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 Aleyrebel
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 159
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Another sign is that he wants you to come where he is. If he is into you and interested he'll travel within reason. I had a boyfriend tell me that. He traveled 5hrs to see me. We dated for 3 mo, and that isn't why we broke up. I've traveled 60mi to see some, mostly men with children, because it is more difficult for them to travel. Failing that, he has to pay for my gas. Now that I've moved South, most men are in Richmond that contact me. I use to work in Williamsburg so it wasn't a problem, now it is. I think men like to pursue, and if we go to them, we are too easily won and they lose interest. I truly feel that has happened with a few, and therefore, if you contact me, expect to travel to me. LOL
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 166
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Posted: 7/18/2009 9:00:12 PM
I have been so busy I barely have time to talk to my kids, I think depending on the person some throw themselves hard into their profession and I prefer to think that while he might be to busy to call he is atleast allowing me to be the reason for the smile on his face.
 chenonceau
Joined: 9/27/2008
Msg: 167
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Posted: 7/19/2009 12:26:21 PM
This was enlightening. Have this neighbor that acts crazy for me when he is drunk. When he is sober, he is very self conscious, etc. Have never even allowed him to kiss me, because I just didn't trust what was happening. Felt totally confused. Could have really liked him, but the forgetfulness, etc. Don't think he is fooling around. Guess it is alcoholism. Wow!
 Pierrefondman
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 168
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Posted: 7/19/2009 4:28:08 PM
I agrre with you, just don't get it when you have a date and spend pratically 12 hours with someone u would assume their must be something there if no chemistry u would ended sooner , and then they tell you keep in touch and then you try you leave a message and u dont hear back from them go figure so you know women are just as bad and I dont think we should just think men are bad women play games also.
 jr123567
Joined: 2/15/2009
Msg: 169
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Posted: 7/20/2009 8:53:25 AM
If a business associate asks you to schedule a meeting next week, and you are too busy, your response likely would be "I'm busy next week, but let me check my calendar...oh - I'm free on xxx date, how about we meet then?" Pretty simple. So I figure if someone is a successful business person who knows how to schedule work appointments, yet they are vaguely "too busy" for dating....I have to wonder.
 destinymoon
Joined: 11/28/2010
Msg: 173
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Posted: 12/18/2010 8:41:31 AM
hes got other women if hes okay seeing you once every 2 or 3 wks
 destinymoon
Joined: 11/28/2010
Msg: 174
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Posted: 12/18/2010 8:50:07 AM
I come home tired and beat a few nights a week but always manage to text him goodnight because hes that important to me
 bikenurse7
Joined: 11/21/2010
Msg: 175
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Posted: 12/19/2010 4:05:49 AM
I love those forehead kisses...they feel sweet..thanks for reminding me Lyrical
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 176
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Posted: 12/21/2010 6:40:33 AM

Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You


He doesn't reach for your hand and stop you from crossing the street in front of a bus.

Puts you on the outside of the walkway ..just in case.

Is more interested in the waitress than the actual menu and suggests you order a salad dressing on the side.

Orders a triple martini over lunch and doesn't drink.

Makes sure he eats extra garlic and onions and you didn't.

Ask if you are sure you are (insert age here---------)???
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 177
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Posted: 12/22/2010 6:11:30 AM
If its in your mind consistently that someone is not into you, its because they are not into you. You really don't need a check list.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 178
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Posted: 12/22/2010 12:42:46 PM

If its in your mind consistently that someone is not into you, its because they are not into you. You really don't need a check list.


Very true but sometimes you have them because you simply cannot for the life of you understand why not? So you go through the checklist to make sure you are still senile..
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 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 12/22/2010 1:06:27 PM

So you go through the checklist to make sure you are still senile..


Goodness, native, you leave yourself so open, its hard to resist....

 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 180
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Posted: 12/23/2010 4:19:17 AM

Goodness, native, you leave yourself so open, its hard to resist..


Yeah but seriously I ought to be closing up the shop here very very soon.. I think I did my last "Good Samaritan" job of the season..

nativerock
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 181
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Posted: 12/23/2010 4:58:37 AM
he brings his girlfriend home for christmas dinner at your place...
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 182
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Posted: 12/23/2010 10:53:40 AM
You realize one day you're choosing your friends according to how you'll feel when you come home and find him in bed with one of them, because you know you will, sooner or later.
 Underapalemoonsky
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 183
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Posted: 12/24/2010 11:02:58 AM
I used to take it very personally if a guy wasn't into me. The older I get, the less I care. Plus, I've come to the realization that sometimes It's a charactar flaw on the man's end; maybe, just maybe he does not have the capability to "be into someone".

