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 Tra C
Joined: 11/11/2008
Msg: 298
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smokers of the net...UNITE!

this thread is still going eh? we get it already...you non-smokers dislike us smokers...big whoop...do we really need a million threads about it? the answer is so simple...if you dont smoke...and you dont like smokers...date a non-smoker. if you smoke...date a fellow smoker...if you could care less either way...then so be it.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 299
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/4/2009 1:54:39 PM
Another thread that makes no sense to me. Dating or not dating a smoker is a choice...a preference. People make choices all the time. There are reams of threads here about dating fat people..dating short people...bald people...tall people...handicapped people...alcoholics...blah blah blah.
and people get just as defensive or offensive depending on which side they are on.
Smoking is just one of those things that people get passionate about...they defend their habit and try to find bad habits in others. I'm not sure I have any bad habits..unless it's meeting the wrong men...but I don't feel the need to defend it. Of course I'm not having to stand outside in the cold enjoying my bad habit because I'm not welcomed inside a public building. Such is life.
 Visuell
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 304
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:15:42 PM
wow 16 pages of opinions on weather or not to date some one that smells bad to you, tastes bad to you when you kiss or who makes you want to do some thing that you choose to give up?
 enginebuilder55
Joined: 1/21/2009
Msg: 306
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Posted: 3/7/2009 8:36:30 PM
I can date a smoker but trying to make it a relationship would be very hard. Knowing I had a Lung biopsy. It not in the cards for me . I could date a women if she didn't smoke around me but sooner or later she would have to go out for a smoke to relieve her addiction. Then I 've have a hard time even huggining her with the smoke on her breath. Kissing would be at of the question. I know it a hard habit to brake but for me it would be a very hard step. Now if she wanted to stop smoking I would help her.
 EmbraceHug
Joined: 2/18/2009
Msg: 310
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/8/2009 8:29:35 PM
No, I can't stand smokers also, it's nasty and disgusting and they smell (the people) but if the man is not a heavy smoker I will give him a try.
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 314
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/10/2009 7:55:33 AM
Well, let me tell you as someone who has stopped smoking previously (every single time I discovered I was pregnant, through breastfeeding, and for 5 years after I lost my grandfather to cancer, and once for a partner who was a non smoker) and has now QUIT FOR GOOD.

The LONGER you smoke, the harder it is to quit, of course. The longer you smoke, it is more likely the MORE you will smoke. I went from under a pack a day, to 1.5 packs and MORE when I was socializing in a bar. (There were times I would smoke a full pack at a bar!)

This is why I KNOW I have QUIT FOR GOOD. Because I NEVER want to experience the withdrawal symptoms that I did with this. ICK. I am pain tolerant, the sort who does NOT go to the Doctors unless I am almost at death's door...and I was close to going to the ER with the freakish symptoms from withdrawals. (I always quit cold turkey...none of that cutting back works for me!)

Your body goes into SHOCK when it is recouping from nicotine withdrawals. Not only did I have freakish dreams (with no chantax) and my brain felt like mud....could not think of the simplest words I wanted to use...I also had bleeding gums, sore teeth, diarrhea, GAS, ICKY taste in my mouth no matter HOW many times I brushed, or how much gum I chewed. Add to that, the shakes, sore throat, phlegm issues as your body starts healing from the tar coating. GROSS. Seriously GROSS. I NEVER had this the other times.

YES...I have empathy for those who smoke still...even more so when I see them paying out the ass for cigarettes, but troubles making ends meet. I just said to my best friend recently..."I am sooo glad I do not have the expense of smoking right now...I would die of guilt!"

But smokers are still people, and I think Zeeba said it best...POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT is what works...not guilting someone or making them feel like a leper. :) Cause in the long run...all of the anti or non smokers here...you just want the smokers to quit, right?

