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 Jenelle
Joined: 1/25/2005
Msg: 14
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I've made initial contact. Some people have replied and a few havent. Thats just how it goes.

I've even had someone reply and tell me he had met someone off the site, but we still talked for a bit after.
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/11/2005 4:49:14 PM
Jenelle makes me happy in my pants.
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/11/2005 5:42:49 PM
I always respond to every email I get. It's important to stay in contact with your fans and "keep it real" otherwise they'll stop supporting you and buying your albums. Then you're broke.

The lesson here is : sharing is caring. errr I mean be nice to people unless they're jerks, in which case punch them in the balls.
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/16/2005 10:42:53 PM
I respond to every woman that approaches me for an autograph request, but ladies, please, bring your own pens.
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/16/2005 11:00:10 PM
I don't hesitate about making contact if it's someone I want to meet :)
and I think men feel just as complimented by the interest as women
 Jackson*
Joined: 10/29/2004
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/17/2005 6:01:48 AM
<--had to make the first contact with ^^
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/17/2005 6:27:55 AM

<--had to make the first contact with ^^


pffffft...AFTER I flirted first

 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/17/2005 10:43:28 PM

Oh story,well last week i was in Pandy's area well


why didnt' you TELL me....standing offer of mine to buy any of my fellow POFers (from the forums) a cup of coffee if they are in my area :)
 SLurpee
Joined: 9/15/2004
Msg: 22
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Posted: 5/18/2005 9:24:20 AM
I think ONLY women should be able to make contact. That would cut down on alot of spam
 SLurpee
Joined: 9/15/2004
Msg: 23
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Posted: 5/18/2005 4:40:39 PM
Thats right! You popped my IM cherry!
 Whitetigeress
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:14:43 PM

You miss 100% of the shots you dont take


how very true, yet sometimes easier said than done
 BrnEyesLostMind
Joined: 1/27/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:24:23 PM
I'd make first contact a bit more often but I doubt they'd appreciate me sending messages like some of the ones I get. Tit for tat you know....but those would probably get me blocked.
 zenhaven
Joined: 9/17/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/10/2007 12:15:33 PM
intimidated?!...hell no...I I have absolutely no problem with a woman making the first move. Bring on the the unsolicited e-mail!!!..... like it'll actually happen...haha!
 rebel777
Joined: 3/22/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/17/2007 11:18:50 PM
yup it was her that contacted me,ummmm no I contacted her,nahhhhhh we both did at the very same time... ....
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 5/28/2007 6:54:26 PM
This guy would not be intimidated at all with having a woman initiate contact. We're in a confusing time when there are no universal rules. At times I somewhat envy the folks who grew up decades earlier because there seem to have been more established/honoured rituals back then. lol

Someone suggested that placing another as a favourite would be a subtle kind of first contact ... but then I read in another thread where folks get very annoyed if someone does that but fails to follow up with an email. lmao. Sounds like mental gymnastics.

I'm pretty new here myself, but - what's wrong with simply sending an email ... for whatever reason .. and seeing what happens?

And if you receive one, what's up with not replying at all? Seems kind of rude ...

My 2¢

Oops. Back to the game ...
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 5/30/2007 9:47:57 AM
OMG - that's kind of harsh.

Thing is, someone who'd do that? Good riddance.
 myfairmaiden
Joined: 8/17/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 5/30/2007 12:47:37 PM
Nope. Rarely do it.
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 5/30/2007 7:53:59 PM
LMAO chiky . Questioning yourself after only a couple??? Welcome to our world!

I'm curious - How long did you give them to respond before you posted in here?
 TurboAlan
Joined: 4/28/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 5/31/2007 7:24:48 PM
GO FOR IT -- lol -- IF you at least think you have something in common through the profiles. I am 52 and really don't expect any LOL.
Al
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 6/10/2007 12:16:29 PM
I don't equate an "initial contact/email" with "chasing" at all. It's simply that. But then, I don't understand chasing very well. I don't like to chase, and I don't expect to be chased. I think the one being chased would become annoyed. lol

Why the heck are we complicating things. Someone says Hi. You'll do a quick assessment or get a gut reaction (whichever works for you) and pretty quickly decide if there's some sort of attraction. If so, what's wrong with at least hinting at it - being friendly; using smilies; showing interest in the person and/or their interests.

if not, what's wrong with at least being polite?

Sometimes I *do* feel like I'm from another planet...
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/10/2007 10:11:48 PM
Realistic

I'll presume that, while you find it funny, you aren't really surprised by this double standard?
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/12/2007 10:03:51 AM
At one time I would say no...now Why Not
 geminicatman
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/13/2007 7:16:31 PM
I guess I'm a contrarian. I've met three women in as many weeks on here, and about to meet a fourth
1 was at an event and we were introduced
1 I initated contact with
2 contacted me first

I've enjoyed each meeting. (OMG - I almost said encounter ...)

Diff strkes for diff folks i guess.
 call me J
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/14/2007 9:41:40 AM

I email a few guys when I first joined on (the initial excitement of being in a "new" site, etc.).... but lost interest quickly when I saw the "read deleted"....


Far better than "unread deleted", that's the best ever. Yes, I expect some ignoring because i'm looking for IE, but when it's a message sent to someone else that is looking for that as well, and you fit their criteria, you'd kind of expect they'd read the message at least...


I think most guys are pretty happy when they get a message from someone. Considering that a lot of guys can send out 20 messages and not get a reply, having someone contact you would be nice.
 Bigandtalldancer
Joined: 1/1/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/29/2007 10:09:24 PM
I don't think it really matters, if I want to contact someone I do, if they want to make 1st contact they do. Simple! If I got a read delete or unread delete, NEXT! Not my problem.

Now if I ever got an email from ÇØÜNTRŸPËÃÇH , I would know that I was on the wrong site! LoL
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