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 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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I had this convo with a g/f just last night.
And tyvm Grandma! You only put a voice to what we spoke of! Very well done!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 1/22/2008 5:27:31 PM

Back to work.
This simplies my life a lot.
I'd already come to this conclusion in the past year but it's nice to get some acknolwedge from the experts.
You do a FINE job of putting 2+2 together and coming up with 15......unfortunately, you're still WRONG! We have no problem admitting it to other women.....who likewise know what the ramifications WILL be if we ever came out and said the words. It's just not worth all the grief we'd get over it. Once you "admit" it....then you've just let yourself in for the 3rd degree every time you go to the grocery store! FORGET ever buying 3 new pair of thong panties....cause once you've admitted that you love to F***....then anything other than 100% cotton granny drawers is PROOF (to a man) that you're doing the UPS driver. You give up buying the sexy underwear....and you're right back to hating intercourse...and the viscious cycle begins again. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...so why bother. I have YET to meet a man who doesn't SAY that he prefers women with no makeup; yet as soon as he's in a relationship with a woman and she STOPS wearing makeup as a submissive gesture....giving him what he SAYS he wants....then he starts whining that she's letting herself go! So, she puts on lipstick an some mascara before he comes home from work......WHAMMO.....she just got done F****** the UPS driver! Bottom Line....Men don't know what the Sam Hill they REALLY want...and it's our fault for not informing them.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:02:36 PM

NO, I'm not going to SAY I love to F***......nor is ANY woman with 1/2 brain in her head.


In all sincerity, I don't think anyone (either gender) has any brains if they need to proclaim such a thing.


Because women aren't ALLOWED to love intercourse (or at least not to say it out loud....lest we be lambasted for it the rest of our lives). We're not ALLOWED to scream "HARDER, DEEPER, FASTER"....cause afterall.....what kind of decent mother talks that way.


OMG!! You are allowed to be as expressive as you want. Your sexuality, in private, should be uninhibitted and barrier free. Unfortunately, I think you've been around too many morons who think a woman's role is to be submissive and quiet..... that's true if you were role playing - lol.... but absolutely, a woman should be as free as she wants.

I take issue with people of both genders who feel the need to broadcast over a loudspeaker (so to speak) for everyone to take notice.

Give me a woman who is very expressive in a discreet way and I'll never discourage her. I'd help perpetuate that behaviour.


If we admit to loving intercourse then we can't be decent, moral, law biding, PTA presidents and Girl Scout leaders....we can only be sluts.....END OF STORY


Again... I disagree. A woman loving intercourse is wonderful. A woman fvcking everything that moves is an emotional train wreck (jerks call them sluts)..... same goes for guys. Anyone possessing half a brain realises that intimacy is best when enjoyed in a consistent, emotionally appealing relationship.... it's not rocket science.

Well... it may be for some
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:16:02 PM
MI? I think the issue is that Mr. B wants us gals to broadcast for all to see our likes/dislikes. I agree with everything you said. And those confident in their sexuality male and female alike certainly do NOT have to play silly word games in open forums.
 hypermode
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:06:09 PM
HAHA scare no way if anything you help younger men feel good. Not because of the sex just the upfront part, tell it like it is but in a respectful way. And the lovin well I feel if there is chemistry there I'm up for a wild encounter. Jumpin in isn't so fun because you don't know them that well so I'm thinking at least eat and chat and experiment, works for me.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 132
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:03:25 PM
get sucky sex

And here I thought men LIKED sucky sex. . . .


 hypermode
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:13:14 PM
You got me laughing over here haha younger crowd oh come now, mature crowd does the same thing not sure where your living but in California you would be surprised.

But I like your responses keep them coming Ms.
 smartazzjohn
Joined: 8/11/2007
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:01:11 PM
I'm tired of all the bickering. I think all the talk about sex is getting both genders cranky because they aren't getting any........ I'm going to start a thread about knitting, one about the benifits of geritol and another about orthopedic shoes.
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 1/23/2008 5:23:29 AM

I'm tired of all the bickering. I think all the talk about sex is getting both genders cranky because they aren't getting any........ I'm going to start a thread about knitting, one about the benifits of geritol and another about orthopedic shoes.
Making a Geritol****ail for my B.O.B. in the hopes that he will still find me sexy in my othropedic 5" red pattent leather heels! LOL!
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/23/2008 6:22:54 AM
LOL! alright guys (and gals) NO fair reporting people to the Principal! Whoever complained about Browards posts and got him banned.......Knock it off! We can't have a good argument if we're going to cry everytime someone disagrees with us! LOL! besides that....I always get blamed for it! (Just got a nastygram from Broward in mailbox).
 smartazzjohn
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 139
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:22:02 AM
"I agree with this post.There is f***ing and there is making love. Mature woman are past the stage of f***ing ."


