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 scrappyfun
Joined: 5/24/2007
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After many years of marriage, I find myself divorcing and have been separated for nearly a year. I have many women friends but have not become intimate with any, great friends for exciting events. I do get horny though and the internet helps to take me into a different world, although I know that someday I'll meet someone and she will 100% assume that role.
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 6:07:34 AM
Not on the internet... to paranoid for that... but HBO has some good shows... Cathouse Blues is fun to watch... keeps my mind active...... and puriently employed...

 FunGuy!!
Joined: 5/9/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 7:23:48 AM
Hmmm.... Looking at porn or looking at profiles on POF - Decisions Decisions!!!
 Girlflower
Joined: 3/12/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:39:47 AM
Bike Tour Man... oooohhh you poor baby...... I personally love a teddy bear man... no skinny kids for this Chick...


never was one for porn.. I remember the days in our 20's when someone would "get" a blue movie and all us young marrieds would have a showing after Saturday Night Live... lol!!! But these days I think it has become so previlent it has devalued the actual experience of being with someone... as for internet prorn for Women... does it exist? Even if it did I wouldn't be looking for it... afterall if I was that lonely I could just go out and advertise my state of mind.. and some obliging fellow would accomodate me.....
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/13/2007 10:53:41 PM
That's a good question. Porn (sexually enticing whatever) has always been a form of "entertainment". Each generation makes some arbitrary definition of just what Porn is and runs with it. Personally, I think that as we all get older and more familiar with each other (a man and a woman) that it takes a little new stuff from time to time. If a husband and wife can enjoy the same things together then that's what's important in my mind. Porn may make it possible for some people (men and women) to stay sane during those "dry spells" especially as we get older. But I don't think it will ever replace the intimacy two people can have with each other. Problem is that it seems to be few and far between..... for many of us "older folks". Geeze...I'm 51...I'm not THAT OLD!
 JWA
Joined: 5/21/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:02:32 AM
So then OP you pose this question but why not share with us your own use of things like this available online. You certainly fit the description of middle aged (plus or minus, are divorced and obviously have access to the internet. It would be interesting to compare your actions and thoughts on the very subject you pose to others.
 betterlate
Joined: 12/22/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 11:04:38 AM

Personally, I find porn on the internet (all porn, for that matter) extremely boring -- the same set of rubber boobies on every woman, the same 'poses' and moves in every strip club, the same plots (such as they are) in every porn movie, the same pop-ups, free offers and group of pics in every internet porn site -- yuck !! I don't find any of it a 'turn on' ... quite the opposite, actually


I have to agree with Canadian guy.. I would much rather be doing a hobby or anything than watching a bunch of fake/bad actors doing it.. I am amused at some of the HBO shows like hookers, or cathouse... I dont know if online porn is free or not ( I am showing my cards here) but why not spend the money on going out to a club and listening to music, dancing, attending singles get togethers... at least there is a chance that you might start a relationship....

I also feel that porn "de-sensitizes" a person to the intimate nature of sex... that if they dont see this or that right in their face....(close ups) they cant get excited or it just takes more and more to get excited... JMO... it is ok if everyone disagrees with me..
 sunshine_one_
Joined: 3/8/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:34:53 PM
Agree completely with cdn guy and betterlate.

It never seems real to me; really funny sometimes, really disgusting others.
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/15/2007 11:38:26 AM
For me, it's a nice release from time to time.
But it's not a "need" really. I mean, I can do without it.
It's just sometimes, there's a little more... er... tension built up... and you need a convenient way of releasing that when you don't have someone around to help you with it. ;)

Plus... well, it's just enjoyable. Not as a daily routine or anything... but even when with someone... I don't mind browsing the naughty pictures once in a while. Besides, sometimes it helps give you ideas. ;)
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/15/2007 2:23:55 PM
"It never seems real to me; really funny sometimes, really disgusting others. "

Ditto!
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/15/2007 10:46:52 PM

The advantage of porn is that you can get it any time, you don't have to take it out to dinner, and there's no awkward decision about sleeping over......



