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 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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I'm growing old disgracefully


^^^Hope you don't mind, but I want to adopt this particular phrase!

I think no matter how old you are, physical attraction is very important. Mind you, as we age, our views on what is attractive change. At my age, looking at a fine 21 year old is ok, but I would never entertain him. Give me a mature, experience, man, age and all? works like a charm!
 Teddy-daa-Bear
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 277
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/4/2011 1:22:35 PM
I have looked at photographs of average people in the 60's 70's 80's and 90's.
(so I am not talking about models)

People now just don't care what they look like. And that is a general opinion about
most all the age groups today. I am not talking about what the Lord provided you.
It's afterwards....people's appearances have gone wayyyyyyy down hill. People
seem to dress down instead of up.....women go around without makeup or wearing
ridiculous hair colors and tattoos. Gag! Men go out unshaven and in torn clothes or
clothes that don't fit.

Don't believe me.....compare it for yourself.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/4/2011 3:26:40 PM
It doesn't, but it needs to go along with other attributes that are important in a LTR; you know, respect, attentiveness and doing things together.

I'm 60, my last GF of 2.5 years (we're still friends) was 18 years younger. The one before that 2 years older than me. Both were attractive, active and kept themselves in good shape.

There are *many* attractive women in their late 50's and early 60's. Why should I attempt to make a connection with those in the same age group who have let themselves go? I'm not talking about botoxed and plastic ones, I mean the real ones who eat right, haven't smoked most of their lives, avoided too much sun, and exercise.

Some curves are OK, but if your dumpy (and you know if you are, just look in the mirror), why should we men who take care of ourselves want to meet you? I don't care how nice a personality you are, because there are a lot of women who DO take care of themselves who have just as nice or nicer personality.

I'm not being shallow, just realistic. I don't look, act or feel 60, and I want to be with a woman who thinks and is the same (even if she were older than me).
 Glenoran1
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 279
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/4/2011 5:40:36 PM
^^^^ Azul, you raised an excellent point: Part of attraction is that part of a person's presence that shines through; it doesn't have to be handsomeness or beauty. I've seen a couple of fellows (relatives through my mother's second husband) who are scary-looking, but when they smile, you just can't help but warm to them because their true selfhood shines through.

Thanks for reminding me that where personality doesn't initially show (or get counted), who-you-are inside -- that presence you mentioned -- can make all the difference in the reception you get.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 280
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Posted: 9/4/2011 6:19:39 PM
...I too have looked at someone and found them to be quite attractive... until they open their mouth....and I listen to their words. Talk about the inside changing the outside.
Observation is a very good thing, especially when you get the chance to watch how they treat people and animals. Very good indictor of their genuineness (sp).

Also, I think we have an advantage in some respects to do that as well through the forums here at PoF... Gives us the opportunity to get to know someone by watching what they post and how they deal with other posters... great insight into one' s character and personality.

...mae
 geoffonpof1
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 282
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/5/2011 6:23:28 AM
Physical attraction does not go away.
Like a few have mentioned attraction also comes from within ones character.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 284
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/5/2011 3:21:37 PM
It never ends. I still try to take care of myself and believe that guys should do the same. Please guys, take a shower, wear clean and stylish clothes, brush your teeth, don't let the old guy smell get the best of you and please, please deal with any renegade nosehair.
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 285
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/5/2011 3:32:20 PM
Let's see, at the rate I'm goin' physical attraction will only stop when wanting a partner AND a lover does . Or maybe when I'm dead ...

And as far as I see it , physical attraction can happen between any people of any age and combination of ages. It's "chemistry" for real !

 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 286
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/6/2011 10:59:48 AM
Youth and everything to do with youth, the unlined skin, energy, etc, etc. is a very desirable commodity in our society. It has been proven Attractive people get added benefits in life like better job offers, better starting salaries, and other perks. I don't think physical attraction ever becomes less important. Look at the money older people spend for plastic surgery to look more attractive.

But fame and money also enter into the equation. Look at some of the plain and outright ugly (kieth richards) who have fantastic looking girlfriends and wives.
 ActiveOneinRacine
Joined: 7/23/2011
Msg: 287
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/6/2011 4:10:41 PM
It never stops, there has to be an attraction to even start. But for me it not as important, but he cant be fat & ugly. I will take your average Joe any day! Unfortunately I find guys still put WAY to much emphasis on it yet; even when they're not all that good looking.
 brownie360
Joined: 8/7/2008
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When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 10/23/2011 4:02:52 PM
Physical attraction hit the very bottom of my list by the time I was about 28. Seriously...looks are a bonus and nothing to do with character.
 Spyhop Maui
Joined: 6/19/2009
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Posted: 10/23/2011 6:10:19 PM
Aloha, I know exactly what you mean. I am just finishing a wonderful year long relationship with a wonderful women. We get along great but have no real attraction for each other. We both decided that we want that old flame back in a relationship. After a year we have not been able to kindle it. So off we go looking for some one else. We are both in our 50's both are attractive people. But no chemistry. When does this chemisrty stop being a factor? All I can say not in the 50's.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 295
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Posted: 10/24/2011 8:09:03 PM
A) When you're blind