Ok get ready, I'm going to be serious this time!!!!

No matter what you call it, making love and f**king are both sex acts. Everyone can bounce around both terms all they want, it doesn't change what they have in common. While I agree there is a difference between the two acts there are many people who love each other, no matter what their age is, that enjoy both. I feel what happens between a couple behind closed doors (or any where else) sexually isn't the only defining factor in a relationship. It is just one aspect of a mature, loving and healthy life that people share. If they talk openly about their bedroom adventures doesn't change that and certainly doesn't make her a slut or mean he is going to want sex outside of the relationship. If a couple never talks openly about their activities doesn't mean they are inhibited sexually, it is just something they keep between themselves.

If a woman over 40, I won't say mature here because age doesn't define maturity, talks openly about sex, says that "I like intercourse" or "I like oral sex", it doesn't make her a slut. Words alone can never make her one. One the flip side of that there are women who would never utter a word about sex that may be what is defined as a "slut" by most people. The saying "Actions speak louder than words" would really apply here. Yes there are men and women who judge others by words alone, but it doesn't mean that they are right about those they are judging.
 SoCalScorp
Joined: 9/14/2007
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:37:20 AM
I'm gonna lose my man card but I refuse to f**k. Dogs f**k. There is a reason humans are the only animals who can copulate face to face. It is and should be an emotional experience and I wouldn't want it any other way. Having said that, in a relationship down & dirty is great but without the connection? I don't want any of it.
AND my ex gf loved porn.
AND as to mature or any other kind of woman not liking sex - hogwash - they've probably just had the misfortune of selfish partners. Remember, if you don't get her off, you might not be allowed back on
 Moonchild51
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Posted: 1/23/2008 9:38:03 AM
@ John...Those are some of the most well written true to life words I have ever seen posted anywhere here in the fishbowl! I think you my good man, simply rock!
I especially liked the "won't say mature" part John. Cuz I am never going to get there!
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:00:35 AM

I have never in my life met a woman who encouraged her man to look at porn
LOL! I didn't "encourage" mine to "look" at it.....I simply set up the video camera in the bedroom, led him by the hand and told him what to do....and listened to him whine about how disgusting he thought I was being! LOL!

OK, now...a tip for those of you who might try this: if you use a "tape" be SURE that you fast forward a couple of feet BEFORE you click on "record"....as I learned the hard way when I thought that I'd recorded OVER the tape.....they don't always rewind to the SAME spot.....imagine my surprise when we sat down to watch a recording of the family barbeque and the first 2 seconds were of Mommy sprawled on the bed in a G String! LOL!
 smartazzjohn
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:22:27 AM
BooBoo.....now I think I know how you got your name or at least why it fits you

I guess it can take only a couple of seconds to make a life time memory, I bet your family get togethers and video cameras will never be quite the same huh?
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/23/2008 10:25:12 AM
LOL! well John.....let's just say that when the made up the T shirt that says "Take revenge...live long enough to be an embarrassment to your children"...they were talking about ME! LOL!

Redarcangel: LOL! Had to have been the MOST embarrassing moment of my entire life when my kids saw it.....but making it......was HOT! HOT! HOT! LOL! Too bad my ex thought I was such a sex maniac....guess it was before they heard that "Girls just wanna have FUN!" LOL!
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:52:35 PM
Mature Women know with their Mature Hearts.. if they want sex.. then by golly they can have it anytime.(no problem).. it is a sign of self-worth for a woman not to just hump anything that comes along.. and just because she turns it down doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy it!

Now for Broward... When did sex die in your relationship? I bet it was a nanosecond after the first time you took your lady for granted... any woman who's been ignored as being an intergral important partner.. will turn off a man with a blink of an eye! So be careful in how you treat your ladies or you'll find yourself without one!

Sexual attraction stops when the parties stop treating each other well... why would anyone.. man or woman want to have sex with a partner who is demanding... instead of wooing a partner... sex is not an "act" .... it must mean more than just a performance.. or guys.. if that's all it is to you.. go stick it in a light socket.. I've had my heart torn out by inconsiderate men who thought the "had" me.. and I go poof... I disappear into the vapors because I refuse to be taken for Granted!!! Talk about killjoys...! No amount of talking about it will repair the harm done by an absent hearted man!!!

