date with someone I've never met before and that would be 1. the 'touchy feely' type and 2. the loud eater. They would have to be gonged off the show.
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 104
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Posted: 5/9/2007 6:09:53 PM
1. Talking about themselves the WHOLE TIME.

2. Giving me a crass proposition, on the first date / meeting
Asking me back to her place for a coffee is fine.
Do not ask me to **** you.
Wayyyy too easy.

3. Asking me to move in, after 5 minutes.

4. Asking me to marry you before we've slept together, or at least kissed.

I'm a very slow mover.
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 105
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Posted: 5/9/2007 6:10:49 PM
A wandering eye, poor table manners and Cave Man Behavior!
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 106
Dating Turn Off Triggers
Posted: 5/9/2007 6:14:32 PM
instant turn off,, lady swearing.
Joined: 4/28/2004
Msg: 107
Dating Turn Off Triggers
Posted: 5/10/2007 5:33:44 PM

i don't know about that. i have guy friends that have flown half way around the world just to see a woman that they were crazy about even when they hadn't had anything going on between them yet... just the mere possibility of her being "the one" had them spending thousands of thousand of dollars in order to be with her...

if a man is crazy about a woman he could be super busy but still find a moment to just tell her how busy he is and that he can't really talk right now. if a man is really crazy about a woman he will go out of his way for her. he will be attentive, available, reachable, and interested.

Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 108
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Posted: 5/10/2007 5:40:46 PM
"he will be attentive, available, reachable, and interested." And she will be as well. If it's not mutual it's not worth it.
Joined: 8/10/2005
Msg: 109
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Posted: 5/10/2007 5:42:40 PM
the guy who calls last minute, has no specific destination in mind , plans his time around when we will be having sex.. and leaves right afterwards or as soon as he realizes thats just not happenin today....
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 110
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Posted: 5/10/2007 6:01:57 PM

Msg: 25 -- dislike when they dont open my door. I know I am capable, but it just shows me that he cares a little.

I hate it when I show those courtesies and get b*tched out about it. Oddly enough, it happens far too frequently.

dislike people who show up late. HATE it.

I hate it too. It is quite rude. Worse, she's not ready when I pick her up at her own home. Now, THAT is VERY rude.

One good thing about it though. The first time is the last time. I won't go out with her again.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 111
Dating Turn Off Triggers
Posted: 5/10/2007 6:14:12 PM

Msg: 30 -- How about the guy who says he doesn't smoke, grabs you and lays a lip lock on you and you taste the nicotine!

Yuck! How did he get that close to you? I can smell it when someone first walks in the room! It overpowers any other odor in the room unless I have a PineSol bottle under my nose.
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 112
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Posted: 5/11/2007 12:03:52 PM
Personally, I have changed my opinion about this matter.
In the beginning, I was quick to eliminate someone due to certain "triggers".
But I have come to realize that evaluating someone in an hour or so is tricky business.
For example ( due to nervousness?) the more I like someone, the more likely I am to say something that is not a true representation of myself. Well, maybe it's the same for the guy.
I have come away from first meetings with a sense that all I did was talk about myself. But on the other hand, how can I not talk about myself when the person sitting across from me is firing questions at me as if it were a job interview? Just for the record, I don't like talking about myself...afterall, I'm with myself 24/7 and quite frankly would like a break :>) I want to know about the other person, but he needs to give me a chance to ask.
Bottom line: Unless we find someone to be physically unappealing, or there are clear signs that we are not compatable, maybe a second meeting would be helpful to get a clearer picture of what we are all about.
Joined: 5/8/2007
Msg: 113
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Posted: 5/11/2007 6:02:40 PM
deal breakers for me (and yes, these are things I've actually heard):

