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 shellaire
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 51
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Vain is good. Without vanity - everyone would let themselves go.
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
Msg: 52
Breast implants
Posted: 7/16/2007 11:02:31 AM
Well, there are dozens of reasons as I recall. Some are doing it as a restoration from Breast Cancer, some are doing it for the same reason my niece had a nose job (Roman Nose was a hum dinger for a little kid to deal with), and some are getting them for the reason you mention, vanity.

People do this kind of thing because they have a need of one kind or another. My wife, God Bless Her, waited about 3 years before deciding to get reconstruction. It was her decision and it was for her desire and needs. The doctors did a great job and we were both very happy with the results.

It's not unusual for a girl to be self conscious because her breasts are too small or even too large. Reductions and enhancements to create a more "typical" or shapely curve is probably the most common. Naturally, we are not taking about porn star boobies, just really nice fixes to help enhance the womans self esteem.
 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/16/2007 11:24:44 PM

By the way, are most guys like me and HATE breast implants?

Ditto here dude! Gotta be all natural, big or small, just so they are real.
 mystlw
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 54
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Posted: 7/19/2007 2:02:28 AM

Vain is good. Without vanity - everyone would let themselves go.


Without vanity, everyone would concentrate on deeper, more substantial characteristics.
 Merlina123
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 55
Breast implants
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:07:31 AM
Hahahahahahahah!
Remmington, you are seriously a funny dude!! And I think you meant ( o )( o )
This may come as a huge shock to men - but not everything we women do is about you (men)!

But interesting food for thought...

Like Angie****nson once so accurately said, "women dress for other women, and undress for men." Feeling good about oneself in appearance, regardless of whatever that means to that individual often has more to do with fitting in with peers and our own gender's standards, and I would consider any well-thought out decision to take control of what is within that's person's power reflects alot more self-esteem than some posters may be giving credit for.

This all strikes me as being so similar to the assumptions people make about women's intelligence and attractiveness based on their hair colour!! And yet women dying their hair - an unnatural act - is acceptable to men and women. Women getting their nails done - same thing. Women getting tattoos, piercings - all considered acceptable even though they could easily be categorized as physical mutilation.

Are breast implants a threat to men? Just wondering since some posters have admitted they have any opinion with no experience to back it up on the 'feel' side of things...

Men seem to (and admit to) being fascinated breasts, regardless of size and shape, just because they are breasts! If you meet a fantastic woman who has them because they were done long ago, and she's decided to live with it rather than have additional surgery, does that change your opinion? Do you respect her less for implants, while all other modifications are acceptable? Obviously we all have our own preferences, and that should be cool - if we all wanted the same person, that is waaaay too much competition...

Women want and need appreciation; they will settle for attention. Men want and need a sense of personal power; they will settle for an orgasm. Where an individual resides on that continuum will probably be a much bigger impact on their motivations and behaviour. As we grow up, we reach the awareness of the needs at different stages in our lives. Maybe it would be better to see the person for who they are, instead of judging on outward portrayals, but that does not seem likely in westernized culture... What can I say? I have a dream...

From a woman's perspective, some women aren't aware of what they have to offer, and some are. I know I have a helluva lot going on for me, and the boobs are just gravy - for ME, not someone else (well, unless he likes gravy I guess ). I like how much better I feel about myself in clothes, and alot of the really sexy underwear out there just isn't designed for AA or A cups. Blame the fashion industry for that one.

Still, seems odd to me that men can say they wouldn't respect a woman for having implants... I've always had this odd idea that respect is about who a person is in the here and now as reflected in their day-to-day character and not based on physical appearance or past choices. I would think "natural" in character is and should be a little more important in that arena than "natural" in the bra department - but then I suppose most of us women do see things differently from men.

Then again, I'm looking for an above-average, nobel warrior type who sees the soul at least as much as the boobs, or butt, or whatever...

And for those guys who have opinions otherwise (which you're certainly entitled to regardless of whether I agree) - if you haven't ever actually "felt" implants, or know more than one woman with them, seems like a harsh judgement to make (unless of course you are a registered psychotherapist or psychiatrist trained in evaluating mental health). Still, its your perogative.

Oh, and my boyfriend (who I didn't tell up front) wasn't sure if they were implants or just firm for quite awhile - it was a little funny and very cute when he eventually got around to actually asking me because he wasn't sure... And they weren't the first he'd "encountered"

PS - Thanks for the correction on "water push bra" - I noticed it after I posted... it was supposed to be "water bra or push up bra" - typing too fast again I suppose.