A mature woman.. knows when to keep her jeans on.. and that she choose.. not him!!!! So the guys who dislike or hate mature women so much... stop advertising and leave the bandwidth open for the men who do understand women..

If I sleep with you doesn't mean I LUV you...lol!!!

Girlflower

 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
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Posted: 1/23/2008 4:11:43 PM
There is a reason humans are the only animals who can copulate face to face.
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Nope. Dolphins not only do, they MUST. As do whales. Don't know about bonobos (Oops! Just checked. They do, too. )

Google is a wonderful tool, and very easy to use. . . .


 SoCalScorp
Joined: 9/14/2007
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Posted: 1/23/2008 8:46:15 PM
Ya know, when I posted, I had dolphins in the back of my mind, I just didn't do the research shame on me!
GrandmaBooBoo - what are you doing for the next fifty years or so?
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:47:22 PM

GrandmaBooBoo - what are you doing for the next fifty years or so?
LOL! I dunno....but you can bet I won't be making any more home porno movies!

Desertbro:
GBB: Okay, not the usual course of action, but still NOT THE SAME as encouraging him to look at porn, in fact, it's the exact OPPOSITE. Instead of encouraging him to seek pleasure from whatever is "out there", what you describe turn the focus only on yourself.
Well, you are so right as usual. I stand guilty as charged of not only trying to keep the relationship interesting and fun, but of the most heinous crime any woman could possibly ever commit.....enjoying sex myself. But Hey, I did repent, divorced the man....so he can look at all the porno he wants (it was never an issue to him....he said it was disgusting). Thank you for proving what the women pointed out in many previous posts....that women are NOT ALLOWED to enjoy sex....if we do it's selfish. Ohhhh but wait....didn't a few others suggest that perhaps men who would bash women who do enjoy sex were mentally unstable? I must go back and read the rules again!
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/24/2008 6:57:33 AM

For HIM, it's a world of difference. Dunno if I've explained it well.
No, you haven't explained it well. Why don't you type real slow and use very small words so that our tiny little female brains can comprehend it. Obviously my communication skills are not up to your level. I mistakenly assumed that when I said that "I DIDN'T encourage it, I simply...."; that I mean't exactly what I had said...that I didn't encourage it. Thank you for explaining to me that when I said I didn't encourage it...that I really meant that I did encourage it.....but then I was still wrong because I actually hadn't encouraged it....which is what I thought I'd said in the first place.
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/24/2008 8:25:59 AM

but if a guy was getting turned on my pictures of other women instead of me, I think I would have lost interest real quick............
Totally agree with you Friendlyldy; but that's just the 1/2 of it!

Wonder what these husbands would say if we told them we're going to start going to the Male Revue every Thursday night to watch the men get naked? Hey now...just a little harmless girl fun! Oh....now, let's talk about our dildos! How many times have you heard a man whine about THOSE??? What do you need THAT thing for....am I not enough to satisfy YOU (ya slut).

Now, just picture this: He comes into bed...wants laid....but you just finished taking care of business with B.O.B. You say.....ahhh geee hon, sorry....but I just got done and I'm good now. Goodnight sweetie! (roll over and go to sleep) OMG!!! You B*****.....as he takes the sledge hammer to good ole B.O.B. Now, he's sitting down in the family room looking at Hustler....taking care of his business, while you're up in the bedroom taking a shower, getting all soft and silky and sexy.....and he comes up to bed and says....Ahhhhh Geee hon, I just got done and I'm good now. Goodnight Sweetie! (roles over and goes to sleep). Yup, you got it.....You're STILL a B***** for being oversexed, putting pressure on him and not understanding that men should be encouraged to substitue pornography for a some REAL wild, ass bittin' down and dirty, pour it to me baby......raw SEX!!!! Once again proving......that to men....women who love intercourse....are sluts......they CERTAINLY do not want to engage in it with their S/O's and will come up with ANY lame excuse they can think of to avoid giving THAT kind of excitement to any woman who has been foolish enough to make a "committment" to a relationship with them. Thus proving.....the REAL reason why married men don't get laid. They bore their poor wifes to death with lights out, no talking, no passion, no creativity, NO fun.......intercourse.....and to us....B.O.B. is just as much fun as they are......and when you hit the off button....he quits BUZZZING!!!
 MacKevinized
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Posted: 1/24/2008 8:58:20 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^


I notice you mention intercourse but you did not describe any scenario where it happened. You are describing masturbation.

