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 FrndlyStrgr
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 42
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?Page 3 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Love that story, Ladyhawk, and I'm wondering if OP wouldn't find the same problem wherever - It's not Arkansas, it's your own state of mind. I've seen a bit of the world, I may see more, but right now I'm OK with Northwest Arkansas and the people in and around it...and about everyplace else I go, I'm OK with those people, too. Am I just that naive? Should I go LOOKING for the bad?
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 43
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why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 6/28/2008 7:54:22 AM
Someone mentioned difficulty determining honesty from a profile and I think that's part of the problem. You have to take time to communicate with that person, and spend a good chunk of face-time with them before you can make that determination.
When I get the bum's rush from a man, red flags go up everywhere, and I expect it's the same way from men. IMHO, anyone who wants "instant" intimacy, or anything else to do with a relationship, is fooling themselves. Intimacy just isn't "instant" and it can't be. It takes time, consistent communication and honesty in that communication. Too many of us humans are looking for some quick "fix" and don't get that we have to fix ourselves before we are going to find someone worth making a long-term committment to.
Christy
 sware2
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 46
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 7/22/2008 5:58:55 PM
I honestly think it is not the location, it is more the age ranges.. do you remember back before the hurt and divorce and games? We all believed in the good in people and believed in love and forever. I have met some really awesome guys but because of a bad relationship, bad marriage, or being hurt real bad, they seem to run from letting someone else get close. I would rather have 100 friends than to settle being miserable with ONE man. You have to be friends first, and if that is all it ever is.. you are still a winner! Try being just a friend instead of worrying too much on a love connection.
 sware2
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 48
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 7/22/2008 6:27:04 PM
NoTagline, I too am an Arkie by birth, and love it here! It is a worldwide epidemic Me society and until people get back to thinking of others and not only of themselves it is hard to have a relationship. I think that the only relationships that last are the ones that have givers. A Taker is only happy when getting what THEY want.. and a Giver gets tired of being the only one giving if with a Taker... and heaven help if two Takers get together.. neither is ever happy. You have to think of the other. It has NOTHING to do with being in Arkansas or anywhere else.

You can avoid being hurt and not let yourself get too close to anyone no matter where you live. Doesn't me you are not a decent person... just someone afraid of being hurt.
 danmck1
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 7/24/2008 3:15:35 PM
Got any ideas on how to get all POF together, I would help in any way possible, The people hosting the dance do a great job. But maybe you have some different ideas
 sware2
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 51
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:23:16 PM
Dan you are fixing to meet some great people. And I look forward to meeting YOU... so see not all people are bad in Arkansas..
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 7/31/2008 3:36:24 PM
The kind of maturity you're looking for usually shows up about 45 or 50ish, capncool1. I suggest you look at the church(es) of your choice, talk to friends and relatives about what you are looking for, and get involved in activities & groups where you are likely to find women (and men) with old-fashioned morals, ethics and character. Occasionally you might find what you're looking for on these singles groups, but you have to take things really slow and "Run, Forrest, RUN" if anybody says they're in love with you before you've spent several weeks, if not months, dating or doing activities together, and talking. Please don't fall for "the bum's rush". You'll regret it every time, I'm afraid.
 sware2
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 62
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 8/14/2008 4:43:28 PM
I think all of you should try some of the POF events.. I have been meeting some really nice people.. and yes.. there are some losers in every crowd.. but making friends is not a bad thing.. and you just never know.. the last party I hosted one couple dropped by that met on POF and just got married.. so just do not give up hope.. but do not fret so much about finding THE ONE..
 pingpongak
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 66
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 11/2/2008 9:45:52 PM
hello everyone well im on the east side of state and most all woman over here just go for someone looks and it suck over here also maybe its something in the water in the state
 pingpongak
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 67
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 11/3/2008 9:12:38 AM
ok i give up someone stop the world from truning and let me off i dont want to ride anymore
 Mike72801
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 72
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why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 11/15/2008 2:24:34 AM
It's not just you. The few times I really felt a connection they didn't and visa-versa.

