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 dlr1970
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 179
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?Page 8 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
NO I THINK ITS LIKE AFTER 5 GOOD DRINKS......
 dlr1970
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 180
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/8/2008 6:37:35 PM
YAH CHICKS DIG AHOLES LIKE U
 dlr1970
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 181
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/8/2008 6:39:17 PM
WHAT ABOUT YOUR MISSING TESTICLE???
 dnguyen4
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 183
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:17:20 PM

sounds to me like a lot of woman judge a book by it's cover even though they usually say this isn't the case.


I agree with you. How could you possibly get to know someone if you dont like him in less then 30 seconds. They say they want a nice man with a nice personality, have goals, know what they want, and looks aren't their top priority. I'm wondering how could they possibly get to know all of this in less than 30 seconds.
 ~Scoundrel~
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 184
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:45:14 PM
What women say they want and what they react to are often differant things. IMHO the most important thing in attracting women is high social value. Meaning you have a higher social value than she does.

Remember the song "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun?" Bordom is the enemy! Bore her and you lose.
 Elissa04
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 185
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/9/2008 4:19:52 AM
30 seconds? more like .5 seconds lol
 Desi1955
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 187
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:12:47 AM

IMHO Women decide they DO NOT want a man in about 30 seconds. It takes longer to decide she does. I started a thread about it a while back.


I think this is absolutely true. I know immediately if I'm NOT interested in a guy, and nothing he or I do will get me interested no matter how many 'good' points he has. If I'm not sure about him, I keep seeing him till I know one way or the other.
 ~birdie~
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 188
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:39:29 AM
I totally agree with the above, that you do know pretty quickly if you do NOT want to date a guy... but when a guy is put in the "maybe" category, then it takes alot longer to decide if he is your type, or decide whether you are compatible or not. There is much more at play than just initial attraction when it comes to wanting to date someone.
 iris43
Joined: 4/20/2007
Msg: 189
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/9/2008 10:09:28 AM
I will say I have it happen both ways.....if I have met someone completely blind like from a dating site I'm quick to know if there is going to be a second date within about 30 seconds. Lets face when you meet from a dating site its usually not just to be friends you are looking for romance.

If I have met someone in the real world like at the gym, we have mutual friends or work whatever the case and you have met on different occasions, talked and chatted, became friends or friendly (NO PRESSURE) well yes what may have not been an attraction at first can become one over time, the more you get to the know the person.

Rarely if ever happens from sites like this because as soon as you say yes to a second or third date people will automatically assume there is a romantic interest. I hate pressure and find with dating sites, single events or blind dates there is an implied pressure.

Your single I'm single...what you don't want to date me!!!!?
 sorede
Joined: 1/11/2008
Msg: 191
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:00:49 AM
I agree that guys also do it.

I do not think you can perfectly judge how far you want to take it in 30 secs (girls or guys), but I think you can figure out from looks and body language (hence personality) how far you want to take it barring any major red flags.

Once in a while though, somebody does overcome a bad first impression and can get a second "judging".....
 Icene
Joined: 6/26/2007
Msg: 193
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Posted: 2/10/2008 11:06:27 AM
I always thought it was a given that you want to be with someone you're physically attracted to. The insides are important, but that's after you've already established sex is a possibility. If you're not physically attracted to a guy with a great personality, then you likely won't date him. You'll happily to be his friend, but a romantic relationship usually involves sex.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 196
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Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 7:28:28 AM
Yes

usually

although it's more likely I can decide if I'm NOT attracted, sometimes people grow on you, but that is usually something unexpected. I would never date someone HOPING that would happen. That would be dishonest.
 smileatjen
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 197
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:29:53 AM
I can't say that I'm sold on the first 30 seconds. Its usually when the guy opens his mouth and starts conversation when I can tell completely. But on attractiveness, yes.
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 198
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:40:18 AM
Looks are often the first thing a woman notices about a man or vice versa. Yes I can tell how physically attracted I am to a man relatively quickly. However I wouldn't lose interest in a man that quickly unless he is completely unattractive to me. If a man was average looking or even a little bit below average looking, I would still want to find out more things about him before making any type of decision about my overall interest in him.
 wondering1980
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 199
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:48:52 AM
nope i don't...takes a long time for me to decide...like over a month for me to decide.. and i don't meet guys from the site
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 200
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 12:13:14 PM
How this thread turned into "relationship potential", "personality", "chemistry" or anything else in discussion is beyond me.

The question is about "attraction" plain and simple. And for most of us, attraction (or lack of it) is immediate. If you are attracted, then there are other things over time that may add to or take from that initial attraction. But if you don't have that attraction, then spending eons of time with them won't change anything - it might make you friends, but that's it.

It's not about judgement, or the person inside, etc. The question is simply....when you first see someone face to face, do they "do it" for you? That's determined fairly quickly...usually in under 30 seconds.
 laplaga
Joined: 1/31/2008
Msg: 201
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 12:15:55 PM
Wow... well usually i have no problem meeting girls... but girls dont usually give you a sign that they are into you in 30 seconds... so how does a guy know that she likes him in 30 seconds...
 Xani
Joined: 8/25/2006
Msg: 202
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 12:21:18 PM
You decide whether you find that person physically appealing in 30 seconds, then you give them another 4 minutes to completely ruin that after they open their mouth. If they don't, then it merits more conversation!
 Angelheart567
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 204
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:42:55 PM
absolutley....sometimes its even less than 30 seconds
 Kelley-88
Joined: 2/7/2008
Msg: 205
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 3:34:25 AM
Gee, thirty seconds is almost long enough to fall in love. It is more like a glance. In 30 seconds I can check out a room full of 2 dozen guys and have time left over to get the attention of one I am most attracted to.
 Lola and Her Honey
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 207
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:00:51 AM

Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?


Yes, I believe they do. And men decide in less than 30 seconds if they are interested in having sex with a woman

You only get one chance to make a first impression. Make it a good one, because in this environment especially (online dating) you likely won’t get a second chance. Sad, but true.

LH
 octoro
Joined: 1/24/2008
Msg: 208
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 10:15:59 AM
Well damn, no wonder I don't get many dates

After work, I either usually wear work clothes or just put on some good jeans and a sweatshirt to go out.

OH, we're talking about a date! 5 second scan then turn her heat ON
 asheel_heel
Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 209
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 10:29:16 AM
Why is this so unbelievable to you?

Everyone does the same.

What varies is the range of features/qualities that individuals qualify as attractive.
 vahbsc
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 210
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 11:29:26 AM
who needs 30 whole seconds?

no really sometimes its about 3 sometimes 3 days sometimes 3 years. it really depends
 Moderncutthroat
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 211
Do girls decide if they're attracted to a man within 30 seconds of meeting him?
Posted: 2/13/2008 12:01:20 PM
Considering that Attraction is something that's instantaneous and for the most part we can't help what we are attracted to... yes. It is decided almost instantly whether that person is someone you are physically attracted to.

The rest of it? All takes time. Emotional and mental connections come later but physically I know immediately.
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