I had MANY who did not think I would stick with it...including my former roomate, and my smoking children. That made me want it more, of course...and I am the type when someone tells me I can't do something, I MAKE SURE I CAN. LOL

Good luck and prayers to all who are trying to quit...or who have quit. :O)
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 315
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/10/2009 10:29:30 AM
I think this whole thread is interesting.
I think choosing to date or not date a smoker is a personal choice...I can choose NOT
to date a smoker.
But then out of the woodwork come posters who are offended...and defend their right to ciggies and reiterate my desire not to date them. They get offended that they are treated like second rate citizens...blah blah blah.
Then there are the posters that come out and say well they need positive reenforcement to QUIT smoking...that smokers are people too...etc.
Smoking is something you choose to do to yourself...and its something that makes you undesirable to some.
What I don't get is...how come overweight people don't get this sort of support...why don't people jump to their defense and give them positive reenforcement?
Overweight people are like lepers in here...I've lost weight myself but I still keep it at a few extra pounds...if they had "fat cow" I'd probably check that...keeps the riff raff away.
I just find it interesting the people that will defend the right of someone to smoke and become all compassionate and be willing to be a positive influence in their life...but when it comes to overweight people..its get yourself to a gym!
Fishes certainly is a funny place.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 316
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:43:05 AM
I don't want to date a smoker.

(coughing) "For every cigarette you smoke, I smoke half." -Ben Kingsley, to chain-smoking Oscar Schindler hanging over his typewriter while he types Schindler's List
 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 318
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 3/10/2009 12:04:33 PM
Congrats on your quitting cigs.
I would have mentioned to him the issues you have when he lit up around you, and the kissing part. I myself am a former smoker, been almost 5 years now. It is a discusting, smelly, dirty habit. Sometimes catching a wiff of it literally gags me.
There is such thing as being a considerate smoker, obviously he is not one of them.
 jodyro
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 321
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:10:00 AM
persistant_angel [Point is - those who think they are above reproach because they don't smoke and bar any chance of meeting a potential because of it.]

Moderation? Does anyone know what that word means? Smoking, chewing,gambling, drinking, pill taking, over eating, burning while sun tanning, wreckless driving.. I am sure most people on this site don't have a problem with most of these problems or habits if so they don't mention it?

I have a friend who's 66 yo her family {non} ever smoked..she married a smoker? Lived together for over 18 years he drank to much...they divorced over that. Now she can't go to a casino because of all the smoke unless they have a non-smoking room ???????????? I tease her sometime about how the allergy seemed to go away with love and return with hate!!
 soulful17again
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 322
former smoker lived with a smoker in an nation of smokers
Posted: 7/13/2009 3:29:52 PM
our history of smoking for more than two hundred years and now the so called empwered someless society wants to end it yesterday. realizing this only agravates the situation as there is no real education in school on smoking dugs alcohol that stem for more than one credit. be aware that the true culprates are hiding behinmd governments and in governments watching the masses deal with an issue that in 1939 t0 1945 a particalar ruler had the same idea. about the smoking. what we had to wait this long to avoid its connection to a lunatic.

if you smoke today and require anti-biotics a physician will refuse you that is an absolute wrong. educate your children but the ramification within the social circle to what exile smokers from there own society. the pendulum swings. It wsn't the smokers who tore out part of the ozone remember it was our parents and grandparent. right or wrong the remainingg smokers today are a production of our society and it will take ten generation to eliminate them

thank you for reading my rant
 lilsmittenkitten
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 323
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 8/17/2009 7:20:46 PM
Ewww!!! Ugh...

I would never date a smoker!!! NASTY!!!

I definitely want to make out with an ashtray, I don't think so!!!

I have never smoked a cigarette in my life, I have never done a single drug and I rarely drink. I think the last time I had a drink was in Feb. I just don't find a need or desire to participate in such nasty habits!!!!!!!!

Drinking socially I never mind. However, if it is a daily activity, LATER!!!!!

Ewww just thinking about making out with a smoker makes me sick... ewwwww....
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 325
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 8/18/2009 7:15:56 AM
^^^^^^ I haven't licked any ashtrays.
I haven't licked any poop either...but I've smelled it and
I can imagine how awful it will be.
I guess some of us have over active imaginations.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 327
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:35:43 AM
Bash the smokers. Bash the smokers.
Op has started back smoking again. What is her opinion now? Kind of like the pot calling the kettle black.
Never has a guy not dated me because I smoke.
Good oral and body hygiene people. I work closely with a lot of people. Most have no clue I smoke. We work side by side every day. They smell nothing, and are surprised when I say I am going for a "smoke break". I get the "I didnt know you smoked".

