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 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 115
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Dang! Sometimes I'd like to be with the crowd, lol! But I'm not. Attraction/chemistry is a biggie, and truth told, I really don't wish to be distracted by it. That up front whoosh gotta gotta gotta have it *really* gets in the way of knowing a person, lol! And it burns out really fast, and is in no way a predictor of long term compatibility. My experience both here, and in meat life, is it simply takes *me* time.

Both times here that I let myself be pushed we real bad meets. Mea culpa: the very first thing I learned about them is that they disregarded my sense of pace/need to know. That I might have dreamed it would turn out differently is me, wishin'.

So, a month or two. Usually. Because of where I live it's normally a several hour drive for somebody, or both bodies, and so far, waiting has turned out well: it hasn't always taken romantically, but it was always worth the time, effort, $.

 1eastshore
Joined: 11/3/2010
Msg: 116
how long would you like to talk online before meeting in person
Posted: 11/11/2010 9:14:48 AM

I don't have a set time period for when to go out with someone else. I have gone out on dates with people from a dating site ranging from a week to about 1.5 months after first contact. It can depend on the circumstances. Such as location, schedule, amount of email / phone conversations etc.


In general I agree with this. I'm not automatically going out with every man where there is mutual initial interest based on the profile and photos. I think there needs to be some type of screening process ( emails, phone calls etc ) before going out with someone. This also depends on the comfort level of the 2 people involved. I don't consider it to be a big deal if the other person wanted to go out 1-2 weeks later than what you preferred. They may end up appreciating the fact that you were patient with them. Thus that might end up increasing the amount of interest they have in you.
 Purple0000
Joined: 10/10/2010
Msg: 117
how long would you like to talk online before meeting in person
Posted: 11/11/2010 11:26:16 AM
chat on line for a month and then talk on the phone for 2 weeks.
Talking on the phone is good you can hear the voice if he or she is sincere.
 Pilose_Wink
Joined: 11/2/2010
Msg: 118
how long would you like to talk online before meeting in person
Posted: 11/11/2010 1:57:39 PM
Everyone is different and has different criteria, some have a sense of adventure and a more open mind, others need an FBI back ground check, it all depends on your sense of perception and your comfort level, there is no right answer but I believe sooner rather than later saves a lot of day dreaming heart ache and disappointment.

I’ve met one within 6 hours of first contact, and another one took months. Both were failures. So what’s the correct number of days for me then? 5-days! Yep. 5 days is the number, not 4 and 6 is right out!
 ginamontecino
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 119
how long would you like to talk online before meeting in person
Posted: 11/12/2010 8:20:15 AM
I talk on line until I feel that i am comfortable enough to go out with them. That depends on our connection. Most of the time the conversation slows down and ends because we have NOTHING in common. I won't go out with anyone until I am sure I have their attention!!! lol The connection has to click mentally.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 120
how long would you like to talk online before meeting in person
Posted: 11/12/2010 8:53:27 AM
Lately, about a week. Couple phone calls and then face to face.

Then I talk about dating...or not.
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