....And if your not in the mood to play you can shut it down and go to bed and nobody's feelings will be hurt...

...You can ususally keep porn till 9 pm the next night if you want

... Porn doesn't complain if you watch other porn



...maeflowers
 blondblueyed
Joined: 8/23/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/15/2007 11:30:55 PM
I don't know maybe I am just a “weirdo“ but porn has just never held any fascination for me, if it is not the real deal there is no point. I get more excited watching baseball or movies with people clothed.
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/18/2007 9:05:13 AM
If you find it all alike and boring you're watching the wrong porn!

 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/18/2007 9:59:04 AM
It is all about as interesting as watching paint dry.
 oldsoul
Joined: 3/10/2007
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Posted: 8/18/2007 11:12:00 AM
Hi OP,

I remember when my then husband and I first got our very own VCR back in the early 80's....oh the joy....we couldn't wait for the kids to go to bed so we could sit and watch some grainy, poorly recorded porn some friend of a friend had managed to get his hands on....haha....most of the films we watched would be considered soft porn by today's standarts, and the sex scenes were often far and few in between...but it was new and exciting at the time, so we watched a few and had some fun with that for a little while until we got bored of it and lost interest completely.

Then I remember getting our first computer a few years ago, and the same thing happened again....the novelty of it was exciting at first... wow....clear pictures and would you look at all those close-ups...wow.... and look at all these perfect bodies........women with perfect plastic breasts and perfect surgically enhanced labias...almost *doll* like in appearance.....sorry but I tend to notice the most absurd details.....haha...anyways let's just say that our interest faded very quickly for both of us....and while I realize I probably fall in the minority, I just don't enjoy watching internet porn...I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, and while I certainly understand why people might find it pleasurable, it's just not for me....I find it incredibly boring and repetitive.....and like I said, I do tend to notice the most stupid details.... and then I just want to pick everything on the screen apart, and well, that sort of takes the fun out of it doesn't it....haha....so for me, my imagination is still where it's at!!

Love and peace....
Oldsoul
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/18/2007 7:14:03 PM
Creative erotica huh..check out "Tampopo" Japanese subtitled movie about a noodle shop. Food has never been so sexy...ever..

Thats a great movie, because I love noodles! I dont remember much erotic in it....maybe I am "spoiled" or despoiled? Anyways

with all the recent free porn and HIGH SPEED CABLEVISION, I have not purchased an adult magazine or rented a video late at nite in two years (since I met the now ex GF, shouldn't she have given me some brownie points....however, maybe I lost the brownie points cause now I stay up for 3 hours since sitting in a chair makes it hard to ejaculate and paybills at the same time).
 discreet/longlasting769
Joined: 1/7/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/23/2007 10:35:56 PM
This post is a very honest and true to life. After a 30 year marriage ended, I am alone, middle age, and bruised. I realize the difference between porn and real life , but watching amatuer porn, which I find is authentic, at least gives me a release until I feel ready to engage the opposite sex again. Sometimes, it is safe when safe is what you need at that particular time. I don't think it will be forever, nor a substitute, but at least I still feel somewhat alive. It is better than nothing for me. And then there is the old adage--use it or lose it.
 RJ_58
Joined: 8/11/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/26/2007 7:24:03 AM
I was going to reply to this post..... But I`m afraid I`m to busy right now....teehee!





Just kidding!!! It is healthy in moderation....:-)
 Spence56
Joined: 6/30/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 8/27/2007 4:15:33 AM
I don't think that this is exactly what you mention here. However, I do think that this kind of thing is often the only thing that allows a little sanity in a person (male or female) that is looking for someone new but as so many of us attest, it takes a lot of fishing to find one you don't want to throw back! It's pretty tough on other people when you allow yourself to get into serious relationships just because you want sex and then once you get your fill you just dump the other person. Why not keep your head while looking! (so to speak)

It also seems to me that as we get older and have mounted (sorry for the pun) experience upon experience, it's just interesting to see something different. "Porn" is by definition just something that one finds sexually stimulating in media. In the old days Beethoven's music was often found to be just such a stimulation that really irritated many for the same reasons todays Pornography does.

