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 sickntired2
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 101
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yeah, I would have to agree. it is annoying. It's so unoriginal and gives no indication of whether or not they actually read your profile.
 ejesq
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 102
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People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/18/2007 9:55:00 PM

Ladies and gents, if you could just PLEASE be kind enough to string together a few words to let the other party down politely and gently if you're not interested, that would save everyone from the fallout of the rudeness of the read (or not)/deleted.


So, one must string together a polite, gentle, and coherent sentence in response to "Hey Cutie!" ?

Does, "Sorry, I'm not interested" or "Thanks, but no thanks" make them feel any better than simply being ignored? I've been on the sending and receiving end of read/ deleted e-mails, and can say that I can take the hint when there is no response. I don't even feel the need to ask why (unless we've been speaking for awhile, or met in person.)

It's like getting those "best of luck with your future endeavors" letters in response to job applications.
 jaydeee80
Joined: 7/8/2007
Msg: 103
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People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/18/2007 10:10:36 PM
Agreed. I once chatted with this guy only to have the same convo back and forth for a couple weeks.. How are you? Im good how are you? Im good. And even when I tredding into other questions I got nothing but, 1 worded answers!

P.S. Not really for the subject on hand.. but, giving the middle finger in your profile pic's drives me mental!!!

vb
 Irreverent Lass
Joined: 6/7/2007
Msg: 104
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:57:09 PM

So, one must string together a polite, gentle, and coherent sentence in response to "Hey Cutie!" ?


That's not what I meant at all. I'm talking about all the letters that people used to write that were unread/deleted or read/deleted that they might have put effort into that went ignored. That is why we're now getting the messages that we are. Their attitude is "what's the point?"

Who can blame them when you look at it from that perspective.
 queen3
Joined: 8/12/2006
Msg: 105
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:56:45 PM
you are all bitter people who will die alone. lighten up!
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 106
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 12:30:10 AM
Hey Queen3, talk about the pot calling the kettle black. Look in the mirror next time you say that.
 connection123
Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 107
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:11:02 AM
A short message just means the person is interested.
Emails shouldnt be auditions to respond to the best one. What the profile is like i would think would carry more weight...
 MusstLuvDogs
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 108
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:11:22 AM
other than "how are you" or a minimal "Hi".............their first name would be nice!
 customjim
Joined: 6/10/2005
Msg: 109
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:13:11 AM
dear freebird

first let me say i agree with you ..how are you ?.... isn't enough. i try to be a bit more creative than that

you are like a crazed hen protecting your thread .... you have not missed one opportunity to bash anyone that differs from your view.... i challenge anyone including all who read this thread to read your reaction to men who don't agree with you......you bash anyone and everyone here and in your profile..... you are an unkind, ugly spirited person which makes you unattractive to me and one day that hair between your b@@bs will be your pu$$y

we can see how your mind works saying i am wanting in someone elses pants because i gave her props for being considerate...are you jealous that you did not rate that kind of consideration........btw she is beautiful but i have not talked to her at all

everyone is free to communicate as we please and if we are lacking so be it....delete me i don't care....... i get the point but don't try to come off like you are a good catch cause frankly my dear ....I DON'T GIVE A DAMN
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 110
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:25:32 AM
Customjim, I didn't realize that my responding to people in this thread is me "being a protective hen." You have issues, sir. Seek psychotherapy. The only people I've "bashed" as your mental head sees it, were a couple of woman-haters like yourself who were putting down another poster and calling her ugly. You have the same angry attitude as those guys and, along with your ugliness on the outside as well, proves that you'll be single and bitter for the rest of your life. How on earth did someone as ugly as you get a wife anyway? No wonder you're divorced. Get a haircut sasqutch. And what exactly does the line "one day that hair between your b@@bs will be your pu$$y" mean? What hair? And hair becomes a "pu$$y"? That makes about as much sense as the rest of your verbal diahrreah. And how exactly am I "bashing everyone" in my profile? Just because I say I don't want a guy who uses drugs? You must be a druggie yourself then if you take such huge offense to that. You look like a homeless druggie so that makes sense. Whatever, the only people who bash me are ugly guys like you who are upset you can't get a woman like me. I'm sure that Cellion poster thinks you're ugly too and you have no chance with her, me or any great catch for that matter. Get over yourself and quit hating on beautiful women just because you can't get any of us.
 queen3
Joined: 8/12/2006
Msg: 111
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:42:05 AM
freebird you are one angry women, if your so perfect why are you so single?
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 112
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:48:24 AM
The reason is because, in So Cal, most guys are into drugs and don't have a college degree. See? Bet you didn't think I'd have an answer. Also, it's "womAN", not "womEN." Maybe you should go to college or, if that's too hard for you, take a Basics in English course online. Not bashing there, just trying to help you out. And where exactly did I call myself "perfect"? You angry guys are so black and white, it's quite bizaare of you.
 customjim
Joined: 6/10/2005
Msg: 113
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:50:10 AM
freebird you honestly make me laugh

keep ranting and revealing what a nice person and catch you are

you feel better now
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 114
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:55:31 AM
Well, it's not a rant if it's true. And keep telling yourself I give a shit. I know this is the only attention from women you get. You never answered my questions either, which must mean that you know I'm right deep inside. I just enjoy putting dumb people in their place, that's all.
If you'd like, I can look up several therapists for you there in OK. I'd suggest you see one ASAP.
 sherilyn70
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 115
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Posted: 7/19/2007 3:27:27 AM
Allow me to enlighten you, my very confused friend. I think the biggest reason you have trouble getting people to take you seriously is the fact you claim to be a female geeky/D&D type, yet in your profile you say you are a man and are seeking a woman.....so wtf?


