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 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 27
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"I also go to the nude beach. I'm pretty sure I bend from the knees when i have to pick something up." God if we all lived by those rule it would be soooooooooooooo much easier.....BEND FROM THE KNEES WHILE PICKING SOMETHING UP AT A NUDE BEACH. It's the right thing to do and make the beach experience more pleasant for everyone.
 ExecutiveBiker
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 28
havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:21:35 AM
Who me? I am what I am and that's all what I am. I'm 44 and I just got my first tattoo at a music festival in Amsterdam. I have followed the Grateful Dead. Been to hundreds and hundreds of concerts and there's no signs of stopping. It's who I am! My daughter got me a harley Davidson Earring for Xmas - I don't think she is embarrassed by me.
My Bike is named Pococurante - it means "nonchalante" or I don't give a care what you think. Plenty of people love who I am. And the ones that don't are of no concern to me. As a Zen meditation student I have learned that a non-judgemental stance and total acceptance are important steps on the path to enlightenment.
Peace
Jonny
 R2000
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 29
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havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 6/4/2009 10:46:11 AM
Ooooh, a resurrected thread. I like this one. I thought props to the OP for getting past his original impression.

Until last year, I was stuck in a rut. I cut my hair the same way, wore the same clothes, and listened to the same music as I did 20 years ago. Last year as my marriage was foundering, I was growing and I found myself wanting to make some changes. I changed how I wear my hair a little. I didn't get crazy, just some gel and a little bit spiked up. I bought some new clothes that are a little more flamboyant and fashionable. I got tired of classic rock and started listening to Punk and Indie stuff.

These days, I'm continually evaluating my look and trying new things. It's very easy to get stuck in a rut.

In fact, I'm of the opinion that the defining trait of someone old is how much they are set in their ways. Sure, they may be chronologically old and in the waning years of life, but, if they are continually trying new things and exploring new things, then, they are probably going to be a young older person and enjoying life.

In my opinion, the bigger question of what is appropriate is tied up with the question why. If what you do is an expression of who you are, most people will be OK with it. If what you're doing is from an attempt to cover up or mask some insecurity, then most people are going to see it as weird.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 30
havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 6/4/2009 1:12:17 PM

OP, I just think there's NOTHING worse than someone desperately trying to regain youth by doing all sorts of crazy things to your body. Maybe she's having a mid-life crisis?


You know what. I find this to be ridiculous. If you are a woman and can still look like you are in your 20 and happen to be in your forties, well, flaunt it, be proud of it, enjoy it. My gf, for instance, just got a new tattoo. Of a pink ribbon.
 BONZAII
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 31
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havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:02:58 AM
I have to laugh as I read some of these postings.. becuase there is a GREAT many things here that matter in this scenario. Is it ok for someone to be dressing a certain way when our age should define another course by popular perception? The answer is YES, be yourself... BUT, the TRUTH behind a lot of these women who dress this way isn't becuase it's just a style.. LOL and MOST would lie to you... but the TRUTH is a lot dress this way becuase they have some inner conflict with their aging self. Now I am going to get LAMBLASTED by several, and guess what, they'll be the EXACT ones I am talking about. :)

secondly if you are in your twenties, how on God's green Earth could you possibly have enough worldly introspective to post a comment?? SERIOUSLY NOW!!!! It would have no merit as your not in your 40's and old enough to understand our generation, our maturity or life for that matter.. OF COURSE you agree, you ARE the twenty year olds they are trying to emulate!!!...LOL Come back when you're 40 and life has had some time to be your teacher.. ;)

But I digress here.. Back on point..... There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with someone wanting to be their own free spirit, and if you are a matured man who doesn not find this a comfortable fit, then like all of us, you have te right to seek out your preference in a mate also. Should be no hard feelings to the person who wishes to dress this way or the person who does not find this style appealing... after all, isn't this a preference???

BUT, for those of you who dress this way becuase you don't see "beautiful" when you look in the mirror becuase you are now an aging woman instead of that vibrant twenties something woman, you need more than any piercing or butt hugging jeans could ever give you.... ;) And yes, I know, this will make ALL their defenses come up, they'll tell me I am WRONG, an insensitive jerk, etc... but truths aren't always pretty, BUT they are still truths... As a person who went to school for psychology I can tell you that it is my profession that left the WORST mark on society called "APPEASEMENT". And if you want PROOF that this causes damage, then simply watch American idol. For years people tell these young hopefuls that they can SING, their voices are BEAUTIFUL, and then when REALITY is presented to them, they not only cry, but their bodies shake in mental agony and they are in total disblief.. the saying says choose being KINd over being RIGHT... Are we genuinely being kind when we lie??? Or are we doing more harm than good??? How about just striving a little bit harder and being KIND ad being RIGHT and not allowing ourselves to cross either line??? Wouldn't that be more truthfully valuable to our friends, our spouse, our co-workers, etc??

So to wrap this all up and jump off my soapbox... ;) Let's say this... SEXY isn't in WHAT you are wearing, but rather in wearing what you have on.... ;) Meaning, sexy can be a $5,000 business suit or a simple T-shirt that's a little too big and slightly too revealing... it's the CONTENT SPIRIT of the person and their ability to be comfortable in their own skin that makes someone SEXY... :) Fake colored Eyes, Fake Breasts, Wigs, Fake personalities, Acting other than our spirits direct us to, all these are things that may on the surface attract someone to you... BUT KEEPING SOMEONE, that's what is important!!!... and that only comes when you make sure that the outside of you harmonizes with the inner beauty of you... ;) God Bless all!!!

Chris
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 32
havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:12:38 AM
Who gets to decide what is the ridiculous stage?
Nothing wrong with doing what you personally like
with your own body.
No one else has to like it...no one else has to follow
your trend.
There's nothing wrong with being different and doing
your own thing...especially when no one else is hurt
in the process.
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 33
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havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 8/18/2009 2:00:26 PM
It's important for people to be who they are and to be comfortable in your own skin

It's not right to try and change someone's style ~ just look for someone who is more your "type"

If you don't like someone's style or if they don't like yours ~ no big deal. There are many different types people for everyone
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 34
havng piercing and dressing like a teenager in your forties, is that ok?
Posted: 8/18/2009 2:06:26 PM
it's a preference.

just because YOU may not like doesn't mean everyone feels the same.

there's only one person in the whole world who should like it and that's the person themselves.
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