There are many men and women at all age levels that like this kind of added stimulation. There are also lots that don't. Although I have to admit that there are some people that will never graduate from pornography to reality, but that is only because they make no effort to be attractive to the opposite sex anyway. Perhaps it's better that they stay in the cyber world and away from people they would ultimately just make miserable anyway!
 AdvisorX
Joined: 5/10/2007
Msg: 38
Porn is not the illness on the net
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:41:27 AM
the electro-magnetic field on the computer and the freqency of the images that are
broadcast via the net match those in specific areas of the human brain. The brain's
and the computers electro-magnetic fields become one. At that point the brain cannot
accepts that the porn is within it self and not external. The brain is also put into an
alpha state and that causes a release of certain hormones for our pleasure receptors.
This makes viewing on the net more what you might call addictive but what i would
call a "severe attachment". The person unlike a herion addict will not go seek day
and night to get his/her fix but in the presence of the computer electo-magnetic
field will want to go to inter-net porn. When the person is on the net and especially
if they are in the adolescent to before peak sexual period of the life then they most
often will spend excessive hours viewing such material. That material becomes a
substitute for the real person sex and when they are with a real person then the porn images become the predominant factor of what the sexually attractive person should appear to look like sexually and physically, though on a subconscious level. The porn viewer is programmed to what is exciting from the many perfect women that he has viewed or she has viewed.

There are 45million internet porn addicts in the US and 40% tha seek treatment are females. Where as with paper and VHS based porn the % of women is minor. Clearly, there is something very different about internet porn. It's the electro-magnetic field. What is physical attraction? Elector-Magnetic?
What does sex do? Release pleasure hormones.
So does internet based sex.

This is producing seperateness between the sexes
especially because there are skills and values that
must be used to woo a woman to have sex and these
skills and understanding are not being learned and
developed. Because these are not required for inter
net based sex.

For women on the net, only payment is required
and the male can be abusive to any woman legally
on the porn sites. Afterall they don't feel a thing
and they always respond with a thank you
and want more pay more.

Jim
 AdvisorX
Joined: 5/10/2007
Msg: 39
Porn is not the illness on the net
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:46:17 AM
This is the correction:
At that point the brain accepts that the porn is within it self and not external.

i removed the word: "cannot"
thanks, jim
 northwoods57
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 41
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 12/19/2007 5:46:22 PM
your cute!! Free porn on the net..YECH!! I rather have the real woman, that knows what she has, and knows how to use it.
heels are good, she can tease the hell out of me..and I love her rubbing herself up against me feels me getting aroused. Then we do something about it.
Its called FOREPLAY!! I love it. Plus a bottle of good white wine, to relax us.
A bottle of wine, little kissing and playing...used to be called..fooling around.
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
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has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:46:32 PM
I haven't done the internet porno sites......I am sure just lots of moaning and groaning and fake boobs and blah, blah blah. I don't think it has changed that much probably just more fake bodies and fake noises! Give me the real thing any day and I'll make your day!

I have a girl friend that had a boyfriend that watched pornos ALL the time. He could not get into the mood and out of the mood without watching pornos. Now how much fun is that????? For her that is??? He was totally addicted to it. Needless to say he is now an exboyfriend. LOL I know of another family that has now split up because her husband was also addicted to pornos!

I guess, each to their own and what you do behind closed doors is your business as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. I could probably understand men getting off on adult pornos, but don't even get me started on child pornography!
 Thorgodofthunder
Joined: 4/19/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2012 12:56:12 AM
http://www.xnxx.com/


http://www.pornhub.com/categories



http://playmatehunter.com/playboys-playmate-index#char_75
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
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Posted: 8/11/2012 6:57:10 AM
holey moley- talk about raising the dead, LOL!
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