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 acgoat
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 7
Dirty girlPage 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
K dub

Maybe you need to request a Master, too train you in bondage.
He would have total control of you,decide if you deserved a climax or not.

Unknown how dirty you want to be, just suggesting an option.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 12
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:40:02 PM
How can we give advice without some more info. Can the Op tell us about just one of these fantasies that's running through her head.

Op don't worry about shocking us, we have pretty much heard it all. Give us a little sample of what you are talking about.
 Tiffany T
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 15
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:55:28 PM
I don't know what scenarios are running through your mind but I have had similar worries about myself. It got to where I was unable to reach climax without thinking some things that I felt disgusted over after it was over. I didn't much like myself after that. It kept getting worse. I had not had sex with a man for several years. After a one night stand I'm able to have what I call normal thoughts and climax again.

I will say that my one night stand was just shy of rape. You can't rape the willing. He was very rough. No bondage, but he gave meaning to make it hurt so good. After that I am able to think what I call "normal" thoughts and climax again.

If you have a partner, maybe you just need to experience someone else. Maybe it is just too routine with this current partner.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 19
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/17/2007 7:12:03 PM
The Op is obviously a tease. What's the big deal OP just tell us about the "Similar" thing which one was it? so at least we have a better idea what we are dealing with. Was it the "gang Bang" or the rape fantasy, my money is on one of those.

Is one of your fantasies Op teasing us here in the forums?
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 31
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Dirty girl
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:29:23 AM
fantacy and reality, are two compleatly diferent things, but if it bothers you so much there's therapy
or mabey your just a very sexual person
 DecentlyExposedJay
Joined: 6/6/2007
Msg: 42
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/18/2007 5:30:57 PM
You know whats odd...i have that same issue at the top. I cant seem to really go anywhere..its like...i gotta think of something so dirty and wrong it will work. I dunno maybe its what ive been looking at lately lol...
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 6/18/2007 5:40:33 PM
Three or four people on here keep saying "as long as it's legal". When it comes to legislating sex, very little is left unprohibited. Most things that don't involve an adult man and a woman in one of fifteen sexual positions are considered sodomy and illegal in most places in the U.S.

Some women have said that acting it out to the point where you'll get spooked or at least get it out of your system worked for them. It sounds plausible, but it would have to work with your lifestyle choices. If you have a partner, talk to him, and see what you can do... I would agree, though... you might not want to be very specific about the content of these fantasies, especially if they bother you. It could bother him, if it's obvious that you don't feel good about them. Maybe you just need to watch more horror movies? To your original post, if they are TOO extreme for porn, then do you realize you could be an instant millionaire by filming them and putting them out there? Just saying, is all...
 1Fish2Fish RedFishNewFish
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 44
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:02:52 PM
This is not meant to be demeaning, insulting, or presumptuous, but perhaps there was a traumatic event in your distant past? I know women who's self esteem was (were?) subterranean, and they had similar fantasies. One of these women took it to the point that she was abused with a broken bottle and left for dead.

Reflect on where this comes from before traveling a road you may live (or not) to regret...
Sorry if his is a wet blanket for all of you attempting to live vicariously here...
 Chiwrtr72
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 6/18/2007 7:48:33 PM

They're just thoughts. If the only way you could reach a climax was with shoes on would you ever go barefoot?????



Well put carolanne!

OP- Just because you fantasize these things doesn't mean you have to act them out or even that you should. Nancy Friday has written a few books about women's fantasies that might be helpful for you to browse. If nothing else, you'd get a better idea of what your fellow women are thinking about...

My own humble opinion is if it helps you reach the big O, it's probably worth keeping.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 46
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:59:45 PM
you have to realize that although you feel bad it may be at the time you thinking of some taboo act you would never do in real life turns you on......not exactly WHAT you are thinking of but the naughtiness of it........
 gwenivere_1
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 51
Dirty girl
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:25:25 PM
I think you would be surprised at the things that run though people's minds.... if only I could be a mind reader! Most people are kinkier than we give them credit for. Personally, I am all kinds of freaky and I am proud of it. When getting involved with someone I'm very honest about this as I know some people will never be accepting of anything except Vanilla sex. Every guy I have ever disclosed my tastes to has been VERY receptive (hell they adore me for it and encourage me to embrace my "inner freak" LOL. Many of my ex's are confirmed "freaks" due to my influence. I may not be in their lives.... but they'll never forget me!

My point is simply this..... what gets you off is all about you. No one else has a right to judge so say fu*k it and be your horny self. Embrace what gets you hot and don't apologize for it. Trust me.... most guys appreciate it and think it's very hot that you know what you like and what get's you off! So tell the world to jump in a lake and enjoy the ride!!!
 mystique-elle
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 54
Dirty girl
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:43:57 PM
Where am I? what I am doing here? ooopps sorry, can someone direct me to the .. You make me laugh my butt off or the Nancy Drew room... carry on people ... pretend you did not see me... slowly and ever so quietly tippy toeing out of this room... b4 anyone takes notice hee hee
 Sweetlilmeee
Joined: 6/24/2007
Msg: 60
Dirty girl
Posted: 8/16/2007 4:57:52 PM
K dub. If you really want to stop the thoughts... Stop touching yourself stop having sex stop even Thinking about it. well maybe not that far, but just try and all out stop. Then after a while try to get off without the overly dirty thoughts, you'll have a lot of pent up frustration so you'll probably get off. After that try to get off again (whenever), but if you find your self straying toward those thoughts. Stop and abstain again. Its a punishment-reward system. You could also try that rubberband trick.
 Sugar*Daddie
Joined: 6/25/2007
Msg: 62
Dirty girl
Posted: 8/17/2007 12:10:35 PM

ok, so no doggies nor children...but everything else goes.


it's good to have a wide-open imagination

you are only THINKING these 'disgusting' things, not DOING them?

so what's the problem if they help you achieve pleasure??
 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 76
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Posted: 9/21/2007 11:02:31 PM

I'm talking filthy discusting shit that is too gross for even the most hard-core porno.

Sweeet, I love you!!! Seriously though, there is nothing wrong with fantasizing, just so you are able to keep it in check, I think many of us actually have a lot of the same fantasies, but just are too freaked out to talk about them.
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