PPS - I would be remiss in not mentioning this: although I am very happy with mine, I would not recommend it to women in their 20's or younger (the latest epidemic). Psychologically, even at 32 I was not prepared for the kind of attention that I did get, and it is NOT the attention you want. Unfortunately, although a woman may do it for herself, the male attention will mostly come from those men who objectify women's bodies and see women primarily as intended for serving men's pleasure, and who do not actually value the femininity or innocence that a woman has to offer. Unfortunately, implants or not, most men in society today are pirates out for conquest and NOT true warriors using their innate strengths to protect and defend. Do ALOT of research, interview several surgeons, look at alot of before & after pictures (the results are not what you may have in mind), it is not a frivolous decision and their are significant risks. (O/P - sorry for the tangent)
 justone34
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 56
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Posted: 9/13/2007 10:50:00 AM
good observation !!! amen sister
 darwins Terrier
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 57
Breast implants
Posted: 9/13/2007 12:55:04 PM
There is a universal bias in American society for women with a youthful face and enormous firm breast. Pamela Anderson being the lexicon. It is no different than when corsets where in vogue and woman where binding they're midsections to the point of fainting. Or chinese women binding they're feet to the point of becomming crippled.

Rubbing arsinic on they faces, plucking out eyebrow hair, shoving feet into high heels and stuffing bags of saline or slicon under they're breast muscles. How many other incredible procedures can others bring up from other cultures in the hopes of insuring a copulation occurs.

As long as society places a value or importance on a trait it will be sought after by those with the desire and money to fit that ideal body type.

Personally I think they look fabulous.
 LizzieK
Joined: 7/8/2007
Msg: 58
Breast implants
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:13:07 PM
guys i say if your girlfriend had that done she had it done for a reson not only for herself.
 LizzieK
Joined: 7/8/2007
Msg: 59
Breast implants
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:15:31 PM
most girls who get breast implants are kinda wild if there not then maybee they thought they needed them.
 sldk
Joined: 2/20/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 9/13/2007 1:31:52 PM
I can certainly understand a woman wanting implants if she's unhappy with her appearance/proportions. But I disagree that women do it for men. Women are very competitive with each other. It's not men telling women they should be stick thin with big boobs and blond hair. That's women competing with each other.
I think if you're doing it for the right reasons and are already happy within yourself and are not trying to change your life by surgery, then go for it.
Unless of course, you're going for the Pam Anderson look. That's just ridiculous IMO.
I can't imagine they're very comfortable, can you feel them in there?
I'll never know, I'm carrying around DD's and quite frankly I was more comfortable when they were smaller LOL.
 darwins Terrier
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 61
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Posted: 9/13/2007 1:40:15 PM
Competing with eachother. Ok, but if the ideal body type was a triangle ass, I can almost bet there would be lots of triangle assed gals compeating on which one had the best equalateral.
 racer_x
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 9/13/2007 2:01:01 PM
I met someone with implants (my first, hopefully my last) off of POF. We dated for about a month. She definitely did it for self esteem. She was 47, had a personal trainer and trained to create the perfect exterior but her inside was totally shot. She definitely had a lot of insecurities. The weird thing was she knew the implants made her really attractive and she would taunt guys, even guys who were out with their girlfriends and wives. She loved the power it gave her over men. She would say "hi" to them and they would always return the gesture, regardless if there was another woman with them or not. It made my stomach turn. Like someone mentioned, she was competitive about it and that made her try to screw with guy's minds, especially the great looking guys. She also had to dress up everywhere she went. I was too down-to-earth for her. I was real, she was not all fake, but she had spent so much energy on the outside, she had very little to offer from the inside. She's no longer on POF. The other weird thing was that she was a little protective of her breasts. I didn't understand it at first until I realized they were fake and they were weird to feel, I think she was told to be careful with them, so as not to have someone fondle too aggressively. Instead of telling me tried to keep my hands off of them.



The other thing she used to tell me all the time was "you don't know how lucky you are (to be with me)". She was the lucky one, to have someone real in her life for a change. I don't need fancy cars, fancy clothes, body enhancers, smiling friends, etc. to lead a happy life. I like all the lows and highs and keeping it real.

My advice is to love yourself the way you came into this life unless you are going to exploit them and go into the entertainment business, then knock yourself out but don't expect much in the way of a meaningful relationship.

X
 lilmslefty
Joined: 9/21/2006
Msg: 63
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Posted: 9/13/2007 2:15:23 PM
Great post racer x....

As always, your posts are both humor filled and insightful. Your comments are always a great addition to the forums. Tried to contact you directly, but your mail settings forbid me from doing that, so I'm posting here.

Welcome back!
 racer_x
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 64
Breast implants
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:59:54 PM
What does self esteem have to do with losing weight? Some people diet for the wrong reasons, you forgot to cover that little tiny point!

Healthy people don't have to diet, they maintain body weight. If you had said how many people will get liposuction to lose weight, then you can do the EXACTLY routine. Then you are making the proper comparison.

Healthy people don't need to modify their bodies. We will all grow old, gain weight, get gray, lose hair, lose skin suppleness, etc. and guess what, die. Try and stop all that. Some people are so afraid of dying and giving up on their investments in this physical superficial life that they forget about their souls and the after life. I look forward to that next step.