"Tastes like ashtrays" "tastes like shi*". Where have you guys had your mouths?
What really bothers me is the "glass house effect". People throwing stones at anyone for any and every thing they do wrong, when they lack in areas themselves. When you are all perfect, then you can put down others for not being. I dont think there is anyone that perfect on here.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 328
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 8/18/2009 10:46:44 AM
^^^^ smoking is obviously one of your "buttons".
If you're a smoker...most non smokers can pick you out of a crowd.
You can tell yourself all you want that you don't smell like smoke,
and you can come up with 4,356,590,021 "people" that have no
clue you smoke...and I'm going to call bs on that.
You don't have to have your mouth anywhere to know what
something SMELLS like...and know that it disgusts you.
No one is putting anyone down.
No one is suggesting that someone who doesn't smoke is perfect
and someone who does isn't.
It's disingenuous for you to suggest otherwise.
Everyone has something about them that others are not going to like.
I'm not throwing stones at anyone...I'm telling you I don't like the
smoking habit...anymore than I like a drug habit or an alcohol habit.
Obviously the guys that HAVE dated you have no problem with dating
smokers. I fail to see the confusion?
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 329
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Posted: 8/18/2009 11:20:21 AM
You have the right to call BS on whatever you want to, just saying with all the bashing on this thread, lots of people I work with, do not realize I smoke.. Unless, of course, you are calling me a liar? Surely not?

smokers, like fat people, get put down all the time in the forums.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 330
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:24:46 AM
People get bashed all the time in these threads.
I realize smoking is your "button".
I'm sure you don't go on all the other threads and
defend the down trodden?
Not sure why you're so huffy actually.
Maybe you'll feel better if you find my button?
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 331
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 8/18/2009 1:31:45 PM
no matter how hot a woman is, or how beautiful or how sexy or how wonderously large her breasts are and how thin her body is or how bubbly her butt is or how plump her lips are.......when she smokes a lot of cigarettes her breath stinks like a skunks azzhole!

do you want to kiss A SKUNK'S AZZHOLE???????????????
 CChauncey
Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 332
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Posted: 8/18/2009 1:44:39 PM
Playing tennis, saw a ridiculously beautiful girl walking by smoking a cigarette. It was strange to see a girl in her early 20's and thought good looking smoking.
 tj71
Joined: 1/11/2008
Msg: 333
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Posted: 12/10/2009 8:00:51 PM

"you can be married to those cancer sticks, or you can be married to me, your choice"


This never works, they will always pick their vice over you. TRUST ME
 Harley17701
Joined: 10/24/2005
Msg: 335
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 12/11/2009 6:15:10 PM
what i think is truely amazing one that .... the cliche of tasting like an ashtray ... that is hiliarious ... you people who dont smoke treat smokers like AIDS patients ... its crazy .... but yet no one is complaining about alcohol that officially kills more people a year than cigarettes ...... i know this one will get flagged removed or what ever ..... but i got to say it . those who are complaining about cigarettes ... half of you probably do harder stuff than that ... it would be like a pot smoker condemning those who smoke tobacco lol ... but now ... who here thinks this much about things when oral sex comes to be .... hmm? ... the things people will stick in their mouths without thinking about it ... ladies .. you dont know where it was last ... and guys you dont know where she has been last .. and most of the time this is done in the dark ... but yet ... this isnt a discusting thought as cigarettes are? lol ..
 Karaokebear
Joined: 4/20/2008
Msg: 336
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 12/11/2009 6:49:14 PM
It's my choice not to date a smoker. I see no reason to. Don't like the smell, it's not part of my life and don't want it to be. I've dated a couple of ex-smokers, which is great but in the back of my mind I'm wondering if things got stressful, she'd start up again. I danced with a couple of smokers at our dance recently and about couldn't stand it.
Having said that, I do believe that businesses should be able to decide whether or not to allow smoking in their private establishments. I'm not an anti-smoking nazi, but I choose not to have it in my life, my home, my car, etc. Yes I even make my daughter smoke outside.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 337
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 12/11/2009 6:59:58 PM
I smoke most of the time. I have a son who's an alcoholic. I have friends who have ruined their lives with drugs. But of all addictions, the one that works toward convincing yourself that you are more virtuous and worthy than, indeed superior to, your fellow souls is the one I find the most revolting. It kills kindness, prevents soul growth, and is basically a waste of a life. And simply makes you *ugly.*

 LoriIsLoLo
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 338
Dating a Smoker
Posted: 12/11/2009 7:09:13 PM
For me it's really not about judging someone else or thinking I'm better than anyone. It's about the fact that the smell and taste turns me off and so does sitting in a resturaunt or bar alone while my man is out smoking on the patio!
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 341
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Posted: 12/13/2009 3:13:01 PM
Smoking is no more disgusting than other habits...like eating yourself to death and having the girth to show for it.
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