I have met decent women in Arkansas, but the chemistry was just not right for both of us.
 pingpongak
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 74
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 11/22/2008 12:52:25 PM
wow have to buy a house for sex i dont think there anyone out there that good for that
 pingpongak
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 77
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 12/19/2008 6:00:44 PM
wow mmmmmmm are woman on that side of the state like the ones over here got there head up there ass or is it something in the water over here i sure would like to know yahoo davidjones72301
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 81
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Posted: 12/26/2008 8:36:51 PM
Amen Aurura.

A profile sounds interesting but half the time the person is too far away that you seriously doubt anything would come of a friendship.
 hoosier_girl
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 82
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 12/27/2008 3:18:04 PM
Where I live in North Central part of the state (Marion-Baxter counties) there's not that many places to meet people either. I don't get alot of chances to get out. I have 3 children at home and my appointment book is a necessity.

I meet friends for lunch at Chilis at least once a month. Just this year my friends got me doing Karoke. I got my reservation for New Year's eve at the 178 Club restaurant where they are having Karoke.

Saturdays I am at the local bowling alley watching my kids bowl for a youth league. Sunday Morning - I am at Church.

I love this state being a transplanted Hoosier since 2/95 but I have lived in many places being in the Air Force. I am not a girly girl and don't wear much jewelry, or makeup. I can't change my oil but I can shoot a pistol (left or right), fish, hook up a computer and other stuff and talk intelligently about many things. And to my oldest kids embarassment I even talk to strangers sitting in waiting rooms, stores and Silver Dollar City. I may never know their name and they don't know mine.
 brewswain
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 86
have you noticed?
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:52:05 PM
have you noticed that the most beautiful women are far, far away?
 brewswain
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 88
have you noticed?
Posted: 1/6/2009 7:11:21 PM
billfishin, I do believe you have made my case clear.
Mapsonus says she is 109 miles away---way too far for dating.
And that pore gal is MARRIED--I aint messing with her!
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 1/6/2009 8:47:10 PM
AuroraA,

Starting out as just friends before anything else develops is great.
But some many of the ladies in my lower economic class still want the guy who is just a friend to pay for meals out every weekend, instead of splitting who pays or going dutch all the time.
Guys won't mind paying if the ladies would volunteer and cook to alternate things.
And, just be upfront about sexual interests. Even Teddy Bears have desires... just don't act like you're dating... be upfront.
ok

 brewswain
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 92
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 1/12/2009 5:07:02 PM
Don't you just hate it when they force you to move to Texas?

:)
 Hawkdream
Joined: 11/27/2005
Msg: 93
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Posted: 1/19/2009 6:45:58 PM
I was in TX and hadda come to Ar to make a living. Now how's that for a kick in the teeth? No, seriously, my dad had several strokes and I thought I probably needed to come spend some time with him while I could. Two years later, he moved back to TX and I got a divorce, lol.
Now my granddaughter and I love it since we moved to Little Rock from NE AR. I've made a few friends but always looking for friends, since romance seems to be for the young and pretty. Oh, well, what happened to the dances, SWARE?
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 94
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Posted: 1/19/2009 7:40:28 PM
Hey C.,

The Legion is still having there parties.

And a new group on DateHookUp is trying to get things together. We had our first saturday at CLASSICS in NLR at 7 p. m

If you like swing-dancing to rock and roll, check out the place after 8 pm on thursdays.
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 105
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Posted: 2/16/2009 4:47:46 PM
hey mary, great comment... sounds like a lot of people I come across.

your dogs are cute too. Give a hollar if you want to do dinner some time.
keith
 MikeT36
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 106
why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas?
Posted: 3/18/2009 1:03:25 PM
I would like to think AR is full of decent folks, just hard to find a compatible person more than once living in the same small town for so many years, seems the nice women are taken, others that have lost marriages may not want to get involved with anyone else, but I am going to keep looking, hopefully I will get lucky again in life.
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 114
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Posted: 6/20/2009 7:30:02 PM
well, it's a universal problem... and sometimes women have too high of standards for just meeting someone. ,,, even would be dirty old men..

kids and grandkids make things extremely hard, especially for people who say they want to develop a relationship and then don't take the time when both of you are off to do things together. Like I was suppose to be having a lady friend call me back tonight and it sure looks like I'm being stood up when I could have gone to the POF dance at the Legion instead!
 ok72076
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 117
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Posted: 7/22/2009 6:12:21 PM
You have any luck yet,. son?

Date older women and BBWs and you might actually have something to do on weekends.
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