B) When you're 6 feet under
 cutiecaliente
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 297
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 10/30/2011 8:43:51 PM
you do what it is comfortable for you... attraction is important... it is different for everybody
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2011 11:05:41 AM
Mr. VLove,

I know what you mean. Personally I do not think putting aside the fit requirement is doable. I swim well over a mile 3 mornings a week, regularly walk miles at a time, love to bike, hike, work in the yard, etc. My son's mom is still a relatively slender woman who regularly plays competitive tennis and the women I have dated in the past have all been athletes and educated. Do you think I have a type?

I have to WORK to keep my weight down. I have the appetite of my teenage son; without his metabolism. If I can do it for my well being and my health why should I not have a desire for a woman who feels the same. My thoughts on this are at least two fold: I anticipate my next long term relationship, Lord willing, WILL be my last and if we are on the same page health wise, lifestyle wise, etc., then I am better off ( I DO know my weaknesses); and two, physical intimacy can be refreshing and fun, but not if a goodly portion of my exertion goes to maneuvering a woman who is overly massive. I am not a chubby chaser. And last, there is something eminently satisfying about holding a well toned body that grabbing a handful of fat does not provide.
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
Msg: 300
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 11/5/2011 4:02:41 PM
If there is no physical attraction, why would anyone bother? I don't care about the age, I think you would have to realize that this is the last person you will see at night, and the person you will wake up with, possibly for the rest of your life. There has to be a physical connection there. Or maybe I got it all wrong!

There may be other things that one places above "good looks" or "sex appeal". Intelligence, charm. money. power, etc. may be more important. B ut I still believe there has to be some kind of physical connection. That is unless there is another agenda operating.


JMO
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
Msg: 301
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 11/5/2011 4:14:24 PM
Trustinlove:
"Trouble is...I have found that men, no matter how old or what they themselves look like want to find a 30 year old size 5. I am a good and loving woman with no baggage, financially and emotionally stable but I am a size 12."

When will you and others like you quit saying MEN!? Why don't you try SOME MEN? Or MANY men, or even MOST men? We are not all alike. FYI..I don't like thin women. As my profile states, I prefer women to be "fluffy" When I lay my head on a woman's belly. I want softness. If I wanted rock hard abs, I'd find a guy! it might interest you to know, also, that I have always preferred women my age or even older.

So..please quit saying MEN. Anyway, at my age now, most of the "older" women are in nursing homes, and staff has been alerted!


JMO
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 302
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Posted: 11/5/2011 5:08:25 PM
^^^ True! I'd settle for a size 8 25 year old...
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 303
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Posted: 11/5/2011 5:40:17 PM

True! I'd settle for a size 8 25 year old...


Except for the fact that you wouldn't be settling.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2011 6:03:21 PM


True! I'd settle for a size 8 25 year old...



Except for the fact that you wouldn't be settling.


Owww..that even stung me..and I wasn't even in this thread..whew..
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 305
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Posted: 11/5/2011 8:50:56 PM
but let their bodies go (though really not sure what a size 12 looks like).

Marilyn Monroe was a size 14.

 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 11/15/2011 5:01:05 PM
OP- when we are dead
 chocolate.diamond
Joined: 11/12/2011
Msg: 308
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Posted: 11/15/2011 10:51:50 PM
When you realize they will get old n baggy just like u.
When you realize he/she is manmade.
When they start looking like joan ri___.
When that cutey ur starring at says: ma 'am, or sir and refuse to call u by ur first name eventho u insist and says: my parents taught me to respect my elders. Rofl
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2011 6:24:13 AM

WoobyToodsday said:

but let their bodies go (though really not sure what a size 12 looks like).

Marilyn Monroe was a size 14.


Really? I didn't know that. Okay, I've changed my mind. What was good enough for John F. Kennedy is good enough for me!!!
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 11/16/2011 5:50:37 PM
physical attraction is always important. not just what is between the legs (or armpits for some of you), but a good part between the ears :) in a ltr, a lot is how you are treated and if you feel you are being taken for granted in order to sustain that attraction. you need a best friend and someone to watch (not wash) your back!

but not ALL best friends are physically attractive or you'd have yourself quite a dilemma, eh?
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