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 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 64
Why do men act like they are always busy?Page 2 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
I don't know about other guys but for me personally, I really am busy. I work around 45 to 50 hours a week. When I'm not working, I'm trying to start my own little freelance business. When I'm not doing that, I'm glued to my bed not wanting to get out.

There's so much going on that it's hard to plan ahead for free time. Sometimes when I'm free, I'm not really in the mood to do more than vege out in front of the TV with a good movie on. Whatever socialising I do is usually with my good friends who I would move heaven and earth just to make time for.

Why be on a dating site? Why do women look at shoes and jewelry when they aren't buying?
Why a dating site? It's the most time efficient way to meet people.
 blondago56
Joined: 8/21/2004
Msg: 65
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Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:58:31 AM
^^ jeephammer loved your post... *sigh* notice the keyword in the original post? "Act like" they are busy..... because their penises TELL them they are 'busy....
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 66
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Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/28/2013 12:48:50 PM
I'll comment when I have some time.
 y0uandi
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 67
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/28/2013 5:44:59 PM
I'm never too busy for anyone I like and want to see.
 LathaMath
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 68
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/28/2013 6:02:19 PM
You might want to stop dating guys who have jobs and hobbies.
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 69
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 8:16:21 AM

justababe.2013

Op, haven't you heard? Guys are always too busy.........until they decide its time to get laid. Then they'll move heaven and earth.


SO TRUE!! all of a sudden they have all the time in the world..

or the certain guys who go on about how they dont have time to date or actually get to know somebody but can make time for a NSA situation yet these are the same guys who every weekend are hanging out an spending time with their boys as if they are in a relationship with them,,funny that should tell you something obvious about the guy right there..
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 70
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 8:52:57 AM
Maybe those guys are actually busy? Just my 2 cents
 SimpleCltMan
Joined: 11/11/2011
Msg: 71
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 11:19:42 AM
For me, I have the following:

1. My son. I get him the weekends so I am limited as to what I can do when he is around
2. Friends and family: No not my "boys". My friends are married. The single guys my age are working hard too.
3. main job that I work 45 to 55 hours a week.
4. 2nd job as computer builder 15 hours a week
5. My house: my yard, laundry, cleaning, & the occasional broken @#$@$#$thing that I have to fix.
6. Church: Yes I go to church regularly...

THEN.. There is wanting to have someone to date. I know that is a low priority to some, but for women my age I would expect almost the same list in that order. I have met women that expect me to drop everything at any time for them. Sorry, I am not giving up time with my son or neglect my friends and family for a date. If you expect that, then we are not a match. As for "getting laid," Not worried about that either. I am 43, not 23. Maturity has taught me that chasing booty for booty sake is stupid and childish. As my father told me. "There is a difference in getting laid & getting a lady. Know the difference."

If you want to know, I do call, text, keep contact, make lunch and dinner dates when I can, and email when I date someone. However, if a woman needs more, I would hope she would understand my life as I understand hers. That is my hope for any woman I date.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 72
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 11:28:28 AM

It's a matter of our priorities. If you don't have time for dates or a relationship, why be on a dating site? Oh yeah, the getting laid part



Pleassssse. If I wanna get phucked, it sure as hell wouldn't be here. Cause when I phuck, I like to know the person I'm phucking. It takes more than an email/phone call or two to place another "high" on my priority list of things that I'm doing in my life today. A date???? Yeah, let's plan one. But again, unless I actually "know" you(truely know and understand ya) and I see things are moving FORWARD, you ain't on the "top" of the list just yet. Hard to fathom for some. I know, I know. You want it all, and ya want right now.

I like my whiskey but, I know that the good stuff doesn't just come puking out of a barrel within 24 hours. Good "stuff" takes time.
 charliesmom21
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 73
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 2:00:07 PM
I liked post #2

I have found those who make the statements in their profile about how busy they are.. say a lot about what you can expect from them.. Next to nothing. The are setting people up to cater to them and go around their very important schedule. ( Schedule of seeing other people, around their spouse, their friends, their dog, their neighbors, their kids, their business, and anything else they deem important to THEM) You will be treated last on the list..

But hey they were honest and upfront about how the relationship or dating would go were they not?

If someone is too busy to shoot a text or an email or a quick hello.. maybe dating and meeting someone is just not that important.

I dont think people need to drop everything in their lives to date, however a few minutes of your time goes a long long way in showing your real interests and priorities. Narcissism comes to mind here. JMHO
 that_ol_lady
Joined: 4/19/2013
Msg: 74
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 2:10:55 PM

charliesmom21

I liked post #2

I have found those who make the statements in their profile about how busy they are.. say a lot about what you can expect from them.. Next to nothing. The are setting people up to cater to them and go around their very important schedule. ( Schedule of seeing other people, around their spouse, their friends, their dog, their neighbors, their kids, their business, and anything else they deem important to THEM) You will be treated last on the list..

But hey they were honest and upfront about how the relationship or dating would go were they not?



