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 orchidtigress
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 56
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charity organizations, art galleries, upscale places, workout centres, professional organizational PR events, seminars, retreats, cruise ships, spas, healthclubs, churches, parties, fundraisers, etc.

Basically my advice would be: join a club, do something you like, or take a class etc- then you will meet people with whom you have common interests.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 67
where to find professional women
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:11:46 PM
Bookstores are a key place -- my 50+ year old uncle, with a big red beard and could easily be cast in films about the middle ages had a young gal make a move on him there. It takes patience. You don't go there once or twice for a couple hours and quit. Make yourself available. It's like scoring in hockey -- getting an interested gal's number doesn't happen every time your team does something. You have to move the puck down the ice, and move it near the opponents' net and go from there. Takes time and patience to set yourself up, and there will be plenty of interuptions much of the time before you even get to the point of making a legitimate shot on goal. Some people try and slap shots from the blue line and complain that nothing's going in.

Professional = successful? Or women in nice sexy business suits with a career-oriented job? Bookstores would be a place, but you'll find "amateur" women there, too.

And I don't think meeting a gal at a movie theatre would be the best route, btw! ("Hi! You're in line to see a movie? Me too! Hey, how about we see a movie some time? How about now?")
 Gideon_70
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 71
where to find professional women
Posted: 6/8/2007 7:51:12 PM
How about dating a lady with the intention of seeing is she is marriage material. Then, if she is, put her through school, support her, and help her see her dreams come true. Or would you rather just find someone that is more career minded than family minded so that there will be no strings when you get tired of her.
 magnacare
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 78
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Posted: 11/22/2008 8:38:38 AM
innocentantic I agree with your reply. Also think that there are many other good replys as well. IMO this is a "personal opinion" on what a person deems "successful professional' I believe there are successful professionals in every field from white color to blue collar workers. For me in my earlier years, I was a successful professional server, who choose to go to college and further her education. In my earlier years being a server allowed me to be home to get my children off to school, and be home when they returned, I could do homework and tuck them into bed at night. However, I knew they would grow up and I would have more free hours. So I chose to go to college, further my education so when they were old enough to be more self sufficient, I would be in a position to work full time in an area I truly enjoyed going to work in, as well as increasing my financial situation looking forward to a retirement I could live comfortably with.

Now, I work as a professional in the business world, but believe me I see "successful professionals" with major college degrees, whose personal and family life are in shambles or constant chaos. I also have friends who are tradesmen who have never gone to college but are successful professionals in their respective fields and they have personal lives that are well balanced and healthy.

So my point is this, one needs to define their own paradigm of "successful professional"

Is yours:
someone who goes to work in a suite, makes 6 figures, lives in a pricey big house, has luxury cars, takes exotic vacations 2x a year, shops at only the high end stores?
OR
someone who goes to work in their jeans, makes enought to pay the monthly bills, can afford their health insurance, owns a car that is reliable transportation, takes their family camping or rents a cabin up north for a week of vacation, is a bargan hunter who shops wisely by comparing prices and loves a great "sale"?

I have friends who fit both catagories above, I consider BOTH to be successful professionals in their respective fields. Both are happy, mentally /emotionally healthy, they love the life they are living. Their only difference is their "life style choice".

AFM, I have chosen to live in a happy medium of both worlds. While I do not practice extravagence, I do enjoy, what I consider to be, some of the finer things in life as well. I have and I continue to work to enjoy them.

So for me I think you need to ask yourself that question. What life style do I want to live? When you have the answer your resolve is simple. Live, join, play, and become involved in the social circles, as well as the professional circles of the type of lifestyle you want to live/lead. You know the ole saying, "bird of a feather". I hope you find what you are looking for.
 magnacare
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 80
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Posted: 11/22/2008 9:05:32 AM
Good point peacefullme. That is another reason to have a really well thought out and written profile that honestly conveys who they are and the type of person they would be attracted to. Like you just because I work in the field of my choice, I am not too hung up on my potential date/mates social status or income, rather who they are as a person and how they choose to live their life.
 nextone1
Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 85
where to find professional women
Posted: 11/23/2008 4:27:34 PM
Looking for a "professional" simply means you are looking for someone who will fit into the lifestyle that you already lead. I attend a great many business functions disguised as social functions. I need a partner who can handle that type of function; the dress, the politics, the "schmoozing" that happens at these events. They need a sharp world view, intelligent opinions based on being well informed and well read and the the manners to be able to deal with a diverse poplulation gracefully. That is what "professional" people do. One professional will understand the pressures and demands that another is under. The people who post things disparaging professional women, stating that professional women don't want relationships or suggesting that the stay at home mom who has never held a job in the business world is a "professional" simply does not understand the world some of us live in. It is neither better nor worse. It is just different.
Preferring to date someone who moves in your world, understands your issues and has a similar frame of reference is a preference, just as everyone has preferences for looks, interests and activities.
I have a PhD. I posted it and then took it off. My e-mails increase 10x with no other change in the profile. I put it back up because that is WHO I AM and qutie frankly, the men who responded when it was off, would NOT be comfortable in the social circle in which I live nor did we share any interests. How would that work???
 androgynousvon
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 87
where to find professional women
Posted: 11/23/2008 10:37:13 PM
well, OP, as a professional woman, i hang out at gas stations (getting gas), you could say "hi" there....running errands (grocery store, banks, convenience stores, pet smart for my dogs....i also hang out with friends, go to bars once in a while, i go out to eat, i may take a hike or a bike ride, or walk my dogs. then there's also my profession...i spend a lot of time at work. anyway, the irony is, i usually don't get "hit on" unless i'm dressed up like a typical bar bimbo. i'm always torn between dressing that way and just letting my profession speak for itself. unfortunately, no one takes the time to find out what i do unless i'm looking cute and sexy that day! lol it's a real dilemma!!
 nextone1
Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 89
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Posted: 11/24/2008 6:48:37 PM
No dempcey, I did not say that, the original poster did, that is what HE is looking for. I was just explaining why some people (such as OP) may have a preference for certain types of people. Everyone has preferences, no reason to be disparaging about it.
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