X
 Miss Poppy
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 65
Breast implants
Posted: 9/14/2007 5:46:33 PM
I have no problem with implants unless they are grossly oversized or badly done.
 tjay14u
Joined: 6/27/2007
Msg: 66
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Posted: 9/14/2007 8:28:07 PM
Used to think natural was the only way to go no matter the size. Recent experiences has led me to change my mind. I just like them all period.
 Ivory81000
Joined: 8/16/2007
Msg: 67
Breast implants
Posted: 9/16/2007 4:48:19 PM
I'm an A cup and I've thought about getting breast implants, not to the extent of doing research on it and stuff, just if I'd be comfortable with it. I'd like to go up to a B cup. My reason is pretty much for guys. I don't think anyone would deny it, but girls with larger boobs get more attention. "Hotter" girls get more attention and most of these hot girls tend to have larger breasts. I don't think any guy would deny that they have never given a girl with largest boobs some extra attention. And if a guy did, I would not believe it. Even though I would like to then I wouldn't know if a guy liked me for me or because of my larger breasts and in the end, a guy should like me for me. Plus who knows what can go wrong with surgery. So I haven't yet but every now and then I think about it.
 Bubble Eyes
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 68
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Posted: 9/16/2007 9:15:54 PM
Breast reconstruction for Breast Cancer patients makes up for almost half of the augmentation surgeries done in the USA.

the others do it to make themselves feel better about themselves.

I've worked in the medical field long enough to see all kinds of excuses but when it comes down to it... its to make them feel pretty.

one of my patients has had both breasts removed and reconstructed because of breast cancer.

its not always the most obvious reason.

 Darkbird7
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 69
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Posted: 9/16/2007 10:01:03 PM
every wife i know that got boob jobs left their husbands, I am so never going that route, I actually like medium sized breasts. /shrug ok ok ok I like them all...
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/16/2007 11:05:27 PM
There's been a bit of a scandal on the Australian news lately about female officers in the Australian Navy having taxpayer-funded breast augmentation surgery in order to improve their self-esteem, which was apparently affecting their ability to work.

Opens up another can of worms there, doesn't it?
 LWal
Joined: 7/30/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 9/16/2007 11:17:52 PM
I know what u mean, to be honest i wonder why they even get them, i've never seen a pair that doesn't look any better than before. All it does is make it look like u've had breast implants, it's obvious. But i guess if they wouldn't be doing it if there wasn't a demand.
 Bubble Eyes
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 72
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Posted: 9/17/2007 12:04:48 AM
Most women who have had breast cancer and have the breast augmentation don't do it for their men. they do it because losing your breasts can make these women feel like less of a woman.

they are also required to go through therapy when getting this done after surviving cancer by quite a few dr's out there who want to make sure these women arent going to be emotionally scarred after losing their breasts.

Jumping to the conclusion that most of these women (who are survivors) do this for a man is wrong. its not the case. I have seen so many patients who fall into deep depression after having both breasts removed. its a personal choice. thats all that matters.

 GlassDream
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 9/17/2007 4:57:14 AM

ORGIGINAL: SummerSun27

Build confidence in their boobs? I have many other ways to build confidence in myself. My career, my family, my education. My bra size does not make me who I am. If someone doesn't like my bra size I am not less of a woman. Women need to love themselves as they are. Stop wasting money trying to be someone they are not. You will never find happiness outside yourself.


Well, if only more women would be like you, then we would have a LOT more decent women in the world. LOL!

Seriously though, we are living in a society which challenges the Every Day woman/Man because of what we see on TV, Music videos, most movies, etc.....

They make us feel that what's being shown to the majority of viewers is what is the "Norm". It's really disgusting because I would meet a LOT of nice women who are gorgeous the way they are, but they become so harsh on their own appearence because they always feel there is someone out there more attractive than they are.

That, and there are women who has such low self of steem, they force themself to sleep around as much as they can because they crave that sense of "Attractiveness".
This had lead to a problem with one of my ex's: I gave her everything I could, as much love as I could give a person, and always try to be as supportive as I could. But she just felt so ugly on the inside, it forced her to be a liar and a cheater to me. She slept around so much behind my back.

Anycase, back to the thread.

[/rant on ex girlfriends] LOL!
 trancer32
Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 74
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Posted: 9/17/2007 10:59:56 PM

Build confidence in their boobs? I have many other ways to build confidence in myself. My career, my family, my education. My bra size does not make me who I am. If someone doesn't like my bra size I am not less of a woman. Women need to love themselves as they are. Stop wasting money trying to be someone they are not. You will never find happiness outside yourself.


Says the woman with over half of her pics devoted to her boobs. ROTFLMAO !!!
 Caper143
Joined: 8/2/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/18/2007 7:45:50 AM
no offense taken. I don't have implants...and I have been told I don't need them...but if I had the money I would definately be interested in looking at my options. It has nothing to do with sex...but purely what I want for myself...just like a guy wants nice abs...a girl wants nice breats.
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