~"The wellfare check comes next week so I'll be able to go out again."
~"I was raped by my uncle and now I'm pregnant. I'm going to have the baby."
~"I'm not looking for anything serious. (then) I won't have sex until commitment. (then) Why are you leaving, you're supposed to ask who killed the gardener- because the gardener plants 'tulips' [two lips] (then) I'm not looking for anything serious. (then) why are you acting so strange? (then) I won't have sex until commitment. (then) Why are you being so mean to me? (then) I just wanted to have some fun. (then) I'm not going to have sex until commitment. etc. etc.
~"I have an STD"
~"I don't ride motorcycles."
~"I have to go out and drink every Friday."
~"I can't stop doing coke."
~totally incorrect use of the English language
~bad teeth
~smelly vagina
~unkempt vagina
~hairy legs
~hairy underarms
~missing teeth
~lack of ability to show affection
~the list may continue, but I'm done.
Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 114
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Posted: 5/12/2007 11:35:27 PM
long and dirty nails!!! No comments once you see a guy like that grab your food or drink or touch you hand!!!
long and smell sensitive nose.
Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 115
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Posted: 5/13/2007 6:09:49 AM
lucky300, it's GRAMMAR.
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 116
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Posted: 5/14/2007 9:35:24 PM
onebrazengirl.. wich one of you is the brazen one?
one pet peeve but not a turn off is women who bunch together in a photo expecting the guy to know who is who.

ohe yeah
spell checkurz :
make me feel like i should be getting paid for typing.. spelling is just a form of conformity anyway. ehhe

women who feel the need to point out flaws in my typing while i just want to relax and be myself, annoy me.

so i guess in your case its a double whammy lol

just ribbin ya babe.. your ok.. just gotta figure out which one LOL

yur artistical naybur,

Joined: 5/8/2007
Msg: 117
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Posted: 6/11/2007 10:52:25 AM
All the women out there should read the book, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". What you don't know about men you'll learn in the book.

Immediate turn offs, are him not wanting to know anything about me.
 Miss G
Joined: 5/1/2007
Msg: 118
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Posted: 6/11/2007 11:07:34 AM
-picking his nose while eating
-being cross-examined, to see if I'm lying
-lying about their current dating situation
-not calling back the next day to set up another date
-pursuing me until I'm actually interested and then standing me up.
-Turn ons: men who smell incredible!!! (just trying to end this on upbeat note.) :)
Joined: 4/28/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 6/11/2007 11:43:26 AM
- checking their pof e-mails while on the date...rofl, yeah, it happened.......
Joined: 7/5/2004
Msg: 120
Dating Turn Off Triggers
Posted: 6/11/2007 12:07:02 PM

-picking his nose while eating

Only while eating?

My turn off is a guy who wants me to change everything about my life for him...
Change my job, my religion, get rid of my pets....
There are a lot of great looking women on this site, so if all you like about me are my looks, look elsewhere!
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 121
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Posted: 6/11/2007 1:06:19 PM
I agree with the pic of three people on a profile and you have no clue which is the profiled person........
Someone who NEVER answers their phone(applies in a relationship, not first few dates)
Whining and complaining, about work, kids, ex, you name it........
Ex in excessive. I do like to know the basic scenario,as it helps me to understand where they have been.
It's ALL about them. Their schedule, their job, thier priorities only.
It's all about matter how NICE and polite they are, you FEEL this.
All they want is know.........2 dates and they know you are the one!
They open a can of beer while driving!
They want you to meet their child right away!
They tell you that they will drive 4 hrs to see you every night.
They go on and on about what they bought at Dollar general yesterday(yawn)
It is obvious they could find better clothes at the Goodwill
Their table manners SUCK
They stare at your chest when fully covered
They arrive drunk or only want to get drunk.
Second date, they pick you up. After they leave you see they wrote "Miss You" on your bathroom mirror in nail polish!

I'd say my dating experiences were 70/30. 70% of the guys I met were great guys, just not for me, and 30% had one or more of these items that applied......

Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 122
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:48:35 PM
When my date is rude, condescending to service industry people; cashiers, waitstaff, etc.
 Miss G
Joined: 5/1/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:58:30 PM
Fanny, I think his nose was itchy, several times, yes, INSIDE the nose. He is cute enough to pull this off, but its still a little gross.
 Champuli Nam Pakanli
Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 124
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Posted: 6/11/2007 5:10:27 PM
For me, it's how they act around others. If he is rude to the servers at a restaurant, and we don't even know them, how is he going to treat the people he knows? And this applies to women just as well as men...

Another is not knowing how to dress oneself...once again - applied to either sex. If you are having to ask me, "Is the tie a bit much?" then it probably is.
Joined: 4/27/2007
Msg: 125
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Posted: 6/11/2007 9:34:52 PM
I hate it when a man talks about how he can't go anywhere without gorgeous women hitting on him. Why isn't he out with one of them?
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