I'm taking some time and trying to learn to be into myself!
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 184
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Posted: 12/24/2010 7:55:19 PM

These can apply to either gender, and are virtually foolproof:


Let us remember that women are just as guilty of this just as men. Men experience this as do women. Fortunately Straight Christian Lady can admit this. As usual a few of the other ladies give the impression that only men are capable of this.
 S.O.U.L
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 185
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Posted: 12/26/2010 3:36:11 PM

Plus, I've come to the realization that sometimes It's a charactar flaw on the man's end; maybe, just maybe he does not have the capability to "be into someone".


Or maybe he found someone he was more into than you.
 Verissa
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/12/2014 12:16:28 AM
If after the first week or so, I have to initiate every email, phone call, IM, meeting time/place...then I would have to say that "he's not that into me." I went through this recently and it was frustrating because when we WERE together things were great. We could sit and talk, either on the phone, IMing or while enjoying coffee or boinking for hours at a time.


Being new to dating, I have a hard time distinguishing if I'm being overly needy or if "he's just not that into me". I guess time will tell, but it's certainly difficult on the ego. I luckily have enough other people and things going on in my life to avoid continually thinking about the person I want to get to know the most right now doesn't have a lot of time. A little more effort would be nice, but given the circumstances most of the time I get it. Hard to not take it personally, even if it's unintentional.
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 3/12/2014 12:52:25 AM

Being new to dating, I have a hard time distinguishing if I'm being overly needy or if "he's just not that into me". I guess time will tell, but it's certainly difficult on the ego. I luckily have enough other people and things going on in my life to avoid continually thinking about the person I want to get to know the most right now doesn't have a lot of time. A little more effort would be nice, but given the circumstances most of the time I get it. Hard to not take it personally, even if it's unintentional.


Sometimes guys don't text or call all the time because they don't want to appear needy. Of course it's hard not to take it personally, but we have no way to know what's really going on inside their head. They might be chatting up other people or they're burned out by taking on an extra job. If a guy really likes you, he would walk through waist-deep sewage in an electrical hail storm to spend time with you.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 188
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Posted: 3/12/2014 8:08:35 AM
1)know yourself well enough to know what you offer. then see if he seems to notice those good qualities of you, and takes you to situations where you can shine--or just to bed.

2)date someone for who they are, not for what they do for you. If you do the former, you'll notice quickly--they aren't around. do the latter, and it won't matter they aren't around--as long as they do what you need them to do (be a conquest to win over, be a source of drama, etc).

3)like the book says...we always suspect its going on. we aren't too stupid to see it, we're too stupid to do something about it. but if you want a healthy relationship, you instinctively eject from the situation...b/c its not healthy. its not at all what you're looking for, so off you go to what is what you're looking for.
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 189
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Posted: 3/12/2014 8:21:14 AM

Being new to dating, I have a hard time distinguishing if I'm being overly needy or if "he's just not that into me".


I felt exactly the same way when I first started dating again (and for quite a while). From my perspective today, if you have to wonder, the answer is usually that he's not that into you. A guy who is really into you, and to whom you have made it clear that you're welcoming his attentions, will leave no doubt that he is interested. He will want to make sure that nobody else snatches you up.

To find out where you stand with a guy who doesn't contact you much, I would just never contact him more than once in a row. Text him once (I don't believe in texting for dating at all, but most people text), or, in my case, call him once. Then see how long it takes him to get in touch with you. Then YOU decide if this is enough for you. Never think that it might change, always stay in the present. If this is what he's offering you today, is that enough for you today? If yes, and you're happier with him in your life than without him, stay. If not, move on to one who gives you more of what you want.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 8/11/2013
Msg: 190
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Posted: 3/12/2014 8:35:34 AM
When someone acts like he's not or is barely interested, I don't need a book to decipher it for me.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 191
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Posted: 3/12/2014 10:06:54 AM
Actions speak louder than words.

Any man/woman interested in you will show interest and won't have to be poked or prodded to give you attention even if it's just a daily "Hello" OR "Thinking about you" OR "Can't wait to see you again" ...

Anyone who has ever been in a caring relationship has to admit that we should never have to beg for attention ... it's just demeaning.
 irishgirl772
Joined: 6/3/2013
Msg: 192
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Posted: 3/15/2014 9:05:42 AM
If youre on a date, and all he does is talk about himself without asking you any questions.
If he doesn't compliment you in some way.
If he doesn't ask for another date or says he will call you.
If he offers you a handshake at the end of the date.
All signs he isn't into you..
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