You've just described a dysfunctional relationship and attributed it to men as if you weren't 1/2 of that equation.
Your plastic will stop buzzing when when you turn it off and his magazine will never complain about not being as great as the plastic.

If it's true that you don't want sex without love, what kind of love does B.O.B. give you when it's done?
New invention Idea:
put a MP3 player in B.O.B. that is loaded with phrases like. "Oh baby your so good", That was fantastic", "I love the way you do that" and the inevitable "I love you baby"

Sexual intercourse, in its biological sense, is the act in which the male reproductive organ (in humans and other higher animals) enters the female reproductive tract, called copulation or coitus in other reference.[1] The two entities may be of opposite sexes, or they may be hermaphroditic, as is the case with snails.

Traditionally, intercourse has been viewed as the natural endpoint of all sexual contact between a man and a woman,[2] and is commonly confined to this definition today. The meaning of the term, however, has been broadened in recent years, and now labels at least three different sex acts. These three types of intercourse are: vaginal intercourse, involving vaginal penetration by the penis; oral intercourse, involving oral caress of the sex organs (male or female); and anal intercourse, involving insertion of the male's penis into his partner's anus.[2]
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/24/2008 10:34:14 AM

I notice you mention intercourse but you did not describe any scenario where it happened. You are describing masturbation.
I apologize.....I didn't realize that we were playing dumb and ignoring that pornography and masturbation go together. I'll try to be more direct: While we do recognize that there are both females AND males who see pornography as morally wrong.....a literal form of infidelity; I believe that there are a vast number of females who view it merely as a "threat" to the relationship, or at the very least....a red flag that he is less than satisfied with the relationship. I was attempting to explain that while a male may defend his position....that pornography is NOT a threat.....that when the tables are turned....and it is SHE who is seeking "satisfaction" from a source other than him....the HE sees it as a "threat"; and if she says nooooo, it's not a threat......I still ONLY have real sex with you.......ahhhhh, that just doesn't fly well when she says.....I still ONLY have sex with you....I just need to look at Vigor's big whopper before I can get turned on enough BY you to stand actually doing it! ( I do believe that I've heard this labeled as technical fidelity). I don't feel it's necessary to go on with the hundreds of examples that could be sited to demonstrate the hypocracy of the "theory" that pornography is a totally innocuous art form. It's NATURE is not the issue; the resulting ramifications are. Women who have seen first hand.....or heard from friends what these end results can be are naturally going to see this so called "art form" as a clear and present danger to their relationships. Most women, I believe, would prefer to preserve the relationship and thusly....try to discourage the source of the "threat". Now....are we down to brass tacks yet? "Addictions"....whether it be pornography, alcohol, sports, kids, work, drugs.......are "threats" to a relationship. Whether you're male or female....if you're in a relationship with another person who puts their addiction ahead of the needs of the relationship......sooner or later.....CHOICES are going to have to be made! It's like a spouse who thinks that joining a swingers club will spice up the marriage....and then WHINES FOUL when he/she dumps them and runs off with someone they met at the club. You can quote the "rules" all you want....but it won't change HUMAN NATURE.( Well, he/she wasn't supposed to leave ME...and they weren't supposed to meet independently, yada, yada, yada....whine, whine, whine). The fact is....that when you choose the unobtainable, silicone injected bimbo over HER.....don't be surprised if she dumps you for the overweight bald guy next door.......to whom SHE is the "unobtainable" treasure. Likewise ladies.....if you habitually reject sex, or even balk at reasonable requests for a little more "adventure" in your sex lifes....don't be surprised when he dumps you for a woman who's willing to experiment a little with him!
 GrandmaBooBoo
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Posted: 1/24/2008 12:38:27 PM

My ex, in one of the last encounters before he left, while still above and inside of me, as I made those "deep, low sounds," says to me: "Wow, you sound like an ol' heffer!"
Ohhhhhhhhh, I am SOOOOO Bad.....I would have really had a hard time restraining myself from responding....."Yeah, too dang bad you're not hung like an old BULL"!

LOL! I also hate to admit it.....but anti-porn isn't "my case", I just understand the theories. LOL! I actually WISH that mine had looked at porn....he thought any sex other than for procreation was dirty and wanted no part of it. To him...it was a disgusting act that one just had to do occassionally.....like 3 or 4 times a YEAR!!! LOL!

Women's "toys".....now there's a cause I will defend! LOL! Beats the hell out of dating DOLTS!
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