EyeDye, I just went and triple checked.... no where can I find what you just stated. Neither can any of the friends I had look. Are you sure you looked at my profile? LOL.

The stats in my profile say
City: Columbus Ohio
Sign: Aquarius
Height:5' 7" (170 cm)
Age: 37 year old Woman
Ethnicity: Caucasian with Red hair

Oh... I think I might have figured out what you just looked at. Were you looking at the SEARCH bar they put at the top of pages for people to look for other members? LOL It defaults to male looking for female every time. I notice that of course because I always have to modify it to do a search.
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 116
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Posted: 7/19/2007 3:51:38 AM
Actually Sherilyn, he was talking about someone else who posted a page or two earlier. I'm too lazy to go look at what their screenname is, but it was someone without a pic who said they're a woman. I guess their profile, however, says they're a man, but I didn't look myself. So he wasn't talking about you, I think he can tell you're a female, lol.
 sherilyn70
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 117
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 4:23:34 AM
But he quoted my text. :)
 HookinMouth
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 118
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Posted: 7/19/2007 5:20:47 AM

Wow, what did I do to you? For you to respond that much anger I must have done something to hurt you. Did I hit a sore spot for you? Or did you see yourself as one of the men that is intimadated by who I am and the fact that I know exactly what I want?


It is way to obvious that you in fact DO know EXACTLY what you want...and i don't think they have little jennies in bottles any more to give you your wish

Some one posted earlier,that a short message is like an icebreaker, and if you want to leave a short message back, thats the first step. We don't live in a perfect world, and your not going to find your perfect guy, everybody's got a thing, so like Stevie Wonder once said ..Don't you worry bout a thing

Anyway I will say Good Luck in your search and Happy Fishing
 JDMETRO
Joined: 5/9/2007
Msg: 119
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/19/2007 6:47:58 AM
Bottom line folks... What people say in a message or on their profile is colored by your perception of their looks in the photo - much of the time.

The best prose in the world could be delivered to me in a message and if the gal is totally unacceptable looks wise - it simply doesn't matter...

Truth hurts and I am sure it works that way when some women (who think that they are HOT) read my messages... whatever I say is simply dismissed because they do not like my looks.

Joe
 sherilyn70
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 120
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Posted: 7/19/2007 6:55:49 AM
I think you're misinterpreting the concept of "I know exactly what I want". If you read my profile I said I'm not looking for the perfect man that they come as is. There is wiggle room, but there are some things that I can't give up on. I left my very compfortable long term relationship of 7 years (3 years ago) because I realized I could not settle... so I am not about to start doing that now.

By saying I know what I want there are specific qualities they must possess...
1) Intelligence
2)The ability to think outside the box
3)Somewhat similar interests (computers and gaming or scifi)
4)A dominant personality
5)Live close to me and be willing to spend time with me on a regular basis (by regular I mean at minimum a few times a week once we've established we like each other)
6)Not be afraid of my sexuality.
 EyeDye
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 121
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Posted: 7/19/2007 7:31:33 AM

EyeDye, I just went and triple checked.... no where can I find what you just stated. Neither can any of the friends I had look. Are you sure you looked at my profile? LOL.


Actually I took that quote from HookinMouth on page 4 of this thread. Apparently he dosent know to use either " " or the quote box when quoting someone else, and I took those words as his own.
 HookinMouth
Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 122
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Posted: 7/19/2007 9:35:27 AM

6)Not be afraid of my sexuality.


mmmmm that ones got me thinking
 sherilyn70
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:49:16 PM
Okay.... so I just got an email that said "Hi it would be nice to know you. "

Does it make everyone happy that I replied? Of course I said "why do you think it would be nice?" lol. He hasn't answered that back of course.
 customjim
Joined: 6/10/2005
Msg: 124
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:51:05 PM
ok i went to several of freebirds many psychologists for therapy to rid myself of all my anger issues..... POOF!!!!!!!

they know her well and tell me it is not nice to imply that she is either smug or evil spirited because she will take it personally....and yes it is not her fault ....it is the fault of anyone that does not agree or conform to her way of thinking

are you here to understand why people say a short hello or just to bash them......because i believe all communication from strangers from afar is a sign of interest in the receiver

i also believe we all sort each other out first by our photos ........then by our profiles. good looks trumps everything else....add a good profile and you are in the money.......sometimes great profiles make the average curiously better. bottom line though if you do not look good enough to the receiver usually all the clever talk in the world is not enough

so when we say something short and sweet we know you will check us out and rate us in your mind and if we have the goods you will communicate allowing us to now start a viable conversation...we are not trying to irritate you

so i would say being irritated at one liners is somewhat smug and bashing is evil spirited
 sherilyn70
Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 125
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:59:33 PM

i also believe we all sort each other out first by our photos ........then by our profiles. good looks trumps everything else....add a good profile and you are in the money.......sometimes great profiles make the average curiously better. bottom line though if you do not look good enough to the receiver usually all the clever talk in the world is not enough

The right match for me would realize what an insult that just was right there. I do not sort by photos first. I talk to men based on what they wrote about themselves and what they are looking for. The picture is only 5% for me, I'll even talk to men with no profile pictures.
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