YUP TRUE^^^

theres always something an you usually will be put in last place never mind the once a month contact if your lucky enough to get that from some somewhere in the weeks an months that have passed they where "too busy"..

but prime example thier they are going on facebook talking about the new people they have been seeing an the vaction they just came back from an all the parties they have been going to an talking about having a bbq at thier house next weekend mmm hmmm too busy..
 charliesmom21
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 75
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 2:18:38 PM
^^ Very true.. most of it is BS.
As a single mom ( of two young ones) I worked and went to school, yet still had time for my man. Its all a matter of what an individual defines as important.

To the narcissist.. only he/she is important.

Those who come here then use time as an excuse.. wont get too far. Often they seek only what feed their own ego, nothing more.

What will you get from people like this.. nothing ( but maybe a STD and a pile of excuses)

I don't waste my time dating men who place my value or my time as less than his.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 76
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 2:26:14 PM
There's a difference between being very busy with life and being busy with nonsense. The nonsense part is crap like expecting 20 or 30 text messages a day "to show you care" and after the initial high of new love interest dies down, the number of texts per day dies down, but some will perceive that as losing interest and being the first step to getting dumped. Some people need to be the center of the universe at all times. There is day-to-day life outside of a relationship.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 77
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 5:08:27 PM
To be honest I had the same thing happened to me this weekend.

I had been "talking to someone" I met online for a very long time. We never met but tried to meet a number of times. He's a single father so he was always busy. In fact, that's the excuse he gave me ALL THE TIME.

I think 'being busy' is merely an excuse of not wanting to date. I think majority of ppl who do come on here is to simply get their ego stroked. Don't get fooled into someone saying they are busy.

Consider this when someone says this to u again; if they are busy, it means they are not interested, don't know how to time manage, are dating someone or perhaps even worse married.

When guys tell u they are busy, RUN! Believe in urself that ur a great catch for the right person. If some guy tells u some lame a$$ excuse, just move on. Let them work out their problems, life is short my friend. We can't sit and wait around for other ppl to find time in their schedule for US. They need to work AROUND our time!

Dating is indeed a cat and a mouse chase. We're the mouse and the guys are the cats. Let them friggen chase us! lol

Ok I prefer Tom and Jerry instead! LOL
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 78
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 6:09:51 PM
I don't know - I've met a couple guys I hung out with briefly and they had more time on their hands than I did - and so they tried to get me to drop some stuff to entertain them. That was annoying. I'd rather he be busy as well - if he's not interested, that's fine too. Just so long as no one's wasting time, money or gas.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 79
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 8:58:43 PM
Why do men act like they are always busy?
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because some of them dudes are not into you
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 9:46:36 PM
Now that I have some time I will answer...
Most men will devote most of their time where they feel they will get the best return on their time investment. Friends first may get very little of most men's time if they have other quicker return options.
 zzumbagirl
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 81
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 9:53:12 PM
I don't know you're age hon, but i find tht gentlemen 55 & over are often retired & have lotsa time & passion for dating :) otherwise..... they're most likely playing field. They (the younger fish) come & go with the stream of the river current....hah, fish talk . good luck out there! maybe try new bait!! re-cast your line & all that...
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 4/29/2013 9:56:54 PM
^^^
Dear "Most" single men are under 55 and not retired.
 shineon1960
Joined: 9/16/2012
Msg: 83
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/18/2013 10:12:13 PM
So yes op i too am trying to get over these people who are busy! then they are right out there! i leave them alone
 barnabyjames1
Joined: 1/11/2013
Msg: 84
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/19/2013 4:10:17 AM
Lol op, maybe they actually ARE "busy".
 59thShadeofGrey
Joined: 9/25/2012
Msg: 85
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/19/2013 4:59:31 AM
I would respond to this very important question....if I had the time.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 86
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/19/2013 6:38:20 AM
Who cares why? Delete, move on.

I am too busy myself to spend time wondering about another person's motives.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 87
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/19/2013 7:15:21 AM
1) 'cause women are dumb enough to think this is attractive :) no, really, consider a guy who had plenty of time to call you all the time, every day, ask how you're doing...boring, right? turn off, right? the first thing you think is, "well, he doesn't do much with his life", like that's a bad thing :)

even the dating coaches tell you, "act too busy". its the male version of women's "play hard to get".

2)why be on a dating site if you honestly have no time ?b/c that's the second reason for the Internet--you do things you don't have time for, during those moments of the day when you have spare time. Like shop online during workhours (you've heard of CyberMonday, after BlackFriday?).

3)If someone doesn't have the time to make you a priority, the only thing you lost was a hot body. You didn't lose a hot personality.

now, depending upon what you're here to get...that's either good or bad :)
 hounddoug
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 88
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 5/19/2013 1:11:44 PM

Why do men act like they are always busy?


Probably for the same reason women who act like they are busy and expect the man to deal with it and wait patiently for her. Because they can.
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